#and then ppl are like you're too young to be married do your folks know and they dodge that like the plague

[musicalchaos07]

Stranger Things AU - Jancy as Paranormal Investigators Moodboard

Jonathan Byers was 13 the first time he saw a ghost, he screamed so loud he nearly woke the neighbors. Seven years and one brief stint in Pennhurst later, he's crisscrossing the country with his girlfriend, dispelling rumors, exorcising poltergeists, and trying to bring families closure. Nancy Wheeler is first and foremost a skeptic, so naturally, it's her boyfriend who can see spirits. And if it weren't for her own personal experience with a haunting she wouldn't believe him. She doesn't trust half the stories they hear, but she's not about to let him go investigate the paranormal on his own.

#I told y'all AU no 4 was silly-goofy #Me: WHAT IF I TAKE THE SAD BOY AND MAKE HIM SADDER #Jonathan has powers actually #picture it they're 20 staying in shitty motels when they can solving murders using jonathan's I see dead people powers #super in love but it's the 80s so they lie that they're married #and then ppl are like you're too young to be married do your folks know and they dodge that like the plague #Nancy 100% ran off with Jonathan and only Mike knows where she is meanwhile Jonathan calls home every other night #Jonathan frequently feels guilty about not being good for Nancy and Nancy is like u r the saddest boy ever I'm gonna fuck u #Love that for her tbh #idk how they have money maybe Nancy sends in articles don't think to hard we're here for a silly goofy time #also Lonnie's bitchass def threw him in Pennhurst #I have too many thoughts about this AU #stranger things #Jancy #st au #jancy au #jonathan byers #nancy wheeler #jonathan x nancy #nancy x jonathan

[astroyongie]

hey i'm wondering if you'd answer this since you're studying psychology i'd love to know ur pov/thoughts about it cause it was just something i was thinking about recently, you seem really lovely and if you do take the time to read n answer thank you in advance! 

growing up we're sort of expected to mature by 18 or so, right? so how come a portion of adults can behave in certain ways that make them seem so immature, or emotionally immature idk the difference... if adults 30+ were as mature as they say they are why does it seem easy for relationship to break up, or to get a divorce or for their partner to cheat even? 

then there's the odd teenager who often tries to portray a mature adult at a young age, yet they still do things teenagers typically would do like stay out late no tell anyone, is there a reason for some to be like this? it doesnt make sense why act like an adult then?

i'm also then wondering why adults get married at young age, have kids then say they're tired or not bored but fed up of having the responsibility or they kind of complain a little about it then have more kids... it just seems irresponsible of them to have kids

why then when in relationships do adults 30+ seem to kind of give up and just cheat? like thats the laziest way out

i've had classmates who were 20+ act like teens as they should do not all grown up and matured fully bc that takes the fun out of life imo if you take it too seriously. what do you think is classed as being mature these days? cause social media its like all maturity is out the window and folk dont care whats they say to each other , kind of get overly dramatic or easily get into arguments for no real reason  

lets say ppl do cheat on other why do ppl not take responsibility or apologise much cause my aunt was a mess when it happened like the guy already had someone else, then just like moved out like nothing happened

thanks again if you reply! have a lovely day or night <3

Answer :

I find it quite interesting what you are saying and I’ll try to answer your questions without developing too much ( or else I would write a whole essay ahaha)

So in psychology, we tend to say that a “teenager” reaches their maturity both psychologically, physiologically and neurologically by the age of 25/26. But, matury is a social concept that has variations depending on the culture and the social context (also etheny can have influence).

I personally think that some adults are stuck on what we call the “a-structure” or “limited state” in psychology, which literally means that the person is stuck on a psychic level. This state makes adults develop pathologies, but they also make them behaving “immaturely”, they do things without consciousness, don’t comprend the consequences of their actions, might have dangerous behaviours, ect. Although it’s a lot more complicated than this, I believe we gain maturity by experience and not with age. I guess the our society today is confused and brainwashed by a lot of stereotypes that easily influence people.

As for cheating, I don’t think it’s a maturity problem (even if in some cases yes, it’s all part of the a-structure, where people cheat on the ones they love just to get reactions out of them), but more of an instinct and impulse. When you cheat it means you aren’t satisfied, there’s needs that aren’t being attended to. There’s something not right on the relationship.

I don’t really know what sort of answer you are expecting or if you want me to develop a certain point, so please don’t hesitate to ask 💕