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I'm really glad more straight women are talking about weaponised incompetence, but I find it interesting how we never talk about it within the context of consent education.

The Liberal feminist idea that men need to be educated on the concept of consent, as if they don't know that rape is wrong, is infantalising and naive. Just as a man might make a show of incorrectly cleaning something to avoid being asked to do it again, a man will feign ignorance of a woman's refusal as a way to avoid accountability.

Men know what the word "No" means, they know that rape is wrong. They do it anyway because they believe that they can get away with it.

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The very first bill ever proposed by a female lawmaker in the United States came from Colorado state representative Carrie Clyde Holly in January 1895. Building on a decade of women’s activism, Holly’s ambitious legislation sought to raise the age of consent in the state to 21 years old. In 1890, the age at which girls could consent to sex was 12 or younger in 38 states. In Delaware, it was seven. […]

[…] Based on English Common Law dating back to the 1500s, American lawmakers had selected 10 or 12 as the age of consent to coincide with the onset of puberty, as if once a girl menstruated she was ready to have sex. Men accused of raping girls as young as 7 could (and did) simply say “she consented” to avoid prosecution. Reformers understood that once “ruined,” these young victims of assault could be forced into prostitution because no man would marry or hire a “fallen woman.”

Prostitution especially concerned wives and mothers because, before penicillin became widely available in 1945, syphilis and gonorrhea were more widespread than all other infectious diseases combined. Wives who unknowingly contracted STIs from their husbands could pass them on to their unborn children, resulting in miscarriages, fetal abnormalities, blindness, epilepsy and unsightly “syphilis teeth.” In most cases, women could not successfully sue for divorce, support themselves, or retain custody of their children if they did divorce. […]

[…] British purity reformers had succeeded in raising the age of consent to 13 in 1861, and the movement received international attention in 1885 after muckraking journalist William T. Stead went undercover in London’s brothels. Stead published a series of salacious articles, collectively titled “The Maiden Tribute of Modern Babylon,” in the Pall Mall Gazette detailing how London’s husbands and fathers paid top dollar to deflower child virgins in the city’s brothels. Within months, public outcry led Parliament to raise the age of consent to 16.

[…] Many lawmakers rejected women’s presence in public affairs and further resented the unprecedented campaign to curtail white men’s sexual prerogatives. So they stone-walled WCTU members, inserted neutralizing or mocking language in their proposed bills, and occasionally outright banned women from their galleries. The few legislators who went on record in support of young ages of consent voiced sympathy for hypothetical men who would be ensnared into marriage by conniving girls who consented to sex and later threatened to press charges. […]

[…] For years, black women—including Frances Ellen Watkins Harper and Ida B. Wells—had called attention to the fact that white men used rape as a tool of white supremacy. […]

White Southern lawmakers stridently opposed revised age-of-consent laws because they did not want black women to be able to charge white men with a crime. Kentucky state representative A. C. Tompkins went on record with his opposition, explaining, “We see at once what a terrible weapon for evil the elevating of the age of consent would be when placed in the hands of a lecherous, sensual n*gro woman,” insinuating that black women, who he claimed matured earlier and had a more sexual nature, would seduce men and then accuse them of assault. […]

- Kimberly Hamlin "What Raising the Age of Sexual Consent Taught Women About the Vote" 2020

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stop saying sexual assault when you mean rape. sexual assault and rape are two different things

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#just fucking eviscerate it #she will torture those things it's genuinely a bit scary hhdhdvdj #like rip it in half and watch it drag its ass behind it for ten minutes following like 👁️👄👁️ #sometimes she eats them but usually she just leaves them for me to pick up the pieces #that's just the girl though. the boys are both scared of them chhdhdjdh literally they will get puffy and run away

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one aspect of this which i think about a lot is the literalization of many online millennials. this is something we all have noticed i'm sure. it's like the opposite of irony-poisoning... literal-poisoning. it makes one very unfunny, obviously, but this is another aspect

it isn't just the therapy-speak thing, it's the idea that it is 'dangerous' or potentially problematic to leave anything unsaid or implicit. one other example that comes to mind is those 'guides' on consensual sex that were big in like, 2011-2015, which advised you to stop and ask your partner verbally before doing literally anything during sex.

obviously i'm not anti-talking during sex... some things should be discussed before they happen, sometimes feedback is necessary, sometimes requests are made... but if you've had sex you know that it would be unpleasant, strange and unsexy to halt and ask permission for every touch. and it would be unnecessary, because there's so much nonverbal communication going on, and if you have the empathy of even a brick, it's usually easy to read

this gives me the same vibe. it isn't the job of people getting married to word their vows with exit clauses just in case. it is the job of the state to provide cheap, easy, no-fault divorce. people generally get married because they're madly in love with someone and think they will spend the rest of their lives with them. of course, normal sane people are able to hold in their head simultaneously the idea that shit happens and this marriage might end in divorce and not death, as around a third of US marriages do.

