#vague post

[live-love-laugh-lesbian]

Cosmetic surgery is NOT the same as reconstructive surgery ffs. Someone getting a nose job so they look "better" is not the same as someone trying to restore their nose after an accident and you all know it.

"Oooh you can't criticise plastic surgery, some people NEED it" ok well I can and I will, just like I'll criticise the diet industry even tho sure there are people who might need to lose weight out there.

Let's be real here, it's very telling that feminists will be like "hey so X exploits women" and suddenly a bunch of you will be like "whoa there, have you considered not talking about that?"

It's worse when those of you claiming to be all anti capitalist do this tho. Oh you think capitalism is bad, but also we shouldn't critique the rise of dangerous and unnecessary cosmetic surgeries? Go fuck yourself

#anti beauty industry #anti beauty culture #anti plastic surgery #radfems interact #radfems please touch #radical feminism #vagueposting #vague post

[master-missysversion]

I'm convinced some people have actually gaslighted themselves into having false memories of stuff in 13s era bc what are some of you people on about

#doctor who #do you actually know what happened in any of the episodes or do you just remember the parts you see people complain about #vague post

[anyshapebutsquare]

I had like an almost close friend breakup tonight. I’ve never really had dramatic friendships, except for this one. And it’s often her being mad at me for something kevin said/did, which I don’t think is fair. I haven’t reached out to her in a few months on purpose and then tonight she called me asking if we were friends in like a jokey way and I just didn’t lay down this time and kinda held my ground which she did not like. I am very non-confrontational so usually I just forgive and forget. Since I didn’t do that this time, she started victimizing herself. After some words there was a long pause because I wouldn’t back down and I was just like can we talk about this later, I worked today and can’t really think right now. And she was like yeah, I wasn’t planning on having this conversation. Yeah because you thought I would never hold you accountable!

#vague post #I don’t even have that many friends! #especially not in PA #but I don’t need this drama #it sucks bc we have a lot of mutual friends so we’re def gonna be around each other #I think in a few days I’ll text her my final thoughts bc I’m not good at talking in the moment my brain is too slow processing and analyzing

[midnakoopa]

OKAY BEING VAGUE TO AVOID SPOILERS BUT I JUST ENCOUNTERED TRUE TERROR WHAT THE FUCK

#legend of zelda #tears of the kingdom #vague post #video games #i now know fear #went from wait what is that #to JESUS FUCK WHAT IS THAT

[thebentleyao3]

why are people watching the new iwtv series...hating on other shows now? is it not possible for everyone to just enjoy good things??

first it was claims of wwdits not being as good bc nandermo unlike loustat isn't canon (which is ridiculous not just because it’s very obviously a will they wont they, but because?? wwdits and iwtv are entirely different genres) and now nbc Hannibal being called? queerbait?? and annoyance expressed at how people are comparing interview with Hannibal when they are very clearly similar in some ways? yall need to chill out on this hellsite fr

#vague post #i just wanna go through the iwtv tag without seeing another post insulting a perfectly good show man #shocking reveal one ship is similar to another (millions dead millions injured) #iwtv #hannigram #hannibal nbc #wwdits

[nekokat14]

worst feeling ever: getting hyperfixated on a specific character from a show but not on the media itself (I can't watch non ______ clips, I can only watch scenes he's in... I can't even read fics because I simply do not care about any another character in the media)

[blanking out the character name because I don't want THOSE fans to come out of the woodworks telling me how I'm such a bad person for only liking this specific guy]

#vague post #might say who im thinking about later if this gets good reception

[raskies456]

if you interpret “check your gender essentialist biases” as “you’re not allowed to complain about men and the patriarchy ever” that’s on you lol

