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Would you be okay with you partner sleeping someone else if you knew that at the end of the day they only loved you?

I am sexually and romantically exclusive.

What I mean by this is that when I love someone I am not into having sex with anyone other than him.

Even if this was an option available to me, even if my significant other declared he did not consider this one of our relationship agreements and assured me I was “free”, I still would not do it.

I am not alarmed by the thought of sleeping with other people. I don’t think it’s bad. I don’t think less (or more) of people who do it.

It’s simply not interesting to me.

Along these same lines, if my partner expressed an irrepressible desire to engage in sex with others I would tell him to by all means commence with his romps at his earliest convenience.

I would also instantly put an end to the romantic aspect of our relationship - even before any of this boisterous frolicking began.

Monogamy is (to me) not an opinion. It’s not a belief. It’s not a value judgement. It’s not a choice. It’s not a debate. It’s not something I need to argue in favor of. It’s not a discipline or even a practice.

It’s something I am, which means that I can’t bend it, even if I wanted to.

It’s for this reason that I understand other people may not be like me. It’s entirely possible for someone to love me madly and to want to sleep with other people in a way they could not bend.

This would not make him wrong (or immature, or a scoundrel.) It does not make me wrong. What it does is make us incompatible.

In my experience, incompatibility is impenetrable. It cannot be resolved, even after ten thousand years of arguing about it with the full force of my undivided attention.

If I am monogamous and “try” to have a relationship with someone who is not, we will not “work it out”. It will not be OK because we love each other.

I will end up exhausted, frustrated, tortured and resentful. We will put each other through hell.

I am monogamous, and if you are not, you are not for me.

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I know it’s a lot easier said than done, but please remember that if someone is suddenly acting differently than usually and their tone is different, but you know you haven’t done anything wrong aka it just came out of the blue: it has likely nothing to do with you. And it can still affect you, but it doesn’t mean you did anything wrong. Sometimes it’s mixed signals or reading each other wrong, sometimes someone has a bad day and something something else have happened and they take it out on you (without meaning to). A lot fewer things than we think, have something to do with something we did, especially when their behaviour came out of the blue. Take a deep breath. It’s okay. 🌸

#positive mental attitude #mental illness #19th century #vintage fashion #hollywood #spirituality #solar system #science #positivity #mental help #mental awareness #the mentalist #positivo #positive energy #music #dark academia #vampire #tvd fanfiction

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trashv1n · 3 years

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What is single most underrated trait a person can have ?

Think about it. In almost any scenario you can think of, would you be better off:

Having the person you’re dealing with think you’re less intelligent than you are

Having them realize just how smart you are

What does a successful pool shark do? At first, they pretend like they’re not all that good during the first few games, lose some money up-front, only to win it back tenfold when they suckered their opponent into making big bets.

And you don’t even have to think of this trait in terms of something dubious like a con. Intellectual humility, in general, is a superpower you can use to your advantage in many different areas.

Highly intelligent people tend to suffer from not having the right level of social calibration to get along well with people.

“Avoid the temptation of showing how clever you are—it is far more clever to conceal the mechanism of your cleverness.” - Robert Greene

I think about this quote often. And the successful application of this quote is a major key to success.

Think of the hyperbolic prototypical example like the T.V. character Sheldon Cooper from the Big Bang Theory — how can someone have such a high IQ and be so socially inept?

Because of the smart person’s urge to prove their intelligence and always sound smarter than whoever they’re talking to.

I personally have suffered from this in my own life. I love playing devil's advocate and getting into debates with people.

But when I look deep into my reasons for doing so, it’s almost always because I wanted to show off my intelligence, not because I wanted to have a meaningful debate.

Acting like this turns people off. Plus, it’s not even necessary. If you’re intelligent, people will be able to tell without you having to highlight it.

If you’re truly intelligent, you’ll understand that there’s a form of intelligence more valuable than ‘book smarts,’ I.Q., or these paper-pushing notions of what makes someone sharp.

Social intelligence is much more powerful, which is why you see some people who aren’t rocket scientists, yet move up in the world because of their ability to build relationships.

And the best way to build relationships with people is to relate to people on their level.

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trashv1n · 3 years

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ppl on tumblr be like i support systems!!! :) except fictive heavy systems, and systems with factives, and systems with a lot of members, and systems with not many members, and systems that share everything about themselves, and systems that are really private, and systems that didnt form bc of [insert trauma here], and systems that cant or dont want to get a diagnosis of did/osdd, and systems who wont shut up abt being a system, and systems that try to pass off as a singlet, and and and

[ singlets can rb but DONT CLOWN / all discourse will be ignored ]

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trashv1n · 3 years

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a hint of what the first few months of 2020 looked like

#dark fantasy #dark academia

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trashv1n · 3 years

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I am goinggg to start a gc on my ig for ppl who are going thru BPD . So if any of you guys want to join then dm me on my ig it's shubhangi_.i .