but it's not romantic to say that. no one who's genuinely in love wants to fucking say that at their WEDDING. we all know that! people get divorced! some things can be left unsaid! not every moment of our lives has to be this ridiculous slog of explicitization

and suggesting we all explicitize everything kind of implies a lack of theory of mind for others. This is something i notice often from people who are intellectual in some ways but low on common sense and/or social skills, and have gotten caught up in this literalized culture of constant yapping and oversharing - they start to think other people are bumbling buffoon NPCs. They think anyone who doesn't post to social media in the style of a very explicit, therapized internal monologue doesn't actually have one. They think people who keep their mouths tactically shut about certain things didn't notice that thing at all. They think tact and propriety and earnestness are evidence of gormless stupidity. They think wedding vows are supposed to sound like your therapist is selling you car insurance.

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no sburb beta earth au where dave "microcelebrity" strider suddenly gains a big following on the internet after a spike of people discover his sbahj comics online when a screenshot of one goes particularly viral and turns into a [top text/bottom text] meme and some hipsters are like "woah,, this is actually some really avant garde stuff". when he's churning these out sitting in the bathroom stall at school once a day during lunch period. so then he gets REALLY popular and then inevitably gets cancelled at some point when a communications/poli sci major reads one of his comics and then types up a whole memo board explaining how sbahj is actually neo-conservative propaganda written as part of a conspiracy to undermine the 2008 obama presidency. and there's a whole rage war since the memo board was written really convincingly with red arrows and circles drawn around sweet bro's head and everything and dave hasn't made any public statements about it and also no one actually understands what sbahj is about. so threads are being written up about this and people are like emailing death threats to each other over it and someone even tries to doxx him and then manages to find out he lives in texas and some people start actually taking the whole thing seriously because He's From Texas (never mind the fact it's houston). meanwhile dave just started his midterms and he has to focus because he actually cares about school and his future and so he takes a short "hiatus" which people freak out even more over because they take it as him backing away due to the allegations online. and then after winter break dave comes back and opens up a q&a for his 169th "bro wee ar doign it wee ar making it hapen" special and at some point after a barrage of questions in his inbox (q: was "swety bro and hela jeff crassh on the freway" inspired by a real car accident you were in? a: i don't own a car / q: what job do you have in real life? a: unemployed but i pick up roadkill off the street sometimes / q: who did you vote for in the 2008 primaries a: i didn't) someone finally has the bright idea to ask "hey how old are you" and he replies "i'm 13" and all hell breaks loose.

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I know "60s housewives who invented slash fanfiction" has taken on a life of its own as a phrase, but Kirk/Spock didn't really exist until the 70s and THOSE WOMEN HAD JOBS. They were teachers and librarians and bookkeepers and scientists and they damn well spent their own money going to conventions, printing zines, buying fanart and making fandom happen. Put some respect on their names.

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the untapped comedic potential of S1 korrasami… . .

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almost none of the reasons why i support abortion rights have anything to do with babies. really it’s more about the fact that I think the government shouldn’t be able to force you to lend all your organs to someone else and change irreparably in the process. is a fetus a person? I don’t care! If it is a person, I don’t want anyone to be forced to host one against their will! If it isn’t a person, guess what? Nobody should be forced to host one against their will! What’s a soul? What’s a person? When does life begin? IRRELEVANT! A world in which the government can force anyone to manufacture an entirely new human body at the cost of their own is not a world I want to live in!

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people who don't follow chess I promise this post is really funny

#ygddxyfgjkjgds

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and this is why i 1. never share my social media in professional settings and 2. only post on tumblr

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watching a medical documentary and a doctor is about to go into surgery to save a week old baby girl. His pep talk for it is “We gotta get this done so we can one day see her at her wedding!”

the biggest anticipated achievement for a week-old female infant is already Become a Wife. We must save this female baby so that she can be a man’s wife some day! It would be such a waste of sexual resources to let her die before a man can have her.

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The Beginning Of A Tornado

How quickly the total devastation begins is absolutely terrifying.

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Me: I hate gossip

Also me:

#me except I've never pretended to hate gossip ndnfhkdbdj #i know what I'm about

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Recent Tornadoes in Iowa/Nebraska.

#hhhhhhh knock on wood but i fucking LOVE tornados

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I think every teens/20s girl who wants to get “top surgery” should have to speak to women who are status post double mastectomy. listen to them all talk about the limitations on their range of motion. neurological symptoms in their arms. chronic pain. phantom pain. see the way scars actually look.