#why the fuck did i pick this for a job

[batcavescolony]

I'm back talking about Harry Potter and Snape's worst memory because while I hate the author y'all bug me.

Snape worst memory isn't James bulling him or string him up in front of the school, (that was bad I'm not saying it wasn't) it was Lily ending her friendship with him because he called her a Mudblood. With evidence.

To prove my point we have to go read the Deathly Hallows when Snape gave Harry his memories! We get to see the scene again but this time the thing that sticks out the most is Snape calling Lily a Mudblood. Now if that's not enough proof the next memory goes like this.

*Outside Gryffindor Tower*

Snape: I'm sorry

Lily: I'm not interested

S: I'm sorry!

L: save your breath... I only came out here because Mary told me you were threatening to sleep here.

S: I was. I would have done. I never ment to call you a Mudblood it just-

L: Slipped out? It's too late. I've made excuses for you for years. None of my friends can understand why I even talk to you. You and your precious little Death Eater friends- you see, you don't even deny it! You don't even deny that's what you're all aiming to be! You can't wait to join You-Know-Who, can you? I can't pretend anymore. You've chosen your way, I've chosen mine.

S: No-listen, I didn't mean-

L:-to call me a Mudblood? But you call everyone of my birth Mudblood, Severus. Why should I be any different?

*Lily leaves. Memory ends*

The next memory is Snape becoming a turn coat for Dumbledore so he could keep Lily safe because Voldemort wouldn't spare her.

Snape has had worse experiences then a teenage James Potter being a bully (even if it was shitty). so we look at the rest of the memory and lo and behold what do we see? The actual worst moment of Snape life, the moment he lost Lily forever.

#I just saw someone say they hated Lily because he's was too hard on Severus all he did was call her a Mudblood. #Yeah just called her a slur...And found it funny when dark magic was used on someone. And joined a hate group that would kill her. #And would've let her child and husband die if it ment she lived. bffr 🙄 lets put this in real world terms! #you're a minority (pick one) and you go to a school but their are some people who hate you for existing. but its ok you've got your bff! #now years go by and bff is still your bff but theyve changed. they're hanging out with those aforementioned people who hate you for existin #and yeah you dont like it but they're your bff since for ever so you make excuses. but then bff starts calling people like you slurs... #now bff hasn't called you slurs so maybe its just peer pressure you let it slide its your bff. now you find out that not only are there #people who hate you for existing there is his hate group and they want you and people like you dead. obviously you dont like his. now bffs #friends they want to join this hate group... and bff doesn't deny it. ok thats not great. bffs friends who wanna join the hate group have #now moved passed just calling people like you slurs. they've went and beat the shit out of a person like you that you considered a friend. #and bff.... they say that it was just a joke. but are again not denying wanting to join the hate group that wants you dead. you love bff so #you just keep your mouth shut. now the day comes! bff has now called you a slur. and you cant make excuses anymore. they're just like their #friends and you cut your losses because again bff and their friends want to join a hate group that wants to kill you!!! #its not poor litte Severus its poor Lily. she thought she had a friend and HE betrayed HER! but but but why didnt she stop him from joining #she was a child! she was in a new world with no idea! she was in a whole nother house! and its not her fucking job to fix him! he joined th #hate group HE KNEW HATED HER! if he truly loved her he wouldn't have joined. but but but its not that- ADROMADA TONKS could be a Slytherin #and not be a Death Eater and her family was pure blood. she could do it! so could Snape. #severus snape #lily potter #snapes worst memory #the marauders #harry potter #the deathly hallows #lily evans #put some more respected on her name. #fuck jkr #james potter #slytherin #how can you be a snape stan and not like lily that 80% of his personality. #snape

[monstermonstre]

i just think it should be illegal for companies to test your brand loyalty before hiring you

i should not have to give a presentation on how i think the company is the greatest ever created and how i would die riding its dick just to get a soulless minimum wage job

#it's so fucking demeaning #“why did you pick our company specifically?” because you were hiring and i desperately need a job next question

[brekkie-e]

Quick something I tinkered with while watching tv with the fam the other day. Trying to find a design I like for Briala that's a little more book inspired, but sadly the book was sparse in it's character descriptions. Not happy with this one but all the same, you can pry Briala with big beautiful brown eyes out of my cold dead hands.