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#bpd blog #bpd recovery #bpd feels #bpd borderline #boderline personality disorder #borderline

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trashv1n · 3 years

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Everyone who I know who’s received a COVID-19 vaccination has gotten sick right after getting it. Is it therefore fair to say you don’t want the vaccine?(This is a very frequently asked question )

No.

If you feel sick after getting a vaccine, that’s your body being a body. Believe it or not, most of the symptoms of an infectious disease aren’t actually the result of the pathogen, they’re a result of what your body does to fight it off.

Fever? That’s chemicals produced by your immune system called interleukins, which raise your body’s “thermostat” because many pathogens cannot replicate as well at higher temperatures.

Cough? Sneeze? That’s your body trying to evacuate debris left by your white blood cells and T-lymphocytes destroying infected cells. Sore throat, other pain? Same thing: it’s the tissue having bits of itself chopped up by your immune system. In fact, one of the problems with COVID-19 is that if it gets into your lungs instead of stopping in your upper respiratory system, your body’s immune response can be too vigorous and end up causing more damage to your lungs than the virus did.

In critical COVID-19 -- about 5% of total cases -- the infection can damage the walls and linings of the air sacs in your lungs. As your body tries to fight it, your lungs become more inflamed and fill with fluid. This can make it harder for them to swap oxygen and carbon dioxide.

#staysafe #stayprotected #maskon #maskup #covid19 #covidindia #covidvaccine

#covid2019 #covid vaccine #covid india #covidquarantine #covidvacccine2021 #covid vaccine safe

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trashv1n · 3 years

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#positivity #selfcare #selfestem #self #selflove #inspirational #motivation #motivational

almost nothing in life is over when you fail. that’s what’s beautiful about it: you can try again. if not now then later, if not later then tomorrow. so accept what didn’t work, discover new approaches, and make use of the endless possibilities still ahead of you. you’re not a failure for not seeing success, you’re a learner for seeing progress in ways you may not like, but still help you move forward.

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#psychic #clair #clairaudience #clairvoyace #parapsychology #psychology #baby #ask

Tapping Into Your Psychic Senses

Every single person on the planet has psychic abilities, but most people never realize that they’re using them. As Tess Whitehurst says in her book You Are Magical, “There is almost certainly something you assume that everyone can perceive that is actually a perception that is relatively unique to you.”

For example: you may be a gifted artist. Drawing and painting come naturally to you, and you have an intuitive sense of form and color. You probably know people who claim that they “don’t have an artistic bone in their body” or “can’t even draw a stick figure,” but you can’t bring yourself to believe it. Surely, those people are just psyching themselves out, because if art comes so easily to you, everyone must be able to do it to some extent, right?

Psychic abilities are similar. You’ve probably been tapping into at least one psychic sense all your life, but it feels so normal to you that you assume everyone experiences the world this way.

Once you become aware of your innate psychic abilities, you can start to harness them. For this reason, I think it’s a good idea to become familiar with (and comfortable using!) your natural psychic gifts before you try to learn any kind of divination.

Read over the following list of common psychic senses. Does one or more of them sound familiar? Once you recognize which of these you resonate with, focus on strengthening that gift over the next couple of weeks. You’ll be amazed by how easily you’re able to tap into it once you know how!

Clairvoyance: Clear Seeing

Contrary to popular opinion, the word “clairvoyance” does not describe any and all psychic abilities. Someone with clairvoyance receives psychic messages through their sense of sight. They may see these messages with their physical eyes, or see images in their mind’s eye. Seeing auras is an example of clairvoyance in action.

You may be clairvoyant if…

You often see flashes of light, blurred figures, or other visual phenomena that others do not see. [Note: This is NOT the same as visual hallucinations. Clairvoyants typically see things with their mind’s eye, not their physical eyes, and can differentiate between their visions and what is physically in front of them.]

You often experience random mental images that seem to have nothing to do with what’s going on around you.

Your meditations are primarily visual — for example, if you meditate on the element of water, you may see a bubbling fountain in your mind’s eye.

You are a visual learner.

Ways to Strengthen Clairvoyance

Keep a journal of the mental images you receive “out of nowhere.” Do these images mean anything to you? Do individual visions fit into a larger pattern?

