#i don't fucking think so. just because men can be uncritical of their shitty pals doesn't mean i should.

[the-13th-rose]

Yeah I was gonna reblog that post about how kids are a huge commitment and it shouldn't be seen as the default to make that decision because you can't just change your mind later

Then I looked and the blog was like "actually oppressed men are shit too and anyone who argues against gender essentialism is a patriarchy-supporting coward" and I ran so fast

#bro i am so tired of not feeling able to trust feminist blogs! #like theoretically it should be good between us right? because i'm a girl and i agree that gender discrimination is bs #but nah because I'm always running into the ones who think trans people are tools of the patriarchy??? #or if not that then they’re at least going off with the gender essentialism bs #like you do shit like this and then wonder why you can't get other women to agree with you. gee. i fucking wonder why #couldn't possibly be the way you're acting. nah it's the other women who are wrong. (sarcasm) #maybe if you stopped punching down all the time and actually went after the people who *do* have power over you #there could be more agreement and solidarity. #they register to me like those aggressive gatekeepers who keep insisting only they can decide what identities are 'real' #and if you disagree with them then it's always *you* who's hurting the community according to them. #saying horrible shit and then when they're called out on it it's 'why can't we just support each other uncritically always 😭' #'men support men all the time! even when they do awful things!' and the solution you claim is women doing the same? #i should support white feminists when they contribute to racist stereotypes or oppression? #i should support cis feminists when they parrot conservative anti-trans rhetoric VERBATIM? #i should support those who hate bisexual women? who think we deserve abuse for liking men? #i don't fucking think so. just because men can be uncritical of their shitty pals doesn't mean i should.