#briala #the masked empire #dragon age #dai #dragon age inquisition #dragon age dreadwolf #digital art #art #my art #elf #im literally so obsessed with this woman #she has a chokehold on my heart right now #want to throttle whoever wrote the winter palace in the game because they did not do her justice whatsoever #omg celene and briala had a falling out #the happy ending version of the mission is reuniting the lesbians #get fucked #that is not what i call a falling out #also they did not do a good enough job of selling why she would be useful to pick as your end game power #but anyways im rambling #behold a shitty doodle of my wife #brekkie art

[snailmailmp3]

it's so fucking over for me lol 🙃🙃🙃

#why did i pick this stupid fucking major that im bad at and won't get me a job #why did i decide to take a class that meets for 2 hours on friday mornings with a professor i dont even LIKE #i need to call my mom and tell her my life is falling apart #but i can't bc i have to give an interview for a DIFFERENT class im behind in #txt

[jvzebel-x]

🦋

#just binged through buddy daddies (i love that name. literally could not have picked a better name.) #&it made me cry lmao sometimes it hits me that ill never have kids&its like. #i told my mom once that i shouldnt have kids bc the world didnt need another me in it #&she screamed at me for an hour then didnt talk to me for a day bc it was insulting to her as my mother to say that. #&i look back on that basically every time i think about never having kids&its like. #the universe agreed w me mom lmao i guess you did a shit job raising me after all. #im being so dramatic. #im v sad that ill never have a child-- adopted or not. lmao. #i hate the dark. i hate the fucking cold lmao. im so ready for the world to be sunny again. #... buddy daddies was a dope show tho lmao highly recommended for sappy found family vibes. protect rei at all costs. #... this ultra sporadic thought process shit is why i cant hold a fuckin convo lmao.

[stupid-lemon-eater]

hello i am getting two of my wisdom teeth removed today and i’m trying not to shit bricks and am failing miserably

#my life #last time i got teeth removed the anaesthetic wore off halfway through #i was 12 #it was unsurprisingly Traumatic #and the dentist who's gonna do it is Not My Usual Dentist #and when i tried to explain to him how much i don't wanna live through that again #he was like 'we don't want you to feel pain bc that'll make my job harder so we'll keep reapplying the anaesthetic as needed' #FUNNILY ENOUGH #NOT VERY REASSURING #why the FUCK did i pick a 4.15pm appointment what the fuck is wrong with me #also lying on the floor and staring at the ceiling while very nice by seventeen plays is surprisingly enjoyable

[orcelito]

Also the fact that it's 4/20. The holiday I "observe" (typically by making jokes) despite not being a weed smoker. And I spent all of today filled with dread, actively miserable, actively distraught, and then vaguely dissatisfied/depressed

😊✌😋 happy 4/20 to a certain dead bastard in particular

#speculation nation #negative/ #ok geeze ive made enough allusions to it and i kinda want ppl to know exactly why i got so freaked out by it today #uhm. preemptive trigger tag. it's relevant. #suicide ment/ #anyways an employee's step dad killed himself with a gun in front of her late last night. like literally right next to her apparently. #and the other employee was on the phone as it happened & saw the scene after the fact when she picked up the first employee #they were both so distraught & obviously traumatized. scared of losing their jobs if they didnt come to work #but we told them not to worry about it. we'd find a way to cover for them. it'll be fine. #and i hold true to that. no way im forcing them to work after dealing with that. #privately though im distraught with sympathy for these poor girls. it hurt my heart so much to hear them talk about it #and then there's the entire topic of suicide. the image in my head. the empathy for what these girls went through #the first girl. shes only 17. she apparently hated this man. and it's no wonder why. #im filled with so much anger for what he did to her. killing himself would be traumatizing regardless #but to do it RIGHT IN FRONT OF HER? to the point where she apparently had burns from the gunfire????? #im angry. im livid. these are my girls and they went through something no one ever should have to. so young too... #and. yeah that's why im so fucked up right now #the general stress of my life is not helping lol