Meditate on the energy systems in your body, starting from the feet and working up to the crown of the head. What does your energy look like? Are the colors bright and clear, or more faded and muddy? Does the energy move quickly, or is it slow and sluggish? Are there certain areas of your body where the energy seems to be tied up or stuck? How does its appearance correspond to your life?

Do research into auras and what the different aura colors mean. Do you always seem to see or think of a certain color when you’re around a certain person? How does that color represent that person’s energy and personality? Write down your findings.

Clairaudience: Clear Hearing

Someone with clairaudience receives psychic messages through their sense of hearing. They may hear messages with their physical ears or “hear” them in their mind. A medium who hears spirits is an example of someone using clairaudience.

You may be clairaudient if…

You sometimes “hear” things in your mind, as if someone else was talking to you from inside your head. [Note: This is NOT the same as “hearing voices” or auditory hallucinations. Clairaudients usually “hear” messages with their mind, not their physical ears, and they can distinguish between psychic messages and physical, “real world” sounds.]

Sometimes, when you listen to music or watch a movie, a specific lyric or line of dialogue seems to jump out at you, as if it were a special message.

Your meditations are primarily auditory — for example, if you meditate on the element of water, you may hear a babbling brook.

You are an auditory learner.

Ways to Strengthen Clairaudience

Keep a journal of the messages you “hear” out of nowhere. Are they consistent, forming a larger pattern? Do they all seem to be “in the same voice,” or coming from the same source? (If so, this could be a deity or spirit guide reaching out to you.)

Do a meditation with the intention of holding a conversation with a helpful spirit guide. (If you are not comfortable working with spirits, you can set the intention of speaking to your inner self.) What does their voice sound like? Is it different from or similar to your own? Do they speak with an accent or have a unique inflection? Write down your thoughts.

Experiment with shufflemancy. This is a modern form of divination where you put a playlist on shuffle and receive a psychic message from the song that plays first. (You can find playlists specifically made for shufflemancy online, or make your own.) How does the song make you feel? Are there certain lyrics that jump out to you? Write down your thoughts.

Clairsentience: Clear Feeling

Someone with clairsentience feels psychic messages, either through their body or through their emotions. They may feel physical sensations, like an upset stomach, or may be very sensitive to emotional energies. Intuitively picking up on someone’s emotions without needing to ask is an example of clairsentience.

You may be clairsentient if…

You often feel physical sensations, like a hot flash or a cold chill, out of nowhere.

You are able to feel other people’s emotions — you can always tell when someone has had a bad day, even if they’re trying to hide it.

You can sense the “vibe” of a room as soon as you walk in. Do certain buildings feel “angry” or “sad” to you? Can you always tell the energy of a party even if you just arrived?

Your meditations primarily focus on tactile sensations — for example, if you meditate on the element of water, you may feel waves lapping at your feet.

Ways to Strengthen Clairsentience

Pay attention to your “gut feelings.” Do you feel a sinking sensation when thinking about something, only for it to go badly later? Do you feel a warm, fuzzy sensation thinking about something, only for it to go really well? Write down your experiences — and be honest. It’s okay if your gut feeling doesn’t always match the outcome.

Do a pathworking meditation (this is just a type of meditation that focuses on taking a mental journey) to a forest, or a beach, or some other location that appeals to you. Try to feel as many tactile sensations as possible, as if you were really there. Feel the grass or sand under your feet, feel the wind in your hair, feel the sun on your skin. Write down your experience.

Practice feeling the energy of a plant or crystal. Reach out and touch the plant/crystal, and try to feel it out. Does it have a calm, stable energy, or is it more bright and zingy? Try feeling a different plant/crystal and see how it feels different. Write down your experience.

Note: Some (but not all) clairsentients are also empaths, people who take on the emotions of others as if they were their own. All empaths are clairsentient, but not all clairsentient people are empaths. You may be an empath if you often find yourself matching the emotions of the people you’re around — you cry when they cry, laugh when they laugh, etc.

Claircognizance: Clear Knowing

Claircognizence is the gift of psychic knowing — people with this ability often “just know” things, even if they should have no way of knowing. They may know what someone is about to say before they say it, or know personal information about someone they just met.

You may be claircognizant if…

You “just know” what’s going on with your friends and family, even if they haven’t told you. For example, you may suddenly feel like you need to call your sister, only to find out after you call that she just broke up with her boyfriend.

You always know who a text is from as soon as your phone dings, or always know what song is going to play next on shuffle.