#456 words #vague post #like seriously maybe someone is saying that but I feel like you are making up a guy to get mad at #there’s a big diff between going ‘ugh men’ w/o adding 500 ammendums to clarify you don’t mean All Men #bc you need to vent about the patriarchy and behaviors it enables #and being gender essentialist #like you can Tell #you can tell if it’s frustration w the patriarchy and certain types of guys #vs gender essentialism #look I’m also white* and people going Ugh White People #does not bother me at all #it’s the same with going ugh men no one is saying you can’t #they’re saying that some people clearly believe being male makes you a bad person #and that it’s an issue #anyway #ask to tag #transandrophobia #antimasculism

[naomiknight-17]

I feel bad if I boost my Ko-Fi/ask for donations more than once a month, meanwhile there's someone I follow who I swear is fundraising for something else every other day

So maybe I should get over it

#things are tight rn cuz jon has had to miss work due to his inner ear condition flaring up #he's finally seeing a specialist soon tho. hopefully this won't be an issue anymore in the near future #but i don't want to ask for help right now cuz. we'll live. #we may go into a bit more debt but we'll live #anyway #mod post #financial stuff #vague post #just in case? i'm like 300% sure the person does not know i exist

[moron-rights]

Hey someone help me out. What’s that shade of green. You know. The one. There’s a post about it. Several posts, actually. It’s starts with a p or something.

#vague post #what’s that shade of green #you know #the one #I’ll give you a kiss on the forehead #I’ll make you an art if you can help me

[noneedtofearorhope]

ah yes, because nothing says “ A society structured around human need “ like The State

#vague post #specifically about posting chinas population as a 'gotcha' #not the reply that the quote was taken from #not a jab at MLs as a whole #i'd like to think most of them still have the withering away of the state in mind #more a jab at those who are staunch and absolute defenders of Actually Existing Socialism #still not gonna name names because i want to keep this a vague post #but for those who know the post i wanted to be (maybe? hopefully?) more clear #btw hi thanks for reading all the way down here #i know its not the longest block of comments in the tags #but it was certainly more than i had anticipated

[shins-rpc-sources]

friendly reminder that vague posting and anon hate are never okay in the roleplaying community ... or anywhere, really. if you have a problem with something that someone posted either confront them about it in a mature fashion or softblock / hardblock them. sending anon hate and vague posting never gets the job done. instead it only makes the situation worse and causes far more harm at the end of the day. many of us on here are grown ass adults and we need to act like them. YES, we are entitled to have our own thoughts and opinions. YES, we are allowed to be genuinely upset / hurt by things our mutuals say or do. NO, that does not give us the right to vague post and send anon hate. you are the one in charge of curating your own dashboard. not me. not the person to your left. and most certainly not your mutuals. just you.

#rpc psa #rp psa #roleplay psa #roleplay #roleplay community #community #rp #rpc #psa #public service announcement #public service announcements #public #service #announcement #anon hate #anonymous #hate #vague post #vague #post #hatred #friendly reminder #friendly #reminder

[wateractually]

A reply to a post I can no longer see

Congratulations on graduating from begging Gabe to reconsider breaking up with you and desperately trying to find an answer to what was wrong (other than your own mistakes) because your dating was the best happiness you've ever experienced to demonizing every aspect of your relationship with Gabe and his other partners to the point of lying to strangers on the Internet for sympathy.

Things you said that are straight up lies:

• You were not in a relationship with Gabe when Sam asked him out. He had told you about having a crush on you when you two met. You had a casual friends-with-benefits relationship from Gabe's perspective. Then he had his Pride date and later got with Sam and Hungeren. Only after then did you ask Gabe out and begin dating him. He did not "inform" you or "ask your permission" to be poly because you asked him out while he was already dating Sam and Hungeren, and your being okay with poly was implied by YOU asking HIM out.

• Gabe did not "only" accept Sam's asking him out to also get Hungeren, he wanted to date Sam at the time as well, but decided after dating Sam for a few months that they were not compatible dating and had a friendly break up.

• I (Kaitlin) was never not Gabe's QPP/life partner. He broke up with me due to badgering from our roommates and other stress and later resolved that he didn't want to end our partnership completely, just that he needed more personal space, which I agreed to. I was not his "roommate" during the first date night you mention, I was his life partner.

