#with only other cishet

[mechacringekitty]

shoutout to people who didn't always know actually. shoutout to those that didn't have dysphoria since childhood or know something was different about them or act different or be noticeably queer. i can't be the only one and i love you

i love you <3

#i only found out being something other than cishet was a thing about three years ago! of my own volition! reading fanfic and being a kid! #that being said i dont remember a lot of my childhood [probably due to trauma] #but even now...i feel a little invalid for not being able to say ive always felt different #so hi hello i love you lets hold hands and watch the sun rise #transgender #queer #trans positivity #queer positivity #pansexual #< because i am and this is about that #i hope these are the right tags i am so aa...

[bulldog-butch]

i need you all to know that if your family sucks you’re my cousin now. you’ll be joining me (tranmasc butch fagdyke), my bisexual transfemme older cousin, and my gnc fruity as hell younger cousin <3

#i have other cousins and two older sisters who are also cool but they’re all cishet #my cousin and i came out to each other at the same time lol #he’s only like six months younger #we both thought we were bi at the time #LOL #now we’re both just gender fucked homos #bork bork!

[awkward-teabag]

After every (American) election, there's always a bunch of posts going around exposing psyops or pointing out how there were posts on this site designed to get people to not vote blue.

And in the lead up to every (American) election, there's a bunch of posts being reblogged that are clearly either psyops or manipulative posts that tell people it's perfectly okay for them not to vote at all.

Like, there's history going back years on this hellsite where the alt-right intentionally tried to undermine or indoctrinate people so they get/stay in power. History a lot of y'all know of or were even there for and saw go down in real time.

But sure, be uncritical of what you reblog, don't bother looking at the source website, or just put things out there without caveats or nuance.

#i know media literacy is trash these days #and that there's intentional misinformation/no information about elections #but i've seen people who have reblogged things about psyops in the past who both reblog and support current ones #but unlike other social media sites you can reblog a post but then stick nuance in the tags #you can be critical of something while also gritting your teeth and supporting it because the alternative is worse #you can (and should) also be critical of the systems that lead to that in the first place #throwing your hands up and saying there's no point and you aren't going to bother #and it's fine if others do the same #is just giving up and saying it's too hard for you and you don't care about the harm that comes to others #the canadian system is different (though first past the post tries to make it the same) #but you can bet i'd vote for trudeau even though fuck him and his racist ass #if the alternative was pp because while trudeau sucks for many reasons #pp is fucking terrifying to me as a disabled queer person #and i'm lucky in that i'm white and canadian and can pass as cishet so i'd be spared the worst of it #others would not be so lucky #especially when his fans are eager to hate crime people and only hold themselves back because they would face social consequences #also learn what is private criticism you keep to yourself or talk to friends about #and what is okay to talk about publicly #some things you don't fucking say when it will be taken as permission for antipathy or approval by fascists

[heartslobbf]

queer representation peaked with revolutionary girl utena because the show manages to deliver a nuanced portrayal of so many varied queer experiences through its characters without once restricting or rigidly defining them. it’s a show about adolescence— for that reason i think the one aspect of queer experience it misses out on is that of elder queers, adult queers, queers who don’t realise they’re queer until later in life, though you could argue the majority of the cast’s inability to reckon with their queer identity alludes to that— where none of its characters are able to define or recognise themselves as…… whatever. they’re all ‘up to interpretation’ but in this amazing flexible capacity where i can say ‘all of the main cast are in some way trans’ and someone else can say ‘utena is a cis woman’ and both can be fascinating interpretations of the text. revolutionary girl utena is a show that touches every single queer person in giving them something to see themselves in, but it is also an exercise in seeing the ‘other’, and therefore encourages you to challenge what you would be most comfortable seeing; and i think in our age of hellscape discourse, the queer community could really do with a dose of ‘i don’t understand the nuances of your identity but that doesn’t matter because my understanding has no bearing on your existence or right to respect’. again, respect and compassion in the absence of understanding is a core value that the show encourages. ikuhara you genius. i love gay people

#revolutionary girl utena #the only character that isn’t up to interpretation is juri but i don’t think her definite lesbianism diminishes this #like first of all her gender is super interesting and second. her role is so enhanced by being a lesbian if juri wasn’t a lesbian + #her character wouldn’t work in the way that it does #like there is no queer identity that is ‘integral’ to understanding any other character juri is the exception to that #< and in having her as that exception it makes her sooooo interesting esp when comparing to her fellow freaks #tbh i would argue pretty hard that reading some characters in certain ways is…. a Reach but like you get what im saying #ppl who argue the cast r cishet r silly tho like. could do essay after essay about how queerness in rgu is impossible to ignore #but im sort of writing these essays in the tags rn lol #shut up daisy #rgu

[spare-habitat]

totally not fuming with intense jealousy over people with t4t polyam queer relationships

#btw I am only praying for your success I am just insanely jealous of you LMAO #I can't interact w ppl to save my life & the chances of ever actually getting a t4t queer mentally ill polycule is slim :( #I'm also not visibly queer so many ppl assume out the gate I'm cishet so queer ppl never approach me lmao #I am trying to slowly transition into looking more queer but a lot of cool clothes are texture/temperature nightmares #I honestly just need to dye my hair at this point- that's like 101 how to signal you're queer to others #diary entry #personal diary #trans 4 trans #t4t #polyamourous #ambiamorous #transgender #nonbinary

[shynerdwantscuddles]

Gonna say something controversial: some people out there only pretend to respect nonbinary people’s identities to try and get in our pants.

