#which idk kinda makes sense if you're dealing with a sexually active person that is interested in you as well

[inazuma-fulgur]

I like the scent of people but I hate the scent of sex

Like all participants can have showered until just five minutes before, done a deep clean doesn't matter

""Not all odors are bad," Sherry Ross, MD, an OB-GYN" yeah but what if I don't like them

Kids [endearing, joking] it's time to learn about your body and stis

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#legit smell might be my no 1 reason to never have sex again #i mean there are other issues that make me very much not fond of the idea that are more pressing #being ace and telling ppl because it's relevant in regards to boundaries has unfortunate effects. usually it's confusion (annoying #because then I have to answer questions or leave) and sometimes straight disinterest. which honestly is fine. #desinterest is definitely the best result #sometimes people don't get it but just accept it but that's honestly almost worse than the annoying questions because someone is avoiding #the topic instead of choosing to broaden their horizon. sure some people do their research privately but you can't do research about me #at least not about my sexuality. you can do quite some online searches about me lmao #and the third common reaction is fetishization. were people either assume I'm some innocent pure fantasy being and make up shit about me #(or about ace people in general) and if there ever is just one thing not framed well or perfectly nuanced that's a wild card for folks to #believe whatever they prefer to have heard and then if you correct anything there's more confusion and pain #because everything I say or say about myself turns into a fact fact. about everyone which is just not how it works #and the other form of fetishization (in my experience by allo cis women who have not made any experiences not getting fetishized by men #(and also misread me as a man. people's education about trans people is miserable. to a lot of cis people seemingly being non binary is an #on top label and still has you qualify as a man or woman underneath that. as if calling yourself non binary was like a lesbian calling #themselves butch. which obviously isn't an accurate comparison even if nb women and men exist.) #and with those types there comes a fetishization of being seen as respectful and not predatory which then makes you more sexually appealing #which idk kinda makes sense if you're dealing with a sexually active person that is interested in you as well #it does not make sense purely on the terms of you being attracted to someone who mentioned being ace to you. it is not about you. whether #said ace person is sexually active or not