#he's a fox news watching reagan loving far-right bootlicker who makes everyone he lives with miserable

[softened-hearts]

why is stuff about shitty in-laws (tv tropes, cartoon strips, reddit posts) centered on catty insufferable mother-in-laws. like obviously misogyny is a huge factor but. do straight men not get filled with rage wanting to throttle the fathers of their girlfriends and wives for all the damage they've done? the only times you generally see talk of shitty fathers is absent ones. how is there no acknowledgement for fathers where she would have likely grown up happier if he had left? for when you think of or hear of the shit he's done and said, your adrenaline immediately kicks in? for when you hear them talk, all you can think is "you don't talk to someone you love like that."

so much of this rage is rooted in queerness, i know. but it's stunning nonetheless how completely ignored this focus of anger is.

#not to mention toxic MILs getting treated as a joke rather than a source of trauma too #this isn't like. probably the most intelligent of posting i just. almost had to do a Big Confrontation with him yesterday #and i've been in a directionless fog ever since. grounding coping mechanisms aren't being particularly helpful #i hate him so much and hate this institution built up that makes him think he's in the right by default #he's a fox news watching reagan loving far-right bootlicker who makes everyone he lives with miserable #ultimately of course i hope he gets well because thats what i want for everyone #but he doesnt want to acknowledge he's unwell or get help. he just. agh #he is only nice to others insofar as it makes him look good or conveniences him #and certainly in ways that he alone wants to be nice without taking into consideration the wants of others #he's an absolute prick and in my dreams i cry and scream at him of all his injustices i've been told of secondhand #and that he has a wakeup call and kicks his ass into gear to reverse the damage as much as possible #it's clear he's miserable because his family is sick of him but it just pushes him further into altright pipeline shit #idk.im just really mad and wish he would do better because he absolutely could if he would admit he's done wrong #personal rambles #parental abuse tw