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sobbing into my plate after overhearing a conversation between a mom and her tiny daughter in this shopping centre food court

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Broke af?

But still interested in feeding yourself? What if I told you that there’s a woman with a blog who had to feed both herself and her young son…on 10 British pounds ($15/14 Euro) per week?

Let me tell you a thing.

This woman saved my life last year. Actually saved my life. I had a piggy bank full of change and that’s it. Many people in my fandom might remember that dark time as when I had to hock my writing skills in exchange for donations. I cried a lot then. 

This is real talk, people: I marked down exactly what I needed to buy, totaled it, counted out that exact change, and then went to three different stores to buy what I needed so I didn’t have to dump a load of change on just one person. I was already embarrassed, but to feel people staring? Utter shame suffused me. The reasons behind that are another post all together. 

AgirlcalledJack.com is run by a British woman who was on benefits for years. Things got desperate. She had to find a way to feed herself and her son using just the basics that could be found at the supermarket. But the recipes she came up with are amazing. 

You have to consider the differing costs of things between countries, but if you just have three ingredients in your cupboard, this woman will tell you what to do with it. Check what you already have. Chances are you have the basics of a filling meal already. 

Here’s her list of kitchen basics. 

Bake your own bread. It’s easier than you think. Here’s a list of many recipes, each using some variation of just plain flour, yeast, some oil, maybe water or lemon juice. And kneading bread is therapeutic. 

Make your own pasta–gluten free. 

She gets it. She really does. This is the article that started it all. It’s called “Hunger Hurts”.

She has vegan recipes.

A carrot, a can of kidney beans, and some cumin will get you a really filling soup…or throw in some flour for binding and you’ve got yourself a burger. 

Don’t have an oven or the stove isn’t available? She covers that in her Microwave Cooking section. 

She has a book, but many recipes can be found on her blog for free. She prices her recipes down to the cent, and every year she participates in a project called “Living Below the Line” where she has to live on 1 BP per day of food for five days. 

Things improved for me a little, but her website is my go to. I learned how to bake bread (using my crockpot, but that was my own twist), and I have a little cart full of things that saved me back then, just in case I need them again. She gives you the tools to feed yourself, for very little money, and that’s a fabulous feeling. 

Tip: Whenever you have a little extra money, buy a 10 dollar/pound/euro giftcard from your discount grocer. Stash it. That’s your super emergency money. Make sure they don’t charge by the month for lack of use, though.

I don’t care if it sounds like an advertisement–you won’t be buying anything from the site. What I DO care about is your mental, emotional, and physical health–and dammit, food’s right in the center of that. 

If you don’t need this now, pass it on to someone who does. Pass it on anyway, because do you REALLY know which of the people in your life is in need? Which follower might be staring at their own piggy bank? Trust me: someone out there needs to see this. 

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Let me tell you about my new favourite cookbook

Hey tumblr. Are you trying to learn to cook for yourself? I sure am. My roommate just got me this book and I am totally blown away — it’s an entire cooking course in one book easy and accessible, taking you from following recipes to making up your own by teaching you the science behind it all. Do you love science? I love science. I especially love DIAGRAMS!

You can’t quite see it, but this tells you not just what parts to eat, but how to prepare it. I’m always in grocery stores staring at veg going “okay but what do I DO with it?” and this book actually answers that in clear, simple language and beautiful watercolours.

What’s the difference when recipes call for different types of frying? Hey, I guess I know now!

Illustrations instead of photos encourage you to play around instead of trying to get the exact same result.

Samin Nosrat, the author, is incredibly personable along with being a great writer and chef. The prose parts of the book are clearly worded and full of personality. It explains details of cooking that lots of other cookbooks leave out, meaning a intermediate cook like me can actually grasp skills like breaking down a whole chicken or getting the heart out of fresh artichokes. 

The first half of the book is meant to be read straight through and explains the theory behind the elements of food in a casual writing style. Then it has 100 recipes that are meant to teach you all the basic skills and are a jumping-off point, because what she really wants you to do is EXPERIMENT! I can’t wait to eat a bunch of this stuff.

