#you’re treating them like children who don’t know better. and tbh via Healthy Parenting not even children should be treated that way

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idk how to fukdodnnwkajna. reply to posts from a sideblog but this is the funniest response i’ve ever gottenajksbsjajjajanshajankakana. the idea that i jack off to purity culture because i made that travis post is so funny

like..yes i have considered that he’s neurodivergent. yes i still think he was being a dick.

i also really like the implication that i think grown men with children DONT struggle sometimes.

#when you respond to valid criticism with “but shouldn’t you take his adhd into account’ aren’t you inherently saying that you disagree with #the criticism because you think his adhd excuses his actions #even at least somewhat? #it’s genuinely so insulting. and infantilizing. to continue treating adults like toddlers just because they have adhd #saying things like ‘oh #he just has a hard time understanding #because he has mental issues’ #how is that... supporting neurodivergent communities in any way? #you’re treating them like children who don’t know better. and tbh via Healthy Parenting not even children should be treated that way #here’s something cringe about myself: i listened to mcelroy podcasts and i loved them. i can think of few other things that made me #laugh harder than taz balance and that one half life monster factory episode #i thought whatever small #minor mistakes travis made back then could be overlooked simply because he was very open witt his mental health struggles and he seemed to #genuinely want to defend marginalized communities #but he kept repeating mistakes and he kept.. virtue signaling. saying some ‘woke’ buzzwords to seem hip and with the left #instead of doing what was due #which was preventing those same mistakes instead of ‘showing how good of a little activist you are on twitter’ for likes and retweets. #when you make the same mistake a handful of times sure. a relapse. when it’s consist #consistent #without any sign of change? you’re not learning anything #and this is because he has adhd?? do you even know what adhd is? #it’s also very funny that someone thinks i’m into purity culture #since like 60% of the posts on this blog would get me cancelled on woke twitter

[hellofaride2021]

Hi, can we please get another 30 questions post? 🥰

Sure, why not? 😊 I found this by searching 30 questions and this one via @immahomosexuall popped up.

1. What do you like and dislike about the way you were brought up?

I like that I was brought up not to judge others. My parents were always clear that I shouldn’t judge people or treat them differently because they were different. Wether that was race, religion, sexuality, disability; I remember being young and them explaing that to me.

I hate my dads temper. I hate that I have the same temper and that we’ve spent too many times clashing and arguing from big stuff to little stuff that turns into big stuff.

2. What do you believe are the 5 biggest issues we face as humans now?

Racism!

Womens rights!

LGBT Rights!

Corona Virus!!!!

And just the rich getting richer and the poor getting poorer and nothing being done to help them/treating them like it’s their fault.

3. If you could write a novel what would it be about?

Since I was a teenager I’ve wanted to write a mystery based on the 1920’s focused on a jazz club singer. Most recently I’ve wanted to write a mystery involving family history. My mother has done family history for years and her findings plus other people’s stories have really inspired me.

4.  What are your beliefs regarding the universe and the nature of life and death?

Honestly? I have no clue. Maybe there’s a God, maybe there isn’t. I do like the idea of reincarnation.

5. Talk about the best dream you’ve ever had. 

This was when I was about ten years old so I don’t remember much of it but involved my friends and I finding a door in a tree, which led to this other world and going on some adventure. The only other thing I remember is us crossing a bridge over lava lol

6. Do you want children? Why or why not? 

Eh. Yes and no lol. Kids are cute and having one I could help grow and watch them fall in love with things, become passionate about would be great. Also giving my parents grandkids would be cool too. But I don’t know if I’m very maternal. I would hate to be the temper filled parent my dad can be and I’m afraid I wouldn’t have the patience with things like learning to ties shoes, tell the time, help with homework.

7. What are your views on gender equality? 

I think you should be paid based on your title and experience wether you’re a man or woman. I think everyone should be treated the same regardless of gender.

8. How do you feel about cultural appropriation? 

It’s wrong, of course. But sometimes I find myself reading about it online, a new one that’s happened and I’ll be like “oh, is that cultural appropriation or just appreciation? And can I really be in a conversation about that?” Basically I’m constantly learning.

