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My face is having uncontrollable spasms. Great. It hurts really, really, really bad.

I think part of why I have trouble explaining pain to the doctor is when they ask about the pain scale I always think “Well, if someone threw me down a flight of stairs right now or punched me a few times, it would definitely hurt a lot more” so I end up saying a low number. I was reading an article that said that “10” is the most commonly reported number and that is baffling to me. When I woke up from surgery with an 8" incision in my body and I could hardly even speak, I was in the most horrific pain of my life but I said “6” because I thought “Well, if you hit me in the stomach, it would be worse.”

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When someone has a chronic illness or is disabled and can't work, they say a few common things.

It must be nice to sit around all day/sleep all day.

I wish I could sit around all day and not work.

I wish I could sleep all the time.

They don't want to sleep as much as we have to. They'd feel sick and sluggish.

They don't want to sit around the house all day not doing anything. They'd be bored out of their fucking skull.

It's so unbelievably fucking frustrating, but there's a fundamental lack of understanding.

They liken our lives to a vacation, imagining that it's fun and relaxing and we can do whatever fun things we want to all the time.

In reality, it should be likened to an extended hospital stay. You can't do anything and you feel like shit.

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fuck it homebrew boop button. reblog this post to boop the person you reblogged from.

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This is just an idea right now. I don’t know when it would be or what it would be, but it feels like there are enough whump-enjoyers in the HTTYD fandom to at least run a small event. So, interest check!

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snoopy encourages you to buy a new book!

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EY ITS FINALS SEASON!

GOOD LUCK ON YOUR EXAMS!

GOOD LUCK ON YOUR ESSAYS!

GOOD LUCK ON YOUR PRESENTATIONS!

GOOD LUCK ON YOUR FINAL PROJECTS!

GOOD LUCK!!! YOU’VE MADE IT THIS FAR!!

and a gentle reminder to take breaks, and get a snack and some water. Don’t forget to take a moment to breathe.

and if you can, try to do something nice for yourself after its all over. No matter how it turns out, you struggled and you survived so you deserve something nice :)

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Tony’s death was a result of two reasons:

Shock value, in order to meet the pressures of High Stakes.

The idea that the only way to “rest” if you suffer from mental illness, e.g. PTSD, depression, anxiety, is to die. “Writers” or people who call themselves as such, don’t know how to handle mental illnesses and are unable to think that there is a chance of recovery because it’s simply “too much”. Therefore, “putting them out of their misery” seems to be the only option.

To which I say, fuck you. I have suffered major depression to the point of acting suicidal. I have friends who have been through trauma. If our lives were on the hands of these writers, they would’ve killed us.

I repeat, if our lives were on the hands of these writers, they would’ve killed us.

Neither of these two reasons fit the narrative. Death in fiction is only necessary when it leads to a chain of events that are supposed to happen OR were destined from the beginning to die (see, Captain America, and Hodor from Game of Thrones because I’m still fucked up over how devastating and awesome his arc was).

And if they don’t serve this narrative, you have failed in fulfilling a satisfying end to a character arc and as a writer overall.

To add to his death, Morgan Stark’s existence is a plot device. Let’s put aside the fact that MCU!Pepper has never shown an interest in wanting kids. Let’s put aside the fact that Pepper and Tony are a couple in their fifties, focused on their jobs and looking to semi-retire, consider starting over with a baby. Let’s put aside the fact that Hollywood thinks every couple should have kids and white picket fence life.

Morgan was created for two reasons only:

To add to the tragedy of Tony’s death, as if it wouldn’t already be tragic enough. It plays into the leaving a child behind trope. This trope is only done well for a character that’s supposed to die in the beginning. Hell, this trope doesn’t even need death, (see Once Upon A Time).

So that Tony would have a glimpse of happiness* before the writers feel satisfied in killing him off. I.e. I guess he’s suffered a lot, maybe we should just give him a kid to fill that void for just a brief period. I guess…five years? Yeah, that’s enough. There. Now we can kill him.

Firstly, never have kids just to fill a void. Never think about having kids when your life has fallen apart. That’s not starting over, that’s acting reckless.

*Secondly, that “happiness” was lived in a bleak world of the decimated aftermath, where people won’t be able to recover for hundreds of years, and Tony had been living under insurmountable guilt for being unable to save it and endless grief for the boy he saw as a son. You honestly expect me to believe him isolating himself in a cabin while the rest of the world is still suffering, filled with guilt and sorrow, is him being truly happy? Really?

Some would say there’s a third reason: Morgan is keeping Tony back from jumping into the world of Avenging again or risk losing her. To which I say nay, because that had been set up from the beginning, the moment Tony ripped his “heart” from his chest and shoved it into Steve’s hands. He was done. And he wouldn’t want to jump back because he couldn’t fall into the lull of false hope. We didn’t need a Morgan for that. We didn’t need Morgan for any of this.

And all of it happened to kill off a character that was not ready to be killed off.

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What do AO3's Archive Warnings mean?

Archive Warnings can be confusing to new users, both readers and writers alike, so let's take a moment and break them down. We'll start at the top of the list - which is ordered alphabetically.

Creator Chose Not to Use Archive Warnings - when AO3 was being designed (by fans, for fans) there was a debate about requiring warnings. At the time, they were not a standard expectation, so some people didn't want warnings to be mandatory on every individual fic on the Archive. Other people did.

