#(my worst trait is whenever someone has a problem being like.i know exactly what you need.you know where you can buy it? I'll come!)

[beeseverywhen]

Not having a car in your 20s really is a humbling experience. That post where the guys like 'I have to ask my mum to go to walmart' I feel that.

I'm not American so I do have the benefit of town living and a walkable community. I feel very lucky to have been able to live right in the heart of my hometown again (lived on the main street above a shop for a while as a kid but mostly lived in residential areas. As an adult I'm lucky enough to live on a road coming off the main street (can no longer live in places with stairs so above a shop is no longer an option) HOWEVER.

my town is gentrified as fuck and all the shops are stupid. And even if I put up with the cost and buy the things I can in local shops, I can only carry a very limited weight of shopping, but am very stupid and overestimate my ability/ realise but still get carried away and buy too much as I have no impulse control every time. So I'm left having to beg lifts/tag along with pretty much anyone that'll have me lol.

Pour one out for me, trying to run a household and not even having parents I can ask for lifts. I'm begging lifts off aunties, grandparents, friends, fucking COUSINS. Most humbling experience ever and without a car you can't even repay them with easy errands. Watch me repay the favour with CHILDCARE, with TECH SUPPORT, with financial advice. Those are all the worst favors. I don't mind doing them but BY GOD would I prefer to be able to occasionally just pick them up something from the shop. Drop them at the train station. Pick up a parcel.

#i do have parents. they just aren't the kind of parents you can ask to do things lol #plus my dad left the country when i was a teenager so he's not here to ask even if i thought he might do it #and my mum. well she's my mum. once made the mistake of asking her to pick me up from the hospital when I'd been taken there by ambulance #and had been admitted for a few days so they wouldn't discharge me without someone collecting me #(i was also like 17 lol so tho i lived alone we were on rocky territory as to if they'd LET anyone that wasnt a parent collect me) #and she was like. 'i do have a life you know! this is very inconvenient.' #eventually she did collect me so i was discharged eventually (only like 8 hours after they wanted to discharge me lol) but #she complained the whole time lol and parked like 20 minutes away despite me being in hospital cause my leg was fucked #(who does that? bring the car round for fucks sake) so since then she's been at the bottom of my list of ppl to ask favors from and if i do #bother theres a 90% chance she'll say no she doesnt want to #if she does agree she will complain about it the whole time. be as awkward as possible and remind ppl how helpful she was for the next year #therefore the choice is: buy things locally at a markup. catch the bus and inevitability injure myself by buying too much. online shopping #online works pretty well for a lot of heavy stuff but there's a big markup. plus most of the time i have to use amazon my beloathed #so i usually end up writing lists of stuff for certain (cheaper) shops and then either jumping on the opportunity when someones going there #or else letting the list pile up and asking for a favour when i can't wait any longer. #(my worst trait is whenever someone has a problem being like.i know exactly what you need.you know where you can buy it? I'll come!) #its largely a self inflicted inconvenience cause I'm too cheap to just buy things at a markup I'd rather buy in bulk at out of town shops