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trivoid-r · 1 month
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happy wednesday to all my fellow aroace folks
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trivoid-r · 5 months
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Carnival of Aros Call for Submissions for November: The Aplatonic Spectrum
November’s Carnival of Aros theme is being hosted by the AUREA book project team. This is a monthly blogging event that highlights aromantic and arospec experiences by soliciting posts on a theme. This month’s theme is on the aplatonic spectrum. AUREA would like to properly highlight the aplatonic spectrum in its forthcoming book by including quotations and personal narratives from individuals who feel that their experience with the aplatonic spectrum is important to their identity and intersects with their aromantic identity. The AUREA Book Project team would like to use this platform to find those willing to contribute their story to the book.
The aplatonic spectrum is the spectrum used to define little to no attraction to platonic friendship. A good list of microlabels are in the LGBTQIA+ Wiki. 
Here are some prompts to get you started:
·      How has discovering the concept of aplatonicism influenced your identity? 
·      How does your aplatonic identity intersect with your other identities, whether they be aspec identities, cultural, or gender identities? 
·      Do you have experiences with being stigmatized that you would like to share?
·      What advice would you give to others who identify with the aplatonic spectrum about friends, family, and relationships?
·      How do you feel about the concept of loneliness or mental health?
You can submit your post by emailing a link to your blog to [email protected]. Submissions are due by the last day of the month. If you submit a post, the authors will contact you for permission to quote you in the book and send you information about how it will be quoted. This may include direct quotes of sentences, multiple paragraphs, or summarizing a statement. 
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trivoid-r · 5 months
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I love being aromantic I love having dreams of the future that don't depend on anyone else I love not needing anyone else to be happy and I love that someday I will have a place all to myself and I will never have to worry about if it turns out my partner snores <3
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trivoid-r · 6 months
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I am BEGGING people at this point to make even the smallest attempt to learn something about asexuality/aromanticism before logging onto the internet to make sweeping & misunderstood generalizations about us
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trivoid-r · 2 years
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it's really sad to me how little aromantic positivity i see around - pretty much every time i see someone talk about being aro (outside of my fellow aro friends), it's about how much they hate it/don't want to accept it and god it really is sad how many of us have to feel that way :(
honestly i was there myself for a while, until i realised that that was nothing to do with me, and everything to do with others' expectations of the life i should be leading. accepting my aromanticism has, in truth, granted me so much freedom and inner peace and even lead me to understand other aspects of my identity far better than before - i've realised just how much there is to my bisexuality, for example, when i subtract the things i don't want/don't feel and let myself focus on the things i do want.
so, to any other aros who may be reading this: you're allowed to feel good about your aromanticism. it's not a bad thing, and it doesn't mean your life will be any less meaningful than anyone else's; no one's path in life is identical to others'.
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trivoid-r · 2 years
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[ID: a drawing of a werewolf sitting and smiling with a wagging tail. they are holding a small aromantic flag beneath the writing "arooo". end ID]
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trivoid-r · 2 years
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anon you really need to talk to them to specify some things because "liking what we have going on" to jumping to using specific labels without clarification is breaking boundaries a bit imo
i'm aromantic but somehow i ended up in a relationship with one of my best friends without them ever actually asking me. one day they were talking about how they liked that our relationship didn't have precise labels and a few months later they were calling me their partner and they've also talked about our life together later a bunch of times. i'm okay with that except that they don't know i'm aromantic and i don't know how to tell them because i don't want to hurt them but i also don't want to lie to them. i see our relationship as queer platonic because it doesn't feel strictly platonic but also not romantic but if they see it as romantic then that's something i'm not able to give to them. i don't want to lose them but i also don't want to live the rest of my life pretending i'm not aromantic, because it's a big part of my identity that i'm proud of.
even though i'm really happy with them, i do wish they would've talked about it more to me before suddenly declaring me their partner because then i maybe could've told them but it's too late for that now, so if anyone has any advice for me i'd appreciate it.
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trivoid-r · 2 years
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"being sex or romance repulsed doesn't make someone homophobic"
and
"sex or romance repulsion is not an excuse to be sex or romance negative"
are statements that can both be true, actually
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trivoid-r · 2 years
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I love aromantic men! I love aromantic women! I love aromantic enbies! I love it when you use the SAM and when you don't! I love it if you use a thousand microlabels or aromantic alone! I love it when you're loveless or aplatonic too or if you feel like you have all the love in the world to give! I love you! I hope you have a wonderful pride month!
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trivoid-r · 2 years
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@crystalitar
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did you read the post? specifically parts such as
"it definitely wasn't jaiden's intention to come off as phobic ... but she said it and there should be a discussion."
[I am] "going to say everyone is flawed, I am not trying to call anyone out or be rude/negative"
I am not calling jaiden any names. it's simply a post about what has been done wrong here for discussion since it has hurt people.
"sorry if any of this is poorly worded or rambling, I am 100% up to clarify things because I'm not the best at wording things myself"
right at the beginning. I WILL clarify and reword things. I am not trying to be rude towards jaiden, this post was made towards when the video came out.
