#for assault survivors. just to listen. not to participate. he knows it doesn't 'count' but he could just listen)

[detectiveconnor]

uhhhhh the way after a certain point, sharing something about himself, or not sharing, actually has nothing to do with trust and connor doesn’t link it to that at all. the way connor can trust people deeply and all the way through and still sometimes he prefers to Hold It. connor doesn’t do “i trust you and let me prove it by sharing information about myself-”, if they see it they see it but he isn’t there to “prove it” sometimes it is just that he trusts them all the way through and he would prefer not to be out-loud about that thing about himself right at this particular moment, and he doesn’t consider it affectionate (or not affectionate) to pick and choose what he makes aloud about himself. the way connor pulls hard away from people or situations where he feels they want to pick through his being / his head / how he ‘feels’, because they think there’s something to prove about it (or improve about it). the way connor doesn’t have patience for people who feel entitled to a logbook of his emotions the moment that they want it. thanks

#the way ''i care about you'' is not synonymous with ''i want your fingerprints on every part of who i am'' #.he does not. he absolutely does not. #amanda touched every part of his head Everything that he was ALL of it. and it made him feel Sick #connor is his Own and he will move to defend that if he has to #but for your consideration dash: does your muse consider SharingTM an *essential* part of a relationship? friendship? #could they make do without it or do they 'need' their friends to share things that not-friends couldn't know about them? #anyway anyway PS have a ''It has nothing to do with trust.'' conversation with connor #it's not even a #it would be a sharp Correction and then he'd let it go because they're just Wrong and he doesn't care lol #this is a line in the sand he would just not bother to cross or build a bridge for. there is the line. he will remind you it is there Once. #'conversation' it has nothing to do with trust and if you think it does you are wrong. solved #connor is going back to work #(connor ft. he just thinks it could be good to go to a support group #for assault survivors. just to listen. not to participate. he knows it doesn't 'count' but he could just listen)