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#why am i putting so much of my Identity into my mbti
mbti-notes · 2 months
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Anon wrote: Hello mbti-notes, 28F ENFP here. I have written to you a few times, one of them about my relationship with my 27M INTJ boyfriend and the other about my childhood trauma regarding my ENTJ mother and how it was keeping me from pursuing my art career.
I have been on the road of Fi development and lately I have started to develop Te. Some major life events happened since the last time I wrote to you; I had gotten diagnosed with ADHD after suspecting having it for years; then, my younger cousins got diagnosed with level one autism (Formerly known as Aspergers), and after my mother conversed with their mothers, we reached the conclusion I and other members of the family are also autistic and ADHD, since I displayed symptoms of both as a child.
With this new knowledge, I have been making all the changes necessary to accommodate myself and do the best I can and pull my own weight. I am almost finishing University, and my boyfriend (he’s pretty much my husband at this point) started his doctorate and is now an art teacher at our local arts University. (those issues I had written to you prior were resolved and we have been very happy together and supportive of each other since).
I have been slowly tearing down my perfectionistic tendencies; I am no longer unhappy about my work or extremely self-critic to the point I put myself down. I have gained confidence and trust in myself and handling problems, crafting solutions, planning (even if short-term) and improvising. I have been re-enganging my Ne in a healthy manner, focusing on my projects and progress instead of being scattered and wanting to do everything and anything.
Despite that, and all the growth I have done already, I feel that I have an unsurnamable mountain of obstacles to pass through. Over the last year, I have realized just how little my ISTP, probably autistic and bipolar father and ENTJ, probably ADHD mother completely failed to prepare me for life. I was emotionally neglected, made a scapegoat for their problems, made to pick up after myself because of my autism and ADHD being seen as failures of character instead of disabilities.
They saw I was intelligent, and rationalized it as “not needing help”; then, when my problems with executive disfunction and organization started flaring up due to their neglect, they yelled and blamed it on me, worsening the situation. I grew up with no understanding of boundaries; I wasn’t allowed to advocate for myself and everytime I tried I was yelled at; I wasn’t allowed to discover myself and my identity properly so I clinged to my special interests like a moth to a flame; I was shamed for my way of functioning and that impeded me of developing proper knowledge of myself and what I needed.
I now notice my social differences, my trouble dealing with and regulating emotions (and why I put off dealing with them), and my lack of social skills and differentiating levels of relationships. I feel angry that the time I needed to be using to deal with these issues, during adolescence and early adulthood, was taken away by autistic burnout, depression, and dealing with a disfunctional family who had no idea how to care for me and never tried to, and spent pursuing bad relationships, hyperfixations and changing interests, all the while not being able to put effort into what I really wanted because of the shame and judgement they placed on me.
I have been trying my best to pick up the slack, but it’s hard. I can see now how I was unjustly punished for my differences my whole life. I finally understand now why people get upset with me with things like being unable to regulate tone or asking clarifying questions (when I’m just trying to understand them).
I have accepted myself; I know my difficultities now and I know what I have to do to regulate myself, but I still can’t stop feeling angry at this injustice. I do my best to be proactive and helpful in the communities I join and make friends, but people will turn on me the moment I do something impulsive like vent to chat about my parents doing something rude to me that day (which happens regularly). The bridges I put effort into building get destroyed in minutes, and I feel like all my progress is undone.
Family is a tricky issue for people, I get it. There are different times and places to say things, I get it. But It still happens. I know the way to fix it would be to leave, but due to the housing crisis, inflation and my expenses of trying to finish my degree, I can’t move out of this place and still currently live with them. Rent is unnafordable, my boyfriend is going through his degree and busy, and I’m already at capacity fully comitting myself to art and doing the best job I can with chores and house stuff.
I know my parents have issues and I try my best do understand and be empathethic, but they aren't doing anything to get better or to resolve them. My dad is on disability and unemployment aid right now, he does minimal chores and watches TV and sleeps all day. My mother is a pre-school teacher and constantly overworks herself because that's how she learned to get through life.
A few months ago, my mom almost ended her marriage because in her words, she developed a "platonic crush" for another man. It was a huge fight, and one they tried to drag me into. When they're not having outright fights, they act lovey-dovey; but they soon have another nasty fight, and the cycle goes on.
My dad is extremely misoginistic, judgemental, and cynical. Everytime he tries to engage me in conversation, I act uniteresting so he leaves me alone. I am uncapable of building a relationship with them after all they did to me.
I just can’t stop feeling I got dealt a sh*tty hand in life and there is nothing I can do about it. I realize this is Si grip talking, but this enviroment completely kills all my optimist, motivation and will to move foward in life, and I’ve been doing this dance for way too long and just want it to end once and for all so I can keep progressing. I know I’ve already come a long way, but I can’t stop feeling it still isn’t enough, and I’m afraid that feeling won’t ever go away. So I turn to you for guidance on what to do.
Currently I am sitting on a few unfinished projects (a comic and animation) that will be my portfolio só I can start working while I finish my degree. My parents are paying for the remainder of it (honestly, the least they could do after the horrible lifetime they gave me) but I plan to start paying for it myself as soon as I get some work. I guess what I'm trying to get at is that I'm doing everything to try and make things better, but I feel like they never will, and I don't know how to deal with that.
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Whenever people tell me about how they're making progress, even trying to develop lower functions, but also suffering from inferior grip, the alarm bells go off in my head, because it usually indicates some form of troublesome denial. In terms of type development, inferior grip is one of the most serious signs that something is not right psychologically.
I never want to poopoo on people's efforts to improve. I definitely believe that you've been putting forth your best efforts. However, if the outcome is inferior grip, it means there's a problem with your approach or method.
The way that you're stuck in blaming your parents for your misfortunes is not just a sign of Si grip, but also Te loop. If you're suffering from Te loop, it means Fi development hasn't progressed to the point where you are ready for Te development. Being a lower function, trying to develop Te when you're not ready is only going to exacerbate Te loop and eventually lead you into Si grip.
I won't deny that the people around you every day have a big influence over you. As a Feeler, their moods can easily affect yours. When that happens, the best thing to do is to draw up boundaries, to try to shield yourself from those negative influences as much as possible. However, what you've done is the opposite.
You've been drawn into the negative influence through blaming them, fighting back (mentally), judging them for their flaws, indulging pointless "what if" scenarios about your past, etc. In short, you have been swallowed up by the negativity partly because you didn't do enough to protect yourself from it. This is related to Fi development because Fi should inform you about what is needed for self-protection.
Now, since you find yourself in a hopeless place and can't accept the feelings of helplessness, the recourse is Te loop. You wish to actively "correct" everything that you perceive is "wrong". However, this is a futile endeavor. Why? Because those things are not for you to correct. You have overstepped/violated boundaries by wanting to solve problems that aren't your responsibility. This only serves to entangle you in them.
You mom and dad's flaws, your mom and dad's relationship, are none of your business, but you are all up in there. Even if they try to involve you, as an adult, you have the power to refuse. Because you care about them, it's hard for you to refuse, but refuse you must. That's what it means to draw healthy boundaries.
Yes, it's tragic to have been deprived as a child. One thing you realize more and more deeply as you get older (especially if you have children of your own) is that parents are human, their knowledge is limited, and people can only do the best they can based on what they know. Many, many people are ignorant about psychological issues because they have had no opportunity to learn about them. What's worse, sometimes what they have learned is misinformation or outdated information based on what was being taught when they were growing up.
I say this not to excuse the bad things that parents do, but to foster empathy for the fact that people can't do better when they don't know better. You are the same. You didn't think to change your behavior or didn't know how to do it in the right way until you learned about ADHD. You live, you learn.
Empathy for others starts with empathy for oneself. Instead of pitying yourself or being angry about your past, healthy Fi should prompt you to express empathy for your struggles today. There aren't enough signs that you possess this depth of empathy, which indicates Fi development has a long way to go yet. It's hard to feel empathy when you're in the thick of negativity, but that's the time when it's most important to practice it.
An important part of having empathy for yourself, aka self-compassion, is allowing yourself to move at a realistic pace in life, a pace that takes your challenges into fair consideration, rather than always trying to live up to unreasonable ideals. Feeling "not good enough" and being afraid of that feeling never going away is directly related to Fi development and lack of self-acceptance. You must accept the truth of yourself and the facts of your situation before you can move forward in a meaningful way.
Also, if you find yourself speaking inappropriately or not giving enough consideration to social context when your feelings get too big, it means you haven't done enough to set up a good social support system and create more appropriate opportunities to explore your personal issues. Expecting parents or colleagues to give you support that they are not capable of giving is basically wasting energy barking up the wrong tree. In other words, don't look for love in all the wrong places. This is related to Fi development in terms of doing what it takes to care well for your well-being.
You are well into adulthood. At some point, it has to be fully your responsibility to craft the life you want. By continuing to blame your parents for not living up to your ideals, you are the one keeping yourself tied to past unhappiness, rather than moving forward. It is a choice you make.
I always say that forgiveness isn't about other people. Forgiveness is something you do for yourself. It's not good for you to live in a state of resentment, anger, or hate. It's not good to keep revisiting and rehashing such emotions on an endless loop. Therefore, you have to learn to forgive the mistakes of the past so that you can have the emotional stability necessary to focus on improving your life today and into the future.
Forgiving your parents for being the imperfect human beings that they are is difficult but necessary, not for their sake, but for yours. You can set yourself free from the past at any time through learning how to be more accepting, empathetic, and forgiving, which is very much tied to Fi development. This would be a healthy way of lifting yourself out of Si grip and mending your mental health.
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misa-ndry · 1 year
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what do u mean. dont believe in personality disorders. id like to hear more about that viewpoint
several personality disorders, specifically bpd which I have the most knowledge about (lmao) is just modern day hysteria for women. oh you went thru some bad shit and now ur angry as fuck? bpd. ur emotional? bpd. u struggle w interpersonal relationships?bpd.
speaking as a person who was seriously fucked in the head previously, putting a diagnosis on it was completely unnecessary. the only REASON it was 'necessary' was because it was the only way to validate how I felt; I wasnt just a shit person who was shit at life, there was something ~wrong~ with me. but what was actually wrong with me was men, oppression, white people, poverty. of course im gonna be angry and sad and find relationships difficult when every1 is sexist and racist.
"lack of sense of identity" bruh I was a fucking teenager ofc I dont know who I am, besides, this may also be explained by capitalism. all the symptoms are fucking bullshit. if anything bpd could be put under the ptsd umbrella, but honestly like. we dont need to be pathologizing this much !!!!! it isnt weird to feel like shit when life is shit! mental illness is supposed to be; you've got abnormal psychology. as in it doesnt make sense for u to feel this way, such as if ur hallucinating without taking shrooms well that doesnt make sense and u should prolly get that looked at. but fucking. the bpd symptoms thats just. being a fucking human. *dont misunderstand bcz of phrasing lol psychotic ppl are human too
personality disorders are honestly just the same as horoscope, mbti, enneagram. no wonder it was treated that way on Tumblr. why tf do we need to get diagnosed w something that can cause trouble down the road in regards to employment etc. to get help? obviously if ur struggling so much that u get diagnosed w a personality disorder then u need help but I just think ppl should be receiving that help without having to get branded a hysteric. I think it also further alienates us from ourselves, to think that "me obsessing over someone is a mental disorder thing, me being rlly sad is a mental disorder thing". like no, I was a sad angry teen and now im a slightly anxious adult. I am my actions, my thoughts, my values, I am what im bad at and what im good at, I am all of me !!!!