[silversupremacy]

Not doing well rn waaaa

#I need to stop watching youtube videos that talk abt social issues #because they jsut make me so fucking mad and desperate #Not mad at the video. mad at existing. #I say to people 'I worked a job that was depressing because all I did was sleep and work every day' and they tell me its just life #I say 'I worked for four weeks flat as much as they would let me and hardly made anything." and they tell me its just life #I say 'I cannot imagine a future where I don't have to pick between food and rent.' and they tell me its just life #and then I say 'What worth is this life then? Why continue living it?' and they say 'Something's wrong with you #What fucking help. What safety net is there for me? #What jobs can i even work now that pay enough for you to live? #I just feel so overwhelmed constantly #maow #text #suicide tw #suicide mention tw

[toontownportraits]

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#was listening to cyber battle and i was like. hm i should draw someone dancing #so obviously i chose 80's brett bc i cant draw scc 💔 #take a big fucking guess who the boombox was inspired by #i know they're a cd player but wat the fuck ever -_- #the bagel draws #fanart #inside job #inside job netflix #inside job fanart #brett hand #the brettfast club #brett i love you but you are SO hard to draw #had to take a million screenshots of the brettfast club so i could accurately color pick him #at the last minute i remembered the little b on his jacket #flat color cause i dont feel like shading today 💔 sorry folks #i was initially listening to drama josh's version bc i love songs w/ lyrics so it's linked in the caption ✨ #the actual song begins at 0:41 and the beginning is some dialogue pre battle teehee #this is like. the first time i've drawn brett and had the finished drawing #look good tbh #why did tumblr do that to the tag. #anyways whatever see brett NOW *casts spell of him on your fucking dash*

[pepprs]

kind of amazing that i get down on myself for having impostor syndrome and feeling constantly stupid and naive and radiating insecurity about being young all the time when actually there is a completely explainable reason for it which is that i live in this house 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

#groaning and laughing over liz memes with my siblings and explaining to my parents why ppl are doing this / why ppl hate her and #are celebrating her death and they start attacking me for relaying the information (and agreeing with it ♥️) and saying shit like This #Generation has no respect and are so cruel and classless and always pick at problems for no reason and make unfounded baseless claims when I #was literally reading them evidence of the awful things that happened under her reign and they were going i don’t believe that. LMFAO! ok. #and the generational disdain has been such an issue too. like our parents straight up think we are stupid! love and light 💖 #purrs #one of the worst fights i ever had with my mom that was the reason i started going to counseling happened bc of how jason mraz announced #that he was two-spirit and i was talking to my mom about it and said that he shouldn’t have called himself that bc he&: white and she BLEW #UP at me for like 3 days straight for trying to be ‘labelist’ about him and for caring about sexuality and ‘policing’ his / her language and #she literally went out of her way to pick a fight with someone on ig who was saying the thing i was to prove a point to me and she said othe #other extremely hurtful things about me being bi and about me having the audacity to ‘root for the underdog’ and how she was going to cut me #out of her life just like she did with her aunt because i push her buttons too much so ♥️ always very fun to get into debates with my parent #and i know it goes against literally everything i am supposed to know / be for me to be arguing like this and to be complaining about it and #even joking about queen elizabeth but like. idk. i feel so torn between how i feel. i know she was a human being yeah yeah but she was #also a colonialist monarch parasite and i genuinely think the way tumblr explodes when politicians and world leaders die is endearing and #exciting and funny. i adore my job and my colleagues and also working full time is killing me. i recognize that my parents are human beings #and that i am flawed and don’t know everything and am saying stuff without fully knowing what it means and also it makes me giddy to pick #fights with them a little bit. i am kind of a bad person i think and i care about it so much but also i don’t give a fuck anymore. nothing #in my life feels real rn and i am a scared creature in my skin all the time. so no i don’t feel like i can hold my own and represent my work #well because i am living a double life just wanting to play video games all the time and run away from everything but also wanting to create #the golden thing and help people open the door to a better world or whatever and i can’t tell wha ti want to do more because im fucking #EXHAUSTED and experiencing 15 kinds of despair at all times lol! #not to turn a post about queen elizabeth into a vent lmfao but i am so angry. it really fucking gets me that they think im stupid lol. like #i know im stupid for other reasons but it’s not fair to think im stupid because i am pointing out inequities and trying to help you learn or #whatever and it’s not fair that you think that im stupid because im a young person like im literally your fucking daughter and it is made st #STAGGERINGLY clear to me every day how you only wanted babies and you didn’t want us as the messy growing learning imperfectncomplicated #adults we are becoming and it fucking hurts and i hate you for it a little bit. lol 🤸🏻‍♀️ #delete later #idk what i even just typed i an just hitting post and letting the consequences roll in. im a bad person fuck it! #parents tw

