#when your dad destroys your 9th birthday cake simply because he's angry he can't get the candles lit then maybe you'll realize

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irt that post i do also think op maybe doesn't have the best reason to post it in the first place because if you KNOW your dad loves you despite the way he treated you then it can't have been that bad lmfao. not that i'm at liberty to say that anyone's abuse is better or worse than mine but if all he did was yell at you a few times as a child, i'm not really sure if that makes you eligible for the childhood trauma discount at hardee's. like perhaps if your childhood trauma was very slight and it all stems from your dad being too tired to be a father because of his hell job then sure that post applies to you but lol not everyone had that and that sure doesn't excuse everything

#i'm not gonna say that it's capitalism's fault that my dad molested his children lmao let's be real that is not a one-size-fits-all excuse #or the continuous threats on our lives that made me terrified to be around him for most of my life #etc etc so sure it can be an excuse if you didn't have that but i'm pretty sure #when your dad destroys your 9th birthday cake simply because he's angry he can't get the candles lit then maybe you'll realize #sometimes there is no excuse. particularly because some of our parents were not good people in the first place #like sure maybe his job made him a worse person i'll believe that lmao but i don't think it forced him to do all that