I know I mostly talked about myself but I could write similarly about friends w personality disorders too I just feel like itd be bad to talk about their personal shit but basically, all the ppl I know with bpd dont rlly need their diagnosis, and not because they havent gone thru shit and havent been struggling, but because its a bullshit fucking disorder whos existence is misogyny. women gets diagnosed w it way more than men because when a man is angry thats just normal. when a man is promiscuous thats fine and dandy. even if a woman is self harming thru sex like, ofc women have fucked up relationships to their sexuality like have you LIVED in this world for a day?? *asking piece of shit psychiatrists god I fucking hate psychiatrists so much
I hope u give me grace for not writing this out better, im tired as fuck rn but yeah these are some of my thoughts on personality disorders particularly bpd and im sure im forgetting some but yea
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annoftheabyssalred · 2 years
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"I guess I've known the truth since I was pretty young,that I never knew my mother's mother tongue."
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Bungo stray dogs
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Demon Slayer
Stranger things
Wonder egg priority
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Hyperfixations:
Lucy Maud Montgomery
The guild
Bungo stray dogs
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Trigger of love - JAWNY
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Goodbye, my Danish sweetheart - Mitski
Brand new city - Mitski
Wet - Dazey and the scouts
I want to be your boyfriend - Hot freaks
Puppy princess - Hot freaks
Christmas kids - roar
Weird girl - Mommy long legs
Boo - Hot freaks
Butch 4 butch - Rio Romeo
Write me letters - Hot freaks
Missus piano - Rio Romeo
Why didn't you stop me? - Mitski
Dyltgir? - Rio Romeo
Filthy habit - Shayfer James
For the departed - Shayfer James
Battle cry - Shayfer James
Rises the moon - Liana Flores
Someone to spend time with - Los Retros
Community gardens - the scary jokes
The Gold - Phoebe Bridgers
Papercut - Liana Flores
Never love an Anchor - The Crane Wives
Mother tongue - Liana Flores
Pearl Diver - Mitski
Pink in the night - Mitski
Me and your mama - Childish Gambino
The Cave - Mumford & sons
Poplar st - Glass Animals
Rule #24 Momento Mori - Fish in a Birdcage
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adhdnap · 3 years
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I've taken so many MBTI rests and none of them are conclusive????
I've gotten intj, intj-t, infj, infj-t and istj.
Fuuuck. I legitimately feel lost. Why am I putting so much of my identity into what MBTI type I am??
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funkymbtifiction · 3 years
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Enneagram Centers
Sometimes if you're not sure of your core type, you need to consider the "centers" in order to figure out where your focus lies. (And... don't allow yourself to tritype yourself until you're 100% positive of your core. It will explain most of your behavior and coping mechanisms, so tritype isn't an excuse to mistype.)
Centers... there are three. Each one makes decisions differently and focuses on different things. Sometimes you can narrow down your type to the center, and from there, decide which of the three fits you best.
Centers: heart, head, gut.
They are exactly the way they sound.
Heart types make decisions from an emotional place, because their focus is on earning love. How are you seeing me? What image am I presenting to you? What do I want you to see? They are all about a conscious crafting of "self" in comparison to others. Others can see them as emotional, as needing approval, or as making decisions based on what others think of them. It's an image center. How do I feel about this? What does it lead me to do? (2 - find love, earn love. 3 - impress to earn approval. 4 - too broken for love, separate, must show my uniqueness to get love.)
Head types make decisions from a rational place, because their focus is on being secure. They think, think, think. Over-think. Analyze. Observe. Gotta think about that. Need time to mull it over. Their energy is all in their head. Nervous energy. Active energy. Thoughts. What I think, not what I feel. Buzzing. Busy mind. Converting everything to thinking about it. Distrusts their emotions. Emotions lead you wrong. Must be rational! (5 - detach, observe, don't participate. 6 - too many thoughts, unsure, find something to trust, hold onto it. 7 - stay busy to avoid anxiety, lots of thoughts, run with them all, don't want to feel stuck.)
Gut types make decisions from an instinctual place, through body energy. How things "hit" me. What I "sense" is right. How the world slams up against me, and the barriers I build against it. Putting up boundaries to protect myself. Are these boundaries stable? Knowing what to do. Or not knowing. I just know. It's an obvious choice. This is where I'm being lead. (1 - set firm boundaries, I know what's right and wrong. 8 - be a wall others slam into, expand to maintain control, things anger me and make me push back. 9 - the world seems to be taking me over, it's easy just to go along with it, pretend to agree and then do my own thing, avoid conflict.)
Another thing, which goes for mistyping in MBTI as well -- lots of people think they are X so they "act like X" -- but acting is pretending; it's not real. A fix or a core or a type is real when there's no acting involved; it's just what you naturally do, the air you breathe. For a 2 fixer, pretending to be separate, and broken, and craft an identity as a 4... that is hard work, tiring. For a 6 to pretend to be a 9, and stay calm, and not be full of thoughts and over-thinking, is impossible. It's draining. People start acting THE BEHAVIOR instead of looking deep into their motivations. "Oh, I will act like a 7!" You can't act like a 7 and be convincing, a 7 generates those behaviors through their thinking process. Identifiable behaviors are the result of mental energy. Heart processes are the result of emotional energy. And gut responses are instinctual, immediate, no thinking necessary, my body is reacting, sometimes before I can even think about it. ("I felt sick through my body before I even knew what was happening...")
Social variants are much the same, in that your dominant trait is where your attention goes immediately when you are asked a question or forced to come up with a conversation on the spot. It's rapid. Your dominant instinct absorbs most of your thoughts and focus and concern, even if you aren't aware of it.
Like the typing video I linked to the other day -- when asked questions, Megan Fox drew attention to sexual topics and encounters, because she views her past in an sx-dom way; she remembers school by the first boy she French kissed. When she wanted to interrupt her interviewer and pull him off a "boring topic," her brain said: admit you have a crush on him in a "there are only three guys I'd do" way. Again, sx. Her photos -- sx displays. Provocative clothing intended to elicit an sx reaction from others.
With variants, give yourself time and space to discover it. Your variant is probably more obvious to other people than yourself, because they see it's where your mind goes. You can't think your way through this, head types ;), you have to get an instinctual sense of things through comparisons. Think about the variants on their own, what they are about, what their focus is on, and then put them into the context of your core type and what that means.
If it's sp, look for sp's in the world around you. What's their focus on? Sp concerns. What does that mean? They focus on... my body, how I feel, what I can do, can my body withstand this? What's this look like? The guy you know who is an exercise master. The person neurotic about their health. The 2 who focuses on "health and home." (What does that look like? Well, he checks my tires, changes the oil, etc, for me without being asked! Mom makes lunches for us all, packs them, has them waiting by the door, and makes sure to take care of us at home!)
Socials? Inspiring others. Being the go-to person. Sharing what they know in a friendly manner. Focus on community, on inspiring, on being socially appropriate, on noticing when others AREN'T playing by the rules. What's that look like in person? The 1 who sets a moral example through their behavior and frowns on misbehavior. The 3 who wants to impress you with their inspirational journey. (Not their stuff, stuff is sp. Admire my new car? Sp 3!) The 5 who loves to share their expertise about ancient Egypt (their one thing). The likable 2 who runs a YouTube channel about "how to..."
Sexuals? Focus on sex. Heat. Attraction. Scent. Impact. Provocation. Am I turning you on or off? I want to find out, that's why I do it. People are either drawn to me or hate me. That's fine. Attracting them all isn't interesting to me. What's that look like in number terms? The sexy 2 who only "helps" their special person. The 6 who is protective of their mate, while also being anxious and suspicious and fearful of being left OR who goes to an extreme to become attractive in an expected way (the hot girl next door, the man who can protect you, the sensitive man, the tough girl). The 9 who molds themselves into another person and disappears into them (Bella).
It's an area of over-focus, neuroticism, a need you have to fill, whereas your second fix isn't that important. It's how you play, dabble, the stakes aren't as high, and your focus doesn't always go there first. I want this, don't always chase it. (Sx? Intense heat comes after social awareness or self-protection. Soc? Socially aware, but being an influencer comes after sx drive or "my health and home." Sp? Survival comes after public influence or awareness or sx pursuits.)
Being "blind" means... I rarely focus on this. It's not on my radar. Sp blind? Safety?? Survival? Eh, it'll all work out fine. :) Sx blind? Throwing myself recklessly after intense attraction, thirst traps, being super provocative, seems tasteless and risky. Soc-blind? Oblivious to how that statement made you feel about me, or judge me, unaware of how I dress or act being inappropriate to a situation.
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duckytobeswrites · 2 years
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Welcome to my unorganized hell hole!
Literally this account isn’t set up yet, and I may disappear for long amounts of time, but sometimes I just wanna fuckin’ write!
I will have rules for this account and I will add more as time goes on. Here are the rules so far:
- I have the right to deny a request no matter what. - If you request something that’s fuckin horrible (r@pe, inc3$t, etc..) it WILL be an instant block. - I will not write female readers/Yn as it makes me uncomfortable. This is only because I’m FTM and it triggers my dysphoria.  - I am not required to censor the name of a fandom just because you want me to. (I’ve somehow had problems with this in the past???) - P3doph1ll1@, z00ph1ll1@, and anything where consent cannot be given by both parties is absolutely not allowed. The next rule is for my own comfort and safety! It’s very important and even if you try to say this, I’ve got an extension that will change it.
Absolutely no characters with the name J-s-n (missing letters are A and O) will be written for or accepted.
~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Those were basically mostly some rules for requests, but it’s 5 am and DAMN am I only surviving on diet pepsi Anyways here’s some things that I will write for! Note that I will take off and add on what I want! And that I’m also fuckin’ horrible at doing some characters so if anything is OOC please don’t complain. Deltarune/Undertale Five nights at Freddy’s: Security Breach Creepypasta (Note that Jeff the Killer IS NOT 13, that’s the age of the fanmade story and not the canon one.) Encanto (just situation headcanons) Haikyuu (I won’t do many matchups of this, so please be aware) Yeah, the list is small but my little pea brain can only list so much Ok also there are some characters that I won’t write for! Not as in “Oh these characters make me uncomfortable” but as in “Oh I’m incredibly attatched to this character and I have psychotic symptoms!” It’s a mess, I have no idea why I’m like this but please don’t be upset by this! The characters are: Jevil (Deltarune) and Ushijima Wakatoshi (Haikyuu)!  ~~~~~~~~~
Now for things I will write!! As in headcanons, matchups, and all that
Matchups
Please give me your:  pronouns  sexuality (or just what gender identity you prefer) A good description of your personality (unless you’re like me and have a hard time with that, just do the best you can!! I believe in you!!) A small description of your looks or things that stand out about you Hobbies And things you’re ok with or not ok with! (For exmaple: PDA!) Please do not put: Your name (I feel like it’s too personal for a one time interaction if you’re only here for a matchup) Anything nsfw Things like MBTI type and hogwarts house, I only find these confusing and not useful Multiple fandoms, as that will stress me out a bit (unless you’re givin’ me two options to choose from!)
Headcanons
So here are kinds of headcanons I am willing to write for! - Hurt/comfort - Only comfort (feel free to private message me for a special request if you’re going through a hard time! I’ll do my best!) - Romantic relationships w/ reader - Ftm Y/N (Also MTF and enby Y/N, though I may get some things wrong so please inform me if I do!) - Male Y/N!! - Friendship only relationship w/ reader - Fluff!! I absolutely love writing fluff!! - I might write things for Y/N with a mental illness (Depression, autism, ADHD, etc...) though with certain ones I will put my own experience into it, so I’m sorry if you can’t relate to some!! - Chubby/Skinny y/n!! We love all body types here!! - Y/N with a specific trait (Example: Acne) Things I will NOT write, some of these are also in the main rules!! - R-pe, in--st, p-d-philia, z--philia, Ab-se, stuff like that. If you support ANY of that stuff then please get the fuck away from my blog. - Illegal things!  - Alcoholism, smoking, drug use, etc... It makes me uncomfortable - Nsfw - All the basics, basically! 
