👉 YOUR VALUES DETERMINE YOUR HAPPINESS. They are your rules on how you're going to live your life. Once you realize what they are, your life may change direction completely. Your peace, joy and health may go through the roof because you're now in alignment. I'm considering putting together a MasterClass on "KNOW YOUR VALUES". If you're interested, please type "interested" in the comments below or DM me. #valuesrule #lifestyle #success #personaldevelopment #whatinspiresme https://www.instagram.com/p/Cq1Xi8xPzBn/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=
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Happy International Dog Day! This year, instead of sharing my work, I felt it more appropriate to share my two beloved, and very much missed girls. The sadness I still feel over their passing is, I believe, emotional fuel to my art. My heart, my best friends, and my inspiration. Sleep well dear little ones 💔 Xx #internationaldogday #petloss #remembering #beloved #pets #bestfriends #furbabies #dogs #ridgeback #stweiler #myheart #grief #myinspiration #olddogsarethebest #olddogs #doglover #dogartist #artistinspiration #artinspirations #whatinspiresme #remember #dearones #closetomyheart #tillwemeetagain #salisburyartist #wiltshireartist https://www.instagram.com/p/ChuXxy1IHbv/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=
The Most Boring Article About Imposter Syndrome You'll Ever Read
Author: Self Worth Sam, Imposter Syndrome Expert
If Elon Musk can create a boring company, I can write a boring blog article on imposter syndrome. Boring: to make a hole in something with a tool or by digging.
Help others going through imposter syndrome too by sharing this article.
Just as Elon Musk started The Boring Company to dig a hole from L.A. to Vegas and build a new transportation system, so too can you create a transportation system from your conscious mind to your unconscious mind, access the missing information about imposter syndrome and neutralize it for good.
Imposter syndrome for many people is stuck somewhere deep down inside their mind and they don’t know how to get to it, nor dig it out. However, by boring down into your mind, you can remove it. In this article Self Worth Sam will share with you a way to bore imposter syndrome out once and for all.
As much as it might be an interesting experiment to see if your imposter syndrome could be removed via being uninteresting, I think it would prove useless. However, by introspection and reflective thinking you can “bore” and “tunnel” down into the depths of your mind to extract imposter syndrome.
Just as Elon Musk started The Boring Company to dig a hole from L.A. to Vegas (an excellent idea in my opinion be it that I’ve live in Burbank, and as much as I love Bob Hope Airport, I would welcome new ways to avoid the TSA experience).. sorry, tangent… Just as Elon Musk started The Boring Company to dig a hole from L.A. to Vegas and build a new transportation system so that you can create a transportation system from your conscious mind to your unconscious mind, access the missing information about imposter syndrome and neutralize it for good.
The new transportation system is built upon The Demartini Method - a series of questions that awaken you to true mindfulness, authenticity and love and appreciation of yourself.
Firstly, identify the specific trait, action or inaction that you dislike or despise most about yourself. In the case of imposter syndrome it might be that you don’t like that you give people the impression that you’re more competent than you really are, or that you avoid evaluations and have a dread of others evaluating you, or it’s hard for you to accept compliments or praise about your intelligence or accomplishments.
Next, list twenty (yes twenty) specific times when you remember yourself behaving this way.
Next, for each of those twenty moments, list the ways that trait, action or inaction of imposter syndrome was a benefit or service to you.
Next, for each of those twenty moments, list the ways that trait, action or inaction of imposter syndrome was a benefit or service to people who perceived you in that moment.
Next, recall an equal amount of moments where you remember yourself acting in the exact opposite way to those same people.
Now comes the real boring bit.
Next, think of all those 20 moments (one by one) when you were perceiving yourself to be an imposter, and think of the people who were in your space at that exact same moment, and list the people who displayed the exact opposite trait, action or inaction TO THE EXACT THE SAME PEOPLE at that exact same time.
And lastly, think of those 20 moments, one by one, where you perceived yourself to be an imposter, and list the drawbacks to you and others who were there, if at the exact same moment, you did the exact opposite behaviour, e.g. were authentic, overly confident, or narcissistic.
This will recalibrate your perceptions, if you do it thoroughly.
And this is just one beginning of your transformation (and the Demartini Method).