This warning - stating that the author was making a choice not to provide a warning - was a compromise. A creator could choose not to apply a warning to their fic and readers would then know to be wary because it would be possible that any of the warnings might be needed, or multiple of them, or none of them.

This warning (which I'll abbreviate to CCNTW from here on out) is also a good catch-all for other things that a creator might want to warn for that don't have a specific Archive Warning. Authors can also provide warnings of different kinds in the Additional Tags on a work, so it's a good idea to read those carefully as well.

You can read up on more of the history of this warning on Fanlore.

Graphic Depictions of Violence - This applies to stories where the descriptions of violence are very detailed and probably gory. The violent scenes will likely be brutal and easily imagined. This warning is generally accompanied by a rating of either M or E - meaning that the content in the work is aimed at adults only.

Some authors find it difficult to decide whether the violence in their fic is graphic enough to warrant using this warning, so they use CCNTW instead. For some fandoms, the source material is already full of graphic violence and so they might also use an Additional Tag to give more information such as, "canon typical violence"

Major Character Death - This can be interpreted in different ways. It might mean:

a character dies, and that character is a major character in canon (even if they might be a minor character in the fic).

a character dies, and that character is a major character in the fic (even if they might be a minor character in canon).

the character death in the story is a major component of the story or a particularly intense part of the story.

It is possible that the character who dies does not stay dead in the fic, in which case the author may decide to use an Additional Tag like "temporary character death" to provide more information.

It is also possible that an author will decide to use CCNTW instead because they want to avoid giving spoilers for the story.

No Archive Warnings Apply - This means that none of the other warnings in this list apply to this fic. The fic may still be given a rating that indicates it is for an adult audience.

Rape / Non-Con - This refers to different scenarios in which a character does not consent to sexual activity.

Non-Con is short for non-consent, which is a term from role-playing communities in which not giving consent is part of the sexual game. Non-con can also refer to the fact that in a fictional story, we might see a character verbally state that they don't want to have sex and then read their inner monologue in which they express that they do.

The various interactions and interpretations involved in consent can get very complex and nuanced, and some creators might use CCNTW because they aren't sure if what they're writing rises to the level of this warning.

Underage - This warning refers to stories that describe sexual activity (more than just kissing) involving characters who are under 18 years old. This one is also up for interpretation when it comes to creatures, monsters, mythological beings, aliens that live for thousands of years, etc.

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All of the above warnings will be used a little differently by different creators and by different fandoms, and as you read more on the site you will likely notice these differences.

However, if you see a work on the Archive that should have one of these warnings but doesn't, you can report that work to the Policy Questions & Abuse team by scrolling to the bottom of the page and clicking the link to their reporting form.

To help the volunteers who manage these reports, you can give them some additional information. If it's a multi-chaptered work, let them know which chapter to look in or give them a keyword or phrase they can search for to find the relevant scene(s). If the volunteer decides a warning is required, they'll contact the creator and ask them to add it. If they decide that it doesn't, they'll let you know.

If the work has Creator Chose Not To Use Archive Warnings on it, that includes all other warnings and that fic shouldn't be reported for missing one.

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Destroy the myth that libraries are no longer relevant. If you use your library, please reblog.

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Irondad Creator Awards 2024 - Info Post

WE’RE COMING BACK FOR A 4TH YEAR WITH EVEN MORE ENTHUSIASM!

WHAT? — Awards for fanfic and art creations and creators of the Irondad Fandom.

WHEN? — The 2024 Cycle of the Irondad Creator Awards began July 1st. The nominations form link will be posted here.  

WHY DO THIS? — Still riding high of the success of 2021, 2022, and 2023 we’re here to showcase the many amazing creators of Irondad content once again. We have had so much fun in previous years and it’s been great to see so many people getting involved by nominating and voting.

WHAT DO I WIN? — The fabulous @monireh is creating the winners prizes this year and her stuff is always beautiful.

MISCELLANEOUS  — If you have any questions, feel free to send an Ask or DM.

WHAT CAN YOU DO  —   Tell your friends! Tell your readers! Reblog! The more people that hear about the awards and nominate/vote, the better. We want all creators to have the chance to shine.

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Ecosocialist praxis

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Reblog if you write fic and people can inbox you random-ass questions about your stories, itemized number lists be damned.

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After many years of not having one (since I was a kid), I've finally got a library card. I've had it for just over a week, and already I've borrowed a handful of audiobooks (listened to one of them), put holds on some eBooks, checked out the books on the shelves, and made use of the study space. And it's all free. FREE.

Folks, we must protect libraries at all costs. They are wonderful places full of magic... And books (okay, so magic and books are the same thing, but you know what I mean).

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reblog to give the person you reblogged this from a fucking break

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Guess what?

Sometimes no matter how hard disabled people try, they can’t do some things. Just because you’ve seen other disabled people “overcome” some things related to their disability doesn’t mean you get to think other disabled people aren’t trying “hard enough” if they can’t.

Every disabled person is different. And honestly, disabled people shouldn’t have to hurt themselves in the process of “overcoming” their disability to be seen as valid in your eyes.

Disabled people are always worthy, regardless of what they can and can’t do.