You often know things about new people as soon as you meet them, only for them to confirm it later. Did you know your friend was a vegetarian before he told you, even though you’d never shared a meal with him?

Your meditations often include “downloads” of information, where you feel like the answer to your question or some other revelation has just been dropped into your brain.

Ways to Strengthen Claircognizance

Every time your phone goes off, try to guess who the message is from. Keep a tally of how often you’re right vs. wrong.

Do a meditation with the intention of receiving the answer to a specific question. Retreat to a place of stillness and focus on your breath until the answer to the question “just comes to you.” Write down your experience.

This is a game I used to play with my sister before I knew what claircognizance was: have a friend show you a picture of someone they know, but whom you have never met before. Focus on the picture, and see if you get any info about the person — are they a jock? Do they like rock music? What’s their personality like? Get your friend to confirm or deny the info you got from the picture, and keep a tally of how often you’re right vs. wrong.

The Other Clairs

There are two other “clair” senses that are less common, so I’m not going to talk about them at length here. Clairalience, or “clear smelling,” refers to receiving psychic messages through smell. (If you smell roses out of nowhere, with no roses in sight, you may be using clairalience.) Clairgustance, or “clear tasting,” refers to receiving psychic messages through taste. (If you taste chocolate out of nowhere, you may be using claigustance.)

In my experience, these psychic senses are less common than the ones listed above. Most people I know who have clairalience or clairgustance seem to use it as a secondary sense, in addition to a primary sense like clairvoyance or clairsentience.

Conclusion

You are probably using at least one of these psychic senses every day, without even knowing it. Most people have two to three “main” psychic senses, but some may regularly and easily use all of them. For example, my primary psychic senses are clairsentience and claircognizance, but I also find myself receiving messages through clairaudience fairly often. It’s rare for me to receive clairvoyant messages, but it has happened.

Once you’ve identified the psychic senses that you naturally lean towards, you can begin to develop and strengthen them.

Resources:

You Are Magical by Tess Whitehurst [Specifically the chapter, “Reading the Signs.”]

The Fat Feminist Witch Podcast, Episode 68: “Clear Knowing”

The Angel Code by Chantel Lysette [Specifically the section on the psychic senses.]

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#topgreekmythology #myths #greekmyths #greekmythology #greekgod #topgreekmyths #greekgod

What’s your favorite myth and why? ( sorry if someone’s asked this before)

idk what would be my all time favourite, but these would be my top 5:

1. the horus-set contending

i love this myth so much because it's so insane. first of all, the myth tells us that Set, lord of the desert, master of disorder, murderer of Osiris, freaking loves lettuce. this absolute madlad's favourite food is LETTUCE. and even better- that love of lettuce he has ends up being his ultimate weakness because Horus is able to defeat Set by giving him lettuce. that is just.. peak mythology. absolutely fantastic. i'm not going to get into the more explicit details of the myth, but the whole horus-set fight business is WILD.

2. cronus + the castration of ouranos

i really really really love genesis-type myths where each culture comes up with their own story about how the world was made. and i really love the greek myth for this as well. the concept of having the literal heavens (Ouranos) and the earth (Gaia) as consorts is so ethereal and grand.. the imagery of such a union is amazing to think about.

for me, it's Hesiod's version of the Greek genesis that really does it. i love the way he writes and describes all the characters, particularly Cronus who is always written as being "deceitful" and "hateful". i just feel that he has a lot of character. i also like the way Gaia also quite murderous.. it's just the story of a mum and her son bonding over their plans to murder the husband/father <3 wholesome

3. loki always give 110% when it comes down to committing to roles, and ends up pregnant with sleipnir

perhaps the most infamous of the Norse myths, and rightly so. there were SO many ways Loki could have avoided getting knocked up while in horse form, but no. he just let it all happen. amazing work, Loki. anyways, i like this myth mostly just because it's hilarious and funny. i always love the myths where someone is always trying to marry Freyja and Loki has to think up insane ways to prevent said marriage from coming true. what a mind.

4. ivan and the firebird

okay, my mum used to tell us this tale when we were children, so i guess i like it because of the nostalgia associated with it. indeed, this was probably one of my first ever myths!! anyways, the Gray Wolf is a freaking hero and i love him. i like the story because i feel like it's got quite a lengthy plot to it, but also, it's just fun :)))

5. the labours of heracles

such a classic hero. this one's a favourite because the myth is just so creative. i mean, Heracles is insanely crafty and the methods by which he is able to complete each task are entertaining to read even when you're already familiar with the myth. and i guess i just like classically noble characters ^-^

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