There’s actually a photo of my as a child dressed as Pocahontas for a school dance because I was obsessed with her! At the time I had no idea that was cultural appropriation, I was just young and wanted to be like this person I thought was cool, but I feel awful about it now.

9. Where are the 3 places you most want to travel to and why?

NYC for Broadway

Hawaii because I have family there I’ve never met.

New Zealand because I have family there who I’ve met but we’ve never visited because we can’t afford to, but we have an open invitation.

10. What are some things you wish you’d been taught as a child that you weren’t? 

That you may not end up in your dream job but that it’s ok. It doesn’t mean you failed.

11. Talk about some of the biggest mistakes you’ve ever made?

Not having the confidence to fully learn my country’s language which has held me off getting jobs. Also, just dumb family arguments, especially with my dad.

12. Do you feel you are in control of your destiny or do you believe fate controls the course of your life? 

A little of both?

13. Do you believe is ghosts/ spirits? If so why do you think they exist?

Another yes or no. I think some stories we’ve heard are false but I think it’s a possibility.

14. Do you think there are any other forms of intelligent life in the universe? 

There has to be. With how big space is, we can’t be the only ones out there.

15. What do you think constitutes a truly healthy relationship?

Openness, respect, accountability, compromise.

16. How would you like to live your life?

Happy, financially secure and with more confidence.

17. Talk about a time someone treated you badly.

A kid stole my stuffed lamb in nursery lol the same kid also attacked me in the school playground. Once when I was about 14 this girl and a couple of her friends stopped my friend and I because she had a problem with my cousin. She threatened me, hit me and ended up having the cops go to her house and tell her to keep her distance from me or there would be stricter consequences.

18. Talk about a time you treated someone else badly. 

I’ve been pretty bitchy and awful to my sister when we’ve argued.

19. What is something you can’t do that you really wish you could? 

Dance! It’s in the family and I’d love to. Also sing.

20. What are your initial thoughts when somebody tells you they’re religious? 

Interest. What religion are they? How involved are they?

21. Were you more of the victim or the bully as a child? 

Victim in school for sure.

22. How have you changed since you were a child and how have you stayed the same? 

While I’m still kinda shy and social anxious, I’m so much better than I was when I was younger! There have been things I’ve done that I never would have then.

As for the same? Well I’m still the same geeky person I was as a kid who loves marvel, dc, sci fi, supernatural, music, films, tv, reading, history and true crime.

23. Are you the kind of person who has a large group of friends or are you someone who has just a few people they’re close to? 

Just a few close friends. One I’ve known since I was three, the other six and the third since we were sixteen.

24. What qualities have you got from your parents? 

I have for my sarcasm and love of music, musical/dancing and history from my mum, and from my dad his temper, music and true crime.

25. What is one thing you wish somebody would say to you right now?

You’ve won the lottery lol 

26. Describe your ideal partner? 

Off the top of my head; picture a mix of the personality and looks of Matt Bomer, Darren Criss, Robert Downey Jr, Lin Manuel Miranda and Chadwick Boseman. I’m sure I’m missing some but yeah.

27. Describe yourself as a person?

Passionate, anxious, self critical, protective, geeky, sarcastic.

28. What things don’t you do right now that you feel like you morally should? 

Attend protests for things I believe in. I mostly don’t because I’m claustrophobic and those things get large. Did you see the sizes of the Women’s March and BLM? I felt anxious just looking at them.

29. What is your star sign and how accurate do you think it is in describing you?

Scorpio and I think it’s pretty spot on. There’s one or two i think aren’t complety right, but mostly it’s pretty accurate.

30. What sort of terms are you on with your exes? 

I actually have no exes. I am a grown women who has never been in a relationship 🤷🏼‍♀️ it’s partly to do with how shy I used to be (still can be tbh) and also, guys just have never asked me. So yeah.....pandemic is not helping either lol

#30 questions #deep questions #that was fun #i think #lol #anon questions