#cheapest option. cardboard box and cremate me

[lifepros]

#6506

If you are over 18 please become somewhat familiar with funeral planning. It could save you a lot of grief and money knowing your rights around planning a funeral.

My mom committed suicide when I was 22. It was unexpected and I had literally no clue what to do. I called the nearest mortuary to me to have her brought there and before I knew it I was already down several hundred dollars just for transport. I had what I thought was the simplest I could go for a small service and cremation and it still cost over 5k, with them trying to sell me on an 11k cremation package. Do not pay for an expensive casket, when quite literally you can find beautiful handmade ones in the classifieds for several hundred dollars. I was made to think the lowest casket they had was a couple thousand and only when I asserted that I would find one somewhere else they showed me the cheaper options which is renting an outer casket shell and a cardboard box for cremation. They made me think that it was law that in order to even see my mother she had to be embalmed which was over 1k but that's not the case, a body can just stay refrigerated prior to the service and be just fine during a viewing. Just knowing the basics can save you a lot of frustration and money. Funeral directors seem nice but remember it is their job to upsell you and they deal with grieving families everyday, they know how to act. I will say the funeral director that kept trying to upsell me I think felt bad and as a kind gesture had my mom's fingerprint engraved into a necklace after seeing that I really wanted it when we got to the selling of mementos but couldn't afford a dollar more and I do appreciate that gesture.

If you've never planned a funeral, its pretty much like planning a wedding where they literally go item by item asking if you want this or that, always showing the most expensive option first without telling you the price until you ask and if you ask for something cheaper they usually dont show you the cheapest option till you go back and forth a few times. Im still really sad about the embalming that was forced on me because I really dont like the thought of draining all my loved one's blood just to be pumped full of chemicals for literally a 30 minute service. After when I found out it wasnt needed I felt very betrayed.

I know this isnt a topic most people want to think about but I promise it will be much easier thinking about it and researching it now versus when you are in the midst of grieving and wanting to honor your loved one which a funeral director will take advantage of. Even better yet if you are over 18 have a plan for your death, even just basic wants. Its even more important for parents so your kids dont have to deal with the planning while grieving. Also life insurance is important, please if you are working look to see if you have life insurance benefits. Im young, my husband is young, my little brother is young but we all have life insurance just in case and it became very important after stressing over how much a funeral can cost.

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[clearslime]

i actually talked to my mom about what she wanted me to do with her body after she dies bc she’s getting Olde and as much as i hate embalming i’d do it for her if that’s what she wanted but once i laid out all her options she was super chill about me not spending thousands of dollars on her funeral + cremating her in a cardboard box (cheapest option!) and just taking her ashes to ontario to spread em and shit like she gave me One Condition

i have to buy her an urn or a box bc i joked about taking her on the train in a garbage bag and that was the only thing she objected to fkjfljlfjakl 

#the bar is set so low for her! i thought bc she's old that she'd demand me to spend at least 5k on a funeral #IS THIS OVERSHARING BTW?? i just like talking about death fjdskfldsjflds that sounds so EDGY #parent death - #mother death - #mod k