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TEEN HORSE GIRL MOVIE WHERE THE HORSE DIES AN HOUR IN AND THE SECOND HALF IS THE GIRL LEARNING OCCULT SCIENCE TO REANIMATE IT SO SHE CAN WIN THE BIG DERBY

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You need to draw and make art or else all the images will stay in your head and you'll get sick

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Today my friend said something along the lines of, "It's gonna feel so good to get top surgery and get your huge F-cup boobs cut off. It's gonna be like shaving a matted dog," and that's like the funniest comparison to make on planet earth.

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Sometimes I wish asexuality and aromanticism weren’t so often lumped together in online communities. Obviously, I would never begrudge an aroace person the right to tag both of their identities in a post about, well, both of their identities. But as an ace person who isn’t aro, sometimes I wish I could scroll the ace tag and see more things that were JUST about being ace and not about being aro.

#this is also a problem in the reverse direction (people also tagging asexual posts as aromantic) #<— prev tags #yeah…

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#ME RN

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how i feel when someone reblogs my stuff with a really really nice tag

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you should be able to say "line" if you don't know what to say in a social situation

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“Is this the silver pan you wanted me to wash?”

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#not yet #I really want to believe they’re out there somewhere

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Not to be a Boomer but your social media should be your own space, not something employers are allowed to look at to judge you beyond the qualifications stated in your resume and cover letter

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he is really sweet actually.

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1. Non-SAM Aromantic. I’m also gay, t4t, and a no-med, no-op transmasc demiboy.

2. Romance— Repulsed.

Touching— Depends on the relationship/person

Hugging— I fantasize about being hugged by a partner/person I’m sexually active with, but I usually don’t like being hugged (autism).

Kissing— I’d only do it with a partner and/or someone I’m sexually active with. Unfortunately, I’ve never had either so I can only go off of how good it feels in fantasy.

Sex— Again, something I’d only do with a partner/person I’m sexually active with. Unfortunately, I’m not very attracted to people and spent a majority of my life ID-ing as a sex repulsed asexual, so I’ve never had the opportunity to have sex. I’d REALLY REALLY REALLY like to have sex. But unfortunately, I have a very large and complicated set of circumstances and identity that prevent me from getting a sexual partner easily.

Love— Vague statement. But as a lovequeer aromantic, I love all kinds of love as long as it isn’t romantic!

Queerplatonic Relationships— Meh. They’re another relationship label anyone can use. I think the aro community is kind of building a second amatonormativity around them which I am dreading becomes the new expectation for aromantic people. I also fell to this “queerplatonormativity” for a good while and it made me pretty miserable bc of my circumstances in not being able to get a partner. Queerplatonic relationships have left a bit of a sour taste in my mouth bc of it, but I don’t 100% hate them either. I don’t think I’m going to get into a QPR, but who knows.

A Significant Other— Like, romantic? Cuz I already specified I’m romance repulsed. But if not, then nah. I’d prefer to spend my life surrounded by a bunch of people I care about. But I also totally see a future where only one person really “gets me” and my identity. Though, I don’t think I’d call us significant others. Maybe partners, but not significant others.

One Night Stands— Yeah… No… As much as I REALLY want to have sex, I don’t really trust a complete stranger with my body. Even if we have all the preliminary talks. I get the appeal, but I only personally see enjoyment in sex with people I’ve known for a bit and trust. I also don’t have my own car and all my siblings are sex repulsed asexuals so I think I’d get shit in the morning for the noise.

Porn (Video)— Never even had the balls to look this up. As much as I love looking at horny posts on here to jack off to, I don’t think porn would EVER have the right stuff to get me off. I’ve never heard of gay t4t porn before. If it does exist, I might be curious to check it out, but as it stands now, I do not watch porn.

Smut (Written)— Absolutely. I have read many. Unfortunately, since my identity is so niche, there are very few proper works out there that really appeal to me. I’ve tried writing my own, but I’m always in public when I get the motivation to write them lol so I never get to the spicy stuff.

Dates/Dating— If we’re getting into a more serious and dedicated relationship, I would not mind dating at all. I LOVE the idea of all the cute dating things you could do. Going to a coffee shop, doing a picnic, stargazing, I think it’s all so cute and I’d LOVE to have that experience. But I can also experience those things with people outside of dating, so I won’t be torn up if I never do.

3. The fact that I’m not asexual. I’ve made several posts about not being asexual, and still my sibling once assumed I was asexual. I was going to correct them, but I was busy with a chore so I couldn’t. It hurt like hell. I also made a post once that wasn’t supposed to get super popular, but it got super popular, and then a bunch of aroallos accused me of being against them. If I’d have known the allorose term back then, it would have made things WAY better, but the days that post was blowing up were some of the most terrifying days of logging into Tumblr for me.

4. Not really. My dad is the only person who brings consistent amatonormativity into my life (which I swear I’m actually going to snap at him one of these days /gen), but other than that, there’s only been one other person who asked if any of us were dating. I’ve never experienced blatant aphobia and I hope to god that doesn’t change.

5. I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, being aromantic does NOT mean you’re asexual. I hate to be so loud and obnoxious about it, but I kind of have to be. I’ve blocked the asexual tag bc every time you go into the aromantic tag, there is a TON and I mean A TON of mistagged stuff in there. I hate that people automatically assume you’re asexual when you say you’re aromantic, and the posts that people make in there are NOT helping.

The Aspec Questionaire

Aspec is such a vast category and one some folks (especially allo folks) tend to treat like a monolith. So I thought it’d be good to do a little questionnaire to demonstrate.

(Skip anything you don’t want to answer.)

1. How do you identify?

2. How do you feel about the following, one word answers are fine if you want:

- - Romance

- - Touching

- - Hugging

- - Kissing

- - Sex

- - Love

- - Queer Platonic Relationships

- - A Significant Other

- - One Night Stands

- - Porn (Video)

- - Smut (Written)

- - Dates/Dating

3. What is the thing you think most people misunderstand about your identity?

4. Have you encountered aphobia in your life?

5. Anything else you’d like to add on the topic?

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Made the worst brownies ever created just now

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Do you ever think about how you see the aroallo flag more often than the alloace flag which is likely because you can just say you're asexual and people probably won't assume you're aromantic as well whereas if you say you're aromantic they'll automatically assume you're asexual, so it makes sense that aromantic allosexuals would be more likely to use the flag specifically for them rather than the one for all aromantics because with the specific flag it'll be more obvious that they're not aroace?

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Do you ever think about how you see the aroallo flag more often than the alloace flag which is likely because you can just say you're asexual and people probably won't assume you're aromantic as well whereas if you say you're aromantic they'll automatically assume you're asexual, so it makes sense that aromantic allosexuals would be more likely to use the flag specifically for them rather than the one for all aromantics because with the specific flag it'll be more obvious that they're not aroace?