#and I’m gonna specify this is not just about cishet people #because every time I write something about #this there’s a queer person who slightly derails the post by making it seem like only cishet people do this #but other queer people absolutely do this #like a lot #I know there are a lot of people who view me as just some exotic or spicy women #not as nonbinary #by all means other queer adults are welcome to try and get in my pants #but not if you see me as a woman #my post #nonbinary #fetishization

[daz4i]

how and why is there discourse about whether or not certain queer identities exist/if people should be allowed(???) to use them. why is "people know their own identity better than you ever could, and they're the only one who get a say on what they are" such a tough concept to grasp

i think if you find yourself offended by the label someone uses (especially if they're a stranger) or think it invalidates your own, it's a good idea to look inside yourself and question why that may be. more often than not, it's a result of insecurity or uncertainty of your own identity (or many other things, but i won't make a whole list here). whatever reason it is, until you resolve it, you shouldn't take it out on people for having an identity you don't understand

many have said it before but it's worth saying over and over. infighting only helps our oppressors. conservatives don't care if you're a cis gay or a xenogender aegosexual aplatonic lesbian, they hate all of us either way. trying to fit in by going for people who are easier targets for them isn't gonna help you, it'll just alienate you from your own community, and you're never gonna please them. the momentary rush you get from hearing you're not like "one of /those/ gay people" is not worth it and is gonna do more harm in the long run, i assure you

also, it is important to me to say this, but having some less than nice kneejerk reaction caused by confusion about an identity you don't understand doesn't mean you're a bad person or anything. as long as you aren't mean to that person, and you take a second to think smth along the lines of "wait a minute, this isn't any of my business" after having said reaction, you're good 👍 a lot of reflexive reactions we have to things are ingrained into us simply by. well. living in a society 🤡 and you're not terrible for having those thoughts. it's your actions that matter, and your second thought (the "wait, why did i just think that?") is more defining of your actual character and morals than your reflex. i know that having thoughts like this, even tho they're unwanted, can very easily make one spiral, so it's important to me that whoever needs to hear this knows this doesn't make you a bad person 🙏 you're good, keep taking actions to be good, accept other people even if you don't understand them, and you're on the right track :)

#i considered adding that last part in the tags but i figured it'll be too long for that 😭 #i noticed i'm posting a lot of rants lately. sorry. but i do wanna make sure no one's actually feeling bad over them #if i complain about something that you do or call it mean and such. that doesn't make you a bad person #you can always work to change and grow 👍 it's not easy but it starts with smaller steps than you'd expect #and now i just switched to a whole other topic from my original point. oops #i do firmly believe that any discourse about someone's identity is dumb as fuck #seeing it in poll blogs always makes me 😐😬 like how is it any business for any of us. why is this up for debate #if a person says they're queer then they are. they don't need to pass some test or go through initiation to be accepted #if they feel comfortable with a certain word that's awesome. why does it matter to *you* which word they use #'they're only using this microlabel to feel special' so? is there anything wrong with that? #'this label contradicts [insert other identity that falls under the same umbrella]' ok. but does that hurt anyone in any way #a lot of identities can even be self contradictory. does it matter tho? does it affect anyone in any way? #'they might realize that label is wrong later' again. what's the harm in that. #i don't blame anyone for these thoughts bc like. this is how cishets view a lot of the even more common labels #so you're basically taught to think this way from day one. that doesn't mean you need to stick to that thought process #you might have these reflexes forever no matter how hard you try. but you'll get quicker about moving on from them #but you do have to try. you do have to realize that other people's identities aren't about you #anyway. this post feels like batting at a hornets nest. really hope i don't get some bad faith readers here lol #(i noticed a lot of places one could apply bad faith but like it's 3:30 am i'm too tired to add this many disclaimer. #so i'm gonna trust you to not jump to conclusions and to approach this in good faith okay? mwah 🖤) #also my whole ramble abt morality (in the tags too) is relevant to. any topic really #i may just make a separate post about it really. .....tomorrow tho.

