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i need everyone to stop and think before they compare themselves to populations that experienced slavery or genocide. it’s just that no one cares about asexuals after you reference the Holocaust. i don’t make the rules 🤷🏾‍♀️

you can always delete this

I learned today that it’s estimated that about ½ of 1% of the world’s population identifies as Jewish

And I know that there’s estimates that something like 1% of the human population is asexual

So that means that while there are fewer people in the world who practice Judaism than there are asexuals, there are legitimately still people out there who don’t think aces exist and that just fucking blows my mind

#holy fucking shit #antisemetism tw #seriously

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Everyone knows there’s a huge correlation between violence at home and violence against strangers, and even so a third of wife-beating cops in Florida are still walking around with a badge and a gun. – Unbelievable s1e05

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Gentle reminder to myself that radfeminism shouldn’t be the sole basis for building a community. Having been in this space for a few years I’ve come to terms with the fact that oppression on the basis of sex does not mean people will be empathetic and caring towards other oppressed groups or people in general. It doesn’t stop people from being homophobic, anti-semitic or ableist, etc. Because radfeminism gets you labeled a bigot it’s often easier to agree with your group or not speak up about issues in order to avoid exclusion. But when your online community gets to that point, it has become toxic. And choosing to leave it, for me particularly, has been an eye opener. The past few months I have moved forward and made big life changes and realized how much of a negative drain I had been feeling constantly. Having to convince people to have some basic empathy and understanding for others was exhausting. Reminding people that the existence of other experiences and cultural understandings is not some sort of challenge to your own was disheartening. Trying and failing to not be tone policed while doing so was just the nail in the coffin. It’s great to have a space where radfems can come together, but being a radfem in and of itself is simply not enough — we should be good people too. Community shouldn’t drain and depress you or hold you back.

#radfem #radical feminism #black radfem #i feel free #tone policing #i’ll take empathy over inclusion anyday #life is going well

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can we talk about blackface and the trans movement? I would like to hear you expand on your thoughts because I (white) don't really see the issue with comparing drag to blackface. they're both instances of someone dressing up to mock an oppressed group for fun. trans people are a little different, at least white people don't usually claim to actually be black. I feel like they're fairly comparable and it's a comparison I have used irl with people when trying to convey my thoughts to a layperson

sure. so, blackface is mocking traits associated with and innate to black ppl. black ppl aren’t raised to darken their skin or curl their hair, they just tend to exist with brown (or darker) skin and afro-textured hair. blackface involves imitating those traits and then mocking black people while wearing those imitations.

drag queens are men dressing up in feminine clothing, being flamboyant, and sometimes using breast prosthetics. many argue the breast prosthetics and the extreme padding are offensive which makes sense as it’s often an extreme caricature of women’s actual forms and often also sexualised. but then there’s drag queens who don’t wear any of that and are mainly just men in a shit tonne of makeup and feminine clothing. so drag can literally exist and be without actually mocking any of the innate traits of being female, blackface cannot. drag is often gnc men taking femininity to the extreme, blackface is purely just non-black ppl (saying this bc even some poc have partaken in blackface in their respective countries) mocking black ppl’s traits, drawing on big red lips or white lips, wearing afro wigs, and painting themselves black. blackface cannot possibly be separated from the mockery of black people. drag can be and has been. here’s an example of a queen who doesn’t use breast prosthetics or padding:

when we argue the mere act of being a gnc man performing in extreme femininity is automatically the same as blackface, we’re also implying femininity is innate to women and that it’s exclusive to women. OR we’re arguing drag has to include the misogynistic aspects to be drag.

beyond that, white people were literally celebrated for putting on blackface. they’d gain a lot of fame and money for it. blackface was used to even fuel the hatred of and stereotypes against black people. black people were often not even seen as human and blackface was an extension of that. on the other hand, drag queens, being gnc gay males, were often ostracised. many have faced homelessness, extreme abuse, and hate crimes for being what is visibly a gnc male. it is only a recent, and quite western liberal phenomena, that they’re being celebrated as anything other than perverts.

now, i don’t think drag is flawless. i also don’t think it’s inherently bad. i think that a lot of drag is misogynistic and people make good points when they say it’s not a man’s place to make fun of gender roles placed on women via extreme femininity and mockery of femininity. there’s also another good point about drag’s links to minstrel shows. however, i don’t think that drag and misogyny are inseparable the way blackface and racism is. and white people doing blackface were the privileged majority mocking the minority. drag being specifically a gnc gay male thing was never celebrated the same way and was for a lot of history not at all accepted. men were not rewarded for being gnc, in fact being gnc made them a clear target of homophobic attacks and often led to them being killed or hate crimed. it’s just… v different to me lol and honestly too many black ppl have taken issue with this comparison for me to be like “but ur wrong they’re the same :/” when a man wearing the dress will never be exactly the same as a white man painting himself black

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y’all done drug another group into this who wasn’t part of it in the first place. you did nothing here but insult disabled people and look foolish doing it. this is what i mean by we’re losing our humanity. so pressed to hurt one person, you used a slur against a whole community. stop, you foolish. do better

Your mental retardation makes sense lol.