I know we are a very niche portion of the community. I specifically made this post so people don't start parroting what she said in those specific portions. she doesn't need to make an apology or anything, everyone is learning. I am loveless. I am tired of people unable to feel love being dehumanized. I know people with low/no empathy. they shouldn't be dehumanized either.
we're all incredibly complex and having an ability to communicate via language means our words can be interpreted wrong and we need to be careful and rethink what we say sometimes. I don't expect jaiden to see this post. I don't expect anyone outside of the aromantic community to see it.
I made the post so people could learn a bit, and hopefully not repeat certain information/things said in the video since jaiden is very new to this and has already helped a lot of people figure out their own aspec identities, and a lot of these people will be children who are also still learning and easily influenced
cw for loveless antagonism
*the screencaps taken from this video start at 12:18
sorry if any of this is poorly worded or rambling, I am 100% up to clarify things because I'm not the best at wording things myself and easily lose my thought process when I go to grab references, retype portions, and make sure I am correct on specific details.
shoutout to aromanticactually for unintentionally reminding me the video is a Thing and it should be talked about (it is all aromantic and asexual reddit is atm and I got tired of seeing it)
with a lot of people finding out they are aspec via the video, here's a reminder that not everyone is perfect at everything and their explanations, that aspec people can still be aphobic.
it definitely wasn't jaiden's intention to come off as phobic toward loveless people, aplatonics, and people that can't feel empathy. but she said it and there should be a discussion.
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["If I were to guess I would assume the thing that makes someone human is basic empathy. I'm not an emotionless monster, I can still love people. I love my family and my pets, just platonically, and I would hope that you're the same."]
going to say everyone is flawed, I am not trying to call anyone out or be rude/negative I am just loveless and tired of being dehumanized for it.
but I think more aspecs should know about our smaller communities! there are many aces and aros who say they are human because they can still feel love, and that there's "other kinds of love." and it's harmful to us.
amatonormativity hurts all of us and we should not have to justify our existence in any way.
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trivoid-r · 2 years
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reddit trans spaces are SO tiring because they're predominantly trans women but also most of the transmasc stuff you'll see from the main meme sub is femboys. and like. I do not want to be perceived as feminine if I decide to wear a skirt. or pink. I'm not feminine. they push for clothes have no gender (aka anyone can wear a dress!!) then immediately call any guy in a skirt or dress a femboy. like. that's not it for me
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trivoid-r · 2 years
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aplatonic people are great. they aren't bad people, they aren't cold or uncaring or inhuman. they deserve respect as much as anyone⭐
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trivoid-r · 2 years
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Welcome to the seventh edition of #AggressivelyArospecWeek!
#AggressivelyArospecWeek (#AAW) is a week-long event promoting the creation of arospec fancontent by arospec creators. (Arospec = on the aromantic spectrum. If you’re currently questioning whether you are yourself arospec, please feel free to join as well.)
Our event aims to create a space where arospec creators are free to explore their identities through fanwork. We believe that fandom is a great way to share our passions, our interests and to empower one another in our arospec identities. All while having loads of fun!
Please join us from June 19 to June 25 2022 and enjoy a small explosion of arospec fancontent on you dash. Bring it to other people’s dash and help our community share its stories!
You’re welcome to submit any type of content for the event, whether it be fanfic, headcanons, mixtapes, fanart,… Really anything goes!
Any content you submit must be centered around a character’s arospec identity (whether that character is canonically arospec or you headcanon them as such.) Content can be about any fandom whatsoever!
To submit, please make a new post between June 19th and the 25th and tag it as #AggressivelyArospecWeek. You can also submit your work directly to our blog through the ask and submission boxes. Your post will then be shared on the Aggressively Arospec blog.
We also have a Twitter account, so use the hashtags #AggressivelyArospecWeek and #AAW22 if you tweet about your work on there. You can also mention us in your tweet (@ AArospec) to be sure we don’t miss it and can retweet it. Please, do submit through tumblr if you can though! That is the best way to get your contribution archived with all the others.
Lastly, a collection will be opened on Archive of our Own to round up all the fanfics posted on there. Just search for “Aggressively Arospec Week ‘22″.
We can’t wait to see what you have in store for us this year!
(For more information, check out our About page or our FAQ section. If you need some inspiration, you can also check out the content that was created during out previous events in our #AggressivelyArospecWeek tag.)
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trivoid-r · 2 years
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I love being trans and aromantic until it comes to explaining my identity/the terms to allocishets and being reminded my body just isn't that right
I am so tired of (mostly allohet) cis people in particular being clueless about the terms cis and trans
but I'm extra tired of the people that are both queer and queerphobic. like bi/pan exclusionists and the transphobic cis gays
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trivoid-r · 2 years
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Not to be sappy but gay lust is so healing. Yes I said lust, not love. That too though.
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trivoid-r · 2 years
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i enjoy being annoying and talking too much about being aromantic because it tends to get overshadowed by asexual conversations and i am not asexual! you can be one without the other, love you if you're aro and not ace <3
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trivoid-r · 2 years
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[Image description: A tumblr text post, edited blackout-poetry style using the colours of the aromantic pride flag. Resulting text reads, "We don't talk enough about aromantics. It's important and dating is platonic."]
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we don't talk enough about aromantics its important and dating is platonic
Submitted by @valointhesky
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