#i'm veeeentttting :

[warwickroyals]

GENERAL DISCUSSION OF TRIGGER WARNINGS FOLLOWS - MENTIONS OF PREGNANCY LOSS, VIOLENCE, AND GORE FOLLOWS

I can't lie, it's crazy to me that just over a year ago I was borderline harassed for not putting an ask I received about how my characters reacted to a miscarriage under a cut. The post was tagged with the TWs, and contained no visuals or graphic wording but some people became extremely hostile when I tried to explain why my reasoning for not hiding the answer. Some people were polite, and I learnt how to make my story more accessible to them, but others were just plain hurtful and I got the vibe that they weren't trying to help at all.

Now, I guess it's acceptable to have posts with graphic violence, blood/gore, and general NSFW content all above the cut, with no warnings on the posts themselves save for the tags. I've seen posts that depict everything from gun violence to images of decapitation on simblr this past year alone. And you know what? That in itself is fine and I'm glad people can express themselves in a way that's comfortable for everyone. My issue isn't with other people telling their stories however they want. However, I can't lie the double standard does bother me a little.

It bothers me that the anons I got never apologized after I expressed my discomfort, in fact I continued to receive patronizing anons about proper TWs on several more occasions throughout that year. Frustrating, because these anons felt trivial (when I didn't put things under a cut I was triggering people, when I put mentions of things under a cut I was hiding important information despite having previous warnings not under a cut). What was even more bothersome is that I know for a fact that people "behind the scenes" were gossiping about how triggering my story was and used it for an explanation as to why they cut me off, basically implying that I was a bad person or morally corrupt. I later learned that these were just excuses, but it still impacts me. I'm always worrying if someone will send me anon hate or if I'm a toxic person. Having that stew in my mind for so long made me doubt my self-confidence. I've had to remind myself several times that I'm not the only person on simblr or even royalty simblr writing about suicide, substance abuse, and trauma. Still, I felt like a pariah and it took quite a few months to get over that.

Anyway, this was just a little vent no one asked for, but I honestly believe talking about it openly is healthier for me than having it eating away at me for so long. I'm entitled to speak about these things and be open. This isn't a way for me to stir the pot, but rather a way for me to just get some closure and just move on. Now I'm very confident in my story and I can't wait to continue posting content on Monday :)

#warwick.text #tw pregnancy loss #i'm veeeentttting : /