Matchup trade!
As are many other people, I’m desperate for comfort and some form of attention LMAOIf you ever want a matchup trade, please dm me and we can talk it out! Boundaries are important!!Though be aware, I have NO fuckin’ idea how to properly interact with people so I might be awkward! ~~~~~~~~~~~ANYWAYS UM- I HAVE NO FUCKIN’ IDEA HOW TO BE PROFESSIONAL OR ANYTHING SO YEAH- PLEASE ENJOY?? 
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nice-kill-tanaka · 3 years
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If it's not to much trouble may i have a (male) host club matchup please. Im a Capricorn, my mbti type is infj-a/infj-a. I tend to be shy around new people but I can be somewhat loud around people who Im close to. My pronouns are she/her. I have long-ish length brown hair, green eyes, wear round glasses and have pale skin. I have a lot of freckles. My height is 5'0 I like to read books and also cook and bake food. Im not very athletic and im not a big fan if sports but I love to go roller/ice skating. I also have been playing the violin for 6 years. And I like to garden. I also like to watch nature/animal documentaries. I love animals and in planning on becoming a wildlife veterinarian. Some things I dislike are people who bend/ruin my books and people who talk over me when I try to speak. I hope this is ok, sorry if I spelt anything wrong. I hope im not bothering you :) also I hope the information I sent in is ok :)
[🌄 @armin-ocean-eyes​ requested one (1) regular Ouran High School Host Club matchup. I have just the ingredients for that! Sit tight while I get to work.🌌]
Taurus INTJ-t here 😗✌️So,,,,hi I guess! Also, since you are two (2) inches shorter than me, I am legally obligated to adopt and protect you. I apologize if I use gender neutral pronouns for you. That’s just my default!
Anyways, I have just the guy for you:
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🌓Kaoru Hitachiin🌓
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(Please tell me this is Kaoru, gifs are stupid 😭😭😭)
🌱Humble Beginnings🌱
You are the daughter of the C.E.O. of a successful publishing agency
You were no stranger to the wealthy lifestyle. But, your parents made it a point to not let you become vain, lazy, or unsympathetic to the human condition
I’m not too sure if there’s an actual term for this, but a thing I like to call “right-brained intellectualism" was emphasized in your household. Basically, the ability to classify complex human emotions and not only understand them. But, view them through the lenses of objectivity and abstract concepts (Hence, the “right-brained” part)
The goal was to instill curiosity in you to explore how different personalities act in different situations and why. This could ultimately help you guide your social interactions in the future
(Forgive me if I'm speaking over your head! This information serves a purpose I promise!)
So, essentially super-charged EQ
But, here's where it comes in handy:
Due to your reserved tendencies, you weren't that high on Ouran's social ladder. Especially in middle school. You tried your best not to pay that fact any mind, reminding yourself to always pack an extra novel in case you finished your current one during the day
But, the (sort of) benefit to having so much time on your own, was that you had plenty of time to observe the students around you. Their actions, quirks, and relationships
Two particular oddballs caught your eye
Brothers. Identical twins that seemed to want no company than that of each other
You knew they had names. You knew what they were. But, not being able to pin a name to an identical face made that fact lose meaning
They didn't have any friends (Which wasn't a hyperbole). But, neither of them seemed shy, like you were
Rather, they were the asocial types. And you saw secondhand that they went out of their way to keep their little world for only them
You had accidentally seen one day what they did to girls that dared to confess their feelings for one twin. And that only reaffirmed that trying to figure out why the Hitachiins acted the way they did was too much pressure for your meek little heart
But...still.
There weren't any surface level answers to reach for that could calm your curiosities (Other than just passing the Hitachiins off as jerks and moving on). You could tell their reasoning was much more complex
And that. Frustrated you
To ease your mind, you wanted to start off small: Learn which is Hikaru, and which is Kaoru
One day, just before the lunch period started, you had finished your current novel. But, when you reached for the extra book in your bag, it had ✨vanished✨
You panicked a bit. You knew you packed the book. You re-checked earlier in the day!
The teacher unfortunately noticed you looking around like a lost puppy, asking what was wrong
"Mm?? Oh- uh...I just lost my book. It's, y'know, it's fine! I'll just...look for it later..."
The teacher didn't pick up on how embarrassed you were, asking the class if someone wanted to help you look
You were surprised when someone actually raised their hand
And just your luck, it was one of the twins, who turned to his brother and reassured him that they'd see each other at lunch
You (lowkey paralyzed by fear) followed the Hitachiin's lead, waiting until the rest of the class had left the room to begin your search
But, as you started to sift through the shelves in the back, you felt the boy tap your shoulder
And there it was in his hand, the first edition book on botany you had gotten for your birthday not too long ago
"You...you found it already??"
He rubbed the back of his neck, more bashful than you would've pegged him for
"Kind of…? I took it during class. I thought your reaction would be funny, but it was sort of just hard to look at. It would've just been cruel to embarrass you more in front of everyone."
"Oh...well, thanks for telling me at least."
The boy raised an eyebrow, your reactions catching him off guard once more
"You're not mad?"
"Not really. You realized your mistake and that's more than some can say. So, I can forgive that."
"Hm...well, I should get going. I can't keep him waiting!"
Before he left, you called out to him, asking for his name
"Hm? Kaoru."
🌳Flourishing Love🌳
The start of you and Kaoru's romantic relationship actually began in high school
The (in)famously idealistic Tamaki Suoh had approached you, Hikaru, and Kaoru to be a part of his new "host club". The twins as a part of the service, you as the manager (To garner male financial support, of course :D)
Since you weren't involved in a club anyway, you agreed to join next semester for your first year of high school
Once Haruhi came into the picture, you became fast friends. Seeing as you were both practical souls, if not intellectual
Through your friendship with Haruhi, you got closer to the twins you were so afraid of all that time ago
Especially Kaoru, the twin you had spoken to first
Both of your crushes formed rather fast as you got to know each other personally (And since Hikaru was already starting to take interest in Haruhi)
Kaoru had fallen for the way you never made face-value judgements of people. Like how you were so understanding about his dumb prank on you just last year
He learned to love the bright rays of passion that shone through your timid exterior. The way you talked about the things you loved like they were the greatest things in the world. You always made your case with such conviction, and Kaoru couldn't help but believe you all the way
You, Haruhi, Hikaru, and Kaoru were hanging out in the courtyard one day, and Kaoru had managed to get you to talk about the flora and fauna in the area (Which quickly segwayed into how you loved gardening and caring for animals)
All the while, Kaoru intently listened, staring at you like you were the only person in the world
During a pause in your avid canine classification spree, Kaoru picked up a few cornflowers that had fallen from a bush, putting them in your hair and behind your ear
While you were blushing up a storm, Kaoru bluntly, but sweetly, confessed
Hikaru and Haruhi looked on, endeared that the two sweetest souls in their little group had finally gotten together
In your relationship, you manage to draw out the more relaxed and mature side of Kaoru's personality
(Though, you always get a good laugh out of his more cunning and mischievous side)
You always affirm to him that he can enjoy both sides of being a twin, and being his own unique person. He doesn't necessarily have to choose
Kaoru definitely takes advantage of your height difference, using you as an armrest at the most inopportune times
He loves to kiss each and every one of your freckles (At least, on your face and neck). No matter what you think of them, he sees them as little targets to go for when he wants to shower you with love
But, like a respectful boy, he always lets you take off your glasses first if you need to
You guys went ice skating for your first date! Since it was your hobby, you paid for skating, and Kaoru paid for food afterwards. Kaoru knew how to skate, but pretended not to so he could have an excuse to hold your hands
Kaoru found out about your violin training later in the relationship, immediately teasing you about playing for one of the host club's sessions at some point
He has undoubtedly picked up a disturbing amount of animal facts from you and the documentaries you watch. He shares them with the host club to get disgusted reactions from them, and flattered smiles from you 😊
Y'all are just so freaking cute together, I need to chug salt to get the sweetness out of my mouth ❤️
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[🌌 There you go bud! That’s one matchup for the road. Hopefully it lasts for a while, but if it doesn’t, feel free to come back! I’d be thrilled to see you again.🌄] —Reagan
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Stray Kids Members on GO LIVE and Making the Music They Want to Make
There's bedlam in the kitchen, as K-pop disruptors Stray Kids wreak delicious havoc on a sterile commercial space. They dance around wildly, waving stainless steel pots and pans in the air and tossing freshly pressed napkins and imaginary ingredients with relish and abandon. In the forefront, fiery rapper Changbin serves up his own potent sauce with a pummeling verse, while dancer Lee Know attempts to stir fry a handful of what appear to be rose petals behind him. A marching band, their plumes high and faces unbothered, carries on amidst the mess — a visual manifestation of the heavy bass ostinato that immediately invades the senses. It sounds disorienting, maybe even slightly dangerous. It looks like chaos.
Welcome to "God's Menu" ("神메뉴").
The Korean boy group's latest single boasts a big, brassy hook laced with trap beats and an addicting refrain ("this is our tang, tang, tang, tang," they shout), a recipe that has become their signature dish. A sonic successor to last fall's explosive "Double Knot," the track teems with a tireless energy and their hallmark bravado. The video imagines the eight members as chefs who confidently concoct their own art from scratch. "Taste so good, everyone loves it," Han raps, in a mix of Korean and English. "All our dishes taste so strong."
The culinary metaphor is laid on thick, bolstered by a charismatic performance that includes Korean formalities like "네, 손님" (which translates to "yes, sir and ma'am" in English) and TikTok-certified choreography that incorporates mixing, frying, seasoning, and, most notably, chopping. But for a group that's been cooking up homemade beats and flavorful lyrics in their bedrooms long before their 2018 debut, it's a savory declaration that feels more than earned. "We just keep on making new things," leader Bang Chan sings, cleansing the palate with a sweet melody. "Because we're one of a kind."
They bring that same level of confidence and clarity to their first full-length album Go生, a title that combines the English word "go" with the Chinese character for "life" and showcases the group's penchant for clever wordplay. Pronounced go-saeng in Korean, it translates to "hardship." The English title, GO LIVE, reflects their desire to move forward without any lingering inhibition. Consider the 14-track LP a reintroduction to Stray Kids.
"We tried to not think too much," Bang Chan tells Teen Vogue from Seoul, South Korea, where he's currently huddled in a room with members Lee Know, Changbin, Hyunjin, Han, Felix, Seungmin, and I.N. It's late June, and they're in the middle of their first week of promotions for the album, which means early mornings, long nights, and a whirlwind of music show performances, interviews, radio shows, and virtual fan engagements. And yet, even as it nears midnight, the members, ranging in ages from 19 to 22, are still easily excitable. Australia-raised Bang Chan acts as the group's tireless translator, and despite recent concerns, his accent sounds as prominent as ever as he explains how Stray Kids adopted a fresh mindset in preparation for Go生. "Of course, we thought a lot about what to put in the album and how we wanted to make it, but we went with the flow," he says. "We wanted everything to feel a bit more raw."
Stray Kids made their official debut under JYP Entertainment with the riotous and self-produced "District 9," an angsty blend of hip-hop and EDM that would ultimately define the group's characteristic intensity, both musically and lyrically. It laid the foundation for 2018's I Am… trilogy of EPs, which focused heavily on the theme of identity as they charged away from systems that sought to control them. The Clé series followed in 2019, which threw Stray Kids head-first into the thorny, often exhausting labyrinth of adulthood. Bang Chan, Changbin, and Han, who comprise the group's in-house production trio, known as 3RACHA, write about their own experiences, etching their personal dreams and worries into a diverse discography that spans six EPs, multiple mixtape singles, and special releases. But with Go生, they've emerged with newfound perspective.
