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This is a short article I wrote that is on my personal website.

If you want to read it without clicking an external link, you can read it below the read more.

Society likes to talk about the survivors who overcame the bad, and came out kind.

They like to talk about the childhood sexual abuse survivor who became a social worker to help children in their situation.

They like to talk about the rape survivor who now runs a campaign to help other rape survivors.

They like to talk about the domestic abuse survivor who took an stand and found his voice. The one who now speaks out and spreads awareness for others in his situation.

They like to talk about the emotional abuse survivor who found her strength and uses a public platform to empower others.

While these are all amazing things, they can leave survivors who are still struggling with the messy parts feeling like they’re “wrong” or “weak” because they can’t handle it as gracefully.

And I see you.

I see the survivors who went through their trauma and didn’t come out kind, but came out mistrusting and hardened. They came out bitter.

I see the tears. And I don’t mean the “beautiful” crying you see shown in popular media. I mean the ugly crying. The heart wrenching sobs that take over your entire body and leave your eyes a bloodshot mess and snot coming out of your nose. I see the sobs that consume and can even leave you throwing up uncontrollably.

I see the angry survivors. I see the screaming and the angry outbursts. I see broken glass. And then there’s the quiet anger. I see the bloodied knuckles, cuts and burns because someone has so much anger but internalizes it so as not to “disturb” others. I see you. I see all of you.

And there is nothing wrong with you.

Society tries to portray us all as these beautifully tragic individuals. No one wants to believe something so terrible could happen in our world. They deal with it by saying, “everything happens for a reason. Just look at how it changes these people for the better.”

Rape is ugly. Abuse is ugly. Your healing does not have to be beautifully poetic.

Don’t let society bring you down. You are strong. You survived. And don’t let anyone make you feel ashamed because you didn’t do it the way society thinks you should.

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Don’t ever put your happiness in someone else’s hands. They’ll drop it. They’ll drop it everytime.

C.Barzak

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please remember to be a little bit kinder to yourself today. you're doing the best you can - and I'm so proud of you ♡

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You may not see it today or tomorrow, but you will look back in a few years and be absolutely perplexed and awed by how every little thing added up and brought you somewhere wonderful - or where you’ve always wanted to be. You will be grateful that things didn’t work out the way you once wanted.

Brianna Wiest (via thoughtkick)

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“When you judge another, you do not define them, you define yourself.”

— Wayne Dyer

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“I like cancelled plans. And empty bookstores. I like rainy days and thunderstorms. And quiet coffee shops. I like messy beds and over-worn pajamas. Most of all, I like the small joys that a simple life brings.”

— Unknown (via wordsnquotes)

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u hate me but who are u

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“To plant a garden is to believe in tomorrow.”

— Audrey Hepburn (via larmoyante)

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Your soul will be pulled to the place it belongs.

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i'm such a slut for garlic bread u have no idea

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I wanna date someone who’s obsessed with me - someone who burns for me, if you’re not doing that then what’s the point

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Man versucht alles was man geben kann aber doch ist nichts gut genug..

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“Not all girls are made of sugar and spice and everything nice. Some girls are made of sarcasm and wine and everything is fine.”

— (via alunit)