It's been a while since I last posted. With that in mind, I have a few questions for you.
1. Is there somebody passive aggressive in your life? (Does the person sulk or refuse to communicate? Do they make backhanded compliments? Or maybe they procrastinate unless it's on their terms?)
2. Somebody highly critical and judgemental making only negative comments to/about you?
3. Is there somebody using blackmail (emotional or otherwise)?
4. Are you close to somebody extremely self centred and egotistical? Somebody that is always striving to prove they are better than you?
5. Perhaps you have a close one who is always seeking to place blame on you and take little responsibility for their actions?
6. And lastly, but by no means least, is there somebody manipulating you into doing things you don't want to or shouldn't be doing?
If you answered yes to any of the above you can seek help through a therapist or use this new year to start fresh and cut negativity out of your life.
Finally if you need support for the above please drop me a direct message. Peace, prosperity and healthy friendships.
After a considerable time of NC with MIL, we had contact a few weeks back but then non since, likely never will again either.
We fed MIL some misinformation to see what she'd do with it, she did exactly as we expected, she failed at showing she was able to be impartial and wanted my husband and I to fail our relationship for her own gain.
She will likely find a new victim, we won't fall for it again.
In the event that MIL comes across this and "feels" regret, it is only because she got caught.
The thing with narcs is that the surround themselves with 2 types of people. Enablers and tongue biters.
Anybody who doesn't fit into their 2 categories a simply ignored/ditched.
Narcs will try to discipline you by manipulation tactics. So when you are eventually ditched you'll likely believe you've done something wrong. Don't fall for it, it's part of the game play. Ensure they look the victim so nobody suspects them.
It is not those who do evil in the world but those who willingly and deliberately turn a blind eye to it. That does not mean the victim/survivor but the narcissist themselves.
So yesterday my hubby and I had contact with the MIL, she took zero responsibility for the past 30 years (my husband's upbringing and the things she has done to our children). We are no contact again and will give her one last chance in 6 months.