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Honestly though, Thailand is a developing country where it's traditional for men to pay dowries to the families of brides. So, like, if we're being REALLY REAL here, the amount of gold-digging sexual virtuosos throwing hole at Prapai must have been off the charts. This guy probably gets offers for the kind of sex you can only find in the darkest corners of eastern European brothels on the regular. Prapai hasn't just been around the block, he's re-paved it, installed traffic lights, attracted small business, and has a team working on installing sidewalks. My guy's dance card is full.

And the reason I'm laying this out, is because the single biggest mood of this entire show is the fact that Sky, a character so tightly wound you could use him to launch a yoyo through a half-inch Tungsten steel, gave this man a 45 minute quickie so good he had a complete personal metamorphosis. This man went from Johnny Bravo to Amelia Bedelia because Sky's bedroom game was that out of control.

Sky has my respect for this. He's invited to the metaphorical bad bitch cookout, is all I'm saying.

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today sucked. i’m tired and traumatized and reliving everything

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I want to look as sick as I feel. so they know it's real

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Source ~ Neuroclastic

[Image IDs: Ten slides from Neuroclastic. All descriptions from Neuroclastic.

All images have a black background with candy-colored rainbow text and graphics

Slide 1: image features a rainbow silhouette with a brain full of talk bubbles that have insults in them. Insults include crybaby, sensitive, freak, weirdo, suck up, snowflake, idiot, stupid, loser, boring, try hard, histrionic, gross, etc.

From the silhouette is a talk bubble that reads, "This is not my voice"

Image is titled, "On Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria, Codependency, & Identity"

Slide 2: Titled "Stages of losing contact with the core self"

There is a 5-point zig zag graph with the following stages

Early Relational trauma: Needs are ignored, punished, or shamed. Authentic expression feels pointless or even dangerous.

Rejections accumulate: As authentic attempts to meet needs fail, the rejections begin to wall off access to core self Masks form: Person survives by experimenting with various masks as reactions to volatile or unresponsive people. Core self is further distanced: Masks shield Core Self from abuse, scorn, & neglect, but the person becomes a mirror of others

Codependency: Only the reactive masks have access to others, so a person's existence is defined by the behavior, moods, & acceptance of others.

Slide 3: Titled "Formation of Identity Masks"

An animated character with rainbow coloured hair peeks over a brick wall, each brick containing different words and symbols, while some bricks remain empty. Text above the character reads: "Identity masks are worn to shape the behavior of others. Even if an identity is true to the Core Self, masks make a person seem more or less:

[Words and symbols in bricks]

Popular, amused emojil, fun, smart, heart eyes emoji, educated, disabled, oppressed, dedicated, social, sad emoji, neuroclastic, angry, magical, religious, fashionable, heart icon, normal, stable, mature, political, angry symbol, responsible, smirking emoji, rich, independent, sad emoji, fit, brave, seductive, masculine, heartbreak icon, qualified, vulnerable, skilled.

Slide 4: Titled "Disconnection from our Core Self"

Text below reads: Eventually, we lose contact with our Core Self so that no identity feels real. Identities become more like outfits to put on & wear in different settings the same way we change clothes.

Different bubbles each read:

We mask as someone new in every situation & context

Who we are in the moment depends on the moods & behaviors of people around us

We do not realize that others are not also wearing identities as clothing

We have learned that boundaries get us in trouble, so we don't set them

We are then shocked & feel rejected when others set boundaries

We think people who know themselves are performing and boundaries are rude

Slide 5: Titled "Identities as masks are Identity Cages"

A circle has various bullets emanating from it, each occupying its own oval.

Text within circle reads: RSD is a disconnect from your Core

Self & identity

Bullets are numbered below:

We think our masks are identities, so rejection of masks feels like loss of self

We shop for & borrow other people's identities like they are others flattering clothes

We have perfectionism & are hypercritical of ourselves & others

Because masks are fragile like clothing, mistakes feel like a torn or ruined self

Relationships feel fleeting & fall into toxic patterns of codependency

Slide 6: Titled "Markers of Codependency"

Different shapes with similarly shaped wiggly lines arranged in a 2x3 arrangement, outline different markers of codependency, as follows:

Obsessive about others' and & own behavior Sees, own & others' worth as conditional

Tries hard to be needed & to fix others because love feels like a reward for good behavior

Falls in love quickly, but also can immediately hate someone others to feel worthy

Feels empathetic because identity masks rely on others' emotions for minor offenses

Needs a lot of reassurance, attention, & validation from others to feel worthy

Slide 7: Titled "relationships and Codependency"

4 rectangles, each with different representative graphics and unique titles, leading to the one after them.

The first is titled "Dangerous Relationships" with a one character confidently speaking to/advising a seemingly downcast character.

Text reads: Often exploited by people who see them as an easy target because they are afraid to set boundaries or say "no"

The second is titled "Martyrdom and Resentment" with an uncertain looking character holding an unbalanced balance scale.

Text reads: Taking a passive role of servitude & giving too much, then feeling like a martyr when others do not reciprocate

The third is titled "Other-directed life" with a signpost, one sign reading @NeuroClastic while the other remains blank.