I don’t know about you, but I failed to learn cooking from my mom even though she’s a great cook. I regret it now and want to learn to be comfortable in the kitchen, because I love eating and I want to take back control of the food I eat. When I got this book, the first random page I flipped to had a matrix explaining what works well with avocado. I knew right away it was going to be my kind of book. (I ended up staying up late reading it.)

So if you’re also trying to learn to cook, to take back control of what you eat, want a really pretty illustrated cookbook, whatever — I can’t recommend this enough. 

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Ah, I see. Thank you for your honesty. Please, take as much as you need. There will be enough for everyone.

A change of scenery. Simple, but marvelous.

A glimpse into your future, for you brave souls! (Divination is tricky business, tread carefully my dear!)

Knowledge from the universe, eh? Perhaps this will be of interest to you.

Rest for the weary, right this way. It's a personal favourite of mine.

A home-cooked meal you say? I like how you think! A labour of love worth savoring (and sharing with friends!)

For something to pass the time, try looking here, or if that doesn't hit the spot, here.

Seeking adventure to a far-off place? I know a way to get you there.

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I hope you found what you were looking for!

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What's the stupidest neurodivergent cleaning hack that works for you?

For us we actually put clothes in the hamper as long as we have a separate little hamper for underwear

Apparently the act of seperating out the pants means both hampers get used correctly

I am both very glad this works and fucking furious about how stupid it is

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Allistic people really need to stop phrasing requests as questions because it's fucking with me

"Do you want to help me cook dinner?"

No, I'm still overwhelmed from earlier and want to stay in my room.

"well fine, dinner will be ready when it's done." And now they're upset with me

And I'm just here like ???????

#do you want me to do x? #if u want to #my quick and easy solution is when they ask if you might like to #bc if they need you to theyll say something leaning affirmative #but otherwise they might say

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Surviving under late stage capitalism is hard, especially when you’re out of spoons and you’re lucky if you have a plastic knife. We’re here to help. 

The Sad Bastard Cookbook: Food You Can Make So You Don’t Die is a community-built, vegetarian/vegan guide to getting food in your facehole when you’re suffering from depression. Or other mental illnesses or physical illnesses or *waves hand generally at the state of the world* anything else. 

We’ve made it free on our website because life sucks enough without having to give Jeff Bezos money, but we also do have a paperback copy available for sale over there too, since we also need to eat.

https://nightbeatseu.ca/the-sad-bastard-cookbook/

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So for all you people with executive dysfunction, specifically you ADHD folk, there's a trick I've been using for a while now to get out of it that I call the Lift-A-Finger™ (except, y'know, not actually TM, because in this economy???)

But what, Birdy, is the Lift-A-Finger™? I hear you ask. Well! You remember those times when you sat down and you tried to do something? You had a whole list of plans, you knew which order they had to go in, but your executive dysfunction simply made it impossible to actually do it? If you are anything like me, you might be suffering from this right now, as you are reading this.

And while your body refuses to cooperate, your mind is screaming bloody murder and demanding you lift a finger once in your goddamn life, you (insert one of the many things people have said about you which were wrong that you have since internalised)!!!

So, instead of doing any of the tasks that seem so incredibly insurmountable and impossible, instead I want you to take a moment, do as your brain demands and literally lift a finger.

That's it. You stop your doomscrolling, your binge watching, your game replays for a second, and you consciously lift a finger.

This is not an impossible task, it is not even a hard task, or a long task, or a boring one. It literally takes a second and then you can continue what you're doing. Except. Now you've done A Thing. You get to cross off one of your to-dos (of which you probably have many) and this makes it so much easier to get up to do another thing.

It is also an incredibly effective tool at recognising your mental state. I have had moments where lifting a finger took me minutes. Actually acknowledging that yes, tasks are hard, made it easier for me to relax my load a bit and do the few things I could do. But I've also had moments where I thought of it, did it immediately and nothing changed. That's okay, too. I just had to grab a different tool to get up and do what I needed to do.

