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#I know I haven’t been active in FOREVER I’m so sorry but this is my current baby #massive overlap in neurodivergent folks and doctor who fans so sharing it here #if you like thasmin this is the fanzine for you and it WILL be affordably priced #follow that tumblr for updates

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For some reason Tumblr won’t let me edit the original post, but since people are starting to share this again telling me I’m wrong about there being no Autism/PTSD overlap, I’d just like to remind everyone how Venn Diagrams are formatted!

The centre shows an overlap between all three - you don’t need to repeat those points anywhere else or they would be in literally every section.

The lack of symptoms in the Autism/PTSD overlap does not mean there is no overlap. It means there are no symptoms that aren’t also shared with ADHD.

If you’re not interested in seeing how it overlaps with ADHD, just ignore the word ADHD - the middle section still has the Autism and PTSD circles overlapping, so that means the symptoms in that middle section are shared by both of them.

As it was requested by @peculiaroptimism, I made a diagram showing the overlap between Autism, ADHD and PTSD. 

( I was so surprised to realise that PTSD and Autism don’t have any overlap that isn’t also shared with ADHD! )

( Click here for more diagrams )

#it is genuinely driving me INSANE #stop telling me I’m wrong because you don’t know how to read a Venn diagram! #I will happily take any pointers on actual content but this criticism is just literally how Venn diagrams work!. #I did not invent the concept of a Venn diagram

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Any other late diagnosed people relate? 😅

#submission #adhd #adhd mood #autism #actually adhd #actuallyadhd #neurodivergent #autistic #actuallyautistic #actuallyautism #actually neurodivergent #actuallyneurodivergent #adhd meme

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normalize whistling as a love language

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I have a question:

I have diagnosed ADHD, but looking back, now that I know a lot more about neurodivergencies in general, I've always showed symptoms of hyperempathy. I struggle a lot with comfort shows and comfort characters because I put myself in their struggles, and work myself into anxiety attacks when they are suffering. I also struggle constantly with overwhelming love I feel for my comfort characters. So much love it actually hurts me. But normally hyperempathy is associated to autism.

Now I'm wondering: Can my hyperempathy be a symptom of my ADHD?

Sent Jan ‘22~

Yes! We have issues with emotional regulation, which means we can feel things a lot stronger (or a lot weaker) than others. This includes feeling stronger second hand embarrassment from tv shows, or feeling like a fictional character’s breakup hurts as badly as our own.

#adhd #autism #adhd mood #actuallyadhd #actually adhd #actuallyautistic #living with adhd #emotional disregulation #emotional dysregulation #emotional regulation #ninaneedsmusic

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Hi!

My friend (who is ADHD diagnosed)/wants to know if it is better for those with ADHD to live alone than with others.

They say while living with someone, if they forget to do things, procrastinate, or go into a decision paralysis, it triggers guilt, shame and self-hate and that triggers their anxiety and depression.

Sent Feb ‘22~

I think it depends on the person, but there are pros and cons.

Living alone, you don’t have to worry about the things you mentioned affecting others. All of those things can cause anxiety when living with others.

However, a lot of people find that living with others helps them keep on top of those things, because their presence (and the desire to not affect them with their actions) can help them to remember chores, or do things they said they would.

This is called body doubling, and neurodivergent people sometimes will deliberately tell friends/roommates about things they have to do just to give themselves some sense of a deadline to kick their brain into action, because now others are holding them accountable.

#adhd #autism #adhd mood #actuallyadhd #actuallyautistic #actually adhd #living with adhd #alex-wh0

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The new Tumblr feature KokoBot is actually amazing for me. The reward I get out of it is knowing I did good in the world. Is it just me who gets off on helping others with new reward or is that a common thing for ND people?

Sent Nov ‘21~

That’s definitely common! Our brains crave dopamine because we have a deficiency. Helping people gives us that dopamine when we see it make them happy - or sometimes just the knowledge we’ve helped gives it to us.

I think that’s why people with ADHD like trying so hard to give good gifts!