[allgremlinart]

where's that post thats like "dont ask for my snap contact me through rituals" its relevant to me rn

#getting flirted w by what I assume is a cishet man going 'whats ur snap 😎' is like KING... I dont think we're the right demographic for each #other... I haven't used snapchat once in my LIFE.... #I blame my work uniform this only ever happens in my work uniform. no hate to snapchat guy he's like the least egregious on the scale of me #flirting w me at work ((worst was guy who came up to me and mumbled 'does shawty have the fatty')) #shawty is gonna have to plead the 5th on that

[augerer]

ik it's like the ultimate losing game to give a shit about shipping poll drama but the dozen or so white people on that merthur vs. sns poll claiming reverse racism genuinely depress me like. okay i see i see you start losing a fandom poll after some comments of "don't let those white boys win" or whatever and begin suggesting the existence of an alternate world where some kind of systematic oppression against white people exists on tumblr that can be triggered to make them lose fandom polls. like the white fragility of it all being so hurt by the (indisputably accurate) claim that white men are afforded disproportionate attention in fandom spaces (not even getting into real life) that you start invoking "racism" in order to avoid ever thinking critically about your own privilege and interests in any way whatsoever....

#pet peeve here but presumably they wouldn't #see anything wrong with insulting some other ship as cishet too #like the ability to understand dynamics of oppression only when #you are the one being oppressed and not when you have #the capability to harm others like drives me wild #op

[illputdownmyrootswhenimdead]

someone: jkr is horrible-

me: yeah, i completely agree with you there

someone: -which is why you should stan uncle rick rick riordan instead :)

me:

#rick riordan critical #PLEASE take your head out of your ass #rick riordan is not as bad as jkr but posing his books as the ‘more diverse’ and acting like he’s a great awesome ally to minorities #is just. incredibly naive #piper with feathers! unhealthy age gaps in relationships! the only gay character (at that point) suffering constantly and then being outed- #in front of a complete stranger! incredibly shallow and often misogynistic portrayal female characters! general insensitivity and ignorance #of other cultures! a transphobic portrayal of a genderfluid person who gets called a slur by one of the GOOD characters! shallow and ableist #portrayal of adhd! ableism in saying his characters don’t have push because they’re ‘too strong’! no physically disabled characters! #his incredibly lesbophobic response to people saying reyna reads as gay to them! #this is literally just the tip of the iceberg #rr is NOT some woke intelligent savour he’s a grown ass man who doesn’t have people of the cultures/groups he’s writing about to check if #it’s harmful or incorrect or stereotypical!! #he’s a rich cishet white man with a victim complex when people call him out on his shit. #rr stans don’t interact with me i do not want to hear it #tbh the only reason why he’s ‘better’ than jkr is because he doesn’t have her level of influence #god. shudder. i don’t want to think about that #dove talks #hi it’s 4pm and im so angry. #will admit that anyone saying percy jackson would beat harry potter in a fight is 100% #like we can agree on that one.

[sofastuffing]

I'm not dead

#wip #work in progress #oc art #original character #digital art #realised while describing this that Neon's artist glove is on their left hand #oh well #I guess they're left handed now #charactions #their character arc revolves around trying to fill different roles for other people #they grew up having to be a model student cishet man under strict conservative parents #and after leaving that environment they immediately tried to fit themself into the role of a typical trans woman lesbian #and this drawing is around when they start breaking free of that and coming into their own identity #dying their hair. cutting a fringe. realising they're genderfluid and aro-ace #yknow. the usual. lmao #also the jacket is meant to be holographic/iridescent. i've only just started rendering this

[blueskittlesart]

Less of a question and more of a personal thank you! (Sorry if this is a confusing mess to read)

For about the past year I’ve really been into the idea of wearing more feminine clothing, it started out with soft pink clothes and such and I’ve even tried out some dresses while I was out but i was never confident enough to buy it for myself to wear around other.

That was until recently, when about a month or so ago a friend of mine introduced me to your artworks, specifically ur Prince Link and Knight Zelda stuff (11/10 stuff IMO). But through that I found your “Modern AU”(?) link and Zelda chillin out in modern clothes together, and seeing Link in skirts and dresses and non-traditional clothing was just like YES! Omg so much yes! And it was then that I realised that… I want to wear that.. i want to be comfortable enough to wear that. And thus starts my journey of self exploration and crushing my genders norms. I went out earlier in the week and bought myself a skirt! And oh god I love it! my friends have been super supportive of me and my family as well! (I’ve got this nice combo of a short skirt and a hoodie and I’m loving it!)

TL;DR: your artwork has helped me discover what it means to be comfortable in my own skin and with what I wear around that skin. thank you, honestly :)

Yours truely,

Some cis het loser dude ^-^

hi. wow. i don't know if i can quite express how much this means to me lmao. as someone who also just recently (within the past few years) started dressing the way they really wanted to i TOTALLY understand just how amazing a feeling it is and the idea that i might have helped kickstart that journey in someone else is. wow. lol. i dont usually think about like. my art in terms of IMPACT especially since i only ever draw link legendofzelda but this. makes me rlly happy lmao im so glad i helped you get here in some way!!! pls keep wearing skirts theyre literally the best article of clothing on this planet

#asks #I JUST WOKE UP.... THIS IS SO. AGH #also 'some cis het loser dude' do NOT say that!! cishet guys can and SHOULD be able to experiment with gender expression!! #not only are you becoming more comfortable with your own expression (which is always priority 1) but youre potentially making it safer for #other gnc people around you!! you're showing them that you are safe to be gnc around which is just as important!!!