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A man and a Woman speak

The man

There’s a prevailing narrative in the online world that female led relationships are inevitably destructive, humiliating, and demeaning to men. This is mostly online fantasy, and has nothing to do with a real female led relationship, where the focus is on empowering both the man the woman, and allowing them, by embracing certain roles and practices, to grow together in intimacy and empower each other to live their best lives.

I write because there are millions of us who are strong men, fully masculine, who want to honor, serve, obey, and empower their wives, and empower women in general. We see that women are at their best when they’re in charge, but have been oppressed and abused for millennia. We see that patriarchy has failed. We see that strong women are attractive, and we have a desire to serve them. We see that we, as men, are at our best when we use our masculine strength to serve, romance, obey, and love the woman in their life. What’s more, we find that the structure of a female led relationship fosters deeper communication and intimacy, allowing both to flourish as they each work at living into this way of being together that runs so contrary to culture.

These men are eager to be serve more than anything, but the desire to serve means they want to be empower the woman to lead.

We submit to female leadership out from a place of security and strength, not fear and weakness or inadequacy

The Woman

The woman who has risen to lead in her marriage has come to the place (thought it may have taken some time, and practice, and communication, and working on her confidence) of cherishing her role and demanding his obedience to her leadership. Loving female leadership is about women taking charge of their men in and out of the bedroom and training men to submit to female guidance.

It is about teaching and leading a man to be a better person. It is about focusing his mind on giving, serving, and obeying, rather than receiving, and doing all this without hesitancy from either of us so that it becomes normal for both of us. It is about being kind, quiet, and clear but ‘not asking’ because it’s understood that I’m the leader.

He needs this transformation to bring balance to his life, a life filled with him exercising leadership and command, authority and autonomy. He desperately needs what she alone can give. So in the end, it is about making him into a stronger man. There is absolutely no contradiction in a hyper-masculine Alpha Male completely submitting to a DOMINANT WOMAN.

Sure, everyone has their odd fetishes, but in real life, any woman who wants to be with a man just to treat him like scum is pathetic, mental, and low-rent. It is just sad. And always a fleeting waste of time and life for any man or any woman. A Strong but submissive male should seek to embody submission in a Female Led Relationship in order to make himself better, not worse - stronger not weaker - more virile not less. After all, tease and denial raises a man’s testosterone levels significantly, making him even more masculine in his submission and service. I find that arousing.

Loving Female Leadership is about a Woman asserting her power over a man because she’s come to believe that it’s best for both. She believes her guidance is superior because she knows intuitively that her inner strength and her inner wisdom is superior to that of a man’s in certain ways, at the least in terms of creating a beautiful compassionate home, and a palace of erotic pleasure and beauty. Sexually, it is about the eroticizing of power and controlling his lusts for her, keeping them at a low boil constantly, and using him for her pleasure as she desires. Even if this means her wanting him to do her rough and hard, she is ultimately deciding how things go.

¨For me I find these values deepen both my own comfort with leading, and his desire to follow:

1. a relentless degree of strictness is paramount to how I dominate is paramount. This simply means clear expectations regarding all things - chores he’ll do and quality control, when he`s to be caged or free, naked or clothed, how to shave legs, do pedicures, massages, please me orally, do chores right, and clear consequences for failure, sarcasm, or verbally challenging my authority..

2. A commitment to keeping him either hard, or leaking in his cage at least once a day, preferably more. It’s become both fun easy by now, but took a commitment on my part at first to both present myself as desirable and, more importantly, to learn new ways of arousing him.

3. An insistence that he serve my needs and desires. Embedded in that is the belief that he will benefit from serving, and that I will benefit from being served. Both truths have proven right, and have changed us for the better.

4. Affirming him for embracing this new, counter cultural role, and celebrating him for it with frequent rewards. This requires learning his sexual desires and alllowing him to experience them, not as a right, but as a gift from me.

I have come to believe in female authority as core value of marriage and share that belief with every woman in my personal sphere not because I want a world of weaker men but because I want a world of stronger men who are ultimately guided by the wisdom and strength of strong Women, day-in-and-day-out, in this generation and in all succeeding generations.¨

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the longer he’s locked the more eager he is to serve me domestically, and sexually while remaining locked. It’s really quite beautiful

True strength lies in submission which permits one to dedicate his life, through devotion, to something beyond himself."

Henry Miller

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This!

It would be really nice if you have your sub on a leash and collar in every place you take them in, but in reality you can't. It's a sad, boring reality.

So here you are right now watching your adorable pet, take your order from the counter, as they politely nod and smile to the cashier. Having those cute adorable eyes should be a sin.

Your sub comes over, with an adorable grin, saying how they got complimented and stuff. I mean they were telling the truth, but it just makes you have these ugly feelings inside.

They sat beside you and started talking about this new show they've been watching, while your left hands starts exploring up and down their thigh. You see them start to stutter and blush but you continued teasing them and whispering sweet promises of how they're such a good pet for staying still.

"Now, just smile and keep those lips closed instead of it gaping wide with arousal, can you do that?" they smiled and nod embarassed with how easy they got turned on by your touch.

You still can't stop thinking about the leash on their pretty neck. How the colors would pop against their bare skin. How good it looks to show off their yours. How satisfying it would feel to pull the leash towards you without breaking eye contact with them.