[sebastard69]

Beating the shit out of Zenos in stilettos was the best choice I made in NG+ tbh

#also i did it as a reaper which was REALLY fun and kind of poetic #cuz of the whole point of the reaper job in the first place the whole lore #so it's fun juxtaposing zenos who is garlean and is a reaper for the wrong reasons with ambrose who is not and is a reaper for the #right reason and all that #idk maybe that makes no sense #i basically did all of Endwalker NG+ as reaper and it felt great #lore wise though it fucks me up because like i didn't pick reaper up until after the Garlemald arc my first run through #so why did ambrose decide to pick it up #was it something leftover from when zenos body snatched him? #oof #ffxiv #ffxiv spoilers #endwalker spoilers

[yourbleedingh3art]

Today at jets pizza i walked in with a nicotine migraine half-high as hell and saw somebody trans w two eyebrow piercings working and they froze in their tracks when they saw me and said Sorry I love your hair i was like I love ur eyebrow piercingss and then they kept staring which was too much for my high brain so i got kinda uncomfortable but they apologized again and i ws like it's ok (in my head:Punk recognize punk. gender bender recognize gender bender.) THEN THEY LITERALLY TOOK OFF THE NECKLACE THEY WERE WEARING. SAID THIS IS THE SKIN OF MY SNAkE????/ AND GAVE THE NECKLACE TO MEMEMEEM!!!!!! I ACtually wass lke holy shit i will treasure this actually seriosuly. like u chose the right one cuz i will fucking think thi s is so cool for so long and i was w my family and the second we left the jets they started making transphobic comments (I was like Whelp guess we arent gonna be having the Im Not cis conversation any time soon) Anyway bruh i think their name was Lex / Lux and im wearing the necklace rn it's quite cool it's like embroidery thread but woven w beads w this resin circle at the end where a pendant would be and the snakeskin is in the resin circle (One thing about me is i actually love snake skin and have been talking about it so much. and The other night i literally said I FELT LIKE I WAS MOLTING. ) Skin like a snake.

Yeah that experience was beyond cool not gonna lie i have this fantasy that they immediately recognized i was non binary and thats why they reached out so intimately so quickly Like we literally hugged (I hate hugging strangers esp strangers from jets pizza no offense but who knows what grease Is on that shirt.) But they asked are u a hugger i said fuck it sure Bc like u r cool as fuck like u r cool as fuck. What goes around comes around.I visited KK in the hospital today and gave her this selenite wand ive owned for years, meditated with countless times tripping lsd, used to wave over my friends in louisville/lexington to "cleanse" them and used before countless tarot card readings to prepare, i really cherished this selenite bc selenite is a beautiful crystal to me, but bc of her state of mind idk how much she really cared about the selenite i really really relly hope it didnt seem like i just gave her a fucking rock that shes literally gonna throw away or something bc i didnt even plan fully to give up the selenite i just wanted to bring it with me to the hospital but when i saw her there i was like i just want to show her some love and selenite is the best crydtal id want to have w me in this situation and ive cherished this specific selenite its genuinely been cherished so Here take it Soak up its love and she lowkeyyyy just Put a finger to her lips and shushed me and i was like *Nod* Ok well bye! I thought maybe i made a mistake or something but when this person at jets Also gave me a gift that they themselves had owned/used personally for awhile i was like ITS A CYCLE. WHAT GOES AROUND COMES AROUND.

