#unless the things we dont have in common make us fundamentally incompatible or i dont like u. i doubt thats the case for anyone reading this

[soaringsearingphoenix]

From now on when i meet new people i will wait until they say their name, then introduce myself by the same name.

This serves several purposes. First, it will dramatically reduce the number of names I have to remember, because people will greet me by their name. Second, if they introduce me to their friends I'll know exactly what our connection is because new people will greet me by the name of the friend who introduced us, so it will help me draw clear connections between the people I know. Third, I won't ever have to actually give a name to people, so my friends can't say my name aloud around strangers.

It might get confusing for my friends and acquaintances when everyone knows me by a diferent name but that's their problem not mine

#also i imagine it would make people uncomfortable to picture dating me because its rare that people wanna date someone with their own name #as far as i am aware at least that seems to be a deterrent because it would get confusing to other people i guess #so thats also a major plus #the only actual problem for me in particular is that i have a lot of friends whose names tend to change #and i think i would have to come up with a system i use in that scenario #because while i dont feel bad sharing someones name it WOULD feel wrong to be like 'oh you chose this? you spent a lot of time on it? YOINK' #and i ALSO dont want someone to have to hear their deadname all the time when im around #so as long as i can think of a solution to that circumstance then this is a foolproof plan #the only other issue is that it is impossible to be subtle that thats what im doing i think anyone who saw me meet someone would catch on #but being part of society is a performance art already you might as well just really commit to it #do somethingn ridiculous and tell people its to Challenge Their Perceptions of connection or identity or something #i mean Who We Are already changes so much around different people anyways #i figure if anything this better reflects my relationships with other people #like i think it would say about what i want to say about me #which is that as much as i want people to appreciate me for my actions and creations and stuff #i also just want them to relate to me and on some level i try to make that happen by reflecting back my favorite of their qualities #like its not a think i plan to do its just that im gonna look for things we have in common #and then thats what im likely to bring up in conversation and mostly exclude things we dont have in common #unless the things we dont have in common make us fundamentally incompatible or i dont like u. i doubt thats the case for anyone reading this #especially this far into the tags #anyways i do have a lot of names already this is just what im already like taken to a logical extreme #its like having a different nickname on all my discord servers but irl its great #(thats what inspired it is realizing how many of my discord servers have some sort of dnd character or nickname associated) #(its a good system it tells me who knows me why)