#and it isn't mean to expect at least the bare minimum of social competence and normal behaviour from others before you agree to socialize

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#i feel as though I should start a tag like deep thoughts with the bloz or some shit for my new kick of live journaling about my angst #but anyway hot tip for all the people pleasers out there #surround yourself with mostly supportive people who dont take advantage of others unfairly and who are thoughtful about other people #100% of the time it works every time to make your life so much more enjoyable and easier #and it isn't mean to expect at least the bare minimum of social competence and normal behaviour from others before you agree to socialize #and associate with them (which is sort of what i was guilted into believing growing up) #because guess what that's how you avoid harmful creeps! #your feelings and boundaries exist for a reason and it does suck that sometimes people are just really bad at social skills #but it's not your responsibility to be their therapist or the one exception who will be there for them or whatever else either if they're #truly making you feel weird or unsafe #you as a people pleaser are probably HYPER concerned with being pleasant and polite and accommodating and all these other things that #you worked very hard to become and you will burn yourself out and/or get hurt and/or resentful if you feel exhausted or used #or unappreciated for it and half the time you are actually doing it more for yourself than for others anyways #because it makes you feel valued and like a good person #this is also all related to having issues with codependency too btw which i do because my whole family does #def recommend reading up on both things if you relate it will improve your mental health very much #love you wishing you the best things in 2023 we all got this we are going to do great 😘🧡 muah #p