#adhd #autism #adhd mood #actuallyadhd #actuallyautistic #actually adhd #arsonaetcuh

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I don't know if I'm ADHD honestly

My dad has mild ADHD, but I've never been tested. I took the medicine for a while, but it didn't help so I stopped and they just I assumed it was too mild.

I put it in my Discord about me for a while

But then a friend of mine said I couldn't self diagnose, and it just wasn't proper. So I stopped..

I don't know what to do

Sent 28th May~

There’s absolutely nothing wrong with self-diagnosis, no matter what some people say. Half the time the people with a problem with it don’t even have adhd themselves.

Everyone has to self-diagnose at some point, or they’d never think to ask a doctor to confirm it.

If you think you relate to the symptoms, talk to a doctor about it. Taking your dad’s medication simply might not have worked because the meds were the wrong dosage or type to work for you.

#adhd #adhd mood #actually adhd #actuallyadhd #sharing sunday #anonymous

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im just. so tired. i spent the last six months of grad school completely unmedicated because the only adhd medication that works for me also gives me severe anorexia and i ended up having to choose between eating and functioning. it sucks and i wouldn't have finished school without the incredible patience and kindness of my professors, to the point i started getting anxiety about when i would hit the point where they got tired of my neediness and (perceived) incompetence.

Sent 28th May~

I’m so sorry! I can understand some of that feeling - not to the same extent, but I ended up going through college unmedicated after only being allowed to retake a class because I told them I was going to get put on medication which then never came…

#it’s rough #sharing sunday #adhd #anonymous

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hey! can you tell me anything about adhd + memory? it's kind of confusing and frustrating for me because (for example) I can see an actor in a movie/show and rattle off every other thing I've seen them in, but then I also have to ask what dinner is several times a day because it just doesn't stick.

it's like some things are locked down and it's impossible for me to forget them, but then basic stuff just disappears! in a way it's distressing sometimes because I feel like a fraud when I remember some things really well, since I've heard a lot about memory issues being a big part of adhd. 😕

is it a part of the whole "interest-based nervous system" thing? like the everyday things are boring so my brain doesn't bother bagging & tagging those bits so it can devote the whole hard drive to Doctor Who and other stuff I love instead? idk.

Sent Nov ‘21~

Yeah, it’s interest based! If something is a special interest or hyperfixation, it’s easy for us to pay attention to it, and so we absorb what we’re learning and it goes easily into our long term memory.

But ADHDers struggle with our short term memory. So if we’re not paying complete attention to something, it can slip out of our short term memory store and never get filed into long term.

That’s a very simple explanation, anyway. If you want a more in depth scientific answer, check out this post.

#adhd #autism #adhd mood #actuallyadhd #actuallyautistic #actually adhd #its-short-for-jackalope

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ok this is going to sound really specific but i had a question.

about a week ago i lost my hyperfixation and this whole week has just been totally miserable since. but besides that, i had this feeling all week that if i watch just this one specific show then i'd hyperfixate on it and be less depressed. for context i've never seen the show and have really only heard of it from friends and in a documentary about the history of television. but for some reason i have this gut feeling like "oh yeah, the moment i watch that show i'll hyperfixate and it'll be ok". is there a word for that? like...."preliminary hyperfixating" or something like that? or is that just a weird me thing?

Sent Feb ‘22~

There’s not a specific word for it, no, but I do understand what you mean. When you’re in the middle of a secondary depression episode, your brain is desperately searching for anything new to provide dopamine. It sounds like it’s just you getting to grips with your own brain and starting to understand what sort of things it’ll attach itself to.

I do the same thing sometimes!

#adhd #autism #adhd mood #actuallyadhd #actuallyautistic #actually adhd #elmorapper

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Is it possible to not have a problem with change while being autistic? I’m thinking about whether or not I have it, and I relate to everything but disliking routine changes. I’ve put it down to ADHD adaptability but I don’t know.

Sent Jan ‘22~

It is, yeah! Everyone’s different, and people struggle with some elements more than others. Especially if you have ADHD as well, as there are some symptoms that will cancel each other out if you have both (like ADHD can sometimes meant less issue with routines because the ADHD impulsivity takes a front seat).