For years, their music was fixated on the idea of bulldozing through obstacles that stood in their way. They wanted to outrun their problems. Now, it's clear: Growing up isn't about overcoming anxieties and struggles. Instead, it's learning to live in spite of them — to run freely alongside them.
As a result, Go生 is a release bursting with color and vitality, a celebration of life's mercurial nature. There's a song for every craving, and a tracklist that demonstrates the members' prismatic talents as rappers and vocalists. "Easy" delivers boundless swagger over a trap beat (and it's already been immortalized on stan Twitter); "Airplane" is Stray Kids at their most relaxed, a chill summertime vibe that's also a tremendous showcase for singer Seungmin; main rapper and all-rounder Han lets his voice soar on "Phobia," an electronic-synth track that examines the paranoia of losing someone (it was also the final song added to the album); "TA" is all high energy and thunderous chaos, perfect for a future encore set; and "Blueprint" shines with its funky bass line, bright verses, and fierce optimism ("I'll proudly achieve my dream," Felix sings in Korean, as translated to English).
"We wanted to show what Stray Kids is really about," Bang Chan says. And in doing so, Felix adds, they "experimented with a variety of genres." The fellow Aussie, who Bang Chan affectionately calls his little brother and who fans (known as Stay) refer to as their "sunshine," speaks with a warm timbre. His flow is even deeper and more distinct, and it's been a solid entry point for Stay and locals alike. Felix is a commanding presence on "God's Menu," a testament to his growth as a rapper and performer. When asked about his five-star performance, he gets shy. "I think everyone put their all into this song and into the album," he says. "Sit down, be humble," Bang Chan jokingly sings beside him, a reference to Kendrick Lamar's 2017 manifesto "Humble" and a demonstration of the leader's persistent playfulness.
"We've all improved a lot in terms of our performance," dance captain Lee Know says, much to the surprise of his members. It's not that they don't agree, it's just that his eager contribution to the conversation catches them off guard. He's not always so talkative during press interviews. And there's an audible cheer among the group as he continues. "Our dancing has gotten stronger. Our vocals have gotten stronger as well. But we're still honing those skills. And we'll continue to grow."
Hyunjin, whose own development as a rapper, dancer, and vocalist with a mellifluous falsetto is well-documented on the internet, agrees. "As we get older, we want to show Stay more sides to us," he says. The lithe performer's strength is his versatility. He's highly adaptable, so it's not surprising that he's been working on writing and composing his own music under Bang Chan's watchful guidance. "I want to show [Stay] something different," he adds. (And that's a promise he intends to keep.)
Youngest member I.N thinks they're maturing in other ways too. "We've all gotten a lot more good-looking," the lively vocalist says, very matter-of-factly. Laughter erupts in the room, and Changbin's cackle is unmistakable. Undeterred, I.N carries on. "When it comes to performance, I've personally gotten a lot faster at recording and memorizing choreography," he says. Lee Know is quick to jump in. "I.N's performance in 'TOP' really surprised me," the elder says. "He's in the center position for the hook, and watching him I saw just how much he's improved. He's more confident now."
I.N is happy he gave off such an aura. "When we were preparing for this album there were times when I didn't feel so confident," he says. So he turned to his members, who listened to his concerns and offered him feedback. He feels much lighter now. "One thing I realized after watching our 'God's Menu' stages is that we all look like we're enjoying ourselves more. We feel more free on stage. And it just feels easier."
The album's most surprising and reflective moment comes at the halfway point, courtesy of Han. Written by the teen multihyphenate, "Another Day" is soft and simple, but no less introspective than his previous cuts ("19" and "Sunshine"). It depicts a feeling of restlessness caused by burnout and the inability to "rest without worrying."
Han's inspiration for the song was largely himself. "It's been a tough year, and I knew it wasn't just me who felt that way," he says. "So I wanted to put those emotions into the song."
In front of the camera, Han exudes relentless charisma. He's quick-witted and wickedly funny. Off stage, he's one of the group's two MBTI-approved introverts (the other being Hyunjin), and he prefers to relax in a controlled environment: his room. In fact, if he doesn't have a schedule or a song to work on, he'd prefer not to leave his bed at all, choosing instead to watch YouTube and anime on his phone. As someone who's deeply inspired by visual mediums, it's in these calmer moments where creativity often strikes.
"Everyone goes through times where things don't work out the way you want them to," he says. "But I think it's important to remember that while you're going through a difficult time, you need to take a breath. Go do something for yourself … Break out of that negative mindset and open yourself up to new possibilities."
Each of the members has their own way of dealing with feelings of stress and anxiety. Changbin works on music. "It's my healing," he says. And he hopes it can be healing for Stay too; he teaches fans the basics of rap during semi-regular streams on V Live. Lee Know prefers to do nothing at all. This is why the members often say the self-assured performer is like water — whatever is bothering him just washes away by morning. But I.N needs time away from the older members. ("Leave me alone!" oldest member Bang Chan whines, mimicking the moody teen.) Hyunjin finds comfort in sentimental music and Korean dramas, and he's especially adept at communicating with fans on Instagram and V Live, where he addresses their worries and offers support in both Korean and English. "That heals my heart," he adds softly. Felix has taken up cooking and baking, even going so far as to buy an oven for their shared apartment's kitchen. His brownies are already beloved by the members and JYP staff. "Making something for someone and getting to share what I make… even a small compliment will make me feel relaxed and good about myself," he says.
Meanwhile, Bang Chan has a bad habit of "brainwashing myself into thinking that I'm not restless when I actually am." So he relies on the members, or "the kids" as he calls them, to help keep him in check. "Our first week of promotions was really tiring, but when I look on stage and see them — see Hyunjin, Changbin, Lee Know, see them all — it gives me a lot of strength. They make me feel at home." (The kids coo in jest beside him. "That's right!" Han shouts.)
Seungmin doesn't often feel anxious, but when he does there's nothing that a long walk and a good playlist can't fix. Lately, he's been listening to "Another Day." "Han surprised me [with this song]," the dynamic vocalist says. "I listen to it often, and it has inspired me a lot." Han, never one to pass up a compliment, replies, "Thanks, man."
While 3RACHA are largely responsible for crafting Stray Kids' music, the members are all integral to the process. "It's not 3RACHA's music, it's Stray Kids' music," Changbin says in English. "So the members' feedback is very important. I feel the best when they like it."
Case in point: "God's Menu." The group had originally recorded a different lead single, and they were in the throes of comeback preparations when Changbin played a demo of "God's Menu" for some of the members. According to Bang Chan, this happens a lot: "We go home, we play a demo, and we party to it." It's as simple as that. But then something unusual happened: Upon hearing "God's Menu," Hyunjin immediately knew he wanted to perform it. This was Stray Kids. The other members felt it too. "The lyrics expressed our music and confidence best," Changbin says in English, as his members cheer him on. ("Go, Changbin!" Bang Chan encourages.) "It's a song only Stray Kids could perform.”
And it was a theme that personally resonated with Bang Chan. "Back in the day, when we were releasing songs as 3RACHA, I always liked to relate my producing process with cooking and science," he adds. "It's just a really fun concept." (Astute fans might recall the 2017 3RACHA deep cut "Alchemistry," in which the industrious leader declares himself a "mad scientist.")
So 3RACHA went straight to the top — to the company's founder J. Y. Park — and asked if they could change the single to "God's Menu." They didn't expect much; the single had already been locked. To their surprise, however, JYP agreed with their judgement. And so have Stay: "God's Menu" is the group's fastest music video to reach 60 million views, and Go生 broke their previous first-week sales record.
"It's a really funny and very warm feeling knowing that he believes in what we do," Bang Chan says of JYP's support. "And it makes us want to try out even more of our various ideas."
Producer Mike Daley (Baekhyun's "Candy") experienced 3RACHA's creative process and various ideas first-hand in Los Angeles last May when Bang Chan, Changbin, and Han spent a day with him in the studio following the U.S. leg of the group's Unveil tour. They worked on two tracks, one of which would eventually become "Easy." Daley played an unfinished demo for the trio, and the reaction was immediate. "A few of the guys just started rapping," he tells Teen Vogue. Bang Chan workshopped the hook and melodies with a few of Daley's friends and collaborators, while Changbin and Han wrote the verses. "Spear [Changbin] and Han were in their own zone on their phones, writing," he recalls. According to Daley, Spear — a reference to Changbin's 3RACHA moniker SpearB — laid down the first verse, and the atmosphere was electric. "He was going crazy in the booth," he says. "It had a ton of energy. And that got everyone amped up to make the hook have as much energy as the verses were bringing."
Daley, a veteran of K-pop songwriting camps, was surprised by just how involved 3RACHA were in the studio. "They knew how to produce really well, so we were all arranging it together," he says. He also observed their teamwork. "It seemed like they each had their role and worked together well," he adds. "Spear and Han were focused on the verses, but when they heard a melody they liked, they'd look at Chris [Bang Chan]. They knew how to get the song done."
And that sense of creative autonomy isn't just exclusive to 3RACHA. Through self-produced digital projects like "SKZ-PLAYER," all of the members are encouraged to express themselves through their art. "It's a really good platform for us to showcase what we want to show Stay, something that they haven't seen before," Bang Chan says. In May, he surprised fans with "인정하기 싫어," which translates to "Don't Want To Admit," a vulnerable piano ballad that laid bare his heartache. Last year, Lee Know released "Dawn," a slinky dance performance he choreographed himself. Seungmin covered his favorite band, and fellow JYP artists, DAY6. "I am very grateful that we are able to sincerely connect with Stay through music," the floppy-haired vocalist notes. As for Changbin, he recently dropped "Streetlight," a solo track in which he wrestles with feelings of loneliness. And Hyunjin released his own video — a contemporary dance he produced and choreographed to Billie Eilish's "When The Party's Over." He titled it "Empty."
"I wanted to express a different feeling, one that I couldn't show through our own performances," the perceptive dancer says. He choreographed the piece to convey his longing to perform. That loneliness that comes at the end of a party, he says, is the same emptiness he feels when he leaves the stage. "That void I feel sometimes, I wanted to express that through choreography."
Han's "Close" was inspired by the 2004 film Closer, specifically its opening scene, in which a young woman locks eyes with a handsome stranger across the street. The idea of human connection, of seeing someone and wanting to know everything about that person, struck Han, especially at a time when people feel farther apart than ever. But it was too raw to share. "I didn't originally want to release 'Close.' I wanted to keep it to myself," he says. "But after showing it to the members, they encouraged me, and that motivated me to share it."
And they continue to share their artistry with Stay. Fans are getting an intimate look at the members' songwriting and melody-making prowess in "Two Kids Song," a web series that splits them into pairs and challenges each team to write, produce, and record an original song. For Stray Kids, the desire to keep learning and pushing themselves — as songwriters, as performers, and as young adults navigating the world around them — both inside and outside of the practice room, comes naturally. "We're artists," Bang Chan says. "It's right for us to express whatever we want through our creative process."
However, with unfiltered access also comes moments of real humility, a reminder that the relationship between idols and the community they foster isn't defined in scenes of uncritical loyalty and fan service, but rather in instances where they hold one another accountable. In a June livestream, Bang Chan reminded fans, "I don't want you guys to spread negative energy around. Stays, you guys are better than that." That sentiment was recently reciprocated when the group participated in a July variety show segment that many Black fans deemed racially insensitive. Stray Kids apologized in a personal statement posted to the members' shared Instagram account, in which they rejected all types of discrimination with a promise to do better by their fans everywhere around the world. "We are still lacking in many things and we are trying our hardest to become better," they wrote in Korean and English. "We would like to apologize to anyone if we have stepped on a rake. It was never our intention but due to our lack of understanding."