This is actually the second time a random stranger ive interacted with has given me a necklace based gift the first one was a crystal wrapped in pink twine that my first piercer ever gave to me at the end of my septum piercing. Idk why im so blessed and lucky to have these things happen to me but i truly believe it's bc certain people in this world can see/sense your souls and values sometimes just by reading ur energy/having an intuition about you bc of how you present yourself and how you speak to people. And i just feel like wow that interaction was profound actually

#Blog post #this today and the fucking mfs on the golf course shooting at geese and i said STOP !? WHY ARE U DOING THT? STOP FUCKING WITH THE DUCKS? #And then literally the sun left the sky and thunder and wind started as soon as they drove off in their golf carts #Hospital visit. rooftop garden picking up trash Atv rides and mining for gemstones in la grange. dont spit when you talk. Trees and flowers #On hold for 7 minutes with oregon youthline Lying and saying my name was Joe #Waking up and checking the time it was 4:44 am #Big bertha #My cousin saying jesus saved us from a lot bc Jesus is on the dashboard #My aunt being happy i found god again #My aunt setting off the smoke shop alarms and getting an lmpd alert posted about her #were u here the whole time? *nods* Did u know we were here? *nods* And u didnt come down and say hi? *.... Nods #Sorry beth #Everybody drunk and eating pizza and sad #People prbably sleeping in my basement rn #Sending a goodnight text and saying fuck you fuck yopu fuck you fcuk you Rolling over going to bed #My dad and i fighting #Car stuff being stalled. job stuff being stalled. Will text lisa tmrw. #blog post #Sitting on the stairs of the porch watching the birds smoking a camel blue

[disturbedheart]

I love having been absolutely traumatized because then I talk to others about how my manager treated me and they're like oh yeah no I'd have definitely cried if I were you because she could have worded it much better and I was kinda hurt about it but was like okay I guess?? That's fine 😭

#and I had a good conversation with my manager at lunch....then I have the worst most... #awkward terrible encounter with her while cleaning the breakroom and its like really? #everytime I feel good its ruined a second later and she keeps talking to me like I'm a child.. #or??? idfk but it feels condescending everytime she's like did you clean the bathroom?? did you clean the bathroom?? #lets make sure we're doing that. like first of all bitch. I clean the bathrooms Saturday. #second of all she NEVER means clean. she means stock. which are 2 fucking different things #I set 3 rolls of toilet paper and refilled the soap Saturday. and by Thursday it was all gone again?? #and she was acting like I just? neglected it? on purpose? and she KNOWS where the supplies is?? #like you fucking stock the bathroom if YOU'RE The one who noticed and used it?? #nowhere in my job description does it say I'D be the one stocking the bathrooms constantly #like we're all adults why are we running to ME when toilet paper is missing #if you KNOW WHERE IT FUCKING IS??? #I ended up adding jt to the weekly list because its just. not on there. and its different from clean the bathroom. #and also DUMB BITCH I WAS GONE FOR 2 DAYS??? IF WE RAN LOW WHY DID YOU SOMEHOW EXPECT ME TO KNOW????? IF I WAS ?? NOT THERE?? OMG #I wanted to kill someone #you're gonna talk to me like I'm a dumb forgetful child...then treat me like your mom/maid?? #ive never seem GROWN ADULTS make more of a MESS of a room too #that breakroom gets absolutely FILTHY in 2-3 days after cleaning it #since NO ONE had the common courtesy to just pick up even SLIGHTLY after themselves 😭😭 #like why is it lowkey the kennel tech who has to be a janitor a handy man and also a kennel tech

[chucklechampion]

ah heem heem......

