#words to the wise

[napqueenkae]

Don't be with someone that makes you feel guilty about your feelings. And it's gonna look different for every person, but recognize signs of manipulation, gaslighting and guilt triping in this day and age. So if you're arguing over your feelings then It might be time for you to take a break to process why you're feeling what you're feeling.

Relationships with people take real communication from adults who are willing to do the work. So, are you ready to do the work, or are you running from it?

#words to the wise #love lessons #napqueenkae #black tumblr #manipulation #gaslight

[dawntrailing]

#words to the wise #takafumi imamura #final fantasy series #final fantasy xvi #final fantasy xvi original soundtrack ultimate edition #ffxvi: music

[dantekidd]

Words to the Wise - Dante Kidd

TW: Mention of drug abuse

May 17, 2023

Dear Mama,

I have written and rewritten this letter over six times now. Unable to form my thought into cohesive sentences, but perhaps that’s the whole point of this, no? So I’ll try this one last time, and I’ll try to be as honest as I can be. I miss you so much. I don’t feel like I’ve been able to properly say my goodbyes to you after three years because it doesn’t make sense to me. You’re gone, and yet you’re still here. Everywhere I look, and everywhere I go. So much has happened in the last couple weeks. My entire world and life has changed in ways you would not believe. I sound so dramatic as I write, but I cannot handle my own emotions. I feel too many. There’s hurt, loneliness, sadness, anger and hope? Makes no sense does it?

HURT. I hurt for the disloyalty. It didn’t matter how bad someone could hurt my feelings, grams, I always stayed true to myself. I never lied to anyone that I cared about. Never overstepped my boundaries where I shouldn’t have. But I have been hurt in ways unimaginable to me. Someone I called a friend. Someone I called the love of my life. I don’t know how else to address that. Then there’s S. I know what she did had nothing to do with me, and that I should learn to hear and not judge but it’s difficult to do when my heart is so heavy. I understand why she kept her addiction from me, but I can’t comprehend how it happened to begin with. Not like she’d truly tell me everything.

LONELINESS. I miss you so much. When you left this world it felt like you took a part of me with you. No one knows me like you and papa. You saved my life mama. I don’t know where I would be right now had it not been for you and papa. Perhaps dead? An addict getting high under some bridge as I mourn the sad and depressing life that the world punished a six year old me with? Despite all the love and care you guys gave me I cannot escape my thoughts of that night. Of being alone, hungry, and cold. I have worked so hard to not ever feel that way again. I don’t think I ever told you the reason why I wanted to be an artist. This is why. Despite my love for music I knew that if I made it big I would prevent all that pain and emotions from coming back, but it didn’t work.

SADNESS. I am broken. My heart is broken in so many pieces that not even a piece of tape could put me back together. I wished too bad and too hard, and I am paying for it now. Was it wishful thinking on my part, Mama? After so many years of loving her, I couldn’t see another way out. I craved for her. Stopped everything I worked on so hard, just to finally be with her. None of it mattered to me. I just wanted her. . . For the past three years I’ve changed so much about me to try and mold myself into a man you could be proud of. Someone who was ready to finally stop running and . . . settle. And for what? It was nothing more than another waste of time. . . but I didn’t just lose her, mama. I also lost a good friend. . .

ANGER. . . This one is hard. I’m angry at Bella. Angry at Zekai. Angry at Sawyer. Just angry. So fucking angry. . . but also at myself. Why am I angry? My first and only love hid one of the biggest news of my life from me because she didn’t want to ‘ruin my life’ or some shit like that. Zekai. . . he was a friend. . . he was a good friend but I don’t know if I could look past what he did mama. The betrayal is too much for me. . . Sawyer. . . that one’s so much harder. I love her with a passion but her actions caused so much rage in me. It’s selfish to even say as she is going through her own pain and torment, but I’m so angry with her. Of all things to turn to why the drugs? Why not pick up a damn phone and call? 

GUILT. That one kind of sneaked in last minute. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . help me, mama. I don’t want to feel. . . It’s so hard to feel anything right now without thinking myself selfish. I think that I’m just too understanding. I’ve hit rock bottom, and come back up unharmed. . . not many can say that. Or have the support that I did. So feeling anything other than gratitude feels wrong to me. I don’t want to feel anymore. But it’s so fucking hard. 

HOPE. Despite everything messing with my current mentality I can see the light. I have a purpose in life other than music now. I have a child to care for, and to love. I have someone to give my all to like you did with me. Kaia is that light at the end of the tunnel. When everything around blinds me, she gives me clarity. It’s odd I’ve only known her a couple weeks, but there’s no words to explain this feeling. It’s so fresh and so pure. I can’t imagine a world without her anymore. She makes my heartbreak worth it. 

This would have been the part where you tell me what to do. . . but I guess you did everything you were able to with me. Now it’s time for me to figure out the rest. I think I know where to start. 

Location: Nightrest Cemetery Date: Sunday May 21st, 2023 Time: Approximately 6pm.