It's this honesty that resonates most with their fans. It's woven into heartfelt lyrics, tearful ending ments, social media posts, virtual hugs, home-cooked meals, and earnest reminders to deal with — not run away from — things that are difficult. It is the lens through which Stray Kids see themselves: never perfect, but always sincere. Mainly, it's how they expel their innermost thoughts and feelings, the joy and the agony of everyday life. Whether that's by working on music, or choreography, or refining a new dish, or bettering themselves, that's ultimately up for them to decide. It always has been. Their appetites are insatiable, after all. "The fact that we have the chance to make the music we want to make and talk about the things we want to talk about is really special," Changbin says. "It makes me more excited for what's next."
A day after talking to Teen Vogue, Bang Chan, Changbin, and Han set the KCON:TACT stage ablaze with an opening performance that showed the world just how hungry they are. “They always say the same excuses, while they’re complaining we’re producing," Bang Chan sings, the Auto-Tune heavy. "The passion I give it, nobody can kill." It's a bold statement for any group to make, especially one as young as Stray Kids. And yet, it's that measure of determination that's defined their careers since they were teens trapped on a hellevator with nowhere to go but up. One day they'll reach the penthouse. For now, they're learning to savor the ride and embrace the mess.
"We're going to enjoy this freedom," Bang Chan says, "and eventually we'll fly high."
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Anon wrote: Hi mbti-notes! I have been trying to type myself for a while and I keep coming back to INFP because at the end of the day I really don’t have much evidence for any other type, but I’d just like to get your opinion on this cause I keep going around in circles! I’m 16 years old, and something that might make assessment difficult is that I had pretty bad social anxiety for years until I was 14-15 - I’m still shy but social situations aren’t scary to the extent that they were in the past. Thank you so much in advance if you do read this, because I know it's a LOT...
EVIDENCE FOR INFP
Dominant Fi: My feelings inform my decisions a lot, and doing something that I’m passionate about is extremely important to me, cause if I did some job that I didn’t care about I think it’d feel like death. It’s also really difficult for me to go on with my day if I’m unhappy about something, or spring back from a bad mood cause it tends to make me feel sloppy for the rest of the day and I end up getting nothing done. This is probably a big part of the reason why I suck at studying and getting my homework done - I get sad about something suddenly and then stay sad about it because I don’t have the energy to pick myself back up and get to work.
It’s hard for me to go against my values, and this hasn’t happened that many times and the times it did happen it wasn’t very extreme - but it made me realise how important these values were to me. One time I wanted this cool poster from a classroom and I think it fell off the wall and I wanted to take it, And I couldn’t bring myself to steal it so I indirectly asked the teacher if I could take it and she said no. But I still wanted it cause at that time I was like “it’s just some random poster, who needs it?” so I was walking back and forth trying to get myself to steal it but not being able to because of my moral conscience. And then at the end my friend just stole it for me and I was so shocked but also appreciative. After I took it home I felt so guilty and couldn’t even look at it so I shut it away in the drawer under my bed, but after like 2 months I took it out and put it on my wall cause I still liked it. I knowwww, I was being a menace and I’ll never do this again.
Another thing is that I’m very sensitive and afraid of criticism, mostly regarding the things that I care about and that I think I’m good at, for example, the belief that “I am good at drawing”. And if someone says something about my work, for example “Well, this is okay, but there are a lot of things you need to work on,” I’d get pretty upset, but I know that it’s my problem and not theirs so I wouldn’t get upset at them, but it’d just feel really bad. Because of this I think I’d rather remain ignorant to other people’s feedback and I tend to stunt my own potential for improvement because criticism always feels like a personal attack, but I’m working on this!
Also, a couple of years ago I think I had a gatekeeping problem that I think has something to do with me attaching a ‘special interest’ to my identity so I could feel unique. I went to great lengths to gatekeep this game that none of my friends knew about cause it made me feel special or something and I cared about it a lot.
Inferior Te: Okay so first of all I am chronically messy. I’ve just been like this my whole life and even though my mum gets annoyed at me because of it and I try to be less messy the messes just keep coming back? Honestly I don’t really know how my stuff keeps accumulating everywhere but it doesn’t bother me at all until I can’t find something. I think I can quite happily live in the junkyard I call my room. And I think tidying things up is just too tedious and energy-consuming. I mean if I tidied up after myself all the time I guess it wouldn’t be so tedious, but I am very lazy in that I prefer to just dump things where it’s most convenient during that moment in time.
I definitely indulge in my desires and wallow in my feelings way too much - I lack self-control and I usually end up doing what I feel like doing instead of what I should be doing. There are two voices in my head - one of them is telling me to go do my work and one of them is telling me to go do that thing I feel like doing (writing this type assessment is that thing right now) and for some reason the feeling voice keeps silencing the work voice even though I know how important it is to study. But I’ve gotten a lot better and if I start my day right I’m able to stay on track and control my impulses for most of the day.
I think I am just chaotic in general and I suck at organising and fixing my problems. Usually when I have problems with schoolwork I, 1. forget about it, or, 2. procrastinate and forget about it. And then wow! My exam is in 2 days and I don’t know what I’m doing. And don’t get me started on my repeated attempts at trying to manage my time cause I kept wasting it doing useless stuff. I’ve tried so many systems for scheduling my time and my homework and assignments so I would stop forgetting about everything I had to do, but for some reason they kept failing because I kept forgetting to write down what I had to do in the first place, probably, and maybe cause my systems were basically paper labyrinths and confusing as hell. Luckily after much trial and error I think I’ve finally figured something out.
Auxiliary Ne: I’m a bit prone to impractical or unrealistic thinking, like thinking I can achieve a very ambitious goal in a very short length of time using hours that I definitely don’t have. I also tend to believe in my fantasies, although not as much as I used to. 2 years ago I had a crush on this guy who was a bit older but a lot more mature, so basically it wasn’t going to happen, but I was fully convinced in my head that I would marry him someday and everything would click together and it would be fate. This is very silly but whenever my mum would lecture me about marrying a good guy in my head I was always thinking “heh, well I’ve got that all sorted out, I’ve already found the one!”
This also comes up with the ‘pursuing my passions’ thing that I talked about earlier. I think I have some very romantic and unrealistic ideas about pursuing my passions and maybe think of myself as more capable, talented and energetic than I actually am. I think I believe that everything will just work out in the end if I pursue my passions, and tend to ignore issues like a lack of financial security, my parents having different ideas about what I should be doing, and my own capabilities. So when I hear about people who pursued their passions and ended up failing, it feels like a reality check and I get a bit sad about it.
I think my Ne lets me see multiple points of view and it makes me a bit malleable to other people’s opinions, meaning that I take a lot of time to form my own or simply don’t have one, or I form an opinion but it’s really wishy-washy because I hear a different point of view 2 days later and see the value in it, so I end up changing my opinion or just not having an opinion at all. I’m also a bit scared of having an ‘unacceptable’ opinion, which is why I have a habit of scrolling through Youtube comments to see other peoples opinions and the general consensus first before forming my own, which is highly influenced by the consensus.
Tertiary Si: Si is pretty annoying for me because I constantly get flashbacks to embarrassing stuff I’ve done in the past and it drives me crazy. Luckily the remembering embarrassing stuff USUALLY doesn’t prevent me from doing stuff in the present too much (even though sometimes I get dramatic and say “I’m never gonna do X again cause I embarrassed myself so bad” but I get over it in like 2 days), but I do remember after having a voice crack during a performance I stopped singing for a month and kept replaying the moment in my head.
I do find it hard to step out of my comfort zone and the main reason why I’ve greatly recovered from my social anxiety is thanks to my mum forcing me into social situations. For example, if I like someone you can bet that I’m never gonna approach them because all these thoughts pop up into my head, like ‘what if I embarrass myself,’ or ‘what if they don’t like me,’ etc. And at the end of the day I just stop caring and end up being content with an ‘oh well’ kind of attitude. I’m not particularly nostalgic because thinking about good things that have passed makes me feel kind of depressed, so I don’t think about the past much apart from those embarrassing flashbacks. But at the same time I’m a hoarder and I keep just about everything because even little things feel like they have value and they’re special, like a trinket capturing a moment in time.
Last year I moved schools and I moved on from my emotional attachments concerningly quickly. Even though I loved my friends a lot - they were so funny and great and I was quite close with some of them, as soon as I left my old school it was like my brain went “nah you can’t think about that anymore.” And I also didn’t feel much during that period of time. I didn’t feel sad, or like I missed them, I think I cried once but it didn’t even feel like real tears. I was just really nonchalant? So either I did this weird thing where I just numbed out my emotions because I didn’t want to feel the depressing feeling I get from leaving a good thing behind, or I never loved my friends in the first place. I think the first reason is more likely, though.
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Usually, doing a comparison is better because it's necessary to rule out other possible types, but if you've done the process of elimination on your own, then great. Generally speaking, if you're able to rule out all the other types, then odds are good you've arrived at the final answer. But I understand the value of getting confirmation in order to make sure you haven't misunderstood something. I'm really not seeing anything that would make me doubt INFP. Of course, you could be unintentionally leaving out crucial details that would counter INFP, but the only thing I can do is have faith that you've represented yourself well. If it counts for anything, I find myself reacting the same to you as I do the other INFPs I've known throughout life (positive reactions, of course).
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— 𝐓𝐇𝐄 𝐁𝐎𝐎𝐊 𝐎𝐅 𝐔𝐒: 𝐜𝐞𝐥𝐞𝐛𝐫𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧
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₁. CHAPTER ONE: gratitude
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first of all, i would really like to express my gratitude to everyone !!! i’m just a kid who likes writing and i never expected to gain a following anywhere because compared to others, my writing isn’t anything special. despite that, more than a hundred people put their faith in me and believed that i could improve and do better. that, or they just find my shitposting funny :’] jokes aside, i’m really grateful for all the people who have reblogged my stories and wrote cute notes in the tags, or who just reblog them and say nothing, or maybe just leave a like. every time i receive a notification, the amount of joy i feel is just...indescribable. so, to everyone who has once contributed to my happiness: thank you. i hope i made you happy with my writing as well :)
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₂. CHAPTER TWO: playing cupid
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in which i pretend to be cupid and match you with your haikyuu!! soulmate !!
𝐑𝐔𝐋𝐄𝐒:
leave an ask ! tell me some fun facts about yourself ! what kind of sweets do you enjoy? do you prefer sweet or savory? what’s your favorite thing about a person? do you notice their eyes first or the way they speak? what are your hobbies? let us get to know you !! (ships are only open for haikyuu!! :<)
𝐍𝐎𝐓𝐄𝐒:
PLEASE refrain from leaving ship requests that center around physical appearance, zodiacs, and mbti’s !!! love is more than just physical attraction !!! (and also i can’t match zodiacs and mbti’s </3) you don’t have to be a follower of mine to participate, just promise that if you do leave a ship ask, you’ll follow me, okay? (that makes me sound so desperate i’m so sorry)
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₃. CHAPTER THREE: love letters
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this section is a little more personal :’) i’ve expressed my thanks to my followers, so now let me say thank you to my moots and people who just mean a lot to me on this website :’)
firstly, i would like to thank @lovingtobio for being one of the best moots ever??? 
dear lili, i never thought i’d meet my soulmate but ig tumblr’s just great at matching people up :’) i like to believe that, in a past life, you and i were the same person. we share so much in common that the only plausible explanation would be that our souls were stripped from each other and we landed in different bodies, separated by the great big sea. except, you got all the guts and the brains </3 lili, i love you so much that it hurts and i think about you every day, even if sometimes i forget to respond to your messages because i was half-awake in the bathroom when i read it. you mean so much to me and i love you <3
also, to chel @kitazura​ 
dear chel, we’ve never spoken privately before because you’re too cool and that scares me </3 only I can be the cool one around here >:(( jkjk pls don’t hit me with your toothbrush </3 even though we’ve only interacted through asks and tags and all that jazz, you mean a lot to me !!! you make up 1/3 of the three musketeers so obviously i love you and i’d challenge anyone to a sword battle for you !!! everytime you reblog one of my posts i get all giddy becus Omg the coolest kid in town just reblogged something i posted maybe I’M cool now too </3 anyways i love you, i love your aesthetic, i love your music taste, i love your sexy brain, i love your toothbrush, and i love chel. the end.