#literally my boss called me into her office and was like 'if you have anything to say tell me now' #'if we start the investigation and find anything we have to fire you' #and i was like 'you know me. you know that i have never taken anything and never paid for it.' #ive taken stuff and paid for it later that day or the next day #but NEVER?? no #i love this stupid job why would i steal from it #and in her defense she did say that there was no bad blood and we were okay #but like that means that if she sees something weird its like 'nothing personal youre fired' #i literally know she WONT fiind anything weird. thats the point. i didnt do anything #but it makes me feel suspicious and that me saying i didnt do anything is an admission of uilt #guilt #aand the more upset and nervous i get the less believable i seem #which makes me MORE UPSET AND NERVOUS #and i told a coworker about it and they really were acting like i did it #like BITCH IVE KNOWN YOU FOR YEARS YOU THINK I DID IT??? #have i stolen before?? did i used to steal all the time and just dont remember??? #what if i took something once and was like 'yeah i'll pay for it later tonight' and forgot and now its gonna cost me my job #because heres the thing #that VERY WELL couldve happened #my adhd is a fucking bad i very well couldve done that #she picked the perfect time to accuse me of this to retaliate too #last month we lost a lot of money at our snack market #which indicates a lot of theft #and i live here so it'd be easy for me to do #that doesnt mean i did it tho #god this is so upsetting #and this is gonna be a no news is good news situation bc i dont imagine they'll call me in and be like #'we went over months of footage and you have been found NOT guilty! :D' #like no if they dont find anything they'll just never bring it up again #but like that means im gonna be waiting for the other shoe to drop for the rest of the time im working here

[poibynt]

Shout out to my step mom for having the ability to create some of the most nonsensically insane fucking heated rebuttals about the smallest of my observations that I can’t clap back over bc she’ll go crazy if I dared that leave me up at night crafting the perfect rebuttals for 6 whole ass months later bc it was that wild and unfounded like

#I need to evict her from my brain but my GOD I wish I stood up for myself to get her to stop loudly condescending to me about #how she’s suffered worse then all gay people ever bc her affair with her boss was made public and it cost her her job #or how im not allowed to make outsiders commentary on her country FRAMED as an outsiders simple observations bc it’s insulting but she can #do the same and she’s always correct #I need to cut myself off bc I have had years of WILD claims thrown at me and I will just keep going and again eviction time please #personal #shut up Flynn #wishing my dad a very why the fuck did you pick this one and then inflict her on me the rest of your natural life #is getting yelled at fun for you??? is having the mother of your 5 year old scream and abandon her kid for a whole day while we were #traveling together while he didn’t know what the fuck he had done wrong bc she had an argument with you that morning and was taking it out #on her child for a full 8 hours while on vacation fun? was having a screaming match in the car with her while he begged you to stop yelling #at eachother fun?? you get your rocks off to this? #EVICTING HER FROM MY BRAIN NOW SHUTTING UP NOW #not sw

[star-ocean-peahen]

After watching Cinderella (the original animated movie, which was my favorite as a child), it strikes me how it solves many common problems people have with this fairy tale. Like:

Why did they try to identify the mystery girl using her shoe size? Because the bullheaded king's only clue to her identity was the shoe the Grand Duke picked up off the steps.

Why didn't the prince recognize her by her face? Because his father wouldn't involve him in the process at all, and wasn't the one going around trying to find her.

Why did the prince want to marry a lady he only met that night? Because his father was going to force him to marry someone, and he genuinely liked this woman.

Why did Cinderella want to marry a man she only met that night? Because marriage was her best and most secure way to freedom. Fucked up, but you can't say it's unrealistic for the setting of a fairy tale. She also genuinely liked him.

If they're using the slipper to find her, wouldn't it be more sensible to search for the person with the other slipper? Yes. The King is purposefully nonsensical and the Duke is purposefully terrified enough of him to carry out his orders to the letter. Furthermore, they end up doing that in the end anyway, because the Duke's glass slipper is shattered, and Cinderella brings out the one she has to prove her identity.

Why didn't the stepmother and stepsisters recognize Cinderella at the ball? Because they were dancing too far away, and then left the party to dance in private, which was possible because the King wanted very badly for his son to hit it off with someone and tried to arrange the best conditions for that to happen.

Why didn't Cinderella save herself? Because in real life, abuse victims should not have to shoulder that responsibility, and usually can't. In real life, you need and deserve an external support system. Asking for help, in this kind of situation, is very important. She is saved by others because she is loved. Because she is not alone. Because she has friends who love her, and want her to be happy and safe and free. Because in real life, people who want to help someone who is suffering are like the mice. We can't pull out miracle solutions, but we can provide companionship and if we're in the right place at the right time, we can help the person find a better life.

