Quick trans tip for those experiencing breast growth:
If you're interested in wearing a bra, please make sure to size correctly. Absolutely, bras can sometimes feel uncomfortable after wearing them for an extended amount of time, but if it actively hurts, please make sure it's the right size. You shouldn't feel like you can't breathe, or your circulation is restricted, or like the band/wires are digging into your skin. Bra sizing can make such a difference, and there're so many wild misconceptions about how bras work that it can be very confusing at times (even for cis people!). Breasts will develop for years, so please regularly check your size if you plan on wearing bras. There are some pretty accurate online calculators and forums, and when you start understanding how measurements translate into sizes, it makes a lot more sense.
If anybody has anything to add, please do! I'm not directly experienced in this, but I want all trans people to be educated and empowered in what makes them comfortable💛
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I'm so proud of myself about finances in the past couple months. I still struggle with money but I did enough meditation and journaling and practicing about it to make myself able to actually face my loans and credit cards and savings and bills and start really truly organizing and addressing them for the first time in years instead of just flying by the seat of my pants.
Like. This is a huge deal for me. I've felt like I'm in deadly danger every time I've tried to think about money for years and years. I'm finally able to look it in the face and stare it down and start to organize and plan on purpose instead of just keeping up with the minimum to stay afloat. I'm so proud of myself.
It's still a refrain of "GUILT (funny link)" every time I think about money but I'm able to actually make spreadsheets and face the numbers and monthly tracking again, and even make a new full budget which I haven't been able to do in ages.
still feel guilt, overwhelm, and helplessness, but no longer feel as much deep elemental shame and terror. that's progress baby
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So Mr. Wooster contacted me recently to let me know that he's awfully braced about adding some of the original illustrations he got when he published his stories in magazines, but he's got a dilemma about the image descriptions and hasn't the foggiest idea how to solve it. And as his secretary, I would like to ask a question on his behalf.
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I keep waffling endlessly on whether or not I want to try and get an iud
On the one hand I really don’t want to get pregnant and condoms aren’t foolproof
But on the other hand iuds make me nervous. The insertion sounds awful and then if ends not working for your body you have to wait and schedule a removal. And I haven’t a good time and previous bc (Nuvaring and a very brief stint on the pill) and there are so many horror stories about them (maybe I should stop reading redit) and while the odds are really low, you can still get pregnant on them! But honestly the thing that really makes me nervous is the comments of people going “I loved it!! It was so great!! Except for [horrifying list of side effects that I could never deal with]” because it’s like is everything is just terrible and all the people who are very satisfied with it just don’t mind the suffering because everything else is somehow even worse for them??
The more I read about birth control the options the more I want to throw the whole man away and go back to single. Ugh. Why is it so terrible to be a woman
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i will not shut up about bg3’s writing to my wives cuz it’s so interesting to me, it is at the same time full of very interesting characters whose stories are engaging and charming and contain some of the best dialogue in a video game (low bar ik but still it’s good) and it is also subscribing so hard to violence and intelligence attached to race like it’s one thing to have an antagonist with no redeemable qualities, sometimes it happens either for story reasons or realistic reasons and that’s fine. but i tried extremely hard to talk to the goblins and gave up because their depiction is so bad, racist, and overall lacking consideration and good writing that it’s hard to believe that the same people who wrote them Also wrote the characters in your party and i literally cannot shut up about it that game is the least imaginative fantasy game i’ve ever seen it has no new ideas and in fact continuously pretends it does have new ideas before having a “twist” to protect its precious stranger danger ethos. how can these writers have made amazing characters who i wanna talk to for hours and then the rest of the game is about as much of a role playing game as fallout 4 with a yes, soft yes, and no options, all of them ending in combat with a race that the game treats as inherently violent, also it’s changes to 5e mechanics are nonsense why does pickpocket work that way it’s like it’s from a different game, anyway yeah it’s ok so far
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sometimes you have a conversation with someone and it feels exactly like you’re both accidentally picking the wrong dialogue options in an rpg and can practically see the “person disapproves” popping up in the corner of your vision every time either of you open your mouths to speak
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