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I mean..can I?

Five Habits To Fix Your Problems

1. NON-NEGOTIABLE

Daily tasks or activities that are essential and must be completed each day without exception.

My non-negotiables are:

• 8-10K daily steps.

• Studying (your religious book)

• Cold Showers.

• 10 min journaling .

• No screen time an hour before bed.

• No food 2 hours before bed.

• Stretching.

2. 80/20 RULE

Investing most of your energy and time on specific tasks that create a big impact and maximize your productivity.

20% of the tasks yield 80% of the results.

80% of your productivity comes from

20% of your tasks. By identifying and prioritizing the most important tasks, you can maximize your efficiency and focus on what truly matters.

3. DOPAMINE DETOX

It's a method aimed at taking back control of your life by reducing dependency on instant gratification and increasing productivity.

Abstaining from activities that provide quick dopamine hits:

• social media

• video games

• excessive screen time.

By eliminating these distractions, you create space to focus on meaningful activities.

4. PLAN YOUR DAY THE NIGHT BEFORE

Get everything ready you need for the morning.

Things seem simpler when everything is planned and handy.

This practice allows you to be more intentional with your time and ensures that you are working towards your goals effectively.

• make a to-do list or block time for tasks

• Set out your gym and work clothes

• Prep your morning breakfast

5. CONTROL YOUR EMOTIONS

Controlling your emotions can be a valuable skill that helps you address and navigate problems more effectively.

How controlling your emotions helps you: clear thinking (make rational)

Discipline

• Shadow work

• Improve problem solving

• Better communication

• And etc.

controlling your emotions does not mean suppressing or ignoring them. It's about acknowledging and understanding your emotions while choosing how to respond to them in a constructive manner.

It takes practice and self-awareness

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Does anybody have that moment when you kind of failed on what you’re currently doing so you started looking at something else? I kind of messed up at work today so I am now looking for new jobs with the thought that I’m not good enough to stay in my current field. 🙃

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what ifs

I still think about the "what ifs" if only Atty. Leni Robredo won last May 9. =) But again, I'm happy that she gets to rest now with her babies and still does what she's good at, helping people, through Angay Buhay NGO.

#leni robredo #vp leni #angat buhay ngo

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This is for me.

Of connecting the dots

Probably the longest email I received from Pa, in response to an email sent to him by my clueless, whiny, too idealistic, feeling entitled fresh grad self back in 2008. Reading this again made me realize that my perspective on work has significantly changed since then. Work is both humbling and, for lack of a better word, dignifying (uplifting?). 

This is for fresh grads and not-so-fresh grads, and people who think that the grass is always greener on the other side (occasionally guilty of this) :)

Date: XX/XX/XXXX 9:26 PM    

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dear aiks,

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the accuracy

#accurate

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wtf

Today is a failure of "I don't give a f*ck day". Why can't I just focus on myself for once and not deal with anything that makes my head hurts?! This temper of mine is getting into my nerves. Now I need a yoga to calm my mind because it's hurricane inside my brain right now.

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MY DILEMMA

Social media...I am aware that it has been affecting me for a long time now. Probably one of the reasons why my depression and anxiety isn't getting better even after all the money that I wasted on therapy. I believe it is right to say that people like me - who kind of have an addiction with social media - are seeking validation from other people about our lives. I can feel it. Whenever someone sees my Instagram and Facebook stories, comments or retweets my Twitter post, I can feel something in my mind that says, good job. It feels like I am posting for other people to see that hey I'm depressed and my anxiety is attacking me and that I'm sad so someone has to comfort me. In reality, I just really need someone to talk to or maybe I don't really need someone but myself. I was able to overcome Facebook when I deactivated it last November but it's a failure for me. From time to time, I login to check on friends and my crush and then I could feel it inside me the desire for attention. Then I would snap myself out of the virtual world to remind myself to STOP. This became an obsession and I want to fix it. I want to fix myself. I am denying myself of the contentment and happiness that I long because I always want the attention. I am seeking help in the form of attention, likes, comments, retweets, views and it is not helping. Whenever I don't get enough of it, it contributes to my sad hormones. Again, it's a cycle. I hope I can get through this. Grateful for Tumblr for keeping me sane 'coz I can't really post this on other social media. lmao.

Dear Self, you can do this.

#social media is destroying me #fighting self

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I think I need to watch The Social Dilemma AGAIN

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Also, here's the thing with me. Right now, my head is clear. I am quite motivated. I stopped stalking my crush on Instagram and Facebook (except Twitter). But then, how long can I do this? How long can I think clearly. Oh God, help me. LMAO

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NEW YEAR...AGAIN

Does anyone feel that as we grow older, the joy of Christmas, New Year and even birthdays are disappearing. I don't know about other people but I can feel it in me. Maybe because now that I'm older, I realize that life is hard. Living is hard. Good for those people who learned to live their life to the fullest. I sometimes envy them. Like why can't I live happy and carefree and stress free like other people. I feel like I deserve it too. Then I realize lately that it is not the universe's fault that I am living like this. It's my fault. I did this. Then the bad thoughts will come back all over again and I'm gonna be sad again. It's a cycle and I hope that I can get out of that bad cycle this year. I just want to have good life. Whatever that is.

#happy new year #new year #daily life #real talk #real life #finding happiness

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STILL HURTING

Last April, I confessed to my long time friend that I like him. Boom! It felt great because I feel like for the first time, I am an honest person. I was being honest to the person I like and to myself. Turns out I was his crush too - BEFORE. Like when I started liking him 5 years ago, I WAS his crush too! But are we living in fantasies? NO. That was years ago. I feel like I am in love with him but the feeling is not mutual anymore. Yesterday, I decided to stalk his Twitter that took me months to find until he posted it on Instagram. That's when the reality slapped me. He was tweeting about this other person that he is currently in love with and it hurts! Knowing that the person you liked most, the only person you feel like you can be honest with all the time is in love with someone else. Then I said to myself, well it's too late. I should have told him sooner. Now I can't move on. Friends are asking me if why I don't have a boyfriend yet, well, it is because I feel like a part of me is still holding on or expecting that we can still be together if I try harder now. Try flirting more. LOL.

#first love #falling in love #the one that got away

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TICK...TICK...TICK....BUT NO BOOM..

I wanna sleep and wake up with a Jonathan Larson genius mind. Or maybe Miranda's. Please. 'Coz right now I feel like I can create a song anytime....like getting inspiration from everywhere. Also I cried while watching the movie. LMAO. I'll be 30 in 4 years and I feel like I am running out of time too! I'm a single, living in a rented room in one of the poorest city in a small country in Asia, currently stuck in a very bad situation in our office and whose expertise is procrastination. Kbye....BOOM

#jonathan larson #tick tick boom #lin manuel appreciation post #lin manuel miranda #tumblr #musical theatre

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Thinking over things.

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looking for someone to talk to about random things

I'm single and desperate for new "friends"

#talk tag #friends #looking #for a friend #i mean it #i mean come on #i mean seriously #i think #i am bored #i am single #ready to love #i guess #haha fuck

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Very classic but fuck self, why are still not leaving!

Late night thoughts...

Maybe one day I’ll be brave enough to let them know that I will leave…

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I think it's been a decade for me already. I started this along with my Twitter account that I deleted last year but I get to celebrate my 10 years.

actually tumblr should pay ME for sticking around this long