traumasurvivors

[traumasurvivors]

i know they lacked compassion and empathy with you, but that does not mean you should do the same to yourself, okay?

[traumasurvivors]

Somebody might need to hear this: hey. That was a really scary thing you had to go through. What an awful feeling to be carrying around. So deep inside where no one can hurt you like that ever again. If no one else has ever told you this before then I'm glad you're here. I'm glad you made it. And I'm so fucking sorry you had to see it to begin with. You absolutely did not need to see that. Not ever.

#swearing

[traumasurvivors]

🪻

healing is personal...

...and it's a process.

you don't have to share it. you don't have to hide it. you don't have to speak about it. you don't have to do it a particular way.

all you need to do, is acknowledge it from time to time. let yourself feel it. affirm it to your mind, even if it's only 1% better right now.

don't ignore the efforts of your existence ✨

[traumasurvivors]

To my fellow child abuse survivors, 

You were not abused because you were “bad.” You were abused because they were an abuser and trying to justify their abusive behaviours. 

PS: There is no justification for abuse. 

#tw abuse #child abuse #tw child abuse #abuse

[traumasurvivors]

It’s okay to mourn the things you lost because of trauma. Including the time you lost. But try not to forget you still have time ahead of you. You can never get the lost time back but you can still find happiness.

#my post

[traumasurvivors]

I’m going to go to a movie with my partner this week! We haven’t done it for awhile because we are just so busy but we have a date planned and I’m so excited. My work week will be miserable but I have this to look forward to on Wednesday!

I posted this as a QotD but I think it’s a good one!

What is something positive in your life right now? It can be big or small (even if that's that you got to have your favourite tea this morning).

Is there something positive you can do to give you a moment of happiness, peace or enjoyment? If possible, make time to do that this week. Maybe it’s taking the time to sit and just enjoy a cup of your favourite tea. Maybe it’s planning to have some dog snuggles. It can be big or small, just try and do something to bring a little joy to your week!

Feel free to share if you do so! Maybe it’ll inspire others!

[traumasurvivors]

I don’t blame anyone for not knowing a post is plagiarized! So this truly isn’t meant to be passive aggressive but just me actually asking that if you do love this, would you consider reblogging the original instead?

This is one of my posts!

They hurt you. You will likely carry that for a long time. It wasn’t fair. You’re allowed to say that.

I get so tired of people who respond with “life’s not fair,” or “you’re letting them win by holding onto the past.”

Yes, it’s important to move on and not let it run your life, but it still wasn’t fair. And sometimes, we need to let that out.

Denying us that or making us feel bad about that is very invalidating. It’s okay to be angry, sad or whatever else and acknowledge the wrong that was done to you.

[traumasurvivors]

It’s okay if you need to scale back your goals. It’s okay if you need to break them up into smaller steps. It’s okay if you need to change your goals. You aren’t a failure.

[traumasurvivors]

I know you’re tired. I know sometimes it feels like you’re going backwards. I know it’s exhausting.

It’s okay if you need to rest. It’s okay if you need to take a break from your healing journey. It’s okay to just stop for a bit.

Just please don’t give up. You’re going to get through this.

#my post #recovery #healing #trauma #ptsd #cptsd

[traumasurvivors]

it’s ok if your healing is taking longer than you thought it would or should. it’s so normal and you can’t put a time limit on it.

#this 100%

[traumasurvivors]

You're valid if you fought back against someone who was hurting you. It doesn't make you "as bad as them".

You’re also valid if you did nothing at all. It doesn’t make you weak, or deserving of it.

#my post #you are valid

[traumasurvivors]

Your trauma is valid if you were neglected for reasons other people see as "valid" like if your parents had to work multiple jobs, or you had a sick sibling. It's still neglect and you deserved better.

#your trauma is valid #my post #tw neglect #neglect

[traumasurvivors]

You're valid if you cling to your birthday or other holidays because they were the only good memories you have of your childhood.

#my post #you are valid

[traumasurvivors]

if you never get an apology, mourning the non existence of one is valid whether it would have brought you closure or not

[traumasurvivors]

you don't have to be glad that it's not worse. that goes for everything. disability, trauma, mental illness, grades, finances, whatever. you're /allowed/ to be upset that things are the way they are. you don't have to be grateful for your situation - bad is bad. somebody else's suffering doesn't make yours less painful. it's okay to be angry

#yessss #even if things could be worse #they’re still bad and should be better

[traumasurvivors]

Healing is not a race or competition of any sort. 

If I see someone healing, I am going to root for you. Regardless of where I am at in my healing.

Take your time. Do healing in a way that is right for you. I am here to cheer you on. And I imagine others are too. <3 

[traumasurvivors]

A list of blog posts on things (mostly trauma related) that I think should be talked about more. Please note that all links are from my personal trauma website. (There are no pop ups or anything like that and it is a safe site to use.)

Advice

Creating and Enforcing Boundaries

Embracing Your Inner Child

Grounding Techniques

How to Listen to Someone Talk About Their Trauma

How to Talk to a Loved One About Your Trauma

Importance of Validating Your Feelings

Making a Self-Care Box

Navigating Sex After Trauma

Navigating Traumaversaries

Tips and Questions for Finding a Therapist

Trauma Around the Holidays

DBT Skills (More coming soon)

Pros & Cons

Urge Surfing

Wise Mind

Informative

Are They Trying to Manipulate Me?

Forgiveness and Healing

Grooming in Adult Relationships

Hypersexuality and Sex Repulsion

Parentification Trauma

Trauma Bonding

Trauma Imposter Syndrome

Triggers

Self-harm

The Validity of Anger in Your Healing Journey

Victim Blaming

Was it Bad Enough?

When a Third Party Is Used to Get Around Your Boundaries

Who You Were Before Trauma

Why Childhood Abuse is Never Your Fault

Why Do I Love and/or Miss My Abuser?

Why People Stay in Abusive Relationships

Why Survivors May Delay Reporting or Don’t Report At All

PS: I am always looking for more ideas of topics that you’d like to hear about. Don’t hesitate to let me know any suggestions or things you’d like to see discussed more. 

#it’s been awhile since I posted this #so here’s an updated version