• All of us, Gabe and Sam included, all agreed that you got shunted on that date night. You were initially included and we all assumed you would be part of it the whole time, but Gabe made the mistake of lighting the fire, not thinking about it needing tending. All of us agreed that he fucked up in that instance and we all felt bad for your situation that night.

• The October event was initially planned on being a large group even with You, Gabe, Me, Hungeren, and one of your friends. He stayed by my side for most of the event because I would otherwise have been alone and I am disabled, and when I left to sit for a while you did get time alone together. This is also not the only date you got, as you mention in the next paragraph.

• You were not initially invited to the concert due to me being the one doing the inviting and I had expressed to Gabe (which he confirmed he brought up with you) that I (and others) were uncomfortable with the way you two acted together. Gabe didn't invite you because it was my event.

• Hungeren isn't the one who offered you Sam's ticket, Gabe is. You made a stink about feeling left out, which Gabe wanted to reconcile, and it worked out that Sam was not going to be able to make it. Gabe made the decision to invite you, with the agreement that you two would not be too touchy-grabby next to me and Hungeren.

• Gabe was incredibly affectionate at the concert and at dinner immediately prior. While you and Gabe found parking and walked back, he was affectionate and close with you.

• He did not ever suggest you were invading a date with his other partners. He brought up the date as an example of dates other than the previous one.

• You were not barred from seeing him in January, you just happened not to. He is busy with work and housekeeping, especially since I was under-medicated and having negative side affects AND we had two extra people living in the house who did not contribute to the chores. Gabe refused your visiting because he was busy with housekeeping and you demand his constant attention while visiting, often to the point of physically blocking his way to his chores.

• Gabe does not avoid you for "a few weeks" after VDay, you visited our house no more than 10 days later on the 24th when you broke down on the couch. He did not treat you coldly that night. You were actively trying to impede him doing chores, which is why he had previously denied your request to visit that day, and demanded his attention anyway. When you started crying about not wanting to go home, he consoled you and treated you kindly until you left.

• He was unable to schedule therapy the night he asked for a break because he does not currently have a regular therapist and it takes time to get set up with one. He has been actively seeking out therapy since asking for a break.

• He did not ignore you for a week and a half before you complained in his DMs about the break, you started complaining less that 12 hours later that same day.

• He does not blame you for feeling bad about the break or needing a place to vent. He explained further how he is not the kind of person who can provide attention at the frequency which you desired.

• He never said you were too immature for polyamory because polyamory is not about maturity. He said you were not fit for polyamory because of how you handled your jealousy toward his other partners.

• He said he doesn't "have the capacity to date" you because you asked for more attention than his other partners. Even while living with him, Hungeren and I do not ask for his attention as much as you did.

• He took me out on a "date" the next day because it was my birthday and he was celebrating with me. He initially was considering it being a group celebration but I wanted to not invite others because I didn't want too many people there and didn't want to specifically leave anyone out.

• He didn't "rip into you" for breaking down in his DMs. You asked him a direct question about what changed in your relationship between VDay and then, and he told you the truth in response.

• He didn't claim you were the "biggest issue" in your relationship. He said your needs were different to the point that he could not emotionally keep up.

• He had told you previously that his roommates were uncomfortable with your excessive PDA. He did so to attempt to establish a boundary which you promptly ignored (and blamed on my sex aversion which was not present anymore)

• He tried to set boundaries with you. He told you to chill with the PDA and you didn't. He told you he couldn't give you the amount of attention you requested and you kept on asking for it, every week. Also, how can you say he "never enforced" boundaries immediately after saying he never set them?

• Him asking if you would participate in his kinks is not pushing your boundaries unless you told him not to. You knew going in that Gabe enjoys casual/group sex. Him asking if you would be amicable to that is not pushing a boundary, especially when your response is "I'm not ready for that." Him asking again later is also not pushing boundaries because of your previous response not being a hard-limit setting. (Also, he was asking about group sex primarily for YOUR benefit, not his.) (He also has expressed that if he HAD pushed your boundaries, he would accept that as his fault, but he generally did not feel like you established that boundary.)

