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the-offbeatsoul · 2 years
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“Don’t save your good lingerie for dates, wear it for you.”
— Dita von Teese
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the-offbeatsoul · 2 years
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“It takes a huge effort to free yourself from memory.”
— Paulo Coelho
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the-offbeatsoul · 2 years
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the-offbeatsoul · 2 years
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You'll never truly know someone well enough to ultimately MARRY THEM Untill -
You've seen them STRUGGLE FINANCIALLY / MANAGE FINANCES. It's a blessing to be in a relationship where two people never really fight over money because they know that it's a sensitive topic so whenever any confusion arises , they sit down in peace & discuss over the matter calmly. To marry someone who knows the importance of smart spending.
You've taken care of them when they were SICK. People act irrationally when they're not doing well, it's important to know weather you two can handle such situation decently by understanding eachother's PSYCHE.
You two actually discussed what your SEXUAL TURN ONS are. It might sound silly but it's a major part of getting to know someone as a companion. What makes you feel comfortable & what makes you uncomfortable when it comes to sex.
GRIEVED losing a close friend/family member. When one of them is grieving because they just lost someone who was close to them & how does the other S.O. hold them emotionally throughout that phase.
How do the two of you TACKLE DIFFICULT SITUATIONS or converse with each other during HEATED CONVERSATIONS. Observe closely, is your ego coming in between you two, is one of you NOT TRYING to understand what the other person's point of view is.
It's important to see how well the two of you cherish your DIFFERENCES because to expect that your partner should be your other version(EXACTLY LIKE YOU), is completely absurd.
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the-offbeatsoul · 2 years
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the-offbeatsoul · 2 years
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Healing doesn’t mean the damage never existed. It means the damage no longer controls your life.
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the-offbeatsoul · 2 years
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the-offbeatsoul · 2 years
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⬆️ book recs 📚 for wellness 💕
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the-offbeatsoul · 2 years
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“To realize that you do not understand is a virtue; not to realize that you do not understand is a defect.”
— Laozi, Daodejing, Mair tr. (Ch 71)
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the-offbeatsoul · 2 years
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This time, I'm not going to settle for less.
I'm not going to ignore the red flags. I'll clearly see how you treat me, and if it's anything less than pure love, attachment, genuine respect & major efforts, I'm not gonna stay back so that you could keep fucking me up whenever you want.
My emotions are my priority BUT i won't allow them to control my sense of right & wrong & YOU BABY, YOU NEVER HAD A DROP OF RIGHT IN YOUR SOUL.
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the-offbeatsoul · 2 years
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My mind is a messed up forest of million thoughts and YOU still manage to trespass the boundaries of it....
Every Single Day
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the-offbeatsoul · 2 years
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But does he/she relaxes your nervous system? Do they mentally synchronise with you ? And most importantly, are you able to meet the vulnerable part of yourself around them?
Yes, the human version of a happy place does exist, you just have to observe closely. A friend, colleague, family member, lover/partner, chose wisely while building your inner circle because GOOD PEOPLE invest a lot in keeping one's mental health strong.
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the-offbeatsoul · 2 years
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Imagine this :
Watching sunrise/sunset while sitting with someone who's your happy place. Making them laugh and enjoying a light-hearted conversation with them. Then driving back to your apartment where you both enjoy a hot cup of coffee and just sitting silently listening to some soothing music & simply feeling the softest touch of each other's hands.
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the-offbeatsoul · 2 years
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If YOU as an individual have difficulty in having tough discussions at the office, at home, relationship/friendship, where you lose control over your tone of voice and try to run away from emotionally intense situations then it might be the result of YOU going through difficult childhood years.
Whenever you tried to stand up for yourself because maybe you were out late with your friends enjoying yourself or you had a different point of view regarding something, your family always asked you to shut up because apparently " you were too young to understand something", " that's NOT how our family's upbringing is done " etc etc. This whole atmosphere messed up your THINKING AND REACTING PATTERN which is why now at present you instantly get furious if you get a feeling that someone is trying to dominate you and silence your voice. Now there's this completely different scene where you feel heard, accepted and loved for everything that you are and subconsciously you've opened up your vulnerable side in front of someone, that feeling hits you hard and makes you uncomfortable because you never had that sense of emotion when you were a kid. It's a peaceful sentiment & you feel relaxed BUT you don't know how to accept it in your life, your childhood experience is trying to sabotage your present life.
This is why some of us keep fighting with our own selves because We want something which, in someway, makes us happy and relaxed, but our memories and experiences try to ruin it by scaring the shit outta our souls.
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the-offbeatsoul · 2 years
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ANXIETY : Go ahead, drop the idea & take a back step bro. What you're doing is right so just completely ruin it because anyway NOTHING IS GOING TO STAY WITH YOU PERMANENTLY. Your comfort zone is your happy place. Suppress all other emotions, isolate yourself and let them think WHATEVER.
ME : B..but this isn't right, I'm doing the wrong thing AGAIN, I love those people. Why are you making me isolate myself, it'll fuck up my mind and theirs too. I have to get my shit together Man, this is enough now. I need to step up & fight every situation. My people have always supported me, ANXIETY, STOP SCARING ME PLEASE!!
ANXIETY : Dude, I'm never gonna leave you alone, you're my slave forever. YOU DO WHAT I SAY, GOT IT. So just shut the fuck up and MAKE THE WHOLE SITUATION EVEN WORSE FOR YOURSELF.
ME*unable to manage anxiety* : Okay you're right, ill make situations nastier & awful FOR MYSELF. At least I wouldn't have to confront difficult circumstances or emotions.
ANXIETY : AAAAND MY WORK HERE IS DONE PERFECTLY.
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