Anti homophobia but transphobia is fair game 🤣

Im just glad I’m not a retard <3

Lmao you can hardly talk, since apparently ableism is fair game for you

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this reads different when you got your first period at 10. the average age is 12 to start a period but it can be anywhere from 10-16 so basically this tweet is also talking about children. little girls. you’re making jokes about being inside of young girls.

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the US is living in this really weird time where Nazism and increasing far right ideology is mainstream. I feel like when I look at other countries, they are also facing extremism and far right ideology. every day I am watching millions of americans choose violence, choose racism, sexism, or a lovely combo of misogynoir. every day i watch as they bend over backwards to justify it because they don’t want to listen to anyone who is different from them. i see the rebound of homophobia sweeping the country or the way everyone has to push back at the slightest hint of inclusivity. the mermaid is black, why do they shove gay characters down our throats, on and on and on. it is utterly depressing to watch half my country say that members at an LGBTQ club had it coming. it feels like we’re going backwards not forwards. i watch demographics vote against their own best interest simply because they hate the other side more. usually based on lies. America as a country is sorely lacking in empathy. it’s also lacking in some basic critical thinking skills. at some point maybe we’ll starting caring for one another versus tearing each other down for opinions or experiences that harm no one. maybe we’ll learn to advocate for one another. as an American, I feel concerned about the future of my country. i also feel incredibly worried about the future of other people’s countries should American leadership stop holding on to its thin charade of democracy and human decency. i feel like we’re losing our humanity day by day

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seeing women even jokingly saying they’d donate their uterus really shows how little information there is about women’s reproductive systems. The uterus is not just a baby machine. Even if you never have children, your uterus has other functions like hormone regulation and just keeping your other organs in place.

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I’ve seen a lot of posts recently cautioning against marriage or advocating to avoid it. And I’m not really going to touch on that at all because it’s up to each individual radfem to do what’s best for her. However, I’m coming up on 1 full year of marriage and couldn’t be happier. In reality, many radfems are bisexual het-partnered or straight. And since not everyone chooses the single life or desires it, I figured I’d put out there that it’s worth talking about how you have a relationship with a man as a radfem. How do you date? What are the red flags? What are the things that make you feel comfortable in your choice of partner? Why participate in such a patriarchal tradition? How do you reconcile it? I just feel like it’s a conversation worth having. And of course my asks are open for questions/debate — anonymous or not.

#radfem #radical feminism #food for thought #here take my word vomit tumblr #posts and asks in good faith will get a good faith response

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so can we start hunting down white liberals now or what

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in 7 years its going to be the 20s again so we can bring back swing music and the aesthetics of that era but keep modern values who’s with me

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These people truly don’t know what violent rhetoric actually is. Which just shows their immense privilege.

here we go.

#radfem #black radfem #tra racism #tra receipts #terf safe

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Psst, hey, Marilyn Monroe’s image as a freewheeling sexpot was a carefully constructed lie. The real Marilyn Monroe was a roiling tragedy and her life was an indictment of our society as a whole. She was orphaned after her mother had a schizophrenic breakdown, bounced around between foster homes where she was sexually abused, and married a 21-year-old at 16 to get out of being sent to an orphanage. Hugh Hefner published nude photos of her without her consent that were taken when she was 23 and desperate. She suffered severe anxiety and depression, which she coped with by drinking and using barbiturates, and was already a full-blown addict when she became famous in the mid-50s. Her career was one of exploitation, condescension and alienation, and she killed herself at 36. That Hugh Hefner, a man who was at best an unpleasant footnote in her life, felt entitled to be buried next to her is one more humiliation in a pop cultural landscape we should all be ashamed of.

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often horror will ask the question “what if there was a strange man outside your door?” and my answer is Well i would not like that very much. real life is like this, too

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PREACH 👏🏾The amount of white they/thems I met during protests was unreal. talking bout “all us oppressed folks gotta stick together”. BRO. A black man was choked to death live on camera by cops. Your mom calls you “he”, our struggles are not the same. You can have empathy without comparing. It’s embarrassing when they do

I don't think it is a coincidence that tons of white people started using some variation of they pronouns after BLM went mainstream in summer 2020. White people had to confront their privilege en masse, and adopting a gender identity was a way for them to avoid blame for their role in white supremacy and act like they face the same oppression as black people. This is especially true when you think about how many white TRAs say that transphobia has roots in racism and reframe every racial justice issue as a trans issue.

#radfem #terfs interact #terf #radfems do interact #black radfem

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Cookie in a milk cup.