One of the most revolutionary things you can do as a woman is make peace with the idea of being disliked, or even hated.
Make peace with people calling you unlikable, shrill, ugly, unkind, because I promise that people will call you whatever they think will make you shut up.
This is the secret I try to keep from you, and you from me, and in doing so, we do each other a grave disservice."
"The irony of hiding the dark side of our humanness is that our secret is not really a secret at all. How can it be when we're all safeguarding the very same story? That's why Rumi calls it an Open Secret. It's almost a joke - a laughable admission that each one of us has a shadow self - a bumbling, bad-tempered twin. Big surprise! Just like you, I can be a jerk sometimes. I do unkind, cowardly things, harbor unmerciful thoughts, and mope around when I should be doing something constructive. Just like you, I wonder if life has meaning; I worry and fret over things I can't control; and I often feel overcome with a longing for something that I cannot even name. For all of my strengths and gifts, I am also a vulnerable and insecure person, in need of connection and reassurance. This is the secret I try to keep from you, and you from me, and in doing so, we do each other a grave disservice."
— Elizabeth Lesser, from "Broken Open: How Difficult Times Can Help Us Grow" (Villard, October 27, 2008) (via Whiskey River)
Here comes the drawing dump!
I haven't been very active on any social media or posting anywhere, and my motivation to draw is at an all-time low, so I'll be posting all the stuff I never showed these past months, to see if that motivates me :)
I randomized them, for better or worse, and you'll have some almost-finished drawings as well as dumb doodles :)
Today is a dumb iPad doodle 👍 Nice colors on Ed though
Considering that BogBitchSuperstar's account got shutdown Im pretty sure Eevee's Friends, allies, and Enablers are going on a campaign of silencing Eevee's critics or they got shut down by people who thought Eevee was innocent and was only being criticized because she is transfem.
I'm not going to jump to conclusions about this.
BBS thinks it has more to do with some "unkind things" they said about the C E O of this site.
I responded to a post from someone I don't follow, which was reblogged by someone I do, that was along the lines of "That chronic illness feel when you don't wanna get out of bed all day," or something. I said, "All. The. Time."
Cue a vicious psychic and verbal attack from this bully who clearly doesn't understand how Tumblr works and expects everyone else to read their "about me" and remember all their triggers... At a time when I am already really hurting and vulnerable.
Having conditions and triggers does not mean it's okay to be abusive to others. I hope you know that this caused a sobbing meltdown and brought back a ton of my trauma, plus caused nightmares... for doing NOTHING WRONG- agreeing with you. FFS! And then I kindly and nonconfrontationally tried to ask you about it, to clarify, and you ignored/blocked me. WTF?! There is no excuse to treat people this way. The rest of the world doesn't have to follow your particular, over-controlling, obscure little rules.