#adhd #autism #actuallyadhd #actuallyautistic #adhd mood #actually adhd #Tesco-brand-aromantics

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I found the right ADHD medicine and have been taking it consistently this school year, and I went from never doing my homework and having Bs and Cs, to actually doing homework and turning in assignments and being a near straight A student!!!! I attribute the fact that I don't have to fight my brain to Accomplish Tasks to my academic success, as well as just having the personal motivation

Sent 28th May~

Ahh I’m so happy for you!! I imagine that must feel amazing!

I’ve got an appointment for my adhd meds on the 9th of June and I’m so desperately hoping that’s what happens to me (I may have finished college a few years ago, but driving lessons are the current battle!)

#sharing sunday #anonymous #adhd

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Recently diagnosed autistic as an adult after seeking an adhd diagnosis (just looking for answers really) and trying to let go of the shame and fear of being 'weird' and giving myself permission to stim and regulate in the ways I've spent over a decade suppressing. It's scary because I have heard some of the expected "you're just acting autistic now because they told you you are" but it's also so freeing. There's this overwhelming sense of RELIEF that's hard to put into words. Just needed to tell someone!

Happy Sunday!

Sent 28th May~

I’m so glad! I also went down the route of originally going for an adhd diagnosis and then finding out I was autistic (but for me it was as well as adhd) and I just got the diagnosis the other week so I absolutely feel your happiness!!

It’s the worst when people make comments like that, though. I hope they don’t ruin your vibe too much and that you get to be happy about it like you obviously want to be!

#sharing sunday #anonymous #autism

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For sharing sunday!

My fav show ever (Succession) is ending today, I'm watching the finale at 3am and then promptly descending into madness 🥺 This has been my biggest and longest lasting fiction hyperfixation - it's been going strong since I started it in Feb 2022 - and I can't tell you how much I'm gonna miss both the show and the fandom.

The main characters are a family of horrible rich people but they're all so complex and traumatised and human, them and their dynamics are like nothing I've seen in a show before. The three adult siblings are the main part and what makes me go insane the most, they're such a realistic portrayal of the sibling experience, the good and the bad, and man I cannot believe this is the last we'll ever see of them. They parallel my family in some ways too (we're not as messed up lol but still) and that makes it all the more personal. They managed to be insanely relatable despite coming from a completely different world, not to mention so freaking hilarious. Just... them 💛

Show/book/game withdrawals always suck but I have literally never been this invested in a character like I adore these sibs and I'm not ready to say goodbye. Mostly, I just appreciate that we got this show the way we did - the writing and cast and directing and music and whatever else all came together to make something magical and I'll be forever grateful.

Aight thanks for listening and if y'all have any mental stability to spare for us Succ fam tonight send it our way, we'll need it

Sent 28th May~

Ahh I hope it all ties together how you want it to in the finale! I’ve never seen that show, but I feel like I’ve heard people saying they like it!

Sending y’all my single braincell to help you get through this!!

#also I must say I appreciate using my bolding words technique when sending a long ask #that helped a lot #no one else really does it for me so I never see it in action but huh it does help #sharing sunday #cup-noodle

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You helped me realize I have autism and everything’s made so much sense since so I wanted to thank you <3

Sent 28th May~

That’s so sweet thank you 🥺 I always love knowing that this blog has helped people

#sharing sunday #autism #anonymous

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I remember back when I was active on this blog, I did something I was tagging as #sharing sunday where I turned on anon asks, and people could just… tell me about something they’ve been wanting to talk about (good or bad!) or infodump about their current hyperfixation!

Everyone used to really love that, so if anyone does feel like they want to scream about something, I’m turning on anon asks (though feel free to Not go anon if you don’t want to!) for a few hours, and you’re welcome to tell me absolutely anything

I’ll tag them with #sharing sunday, so if anyone doesn’t wanna see it then block that tag!

#adhd #autism #adhd mood #actuallyadhd #actuallyautistic #actually adhd #depression #neurodivergent #sharing sunday