Once again you grabbed them close and whispered "New rule sweetie, everytime I snap twice you focus on my hand and watched as I pull your leash," your left hand grabbed their neck quickly then pretend to wipe some dirt of their neck. "What leash? This leash attached to your pretty collar, you can't see it? Silly pet. Of course it's there. When I said there, then that must be the truth, right?"

You watch them get all excited when you snap twice and started pulling the imaginary leash attached to them. They obediently inch closer, patiently waiting for your next order. Somtimes you just pet them, ask them close so you can whisper orders, or when they smile a little too much with someone and you just got a little too possessive again.

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Do we seriously have to skip both ads on YouTube now. Like we press skip on the first then we have to wait five more seconds to press skip on the second. Are you actually fucking kidding me

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"You talk too much, slave..."

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Qualities of a GOOD SUBMISSIVE

Everyone on the internet is always talking about what Qualities of a good Domme but very few have raised the question about the qualities of a good submissive man. Those who have talked about this topic have mostly referred to things such as –

He should be willing to wear a chastity cage.

He should worship her feet.

He should shave himself.

Etc. Etc.

But these are actually not qualities. These are kinks. Representing them as qualities just gives you the illusion that prioritizing your kinks to your partner in the relationship is not wrong.

A real Sane Dominant Woman would not want to become a Kink Dispenser in her relationship. She would want a man who can think beyond his fantasies and is useful to her. So without further ado let us jump into what makes a submissive man desirable and what are the qualities of a great submissive man –

Obedience – The first and the most basic quality of a submissive man is that he is obedient to his Mistress. Obedience sounds easy but being obedient is difficult. If there is a man who nags at every task but ultimately does it would not be considered a good obedient.

Patient – A submissive man needs to be patient. He should let his Mistress take her time. He should always make sure that is in her comfort zone. A submissive goes through various phases where has to be patient. The time when he asks his vanilla partner for a Female Led Relationship, he needs to be patient so that she can embrace her dominant side at her own pace. He needs to be patient with the sex toys he wants to bring into the relationship. He needs to be patient to get well-trained under guidance. He needs to be patient when he supports her and carries her bags while she shops.

Knowledgeable – A good slave/submissive man is always willing to acquire knowledge to serve his Dom better. He will learn any particular skill that will make her life easier be it Home science, Cooking, nail-painting, hair care, etc. He would also want to be able to make rationale decisions for his Dom whenever asked to. Thus, having good knowledge is a very desirable quality in a submissive man. It makes him more reliable for the Dom.

Respect – A submissive man always and always respects his Mistress. In real life and in his thoughts, a true submissive never gets disrespectful ideas about his Dom. Even when he is disappointed or angry with her, he is patient and never loses his calm and talks to her disrespectfully.

Self-Respect – Self-respect for a submissive man is as important as respect for his Mistress. A man cannot be a good submissive if he cannot take a stand for himself. If you are a slave, it does not mean that you have to blindly and mindlessly agree to everything she says. Disrespect is not tolerable. If he cannot take a stand for himself, he cannot take it for anyone else when the time comes.

Communication – Sharing his thoughts, opinions and feelings is an essential quality that every submissive man must have. Doms are not mindreaders. They need to understand what is going on inside their submissive’s head in order to dominate properly. Thus, communication is a pre-requisite for being a good submissive.

Honest – A gentleman never lies. A submissive man is a gentleman. He is always honest. Even if he knows that the truth is going to hurt his Mistress, he will still let her know because he knows that the lie is going to hurt her even more. To add, hiding the truth or lying by omission is equivalent to lying.

Willing to Change – He should be willing to adapt to his Dom’s style of things. He should be willing to change his habits if his Dom tells him to. He should be willing to be shaped and molded by his Mistress. It is not the big things but the small things that will make him look well-trained. Not keeping wet towels on the bed, keeping the home well organized, keeping things in the place decided by his Mistress are just a few examples that are difficult to change but he should be willing to change.

Consent – A submissive man never forces his fantasies on his Mistress. Everything that happens in their Female Led Relationship is consensual and mutually agreed upon. He always prioritizes her needs and wants over his. Her comfort zone is far more important to him than his fantasies.

 Loyalty and Maturity – He should be an alpha man who is under the control of his Woman. A knight who only bends in front of his queen. He should be a mentally strong man who can make important and decisions maturely. His Mistress should be able to trust his decision-making skills. A good submissive man is loyal as well. He has eyes only for his Queen. He is always faithful to his Mistress because she has gifted him his dream dynamic. He has been gifted a Female Led Relationship that he has always craved.

Prioritizes her – The most important quality of a good submissive man is that he prioritizes her always and under every scenario. Whether physically or emotionally, whether inside or outside the bed, she is his priority. For Him, her needs always supersede his. In return, his Mistress acknowledges this fact and takes care of him and makes sure that his needs are met as well.

There are many overlaps between the qualities of a desirable man in a traditional relationship and a submissive man in a Female Led Relationship. It is because, at its core, every relationship is based on some basic pillars. D/s dynamic is just an add-on over a traditional relationship. Even if your husband/boyfriend/partner is submissive to you, he is still your best friend, your confidant, your teammate and your soulmate. You two are a team. You both complete each other. His submission is incomplete without your Domination and your dominance is incomplete without his submission.

Until next time.