Text reads: Goals, feelings, & desires are responses to others & not reflections of own identity or needs

The fourth is titled "Chaos & Drama" with one character with their finger up, walking away from a confused looking character.

Text reads: Criticizes & blames self or others for minor problems, harshly judges self & others, & manipulates to make self the victim

Slide 8: Titled "Reconnecting To The Core Self"

A circle is divided in quadrants, each describing ways to reconnect with one's Core Self.

The first quadrant is titled: Locating the Core Self The Core Self is not lost, just disconnected. It is the internal voice asking, "Who am I?" and the source of grief beneath the masks. Try to focus on that voice and connecting with your Core Self..

The second quadrant is titled: Dropping the Masks Identity is the whole tree - the roots, trunk, leaves, and fruit. Masks are the parasitic vines of unhealthy relationships and trauma. Begin to remove the vines one at a time when it's safe to do so.

The third quadrant is titled: Losing Value Judgements Dissociating from the Core Self means a person sees the behavior as identity, then strives to be perfect and push others to never make mistakes. You are not your behavior.

The fourth quadrant is titled: Learn to Set Boundaries Boundaries are more effective than masks at protecting the Core Self and prevent you from focusing externally to depend on others to meet your needs and maintain your autonomy.

Slide 9: Various stone shapes containing text are linked by a curving line. The topmost stone reads: Claiming Your Identity

Other stones follow, respectively reading:

No one tells you who you are. You tell them who you are. Who you are does not depend on others.

Know that you do not have to accept harm for the comfort of others.

Ask yourself, "Am I doing this because I want to do it, or because I am afraid of rejection?"

Take small risks, gradually, that allow you to be who you are & build the courage to be disliked.

Work on discovering your Core Self without an audience until you know what you love & who you are.

Slide 10: A comparison between Co-dependence and Interdependence.

The co-dependence pointers remain on a black background, whereas the inter-dependence pointers are enclosed in pencil shaped boxes, which in turn are placed against a rainbow coloured background.

The co-dependence pointers read:

I never develop my own passions or refine my skills because I am living for others

I am jealous & resentful of other people's joy, success, & material possessions

I do not make decisions without people-pleasing & say "yes" when I want to say "no"

I cannot make mistakes because other people will reject, hurt, & abandon me

I become like the people around me & agree with them to fit in & avoid conflict

I manage relationships by controlling or submitting, giving too much or taking too much

The inter-dependence pointers read:

I take the time I need to discover my passions & develop my skills to be fulfilling to me

I do not need to win or be cenetred in order to find value in experiences

I set boundaries & decline to participate if something feels wrong to me

Mistakes are a healthy part of growth & an opportunity to learn & evolve

I do not lose my values or reduce myself to be accepted & don't need others to approve

I give & receive in mutual ways that benefit both me & the people in my life

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Further Reading from Neuroclastic:

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9/29/22

i am begging you to stop yelling. instead, you grab my face HARD and scream into it.

“if you’re going to create all these fucking problems, you’re going to look me in my eyes while I fucking yell about it.”

(i asked him to be more considerate of me, and to not force me to walk home alone at 3am.)

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you said that nothing you do will every be “good enough” for me.

have you considered that abuse being “not good enough” is a pretty fucking normal expectation

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“please don’t yell at me in the middle of the street. please stop yelling. please stop.”

“i don’t care. i’m done with this fucking bullshit.”

“please stop yelling. please stop. you’re scaring me.”

“NO.”

that says it all, doesn’t it?

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it’ll be really hard for anyone to convince me of love, ever again.

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I am the worst kind of person. 

The begging kind,

The pleading kind,

The kind that falls to my knees for you.

The foolish kind.

- S.W

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Splitting is so obnoxious:

I love you. We are perfect. We’re gonna get married. We’re gonna have kids.

You don’t love me. You wanna leave me. One day you will find someone and realize you never loved me. You’re gonna leave me.

I need more. Your love isn’t enough for me. I want movie-love. I need passion. You can’t give me what I need.

I wanna be alone. Leave me. Fuck you. I hate you.

It’s exhausting. Fucking exhausting.

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phoebe bridgers, "motion sickness" // gentle.earth // jh hard, "3:51" // blink-182, "i really wish i hated you" // @budzaya @zw-me-anasfaleies // gentle.earth // stephen adly guirgis, "the last days of judas iscariot" // @moonieisa // syml, "fear of the water" // ariana reines, "fated"

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I was screaming, I was making too much noise, I gave up because I was in a locked cage, made by myself and I had thrown the key very far away.

Dorian A

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if i can’t be with my favorite person who i am in love with, then i shall rot and die

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i can literally feel myself worrying myself sick. I’m tired and miserable but I can’t sleep. my face hurts from crying. I am in a constant state of stress and can’t do this rn

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I was only 12 when I became so sad

I was only a child

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I just want to be loved as intensely as I love

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“I break my own heart by expecting people to be as attached to me as I am to them.”

— Unknown

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i can feel myself turning off my emotions bc i know things are ending. i want to feel but at the same time it's too much. i'm caught in between limbo of numb/void of any feeling & all emotions at their most intense.