AND FINALLY, to @juhni027​
may i present to everyone, my husband, johhny, whose identity was unfortunately stolen by johnny suh from nct </3 jk if an nctzen sees that, pls dont come for me, i WILL cry <33 anyways hi johnny ur asleep rn cos u have the sleep schedule of a grandpa but ur MY grandpa and thats why ur the best :DD i hate u with every fiber of my being and if i could, id replace u with changbin and booseoksoon but ig im stuck with u and thats ok. thanks for kidnapping me back in 2nd grade and basically making me ur bitch </3 thanks for reading all my fics and telling me they arent complete garbage and also giving me the will to live and just ?? helping me become me?? it sounds sappy, but without u, i wouldnt be who i am today because we all know how shy i used to be </3 anyways suck my left toe i hope u swallow ur peppa pig toothbrush
and...that just about ends my list LMAO jkjk </3 i have so many moots who are so lovely and wonderful and i just love them all !!! unfortunately i’ve only either had short interactions with them or i’ve never spoken to them at all, but please know that i love and appreciate you as well !!! i just get awkward with new people because i don’t know if i can match their energy, so sorry 🥺👉👈 i love you all tho and i will profess my love for any and all of you if you asked me to !!! i’ll even shout it in the middle of a grocery aisle !!!
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₄. CHAPTER FOUR: justice
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lastly, please sign this petition and donate if you can !!! it’s a petition to help seek justice for sonya and frank gregorio. if you want to learn more about this case before you sign or donate, please refer to this post. 
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all posts related to this event will be tagged under #rissie’s night with the gang !!! this event will be held until december 30th, 2020
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Name: Bel
Writing Blog URL(s): @skzctnightnight
What fandom(s) do you write for? Kpop: Stray Kids and NCT
Age: 27
Nationality: American
Languages: English
Star Sign: Capricorn
MBTI: ENFP-T
Favorite color: Pink 
Favorite food: Chocolate covered marshmallows
Favorite movie: Who Framed Roger Rabbit
Favorite ice cream flavor: Cookie dough
Favorite animal: Dogs
Go-to karaoke song: Do Ya Think I’m Sexy by Rod Stewart or if they have it, Teenage Dirtbag by Wheatus (I do NOT go to karaoke anymore)
Dream job (whether you have a job or not): Court reporter
Coffee or tea? What are you ordering? 
Coffee! Iced Americano or a Cafe au Lait. 
If you could have one superpower, what would you choose? Time stop
If you could visit a historical era, which would you choose? 
Golden age of Hollywood, but purely as an invisible visitor
If you could restart your life, knowing what you do now, would you? 
Not at all. 
Would you rather fight 100 chicken-sized horses or one horse-sized chicken? 
100 chicken sized horses. Chickens have sharp bits!
If you were a trope in a teen high school movie, what would you have been? 
Like a stock character? Cool loser, not so socially awkward you can’t hang out with her, but also just weird enough that you still might not want to. 
Do you believe in aliens/supernatural creatures? 
Sure!
Fun fact about yourself that not everyone would know? 
I can clap with one hand!
When did you post your first piece? 
January 7, 2019, 6:38 PM
Why did you decide to write for Tumblr?
Tumblr was my home for years shortly after it began, and I left it before I graduated college. When I got back into kpop, I never knew there was a fic community for it on tumblr! I wanted the sense of community that I missed from first being here.
Do you write fluff/angst/crack/general/smut, combo, etc? Why? 
I write primarily plotty smut in all sorts of combinations except for crack. 
Do you write OCs, X Readers, Ships...etc? 
I write X Reader plots! Sometimes my pieces include an element of ships or OC’s. 
What genres/AUs do you enjoy writing the most?
I love writing thrillers and mysteries lately, but my bread and butter is developing relationships. I enjoy college au’s and other adult life scenarios, but occasionally I really enjoy finding a perspective I don’t see very often and expanding on that.
What tropes do you love, and what tropes can’t you stand?
I love friends to lovers, and adore rivals to lovers. I like power dynamics and developing relationships. I can’t believe I’m admitting this, but I really do not like fate or destiny or soulmates. I like characters that stumble upon a new purpose, or feel that they’re supposed to be with someone, but I feel like destiny is just too convenient.
Who is your favorite person to write about?
I do love writing Han Jisung with all my heart. I love him so much and he has such an amazing personality to work with. I also love writing my Reader inserts.
What inspires you to write? 
I love the satisfaction in crafting a plot and seeing it come together. Making a vision into a tangible piece that you can share and revisit is special, no matter how big or small.  
What is your writing process like?
Typically, I mull over a concept for a couple days before I begin a bullet point outline in google docs. The draft gets added and worked on within the outline until the draft is finalized, and then I finally remove the outline framework. This is typically where the title is made with a header image before I proofread. I read one more time while formatting on tumblr itself and then post!
What do you do when you hit a rough spot creatively? 
I take a break, walk away, and come back. If it’s still not there, I write something either related in theme or character or something entirely different so I can get myself worked out. This sort of move has birthed a few side projects that turned into personal favorites. 
What is your favorite work and why? Your most successful? 
My favorite completed work is my series Standby. It began shortly after accepting the fact that I had a new bias that I wasn’t expecting and those feelings seeped into the plot and helped it grow. I never expected to get so invested in this little love story. My most successful work is my series Righteous, which my readers know I have a difficult relationship with. I understand why it has fans, but I still struggle with feeling like I could’ve done so many things better. 
What do you think makes a good story?
I can’t help but feel like it’s good characters and a good plot together, as cheesy as that sounds. Everything needs a satisfying conclusion and good characters help that to be even more satisfying, even if that conclusion is sex.
What do you hope your readers take away from your work?
I hope the plot comes through, as hokey as it sounds. Some of my favorite comments are from readers who weren’t expecting to be so invested from just reading the tags and description. If I can make someone care for a character and make them want a certain ending for them, then I’m happy.
Do you think there’s a difference between writing fanfiction vs. completely original prose? 
Absolutely! I came from writing original works and the freedom is almost overwhelming at times. You can literally write whatever you want. The key to good fanfiction, though, is understanding the character you’re using and how you are using them in the plot. If the only thing the character has in common with the source is their name and appearance, then what is the point?
Would you ever repurpose a fic into a completely original story? 
I have absolutely considered it, but only for Prowl so far. 
How much would you say audience feedback/engagement means to you? 
Feedback means the world to me. Whether it’s incoherent praise, or a full length review, or even just a friendly reminder of a tag I missed, everything is valuable and helps keep me moving. Things can take exponentially longer when I’m solely writing for myself, which is easy to feel like with no feedback or engagement. 
What has been one of the biggest factors of your success (of any size)? 
Connecting with other writers has been beneficial and satisfactory in multiple ways. Networks and making friends with other writers has helped me improve and share my work. I really don’t think I’d be nearly as successful without these other writers. The community aspect of our craft makes it stronger. 
Do you think fanfic writers get unfairly judged? 
Definitely! And more lines get drawn the deeper you get. When tumblr first started and fanfiction(dot)net was still the reigning empire, fanfiction was purely taboo to the mainstream. Every writer was Tara Gilesbie and every work was My Immortal. Let’s be entirely real, EL James becoming a household name changed everything. But the medium is under more scrutiny than other fan work, because talent is less surface than in visual mediums. Every author is assumed to be amateur until proven otherwise, and this stigma thankfully lessens the more a reader becomes familiar with the medium. It’s that introductory phase that really affects things. 
Do you think art can be a medium for change? 
Absolutely! Even on a small level. In the smut side of the medium, writers are always using their platform to display ideal examples of consent, communication, and how identity is discussed and expressed. Cheesy, sure, but be the change you want to see in the world. 
Do you ever feel there are times when you’re writing for others, rather than yourself? 
I always feel as though I’m writing for others, ever since I first got feedback that my work personally affected someone. I write for them, even if I don’t know who they are. They’re just as important to the story as I am when writing it. I do write for myself, because why else would I? I cook for myself, but food is better when shared. I write for myself, but it’s always better when shared. 
Do you ever feel like people have misunderstood you or your writing at times? 
Considering the ethics of the specific nuances of my writing (real people x reader smut) it’s hard not to feel that way, to be honest. 
Do your offline friends/loved ones know you write for Tumblr?
On a need to know basis! My fiancé knows and is incredibly supportive. My friends know (except for friends on Tumblr), and they’re completely supportive or simply don’t mind and pay it no attention. My mom knows, but she doesn’t know I write smut specifically. No one tell my mom lmao. 
What is one thing you wish you could tell your followers? 
I want them to know I love and appreciate all of them. I do want to know more about what they like or don’t like, but I understand why it’s difficult to engage sometimes. 
Do you have any advice for aspiring writers who might be too scared to put themselves out there? 
Make a pen name and create a new you. Does anyone actually think my name is Belmont? When you have your new you, get to networking. Socializing is hard, but making friends who support you and want to share your work is important. Start out with requests and hate and doubt your work like everyone else. That fear is normal, that doubt is normal, but it’s how you use that fear and doubt that matters. Use it as fuel to write, and prove it to yourself. 
Are there any times when you regret joining Tumblr? 
Sure! There are some users on here who have too much time on their hands and not enough hobbies so they use their precious time on this earth to harass writers. That toxicity makes it tempting to regret this whole venture. 
Do you have any mutuals who have been particularly formative/supportive in your Tumblr journey?
 I keep saying this and I will keep saying this, but I only started this blog after feeling encouraged by Bea @sluttyten to do so. She’s been such an incredible, dear friend, just like Lexi @hellapainyo who came as soon as I started. Moe @wildernessuntothemselves helped me realize some of my strengths and embrace my writing. Rae @starxblossom is truly my younger sister on the other side of the planet, and I love geeking out or plotting together. Yue @yueliangs-wonderland is such an inspiration and dear friend of mine. I can’t imagine being here and enjoying myself like I do without her. There’s so many more, and I love all of them. 
