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#unsolicited advice from mod rane
yandere-vent · 3 years
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GODDAMMIT OKAY
We're dating, right? I'm always there for him when he needs it and I try not to make a big deal of my stupid problems cause I can't change them. So I'm in the middle of making a comic about us, a comic HE asked for, and he tells me in the most polite way that he wants to breakup but still wants me in his life. I 100% appreciate this and I'm heartbroken but I can't even be mad at him! He said that he couldn't really be in a relationship right now and I just found out he's on new meds and that might be part of the reason he broke up with me and NOW IM EVEN MORE UPSET CAUSE WE WERE TOGETHER. I WOULDVE HELPED! I WOULDVE UNDERSTOOD AND I WOULDVE TALKED HIM THROUGH IT! But he just left! Was I not good enough? Was I too dumb? What the fuck did I do to make him not want me? I knew something was wrong, I kept telling him I loved him and he didn't say it back recently so I was just hoping he didn't fall out of love with me. He even said he just couldn't do a relationship right now so maybe if I wait and try and be better I can show him I'm good enough
It just hurts cause I love him and I don't know what to do, he made me so happy and I thought I mightve made him happy too. If we do get back to together I gonna hit him with a pillow for genuinely hurting my feelings >:'(
Some people just aren’t in a good mental state to be in a relationship and that’s something you have to respect. It takes a lot of self awareness to realize that, and even more to admit it to someone you’re currently dating.
If he says he can’t handle it right now, give him time and space. Not being able to handle a relationship means different things from person to person, but, (unless he specified specifically that it was), it isn’t about you— it’s about them.
He said he still wants you in his life. That’s a good thing— it shows he still cares about you. Even if you aren’t his s/o you can still support him and be close to him, just don’t smother him with affection. I’m sure he’s hurting, too.
- mod rane
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yandere-vent · 5 years
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