#i had to search it up to realise it wasnt even relevant like it stopped being an issue decades ago

[pocmuzings]

The rpc wants more diversity which is FANTASTIC! However, as a cis-white-straight-cookie cutter mun, I am often afraid to use more diverse fcs of different ethnic/cultural backgrounds, because in the past I’ve been attacked, quite viscously, for not portraying them how people felt I *should* this is not to say I white washed them; I always do name searches for culturally relevant names. Make sure to research some customs of that particular ethnic group. I am welcome to advice from people with experience with that culture or who have more knowledge than me, and like learning! But, on the same token, rp is a way to escape from the real world for me, and researching too extensively, I.e. learning everything about a particular culture is tiring. It’s not supposed to feel like researching for a paper where I need to cite my sources etc. All this to say, we WANT to be diverse, but sometimes it feels like trying just brings more backlash than sticking with a non-diverse fc. Do you have any tips for someone who wants to be diverse but has had bad experiences when they’ve attempted to do so?

i'm sorry you've been attacked 'viciously' . without knowing the full extent of what happened , i can say that whilst i understand your well-meaning , i feel this is a little bit victimise-y on your end . using the word 'vicious' when being educated for free by poc isn't always appropriate or the way to go . again , maybe it was particularly vicious and this person who attacked you was completely out of line , but you can understand my apprehension as well , on the subject .

i'm glad to hear you're welcome to advice , but in that same aspect - if you're welcome and receptive to advice , why does it then scare you to try again ? you're never going to get it 10000% right . never ever . i rp different ethnicities all the time , and i know i'm not going to get them always right . i do the same thing you do - i research what i can , i follow blogs , i ask people of that ethnicity in the rpc. i make sure i do the work , because it's important . but also , if somebody comes to me and says ' hey , when you wrote xyz . . that wasnt appropriate / was stereotypical ' , i simply say ' im so sorry . i understand . i won't do it again ' . thats all it has to be , and all it should be . maybe you need to also look inwards on how you receive feedback at times , or how well you incorporate what somebody tells you .

i know having bad experiences can ruin a lot of things , but you can also hopefully understand why so many poc are getting frustrated at times . we are out here , answering questions , providing guides , giving resources . we are correcting people when wrong . we are speaking up on micro-aggressions ic and ooc . do you think that thats why WE started rping ? do you think that was how WE want to ' escape the real world ' ? do you know how tired WE are ?

i'm sorry , i'm not trying to be a dick , but i just don't want to pander to white feelings on this . if you messed up , or did something wrong , then apologise . grow from it . learn from it . you don't need to 'cite your sources' when rping . you certainly can also realise you'll get a lot of conflicting information at times , because no one person or source can be monolithic to a whole ethnicity and experience . but that doesn't mean you stop trying , or see it as a ' bad experience ' . i don't understand why somebody would attack you ' viciously ' unless your portrayal of a character was a ) super insensitive , b ) you didn't listen to advice / tips given , c ) you argued back or d ) you continued in the behaviour even after it was told it was inappropriate

again , maybe i'm wrong and somebody was completely unfair to you . but i don't want to spread the narrative that muns of colour are vicious , cruel and unreasonable people if somebody makes an honest mistake . we aren't . we are trying our best to educate white people . for free . we owe you nothing .

#shutup g. #rph #rpc