#to you??? the conditioner is entirety necessary if i want any chance of it lying flat (ish) and don't want it to feel like wire

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if you have hair that you can brush when it's dry without it immediately exponentially increasing in volume, please, please, leave me out of your hair care tips. I really, really don't need to hear your opinion on how often I wash it or the products I use. The conditioner weighing it down and making it greasy is literally not possible. It being heavy is a good thing. No conditioner isn't optional. I'm pleased for you that your bristle brush is working for you! But it can only redistribute oils if you can pull it through the hair to start with.

Trying to give hair care advice to someone based on what you do when they have hair with a completely different texture is like trying to apply cactus care tips to bedding flowers. It's like putting wood polish on aluminium. It literally will not work. Do not comment on my hair routine being high maintenance if you have the option to forgo all hair products and only wash it with water and can still wear it loose. What did people do before conditioner? Well with my hair type they were 100% using oil to moisturise it and they also didn't wear it down.

Its not the same. It's not grown dependent on conditioner over time. It's always been dependent on conditioner to look like this. It can not retain moisture by itself. If I didn't condition it I would have to keep it plaited all the time or it would twist in to itself without any input. It only looks similar enough to your hair that you think your tips will work because I've put in an enormous amount of effort to keep it healthy in spite of me wearing it loose and uncovered most of the time. Your hair looks neat when you brush it and the weather doesn't destroy it, we aren't the same.

#why are people so determined to see hair care as one size fits all #why do they feel the need to force their opinions on me about things they clearly don't know anything about #oh I've never seen hair do THAT when you brush it. i know!!!! that's obvious from the fact you wanted me to brush it dry #every time they are like 'i know someone with hair that looks like yours and it worked for them #oh so their hair looked like mine after I've heavily conditioned my hair and babied it? does it feel the same. did brushing make it smooth? #it isn't the same!!! you can't compare end results of 2 ppl looking after their hair in the best way for their hair and assume its the same #the look of shock on their face when you cant run a brush through it #when it stays together without a band #it's almost like we've got different hair types!!! who could have guessed #and then ppl are surprised by how healthy it is.you can just tell they are like. how can it be that healthy when you arent looking after it #because i am looking after it!!! this is how you look after hair like mine! any damage is literally from the wind and the sun #it has been babied. this is it at its peak. that's why it's growing so fast and has no split ends. it's not luck #it wants to clump together so if i don't let it do that yeah the exposed layer is going to get battered #every time someone suggests i do less with my hair i want to show them a picture of my grandads hair like: does this look like a good look #to you??? the conditioner is entirety necessary if i want any chance of it lying flat (ish) and don't want it to feel like wire #your experiences are not universal