TL;DR executive dysfunction? Stop for a second and literally lift a finger with Lift-A-Finger™!

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Three Strategies for Doing Home Chores With ADHD

A family member with undiagnosed ADHD has the following routine for washing the dishes.

When he starts making coffee, he uses that time to put away 10 dishes. Since he uses a very fast Keurig coffeemaker, it turns into a game or challenge: can he put away all 10 dishes before the coffee is ready?

He points out that making coffee would otherwise be “dead time” where he’s just standing around. These moments feel torturous for me and many others with ADHD. So, he makes use of that “dead time” to do a little bit of chores.

It made me think about such moments of down time in my life, and my own first reaction – to pull out my phone and check my email and social media or play a relatively mindless game. I started wondering how much easier cleaning my home would be if I made better use of my dead time.

The strategies he’s combining here are:

1) Use those torturous little bits of down time to do some small “productive” thing

2) Break a task into small pieces that can fit into little bits of down time.

3) Turn a boring task into a game or challenge. (This is one of his favorites).

Have you used any of these strategies? Would a habit like this work for you?

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btw people who struggle with teeth brushing and flossing, focus on the sensation of it, its satisfying slay to get the floss just under the gum, throughout you get to check and makesure ur teeth are all smooth, then afterwards u get to run ur tongue over ur silky smooth teeth!

#plus if teeth feeling is a stim #u will notice when u need to brush

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This is not a sponsored post I am just an old man getting excited over boring things.

Hey disabled people and neurodivergents I have an app reccomendation for you, its called sweepy.

It is a chore tracker with some features that are actually fucking HELPFUL, not just like a list of shit to do.

So what you do is you add rooms, and in those rooms you list all the things that you have to do. You set how often they need doing and how much effort they take to do. So now you never have to wonder if you need to hoover yet, it will tell you! It also has options for one time tasks and seasonal tasks. Also there are a lot of task presets to make it all easier.

And that alone is all great but if you pay for premium (a very reasonable 12 quid a year), you get more features like adding other people in your house so that you all know whats going on, and my favourite feature, the daily schedule. What you do is you set how many effort points you want to use in a day, and sweepy will go through the things that need doing and assign you tasks to match the effort points. You can even set tasks to only be assigned to specific people. Also like. Streaks and leader boards and shit if that stuff helps motivate you.

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Okay, here's my idea:

The British should put a time limit on the Monarchy.

Not like declaring a republic tomorrow, but deciding on a date in the future that ends the British Monarchy.

And there's a perfect date for it coming up!

October 14th, 2066.

A thousand years since the Battle of Hastings. A thousand years of this one specific bloodline ruling England.

Call time on the Monarchy after exactly one thousand years. Nice, and neat.

Even better: Charles isn't living 44 years. He'll be gone in about twenty. Now William? He's what, 40? Yeah, he can live another 44 years. His great grandmother was over a hundred, his granny was 96, William can make it to 84 barring accident or assassination.

So on October 14th 2066, William the Last steps down a thousand years after William the First won the crown.

Nice, neat, and fair. William gets the crown he's been waiting forty years for already, but ten-year-old George grows up without expectation of it.

Have a nice big abdication ceremony, even.

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hwo do you alleviate the transgender pajns

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stop. pick up the journal. speak to yourself gently. sit down. have a cup of tea. the world isn't ending even if it feels like it constantly is. what made you upset? how are you feeling? did you hydrate yourself enough today? ate a piece of fruit and watch the sky, soak in some warmth? pick up a random book you want to read and indulge yourself for a moment. better yet, flip it to a random page and read the passage. splash some water on your face, move your legs a little, shake your wrist. i know all you can think of is it's hard, it's hard, it's hard and i will commiserate with you and say that it is. so have some gentleness instead. we all need it. give yourself a taste of it.

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Abled Person: Hey man, can you hold this wad of $2,000 and this one penny for me while I open my wallet?

Disabled Person: YOU COMPLETE AND UTTER FOOL!

The United States Government:

(Watch how many people don’t get this.)