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Welche Bücher/Filme inspirierten zu meiner eigenen Romanreihe? Darum soll es im heutigen Post gehen( die Idee hab ich von @michael.p.kraus abgeguckt😁) Dazu habe ich einen Beitrag aus mehreren Teilen erstellt. Das Lied von Eis und Feuer, die Spook Reihe und die Gefangene des Blutes zählen nicht nur zu meinen liebsten Büchern, sie haben mich auch stark inspiriert beim Verfassen meiner eigenen. Bei Joseph Delaneys Büchern haben es mir die Hexen ganz besonders angetan. Aus seinen Büchern stammt auch die Vorlage für Mathilde, eine der ältesten Hexen aus meiner Eternity Reihe. Bei Lara Adrians Buch liebte ich, wie sie sexuelle Leidenschaft mit der Dunkelheit der Vampire verbindet. Auch das spielt in fast allen meinen Büchern eine große Rolle. Und George mit seinen Drachen 😍 bei mir wurden es statt drei eben vier Feuerschlangen, wobei Drachen eine wesentliche Rolle in der gesamten Geschichte spielen. Underworld hat sicherlich mein ganzes Leben verändert und meine Einstellung zu Vampiren. Wie sich die Todeshändlerin Selene durch die Reihen kämpft, ist einfach unbeschreiblich cool. Ihre Stärke diente ebenfalls als Inspiration. Und Interview mit einem Vampir und Bram Stoker's Dracula waren und sind der Ursprung meiner Leidenschaft für die Blutsauger. Diese Meisterwerke haben den Grundstein gelegt. . . . #darkfantasy #vampirbücher #vampirbuchreihe #vampireundwerwölfe #wasmichinspiriert #whatinspiresme #vampirecommunity #vampirebooks #thespook #dasliedvoneisundfeuer #gameofthronesbooks #gameofthronesbücher #bramstokersdracula #interviewmiteinemvampir #underworld #moviesthatinspireme #vampirfilm #vampiremovies #ilovevampirenovels #ichliebevampire #grafdracula #lykaner https://www.instagram.com/p/Cge2wTrIXFP/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=
Three Signs to Look Out For as Progress in Psychotherapy
Here are three signs that you are progressing in your psychotherapy:
1. An Increase in Ego Strength.
Your ability to feel your emotions without feeling toppled by them is a good sign. Ego strength is not about the sense of what or who you think you are – that is more the concept of yourself, or you ‘self concept’.
The ego is the sense of being that you have. The ‘I am’ that is having the experience.
Having a strong ego essentially translates to being able to meet the experience of life as it is. Emotions are generally the signals of instinctual drives. Learning how to read them as signals more accurately, and to our advantage, is generally a step in a healthy direction. It is often when we misread these cues that we end up maladapting to the world, to other people, and to ourselves.
2. Things Can Get Worse Before They Get Better
It’s an odd one this, but, especially near the beginning of a therapeutic relationship things can sometimes feel like they are getting worse. Strangely this can be a good sign. Of course, the period that it lasts for needs to be taken into account, but generally speaking, for a certain period it is not uncommon, and no bad thing.
Sometimes, old patterns of behaviour, established in the past – e.g. the result of the patient being forced to make a poor decision in a bad situation – can amp up in intensity. Sometimes.
Sometimes this amplification of affect, of feeling our emotions, is a sign that the patient is learning to feel in a deeper way, that their ego is strengthening. This is why therapy can be uncomfortable, because often we are being called to go into the valid suffering we have been avoiding in order to release ourselves from the unnecessary suffering that we can end up repeating in an attempt to avoid facing the valid suffering, or the fear of it. This is an over simplification, and each case will vary, but the premise is generally true.
3. You Feel Better More of the Time (Except When…)
The clue is sort of in the language. Feeling Better. After all, isn’t that why we attend therapy, to heal? Perhaps the best metric for that is that we feel better. Too obvious? Well, Yes and no. Sigmund Freud, the founder of Psychoanalysis, identified a phenomena with patients he called ‘Flight to Health’ in which a patient might present as suddenly feeling much better thank you very much. This can even occur prior to a session. Previously wrapped up in symptoms when making the appointment a patient can arrive suddenly feeling much better. Or after a single session. This is not uncommon. Again, without contact it is very difficult to say when there is genuine healing taking place and this ‘flight to health.’ Psychotherapy really needs to be conducted on a case by case basis. However, the principle exists. This is another good reason why a block of sessions in a treatment plan is advised, and can be more helpful that single intermittent sessions. In the same way that a patients can suddenly get worse then they can suddenly get better.
The baseline though is still valid. If, over time, you realise that you are feeling better more of the time, then that is a good sign. If your symptoms ease, or your relationship to them changes for the better, if events, or situations, or people that you used to struggle with become tolerable, manageable, maybe even inconsequential, then these are indications that you are making good progress in psychotherapy.
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