After sealing and delivering his letter to his grandma’s grave, Dante sat in his car contemplating life. For the past three years since he moved back to Nightrest he had been working on a project of his own. A home. Their dream home. When he was younger he remembered walking around with their hands interlocked as they fixated on their lives together. Their wants, their needs, and what their future might look like. Almost each afternoon after school the two would walk by this ranch style home that looked like it belonged in movies. He remembered how much she had loved it. The changes that she said she’d do when they moved in, and how happy the two were at the thought. 

Dante glanced down at the deed in his hands. Kaia Amora Reyes it read. . . 

#selfpara #Words to the wise

[vyragosa]

"they fight in the primordial mud"

"they FUCK in the primordial mud"

#tar as lube #everyone who wrote fics knew some shit we didnt #words to the wise

[julygirl67]

be around those who dont make you feel like you need to sage when they leave

#words to the wise #quotes #sayings #about people #life advise #advise about people

[dumblr]

You deserve a calm love with somebody who is good for your mental health and nervous system.

#quotes #feelings #emotions #love #romantic quotes #love quotes #calm vibes #wise words #thoughtful #good love #true love #mental health #you deserve peace #nerve #dumblr

[theambitiouswoman]

40 Examples of Self Abandonment 🤕👎💭💔

Self-abandonment means not taking care of yourself, your needs, and your feelings. It's like ignoring what's good for you and not being kind to yourself normally in a way that benefits everyone but you.

Not eating well or exercising.

Pretending to be happy when you're not.

Working too much without breaks.

Staying in a bad relationship.

Letting people use you.

Forgetting about things you enjoy.

Not saying what you want.

Always doing things for others.

Not asking for help when you're sad or stressed.

Being alone when you need friends.

Saying mean things to yourself in your head.

Giving up your dreams for others.

Avoiding problems instead of solving them.

Never taking time to relax.

Ignoring how you look or feel.

Not asking for help when things are too hard.

Trying to be perfect all the time.

Doing things that hurt you, like drugs or danger.

Changing who you are to fit in.

Not being yourself and doing what others want.

Ignoring your body when it needs rest or sleep.

Letting others make decisions for you all the time.

Keeping your feelings bottled up inside.

Surrounding yourself with people who bring you down.

Not pursuing your interests or hobbies.

Saying "yes" to everything, even when you're overwhelmed.

Putting up with disrespect or mistreatment from others.

Not giving yourself credit for your accomplishments.

Skipping important appointments or check-ups.

Holding onto grudges and negative emotions.

Comparing yourself unfavorably to others.

Not taking breaks when you're stressed.

Neglecting your financial well-being and overspending.

Ignoring signs of burnout or exhaustion.

Avoiding seeking help for mental health struggles.

Ignoring your own intuition and gut feelings.

Overcommitting and spreading yourself too thin.

Constantly seeking validation from others.

Letting fear hold you back from trying new things.

Dwelling on past mistakes and not forgiving yourself.

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[cozycottagelife]

"Eat at a local restaurant tonight. Get the cream sauce. Have a cold pint at 4 o'clock in a mostly empty bar. Go somewhere you've never been. Listen to someone you think may have nothing in common with you. Order the steak rare. Eat an oyster. Have a negroni. Have two. Be open to a world where you may not understand or agree with the person next to you, but have a drink with them anyways. Eat slowly. Tip your server. Check in on your friends. Check in on yourself. Enjoy the ride."

- Anthony Bourdain

#anthony bourdain #wise words #life lessons

[jamespoeartistry]

#nature #words to the wise

[free-my-mindd]

#daily readings #let it go #mindset matters #so true #walk away #know your worth #choose peace #wise words #wisdom

[darkxlantern]

You deserve to be loved the way you love.

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[olreid]

we literally Should learn to speak in a language that rich people who don't dream can't comprehend.

#wise words from the guy who [checks notes] drew the one fear comic. thank u mr. reese #against representation #be like the fox

[chipsy]

I am mastering the art to be silent even though there's a lot to be said.

#quotes #wise words #silent #life quotes #words #spilled thoughts #thoughtful #positive quotes #mastering #art #chipsy

[kenm4vhs]

spreading my legs for him, folding myself in half for him, twisting myself into a pretzel for him, doing squats on his [redacted], doing a keg stand on his [redacted], worshipping him, kneeling on the ground for him, chanting incantations to summon him 😩

#using the wise words of my friend ✊🏻😩 #jujutsu kaisen #jjk #jjk season 2 #nanami kento #kento nanami #nanami x reader #nanami x you #jujutsu kaisen nanami #nanamin #nanami fluff #jujutsu nanami #jjk nanami #nanami smut #kento #kento x you #jjk kento #kento x reader #kento x y/n

[felineandhustle]

#husband material #choose wisely #truth reading #spilled truth #love #self love #mindset #spilled words #quotes #encouragement #inspiration #words #self healing #motivation #love quote life quotes #positive mental attitude #greatness #happiness

[julygirl67]

Anyone can love someone who loves them back or lend money to someone or be good to someone who isnt kind to us if they recipricate thats the easy part but when we lend to those who we know wont pay us back when we still love and forgive those who are not kind to us thats stablity thats integrity thats being spiritual

#spiritual #wise words #smart sayings #words to the wise #life sayings