Why didn't the fairy godmother save Cinderella from her abusive household, or try to help her sooner? Because she's magic, and magic can't solve your problems. Quote: "Like all dreams, well, I'm afraid it can't last forever." This (and Cinderella's dream of going to the ball) is a metaphor for pleasurable things in bad circumstances. An ice cream won't get rid of your depression, but it will provide you with momentary happiness to bolster you, as well as the reminder that happiness in general is still possible for you. Cinderella doesn't want to go to the ball so she can get away from her stepmother and stepsisters, or so she can meet someone to marry and leave with. She wants to go to the ball to remind herself that she can still have things she wants. That her desires matter. This is important because the movie does a very good job of illustrating Lady Tremaine's subtle abuse tactics, all of which invisibly press the message that Cinderella doesn't matter. While going to the ball and fulfilling her dreams may not be a victory in the material sense, it is still a victory against Lady Tremaine's efforts.

Why is Cinderella's choice to be kind and obedient framed as a good thing, when you are not obligated to be kind to your abuser? This one walks a very fine line, but I think the movie still makes it make sense. Lady Tremaine never acknowledges her cruelty. She always frames her punishments of Cinderella as Cinderella's fault. Cinderella is interrupting, Cinderella is shirking her duties, Cinderella is playing vicious practical jokes. Cinderella is still a member of the family, of course she can go to the ball, provided she meet these impossible conditions. Lady Tremaine's tactics are designed to make Cinderella feel like she must always be in the wrong and her stepmother must always be in the right. If Cinderella calls her stepmother out on her cruelty, or attempts to fight back, Lady Tremaine can frame that as Cinderella being ungrateful, cruel, broken, evil, etc. If Cinderella responds to her stepmother's cruelty defiantly (in the way she's justified to), she's not taking control out of Lady Tremaine's hands. Disobedience can be spun back into her stepmother's control. She wants Cinderella to be angry and sad and show how much she's hurting. So since Cinderella is adapting to her situation, she chooses to be kind. Not only because she naturally wants to be and it's part of her personality, but because it is a form of defiance in its own way, and it allows her to keep a reminder of her agency and value. Her choice to be kind is her chance to keep her own narrative alive: she is not obeying because her stepmother wants her to and she has to do what her stepmother does, but because she wants to. It's a small distinction, but one that makes all the difference in terms of keeping her hope and identity. (Fuck, I wrote a whole paragraph about how this doesn't mean you can't be angry at people who hurt you or that you need to be kind to deserve help, and then deleted it by accident. Uh. Try again.) Expressing anger and pain is an important part of regaining autonomy and healing. Although it is commendable to be kind while you are suffering, it is NOT required for you to get help or be worthy of help. If Cinderella's recovery was explored beyond "happily ever after" she would need to let herself be angry and sad to heal. Cinderella is not only kind because it comes naturally to her, but because it's her defense against the abuse she's suffering. Everyone's story and experiences are different, and one does not invalidate the other.

Bonus round for answers that aren't part of the movie:

Why didn't Cinderella run away? Where would she go? Genuinely, in hundreds-of-years-ago France, where would she go if she snuck out of the window with a change of clothes? With her step-family, she's miserable and abused, but she's fed, clothed, and in no danger of dying or being taken advantage of by anyone other than her stepmother and stepsisters. Even if she escapes and manages to find financial security, her stepmother might be able to find her and get her back.

Why didn't Cinderella burn the house down with them inside it/slit their throats in the night/poison their food/etc.? Because that's a revenge fantasy, and this story is a fantasy about being saved. There's nothing wrong with making Cinderella into a revenge fantasy. That's perfectly fine, as long as you acknowledge that the other type of fantasy is also a valid interpretation. (I mean, the original fairy tale features the stepsisters getting their feet mutilated and all three of them getting their eyes pecked out, so go for it.)

Why isn't Cinderella more proactive in general? Because she's a child who has been abused for the back half of her life, who has had to be focused on survival because. you know. she's an abused kid.

How did she dance in glass slippers? Gotta agree with you there man, that's weird.

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