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again i’m sorry for even thinking about moving blogs. but. if you do wanna still write with me (eventually) uh yeah. slow-going.

#maybe one last rb #uhh i've been shy to re-follow some people bc i know this can be a pain (this = me moving blogs) #but uh if/when i DO follow u on my new one... uhhh ur choice if u still wanna vibe with me <3 #anyway hi i'll be going through now lol

[theundecider]

again i’m sorry for even thinking about moving blogs. but. if you do wanna still write with me (eventually) uh yeah. slow-going.

[theundecider]

again i’m sorry for even thinking about moving blogs. but. if you do wanna still write with me (eventually) uh yeah. slow-going.

[theundecider]

again i’m sorry for even thinking about moving blogs. but. if you do wanna still write with me (eventually) uh yeah. slow-going.

[theundecider]

again i’m sorry for even thinking about moving blogs. but. if you do wanna still write with me (eventually) uh yeah. slow-going.

[theundecider]

again i’m sorry for even thinking about moving blogs. but. if you do wanna still write with me (eventually) uh yeah. slow-going.

[theundecider]

again i’m sorry for even thinking about moving blogs. but. if you do wanna still write with me (eventually) uh yeah. slow-going.

[theundecider]

again i’m sorry for even thinking about moving blogs. but. if you do wanna still write with me (eventually) uh yeah. slow-going.

[theundecider]

again i’m sorry for even thinking about moving blogs. but. if you do wanna still write with me (eventually) uh yeah. slow-going.

[theundecider]

undergroundexits. remade 13th august 2021. indie + priv + sel. low activity multimuse by john valentine. still under construction. rules + muses. tags directory.

#yeah.

[theundecider]

again i’m sorry for even thinking about moving blogs. but. if you do wanna still write with me (eventually) uh yeah. slow-going.

#ultimate undecider. / post. #its a couple of things i think. that have lead me to this decision to move again even tho i really did not want to before but :/ ya

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umming and ahhing over whether i want a hub blog with (themed multimuse) sideblogs (even tho im. shit at maintaining sideblogs) or remaking the whole multi

mmmm definitely Not sideblogs.

ok i’ll be moving eventually but uh still gonna. try to do things on here

#i am sorry but i uh. also annoy myself :| #ultimate undecider. / post.

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thinking about mia again. gonna shove all my headcanons (some of which i’ve talked about elsewhere i’m sure) and fanon-re9 ideas under the cut <3 (also warning for re8 spoilers bc uh. yes.). also some of these headcanons (mainly mia’s name) was inspired by my friend mandy’s headcanons. ^_^

Keep reading

#reposted on sideblog bc uhhhhh. deleting old personal blog #mia tbt

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#i don't wanna remake my blog already. i Do Not.#i actually don't but i am thinking about it. fucking hell.#ultimate undecider. / post.#tbd maybe#partly the Need To Organize versus the Fact That I Can't Organize For Shit.#i really do need to be put down oh my god

still thinking about it tbh. :/

:/

#srb

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Send A Number to Experience One of My Muse’s Memories

Memories are vignettes for one’s past, and often times, they are very telling.

1. Their First Memory 2. A memory of their father 3. A memory of their mother 4. A memory of a sibling 5. A memory of a pet 6. A turning point in their life 7. A memory they want to forget 8. A hazy memory 9. A photographic memory 10. A disappointing memory 11. A memory that may or may not have happened 12. A happy memory 13. A memory of a friend 14. A memory of a relationship 15. A heartbreaking memory 16. A memory that makes them angry 17. A memory of something they regret 18. A memory they’d love to change 19. A memory of someone they don’t see anymore 20. A memory of someone who is deceased 21. A memory of the first time they did an activity they love 22. A childhood memory 23. A school day memory 24. A holiday memory 25. A birthday memory 26. A memory they want to share 27. A memory of something they’re proud of 28. A memory that strains a relationship 29. A memory they can’t let themselves forget 30. Asker’s choice 31. Writer’s choice

#ultimate undecider. / prompts. #ultimate undecider. / queue.

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write up on polyamory & writing characters in polyamorous relationships in RP

so what is polyamory?

polyamory is the state of being in a romantic or sexual relationship with more than one person at the same time with all partners involved consenting and aware of the parameters of the polyamorous relationship

isn’t that just the same thing as a threesome / love triangle?

nope! polyamory differs because it’s a relationship. a threesome is purely sexual and often only happens once between those involved and love triangles don’t involve consent or sometimes even the knowledge of all parties involved and are largely considered unhealthy with how it can impact the parties involved.

polyamory thrives on two things: consent & awareness.

whereas a threesome is generally a one time thing, polyamory is a relationship involving consistency and commitment between more than one person.

polyamory isn’t just about sex. it’s about love and commitment as well for some if not all of those involved but there are many types of polyamory.

well then isn’t it basically polygamy?

polygamy is the marriage between one person and multiple partners. it’s a type of polyamory but does not always involve love between all parties involved and is usually politically related more than it is love and consent related. which is not to say polygamy can’t be consensual and loving the way polyamory in general is, it’s just to say the modern notion of polygamy is largely political.

TYPES OF POLYAMORY:

open relationships: in which two parties are in a relationship but it is open to the parties involved having other romantic relationships on the side / in addition to the one they are currently in

polygamy: closed relationship in which the parties involved are all married usually to one person

polycule: a complex inter-connected polyamory relationship

polyfidelity: all partners are primary to other partners within the group and sex is shared only among the group

eclectic relationship:  relationship in which members are of varying sexualities with diverse elements as to how they function in the group

group relationship: a committed, loving relationship involving multiple partners

inclusive relationship: a relationship in which all partners agree to include more lovers into their relationship

multipartner relationship: any relationship that is nonmonogomous

WRITING POLYAMOROUS CHARACTERS:

this is a tough one because a lot of roleplay settings involve only one on one interactions. a good way to roleplay polyamory is to have multiple verses set up in which certain character involved with relationships with your own take place in the same verse. it’s important that all characters involved are consenting to this relationship, understand it is not monogomous, and are okay with being in the relationship. this can involve as many people in a ship as you want. it can be as diverse as your character only loving one person but having multiple consenting sexual partners or as complex as loving multiple characters who also love your character / love certain characters in addition to. it’s up to you and what feels right for your character! 

polyamory is just as complex and diverse as your character(s) is / are, it’s okay to play around with group dynamics to see what is right with your character and polyamory.

just as much as it is important that the characters involved are consenting, the muns involved should be aware and consenting too. make sure you discuss it with your writing partners out of character as well to make sure they understand how it works and how it will play out in threads / writing.

ALWAYS REMEMBER:     CONSENT IS MANDATORY. CONSENT IS THE MOST IMPORTANT PART OF EVERY POLYAMOROUS RELATIONSHIP.

#ultimate undecider. / reblog.

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this is going to ruffle a lot of feathers but ppl on tumblr use the phrase "criticial of [pronoun] interests" so innacurately and like. i need you guys to understand that it means, like, knowing godzilla is anti-american propaganda and being aware of this when you watch it and understanding the symbolism and real point of the movie and not, as another example, claiming to be anti-racist, pro-jewish, and pro-trans while still giving money to JK Rowling. Being critical of your interests is impossible if the author wove bigotry that does ACTUAL HARM into the story. It's not a free pass to consume whatever you want while saying you support marginalized people!

#ultimate undecider. / reblog.