#saw someone say gay men shouldn't be bothered by being called fruits cause we ''collectively reclaimed it last year''

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I think “reclaiming” should be added to the list of words that Tumblr users should be banned from using until they learn to use it right

#saw someone say gay men shouldn't be bothered by being called fruits cause we ''collectively reclaimed it last year'' #or something along those lines #which first of all love saying the WHOLE lgbt community ''collectively'' reclaimed a word #as if there's some sort of high lgbt council that takes a vote on these things and every lgbt person on earth does what they say #and second of all despite what some of you idiots think the word fruit is in fact an insult aimed towards gay men #not lgbt people in general but gay men specifically #and it's one thing when we DO reclaim it ourselves and joke about it #but like 99.9% of the people who've been throwing that term around willy nilly are NOT gay men #and several gay guys including myself have repeatedly made posts expressing why it's annoying only for it to keep happening #so no a bunch of people deciding to say a slur for a meme and ignoring the group that said slur is aimed at when they express discomfort #does not remotely constitute as ''reclaiming'' the slur but less UNIVERSALLY reclaiming it #and i KNOW this all stems from the logic that gay men are super privileged or whatever #and by tumblr logic this means it's okay to constantly use us as the butt of a joke and we're expected to suck it up and laugh along #and i don't fucking care #i do not care what 15 marginalized identities you fall under or what disabilities you have none of that makes it better #if anything it just means you have zero excuse to not fucking know better #i also don't care that fruit is one of the tamer slurs for gay men cause frankly that's not the point #like first of all when did we decide that only the most extreme slurs are bad but anything else is fine #the lesser of two evils is still evil #and second of all like. sure. you COULD be saying faggot instead and you're not #but when you constantly insult us and make fun of us anyway that just tells me that you really WANNA say faggot but don't wanna get canceled #the fruit thing is just ONE example but it's far from the only example #if all your jokes are indistinguishable from the shit the homophobic pricks i went to school with said #then you have some serious reevaluating to do #i will stop making posts about this when you shitheads learn to think about the things you say and the people around you #and if you ever call me a fruit or fairy or whatever in real life you'll get socked in the throat and you WILL deserve it #shut up tristan