Pick a quote to end your interview with: 
“What critics call dirty in our pictures, they call lusty in foreign films.” - Billy Wilder
BONUS ROUND: K-POP CONFIDENTIAL
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Hi, I've only recently come across your blog and I'd like to ask you a question regarding my type. I've originally written a long text to mbti-notes via private messaging, but I'd like to hear your opinion as well and draw conclusion from that. In short, I've been typing myself as INFP most of the time, even though I've felt like something is off, that I don't relate well to Fi-dom descriptions, etc. so I'm now thinking I could be an INFJ. I'll provide examples for INFJ as well as some questions
Some info: I'm 20, bipolar, have PTSD and severe social anxiety (diagnosed, so I know I'm not just looping or gripping, but this leads to questions such as if I really have Fe or it's just anxiety, etc.) but I've started psychotherapy, I'm not in a depressive nor hypomanic state so nothing really influences my perception of self, etc. Pretty confident that I'm an INFx, although I'm open to other possibilites, as well. Ni usage: I have a concrete sense of direction and where I want to end up
which does slightly change when I'm going through even more stress than usual, however I have everything planned out and absorb as much information on anything that could help me achieving my goals as possible. Unlike many Ne users (even Ne-terts I know), I don't enjoy switching areas of interest every week, dedication and going for your goal is ultimately what matters to me. I often envision the ideal situation and don't enjoy preparing for everything at one time: I get disappointed whenever
doesn't go as I envisioned it, but I often subconsciously "just know" how some things will play out. Though, this doesn't mean I'm okay without thinking everything thorough and immediately reacting to everything hoping it will be all right.HOWEVER: I think anyone is capable of (thinking they're) "predicting things" for whatever reason. I do like structure, and I have the need to know everything before my mind can move on. Although I have trouble with procrastination, I see this as more of an
emotional issue, since I still need everything to be clear. But still, I'd rather delay something than set it in advance when circumstances can change uncomparingly drastically, and this just seems like common sense to me. I'm absolutely perfectionistic in what I assume is important to me. I have to have full control over specific processes since I usually have some kind of vision how they have to turn out and evolve. HOWEVER: I could definitely picture an Fi-Te user doing this with their art
Why I don't think I use Ni: despite me criticizing whatever seems superficial to me, I still would describe myself as "too shallow" to be put in the same list as other Ni doms if judging by the depth of their Ni. I can enjoy things like living in the moment or spending good time with friends possibly too easily for an Ni dom. I've also been described as scatter-brained before, and had to take the role of the class clown on some occasions (this is more stereotyping than typing by functions, tho)
Fe: I'm pretty much "anti-Fi" in some aspects: this comes more from comparing myself against other Fi dominants, but they all have a somewhat, for a lack of better word, naive way of thinking about their identity, such as that you should show who you truly are all the time and through anything you can, to the point of giving up anything that makes them take up a persona. While this can be exhausting to me as well, I just don't seem to have a sense of personal identity whatsoever
Why I don't think I have Fe: even though I care a lot about what people think of me, I wonder if it's actually just inferior Te. In the end, even though I don't have a sense of identity, I "adopt" characteristics of people who seem interesting to me and act as if they were mine. Why I don't think I have Se: I don't think I have ever looped in a way of making impulsive decisions I regret later, etc. only wasting my time sleeping, doing pointless physical activities, etc.
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Hi anon,
I was not able to come up with a type from this as there are very few actual examples, and putting things in terms of MBTI jargon/comparison to people you have typed as certain types is not really useful because I don’t know if they’re actually that type; it’s also really hard to go off of “here’s everything I’m not”, so I would recommend reading through the FAQ if you’re still stuck. Also, 20 is young and you might need more time to develop, particularly if you’ve been dealing with several mental health issues during your teens.
That said, here’s what I have
- lack of examples often correlates to high intuition in that intuitives tend to go straight to their interpretation and general descriptors rather than examples of their behavior
- someone once joked that long asks are usually high Ne and while I don’t think that’s universally true, it’s often true.
concrete sense of direction and where you want to end up is usually high Ni or Si, but in particular the part about procrastination because things can change really does not sound like an Ni dom at all. Dom Ni users tend not to procrastinate but also tend to really struggle with contingency - they are often so fixated on the vision that they don’t know how to deal with the idea that it may not come to pass.
Liking structure is one thing; do you create structure? Some NPs and SPs appreciate structure as an aid/jumping off point but do not create it; they can still find it helpful. Improvisation is still something that has structure, it’s just not the set structure. So this is a case where examples are absolutely vital.
A lot of the other Ni stuff is just people stuff; I think most people have an image of the ideal, and MBTI defines more your relationship to that, not that it exists. Perfectionism is also something for which examples are pretty vital; I see high Ti users claim perfectionism when it’s more what I’d call logical consistency, and sometimes it’s just high standards.
I should also note that while the circumstances of this question make me think intuition is more likely, most of what you’ve said for Ni is equally likely (if not more likely) to be Si; there’s nothing about themes or abstraction, but rather some degree of planning ahead/closure, with an eye to contingency.
So: examples are needed for the perceiving functions.
The part about Fi is similarly not really useable; I don’t know the people you’ve typed as Fi users; I don’t know if they are actually Fi users or if they’re immature Fi users, if you’re talking about ten people or two people, or what. This isn’t to say that comparing yourself against other people isn’t useful for typing yourself - it is - but when asking people who do not know you questions, you need references that they have access to and I do not have this access. With that said, lack of a sense of identity indicates you’re probably not a high Fi user.
Inferior Te wouldn’t really make you care much about what other people think of you (certainly not more than inferior Fe), and again, it’s hard to determine anything from adopting characteristics of others since that can be normal cognition (people mirror each other in general, regardless of type) or alternately, a conscious decision to imitate someone you admire (which anyone can do since it’s by choice).
My wild guess is xNTP, actually, but it’s very tentative; this felt too rambly for high Ni and the evidence for/against feels like it’s coming from a place of high Ti, attempting to put a consistent logical “if I do not fit all aspects of this I am not this” model in place.
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{ cisgender woman, she/her } ❝ I'm a juvenile product of the working class / whose best friend floats in the bottom of a glass ❞ huh, who’s FIVEL STEWART? no, you’re mistaken, that’s actually MOLLY WEASLEY II. she is a 24 year old HALFBLOOD witch who is a CHASER FOR PUDDLEMERE UNITED. she is known for being FLIGHTY, IMPULSIVE, DISORGANIZED, FORGETFUL, and REBELLIOUS but also TRUSTING, DEDICATED, VIBRANT, ADAPTABLE, and INDEPENDENT, so that must be why she always reminds me of the song GLAZIN’ - JACUZZI BOYS and ROLLER SKATING DOWN A STEEP INCLINE, FOREHEAD KISSES, AN OUT-OF-TUNE ACOUSTIC GUITAR, AN UNMADE BED WITH LOTS OF PILLOWS, CHERRY LIMEADE SLUSHIES, PUTTING ON YOUR FAVORITE SWEATSHIRT. i hear she is aligned with THE ORDER OF THE PHOENIX so be sure to keep an eye on her. 
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BIO
Molly Adelaide Weasley was born into a (relatively) peaceful world but adopted into an ever-growing and infinitely chaotic family - and her father, having had a near-catastrophic falling out with this family in favor of furthering his career, made it CLEAR to her that her status as a Weasley was to be cherished, not derided, never forgone for more ambitious aims. Percy, sometimes rigid, though always loving, threw this lesson in familial love along with his more practical teachings.
Her first real sentence was “Molly do it!”, which was put to excessive use as a toddler. Doing the laundry? “Molly do it!” Her father’s bent over a stack of paperwork with a next-day deadline? Molly’s rushing over to help with a fat, color-changing crayon in hand: “Molly do it!” When Audrey was ill with a stomach bug, Lucy happened upon her sister, barely even three, mashing a ginger root with the handle of Mama’s wand in an attempt to make ginger biscuits. In short, Molly has always been headstrong and maternal. She takes a lot of pride in the traits that she shares with her namesake, her wonderful Gran, but regrettably never learned to knit.
Molly arrived at Hogwarts with a gaggle of cousins who’d already set the tone for who the Weasleys were and how they behaved. She found it difficult to find a life and identity outside of them - and still worries that she’s just another face in the family, unimportant compared to their accomplishments and accolades. Her time in Hufflepuff house passed without any prefect badges, school awards, or major academic achievements — even her five-year stint on the house Quidditch team was marred by the fact that she was always playing against some cousin or close family friend.
Life after Hogwarts has treated Molly well — she’s played professional Quidditch since age 18, something that she still can’t quite believe has happened. She was a reserve Chaser for the Kenmore Kestrels until 2027, when she was offered a contract by Puddlemere United. She took it, because wow that’s a lot of galleons, but Puddlemere’s always had a reputation for producing a lot of (painfully) straight-laced and by-the-book players………..which Molly definitely is not. She’s not allowed to speak at press conferences anymore due to PU’s management dubbing her “a PR nightmare” and “too foul-mouthed for a Dementor to want to Kiss”.
(TW DEATH MENTION) Memories of Uncle Harry pop up nearly every day - his voice, his rough hands positioning her arms and shoulders in a proper dueling stance, the smudges on his glasses, the way he looked at Aunt Ginny like she hung the moon in the sky. She misses him, dearly, but feels selfish and silly for doing so - she wasn’t his kid, and there are so many people who looked to Harry Potter as a symbol for the hope that carried them through wartime. She often worries that she isn’t doing enough - not enough to support her cousins, not enough for the muggleborns she knows and those she does not. There are days in which her inadequacy threatens to swallow her whole, when her hands tremble and breath rattles in her chest - but she’s able to bite it back for the moment. There’s bigger things ahead. (END TW).
PERSONALITY
okay so i always describe molly as a “disaster lesbian” or “chaotic dumbass” and i mean that with a lot of affection. she’s just very much motivated by pleasure and by fun, and much less motivated by duty or responsibility. she wants to stand out in both good and bad ways and more often achieves that in bad ways. she is also, like i mentioned, very headstrong. i consider her one of my funniest characters and that’s mostly unintentional because she just. says whatever pops into her head. i regularly giggle at what i make molly say. i am not ashamed of this.
uhhhh. what else? she’s a big old jock, one of those heinous people who for the most part actually enjoys exercising! will definitely ask you to join her on a sunrise run because she’s Ridiculous
loves her family so so so much, even though there’s at least 3 group chats where she’s currently trashing a cousin or two. is very down to take part in harmless pranks and shenanigans. someone outside the family tries to trash the cousins tho?!?!?! lmao kill bill sirens immediately go off. she and lucy probably call themselves twins bc they’re not blood-related but they are almost always on the same wavelength and in my eyes (jane u can confirm this for me) just get each other on a very fundamental level.
huge fuckin’ aries energy. you can find some personality assessments below:
zodiac.  
aries (sun)
“aries is an active, energetic sign. people with sun in aries are direct, straightforward, and uncomplicated. they expect the same from others, and are baffled when they don’t always get it.”
gemini (moon)
“nervousness and worry are common traits with this lunar position. An underlying restlessness is common, and many lunar geminis need more stimulation than others. they usually read a lot, talk a lot, and think a lot.”
mbti.  esfj (the consul)
+ strong practical skills, strong sense of duty, sensitive and warm, connects well with others
- inflexible, vulnerable to criticism, reluctant to improvise, needy, worries about social status
STATS
GENERAL
name. molly adelaide weasley
nickname. molls
birthdate. 4 april 2005 (she’s supposed to be 24? idk math)
place of birth. st. mungo’s
family.  percy weasley (father), audrey weasley (mother), lucy weasley (sister), extended family in the form of various weasley-potter aunts, uncles and cousins.
residence. (tbd), but roommates: rose granger-weasley, natalia bardon, lucy weasley
occupation. chaser for puddlemere united
gender identity. cis woman
romantic orientation. homoromantic
sexuality. lesbian
blood status. half-blood
relationship status. single
pets. a bright pink pygmy puff named romeo
MAGICAL
hogwarts house. hufflepuff
extracurriculars/leadership. hogwarts orchestra (clarinet), dueling club, charms club (president)
allegiance. order of the pheonix
n.e.w.t. grades. charms (o), transfiguration (a), herbology (e), d.a.d.a (a), potions (e), care of magical creatures (e), astronomy (e), history of magic (o), muggle studies (o).
wand. alder, ten inches, dragon heartstring core.
boggart. inferi
patronus. corporeal, brown bear
amortentia. vanilla bath fizz, lemon peels, sandalwood, mint
magical strengths. charms, nonverbal casting, transfiguration, flying
magical weaknesses. defensive magic, hexes and curses, potions.
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funkymbtifiction · 2 years
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In need of help to find my type
Hello, I have a question after seeing the post about how different Enneagram stances manifest in making decisions. I did an Enneagram workshop a couple months ago and was typed as a 3w4, I believe it be accurate since it has greatly helped me understand myself, and explain complexes I've had since I was a child. One of the coaches recommended me to get into MBTI as a self help tool, trouble is I see contractions in myself that make it difficult to settle on a type. I got a couple books on the subject and have been searching online but the only thing I can be certain abut so far is that I use Fi/Te vs Fe/Ti. I came to that conclusion because while I'm regarded as logical and dislike emotionalism (it clouds judgement), I could never ignore the morals/ethics of a situation. Living in peace with my conscience is a no brainer. I also have displayed individual values that differed from my family since really young, and I hate when people try to "change my mind" and go against my principles, peer pressure has never had an effect on me. I won't preach to people about how they should live their lives, that's presumptuous and invasive, but I demand the same respect in return.
