#(hell i even struggle similarly with certain types of neopronouns but I'm not gonna fucking single them out and insult them)

[foxxsong]

I get not understanding neopronouns. I totally understand if people with developmental or intellectual disorders need to avoid people that use them because they can't wrap their brain around them enough to use them right or find having to think about them long enough to use the right one, when they very literally are incapable of understanding, distressing. Competing access needs are a morally neutral thing that I will never judge anyone for.

But to go on to talk about how despite this you respect neopronouns EXCEPT (plain text: except) it/its? If you feel the need to clarify that you don't have an issue with most of them, but want to single people like me out specifically? Trauma is understandable, and I know people with those disorders are in particular susceptible to being referred to that way cruelly, but you can just... not mention us.

Literally everything they shared was FINE (plain: fine) up to that point. But singling us out and saying you'll never respect our pronouns specifically - when you could've just not mentioned us at all - does in fact make you an asshole. Having trauma and saying that people that identify with something that was used to hurt you means you don't have to respect them makes you an asshole. Just don't fucking mention us and avoid us like you JUST (plain: just) said you can do fine with every other neopronoun user. You do not have to sit there and list off all the reasons you will never respect us specifically!!

I/DD people have so many limitations that most people just refuse to try to understand and take seriously. If someone struggles to not talk badly about things they find upsetting or confusing because of having an I/DD then that's one thing. People upset by it can block and move on because harassing someone who cannot change is cruel. But you don't get to demonstrate and self-proclaim that you CAN (plain: can) respect and avoid and move on for other people and then turn around and go out of your way to single a specific group out and talk about how horrible their identity is and act like that's somehow acceptable.

Literally, just shut up and do not talk about us. We KNOW (plain: know) people hate our pronouns. We KNOW (plain: know) there are people who do not respect our choice to use them. We KNOW (plain: know) there are people who will just never call us by them no matter what. We don't need people fucking going out of their way to single us out while defending how they respect everyone else like us. That makes you an asshole.

#like... i know each person is unique in the severity and manifestation of their disorder #but i have the same developmental disorder they said they do!!! #and i know people can seem fine in certain areas and really struggle with others but they had just demonstrated in the exact same ask #that they are indeed capable of doing the right thing and removing themself from people they aren't compatible with #it was just straight up them feeling the need to target us because so many people feel like we're an acceptable target #and no one fucking defends us #the notes of that post was FILLED with people saying they relate and reassuring them that their limitations don't make them a bad person #(hell i even struggle similarly with certain types of neopronouns but I'm not gonna fucking single them out and insult them) #and not a single goddamn person said anything at all about their mini-rant on how we don't deserve respect #because people don't think we deserve respect #fuck man my own gender-positive friends still think it's okay to come to me and ask for forgiveness so they don't have to feel bad #for “not wanting to dehumanize” me or “feel like they're insulting” me or what have you #(despite the fact that one of their parents who's never so much as spoken to me through them is fine with it) #and i can't even tell them to get over themselves because my pronouns are about me not them #because no one would back me up on that for these pronouns specifically #any other pronouns and it wouldn't be an issue there'd be no way anyone else would let that fly #but people act like it/its is so uniquely awful that it's unfair to expect other people to respect them #so I have to comfort them and reassure them that i understand and they can just use something else :) #because it/its users aren't allowed to assert the same fucking rights as other trans people even in trans circles #and no one cares if we feel ostracized since that just means they don't have to acknowledge us #(also it's my first time trying to do plain text id stuff please lmk if there's anything i could do better)