#there's a lot of productive contradiction between the not-male and male parts altho it's hard to figure that out w/out being overwhelmed

[tototavros]

What genre/gender are you? (Good faith ask so you can elaborate on the post about how you explain your gender to cis vs trans people; no worries if you don't want to answer.)

my girlfriend @jadenameless-blog said i had a "fuckboy lesbian" vibe due to some clothing choices i made a few days ago, and it's not inappropriate or incorrect. i'd count myself as non-binary, mostly in an "it's complicated" sense; more of a "little of both" more than "neither of either".

for some reason, "transfem" feels like the right word to cover 90% of things, far more than "trans woman", "transfeminine person" or any of that.

#there's a lot of productive contradiction between the not-male and male parts altho it's hard to figure that out w/out being overwhelmed #the recent tumblr post going around on writing men as a female author really hit me #i was writing glowfic w/ a friend some months ago + my major self-insert character had basically ALL the lack of emotional vulnerability #mentioned in that tumblr post which made me think about my own life + conduct. so yeah i'd say i'm largely male-ish wrt emotional #connection + how to have it #autismgender is KIND of accurate but not nearly as much these days #definitely back when i first started posting here #i don't really have legible thoughts on the feminine side of things; there's intuitions there but legiblizing shunts me back to #'oh no will i start to hut the real women around me with my stereotypical assumptions of what woman-ness is/can be' #and honestly i probably wouldn't even talk about it on this tumblr if i did have things to say about it #outside of like. specifically how i would like my body to be configured