Healthy Fi and Te, yes.
While I enjoy mastering systems I deem trustable and useful I found that reading the ITP chapters on your book made my brain hurt. To me their way of thinking is convoluted and unnecessary, and there's way too much trust put by Ti on deduction and their own ideas about things, which can be very divorced from reality and subjective. By logic and in theory a lot of things should be true but aren't, because reality is not perfectly logical. If something doesn't work throw it out is what I think, I don't like wasting my time. I just don't understand why they'd take so much time and what sounds like a torturous  thinking process to get to conclusions that to me seem obvious.
Strong Te.
You said the aggressive types repress feelings, but how does that work for the F types in the MBTI? 
ENFPs (since you asked) are very driven when 3s -- image-conscious and goal-oriented, but also firmly aware of their own feelings and motivations and desires; they don't lose themselves in others like a Fe-using 3 might. Strong Te. Immense drive and ambition, but also somewhat inconsistent (being Ne-doms).
[...] I got your book to help speed up the process. Of course I read the whole thing, but it was easy to eliminate the Fe, Si, Ni, Ti and Se dom types. I could also confirm I'm an Fi/Te user, as I found myself highlighting most of what was said in every FP/TJ type chapter related to values and identity.
I would say Fi and Te, but not to rule out FiTe over TeFi unless you would allow your emotions and ethics to override your objectivity. 3s are objective, but feeler 3s often 'overdo' low Te and become callous (in their mind, and in others' minds) rather than having a nuanced sense of objective logic -- why something is factual or correct (TJ), as opposed to bulldozing people to get things done (FP).
I also highlighted a lot from the ENTJ chapter, so tertiary Te seems likely. I don't believe it can be higher because I have issues with discipline and long term commitment to things, I'm impatient with results.
Issues with discipline how? The specifics are important. The ENFP way of life, which is to get all excited about this life-transforming new thing I am going to do, but not see immediate results, and then two days later you are bored with it and chasing after something else (like: I want to lose weight, but I don't want it to take 6 months, it needs to happen in two weeks!)... is different from the ENTJ "I want immediate results" tert-Se tendency to over-live in the moment, leap on things without fully thinking them through, and live a life of great opportunism. A Te/Se user can be very impatient, because they are losing their grip on Ni to develop (or fall into) "here and now." I WANT RESULTS, HERE AND NOW. If I don't get them, I get distracted!!!
I used to be single minded in relation to my future goal when very young, but once that fell apart I became so heartbroken, lost and directionless (definitely disintegrated into 9) for a long time. Now I'm getting back into track by pursuing education in another area, but with a "let's see where this takes me" mentality. I'm open to different opportunities leading me in a different path, as I have different interests I might pursue professionally.
Is it possible this was/is Ni but now that you have found out things don't always work according to plan, you are using Ni in a more flexible way than you used to? Are you a specifics person (Ni) or a "no clue, I will know it when I get there" person (Ne)? What did the chapters on writing tell you? Transpose writing into other things you want to get done -- do you have specific, long-term hunches, a specific vision of what you want, or sometimes need technology to catch up to your ideas (like the guy who invented Netflix -- he knew streaming would become a thing before he even started mailing DVDs; that was to get his foot in the door, so Netflix could be on the cusp when people finally had fast enough internet to support streaming)? Or are you more of a general hypothesis "wing it while I do it" Ne user?
Reading the ENFP chapter the things I related to were: transcontextual thinking, reading a situation way beyond the obvious and trusting my analysis and theories, being able to entertain myself with my imagination in boring situations, always looking at the big picture and seeing most things as connected.
This is general intuition, just as easily Ni as Ne.
The things I couldn't relate to were: I'm not nearly as flippant about ideas/opinions as they are described like. Yes I can do an 180º quickly, but there's gotta be a clear new evidence or happening that trumps what I knew before. The part about changing your own theories and reversing your positions and convincing yourself of the opposite sounds pretty bizarre to me, in fact I have great difficulty dealing with people like that in real life. I think it's because I like knowing where others stand, and that attitude brings up inconsistency and contradiction, things I'm not comfortable with.
This could be Ni opposing a Ne way of thinking, because it's inconsistent and you want a specific trajectory and conclusion to become more permanent. It also suggests, by insisting there be evidence, that your judging Te is stronger than you think.
I'm not bored with reality or think of it as mundane. I'm realistic and not idealistic, I'm okay with the limitations of reality and working within it. I don't look to change the world, only to adapt to it.
That sounds like Te/Se to me. Read the ETJ sections again. I think there's something along those lines in there, where it talks about you don't invent something and sell it to them, you find out what people want and give it to them.
I'm not really interested in nourishing other people's potential, I'm focused on my own trajectory. I'm careful with which ideas I adopt...
*buzzer sounds* Not a Ne-dom. Ideas stick to us like flypaper. We don't have to envision them, we collect them, indulge them, and then abandon them when they're no longer interesting. It takes a lot of time and skill for us to learn not to run away with ideas, or pile them onto our existing ideas, rendering our opinions wildly inconsistent.
I easily cut off  from my life anything or anyone who offends me or whose presence doesn't benefit me. <- strong Te.
I did consider being an IxFP since my Fi is more rigid making me not inclined at all to experiment in a "I'll try everything once" way as much as ExFPs are described. I know what repulses me just by hearing about it, no need to live it out. But I'm a 3 so I can't relate to the resistance to external standards and rejection to rules of inferior Te, or the comfort with extreme subjectivity of dom Fi. So what do you think: does being a 3 account from what I can't relate to in ENFP, or is IxFP more likely?
Honestly, I'd say NTJ. I see strong Fi but it's not stronger than your intuition, your awareness of reality, or your Te. ENTJ?
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1/2 HI!! SO happy I found your blog!! I'm reaching out to you for help with BTS typing!! I agree with you re: Jungkook ISTP (girl, YES!), V ENFP (my type as well!), J-Hope ESFJ, RM INFJ, Suga INTJ, and Jin xNTP (I lean ENTP but eh at least NTP for sure)! The 1 I need helping understanding is Jimin. Please don't get mad =(, I am genuinely trying to learn! I KNOW he's not ENFJ, and yet I get stuck because I feel I see both Fe and Se. I don't see Ni high up in him, I just get stuck with Fe and Se.
s2/2 You've probably already done a breakdown, and I'll keep reading your blog posts and may find the answer myself! But I figured I'd ask for your Jimin breakdown just in case and because understanding how others approach type helps me improve!! I think I'm usually decent at this (for ex you and I agree that Hwasa, Jackson, and Sulli are ESFP (would you say Hyuna and Ravi are too?). But I am so confused by Jimin. UGH WHY?! I'm stuck thinking he has both Fe and Se, and I need help seeing his Fi!
3 Ah sorry, I'm excited now and want to type more (if you're getting annoyed please just skip this part! Would much prefer reading your answer than you getting stressed/mad reading all I wrote)! So I definitely see Se in Jimin 100%!! AND I know he's a feeler. I think the problem is Fi usually jumps out at me--for us Fi users, that sense of identity and independence is usually so apparent (let me know if you relate to this!!), so I think my problem is that I'm having a hard time seeing Jimin's Fi
4 (This could also be because sometimes Ne uses general connections as a starting place to understand things and can miss some specifics?!) So I compare myself (my Fi) and V, Hwasa, Hyuna, Ravi, Jackon, and Sulli (sweet Sulli
5 Maybe it's just that ExFP's have auxiliary Fi, so it may not be as apparent? Anyway, if he's not ENFJ (he's not!), then the ONLY other option imo is ESFP. So then you MUST be right, I just need help seeing Jimin's Fi. Maybe if you have some vids or interviews you love that highlight Jimin's Fi that would completely make things click for me?! Ok sorry this is so long-winded T_T!! So excited to read your response!!! (PS Some say Ravi=ESTP & that could be true don't know him SUPER well!!) Thanks!
It’s totally okay for me to answer I love when people are really interested!!! so don’t worry. 
About Jimin being ESFP: Where is his Fi? Why does he sometimes seem to use Fe?
1) A lot of ESFPs seem ENFJ. Firstly, because Se+Fi can look like Fe sometimes. I’ve talked about this a few times (check the tags), but also I’ve recently discovered that ESFP seem to use SeFe given by Jungian stack? this is difficult but anyway, a lot of ESFP are likely to display a Fe behavior when there’s NOT exactly Fe in the roots. 
Basically, ESFP are very sensitivy towards someone’s gestures, change of voice tone, and reactions in general, we are always aware of our surroundings so it’s easy for us to check if someone is feeling something even if they want to pretend they don’t. ESFPs are kind and sensible with their own feelings and needings, and they tend to be so with others too, so they are quite empathetic. That’s why Jimin doesn’t seem the embodiment of a tortured high Fi user but a caring Fe user.
I’ve said that Fi is “I treat people the way I want to be treated”, beyond “treating people well”. It’s like: “I don’t mind if you go out without me, because I would appreciate if you don’t get mad at me If I go out without you”. While probably Fe users are more like: “You should always count on all your friends to go out. It’s basic friendship” (or something like that, like collective values vs. individual values). Fe is thinking about the other all the time, pretending to know what everybody feels and should feel. 
(Have you read Hobi’s part in UGH? To me those are Fe statements af.)
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And as Fi is like that, Se users and Especially ESFPs, are very aware of what people may require from them, of what do people except from them. That sometimes can be seen as Fe, as it is a way of feeling accepted, matching with people, and please everyone. The difference is that Fi users don’t do that if the context doesn’t fit with their inner values or feelings. We can become unattached from someone or something we may see fake or pretentious. 
ANYWAY. Jimin, as many healthy ESFPs, is sensitive and wants to give others the attention he needs (which is: A LOT, as a good ESFP he is). Wa crave for attention and quality time, so we give it to others too. We can be very caring and clingy, and people mistake that for being Fe user. 
2) Jimin is enneagram 3w2 most likely, and that put us in some difficulties with Fi. First and foremost, being a eneatype 3 means you are succcess-oriented and relay on your public image / persona to survive. Enneatypes 3 can seem fake because they put their effort on “how are they seen” rather than in “how they feel”. This, along with the obsession of appearing succesful and always willing to shine, casts a shadow over Jimin’s Fi. Happens the same with Jackson and Yuta, they are both ESFP enneatype 3 and both are mistyped as ENFJ and ESTP repectively. Jimin is very aware of the image he wants to display to his fans, and it’s definitely not a “Fi-like” one. But you see in little gestures and actions that Jimin is aware of his feelings and emotions but he chooses to suppress them, which is (BREAKING NEWS) a thing many ExFP do. Promise or Filter (even if he didn’t write the last one) express very well how Jimin feels inside and how he is aware of how he is seen from the outside. 
3) Also people see his 2 wing as Fe because he’s caring, helping and always watching what other members are feeling like, but it’s not the same as using Fe, literally every type can behave like that especially with loved ones. 
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I answered this because I found it out in drafts T___T but as I said weeks ago, my plan is to make a deep profile of Jimin’s MBTI! 
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larkering · 3 years
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Me: Why am I so fascinated with horoscopes and personality quizzes and mbti types? Why do I care so much whether people see me as a yellow or a blue person? Why do I care? If I keep searching to shirk and avoid the daunting task of defining myself by putting that responsibility on others, I rob myself of having any identity that goes beyond a superficial assessment of my personality.
Also me: omg i got piratecore!1!!1!! that’s so me 😂🤣
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