• He said he only dated you for easy access to sex with a safe person early in your relationship. It is completely in line with Gabe's personality and general attitude about sex. If you had qualms with it, you should have mentioned it to him directly.

• He never said he had to be high to feel like seeing you. He told you that he has a hard time socializing with anyone while not high, you included.

• He did not tell you to seek therapy "for being upset during a breakup." He told you to seek therapy because you have made it incredibly clear to all of us that you do not know how to process breakups, and that your previous relationship experience was potentially traumatizing to you. He firmly believed you needed therapy waaaay before breaking up with you.

• He said he was dating you for selfish reasons and you said the same back to him. Most reasons for dating, between most people, are selfish. People don't generally date for altruism.

• He did not get you kicked out or ostracized from either of the servers you shared. I was the one who suggested removing you from our house server, because several of us were not comfortable with your behavior since the breakup. The other server reprimand was prompted by other people who were also uncomfortable with your behavior since the breakup. Both of these happened without Gabe's prompting and were due to your childish actions.

Other issues with things you said:

• Gabe "showering you with attention" is not in contradiction to him establishing that he may be more distant with you due to his medical situation. He put forth the effort to be affectionate with you because he valued your relationship, and it is something YOU wanted from the relationship, not because he is naturally affectionate. He tried to establish a reasonable expectation for your future relationship, which you decided he didn't mean because of one weekend.

• Him letting you borrow a toothbrush because you were staying the night without planning is not an exceptional situation. That is a completely normal thing for even friends to do.

• Gabe slept through your Valentine's Day date because it was scheduled in the morning when he is usually still asleep due to late work hours. He has always had an issue with making appointments, particularly ones early in the day, and is something everyone close to Gabe recognized as a flaw of his, understands and generally plans for.

More context for other issues:

• Gabe never once tried to influence any of his friends/roommates opinions of Tony. He tried very hard to keep his opinions away from ours so we would potentially stay Tony's friend.

• If Gabe had known Tony was suicidal the first night they hooked up, Gabe WOULD NOT have slept with him then. He would have talked Tony through his emotions and helped set him up with medical assistance instead. Gabe would have recognized that sleeping with him in such a state would cause severe emotional rebound and unhealthy attachment to Gabe (as it clearly did).

• Tony blaming the general discomfort those around him felt towards his constantly groping Gabe on my sex repulsion is ridiculous because I had previously made a decision to stop being repulsed by sex, and by then had had sex with multiple people and no longer consider myself sex repulsed.

There's so much more to say about this but man. I'm tired of thinking about it.

#vague post #again #hahaha

[genderfluidsgetguns]

ah gods im such a bottom help

#i keep #keysmashing #help #me simping for cepha #mootie patooties #mooties #moots #mutuals #asks #enbysgetdaggers #they aren't on tumblr anymore #its okay to #vague post #about her #right? #it wont see this #the gay thoughts #bottom posting

[deritosmi]

that person is so infuriating wtf stop interacting with me

(over exaggerated)

#pierce moment #vague post

[dirkification]

I can't get over this

What the fuck do you mean you have to be a racist misogynist to ship a very common fandom ship

It's like

like you know that post about the barista telliing white women to "be bad" when ordering something

If they were ordering a ship, this is the ship they would order

No shade, I love dramione

But like

No clearly all dramione shippers are racist misogynists

Get in touch with the real world I am begging

#jax yacks #vague post #harry potter discourse #ship discourse #shipcourse

[ghoulishautism]

Have you ever checked the dp tags and then see a take so deranged you have to hold yourself back with the strength of 10 oxes

#vague post #The ACTIVIST??? #I know she isnt Perfect by any stretch of the imagination but she would not support that shit