#under stimulated

[mental-health-advice]

What should I do when I feel understimulated and restless? I feel chronically bored and lonely. I try to reach out to friends but it's so hard to organise a day to catch up with them because everyone's schedule is different. I see one friend more than others but even when I hang out with her I feel emotionally detached. It feels like the same conversations over again. Like I am just living the same days on repeat. I hate this feeling. Even sometimes, I try new things and still feel empty.

Hey there,

It can be really hard when our schedules are so different to that of our friends, but there are some things you could possibly do to still keep in touch or reach out to them even if you cannot always catch up with them in a face-to-face context. For example, things such as texting or emailing or using other social media platforms can be ways to stay in contact with others. I know it’s not the same as face-to face communication but on the plus side it does give you and your friends the opportunity to reply when they have some free time and are not so busy with their own things. In regards to feeling emotionally detached though, can you bring this up with your friends and maybe even have more meaningful conversations with them? Like perhaps, speaking about what you are both passionate about, ask questions to find out more about them or even things like what your goals are for 2023 – as it is the new year and all! This can be really good to feel more involved in conversations instead of the same old conversations of asking how each of you are. Don’t get me wrong though, asking how others are is important, but after doing this try to expand the conversation out to other things, things that you haven’t previously spoken about if at all possible.

In regards to what you could do when you are feeling under stimulated or restless, have you tried to keep yourself busy with things such as fidget toys? These can be really useful and especially when you are feeling restless or need to focus on something other than what is going on at the time. More specifically though, is it possible for you to do short courses online of things that interest you? This can help to challenge you and especially if you are feeling bored or feel like the days are on repeat.

I myself have started doing short courses online and am finding it really good as it gets me out of my own head, gives me something else to focus on and also allows me to learn new things that I otherwise would never have known!

I really hope that this has helped a bit and please do let us know if we can help to support you in any other way!

I’m thinking of you and hope that you are going well!

Take care,

Lauren  

#mha-lauren #advice #advice blog #mental health advice #anonymous #restlessness #under stimulated #bored #emotionally detached

[delightfuldisappointment]

My brain is underestimated so it made my body overestimated. 🤩 we love it here.

#brainrot #over stimulated #under stimulated

[windandwater]

Ed + being a whole adhd mood, part 2 (part 1)

note: first, this isn't a diagnosis, only a very familiar pattern. also I know that we have contextual clues to hint that breaking the record was about more than boredom, but. that is such an adhd line.

#our flag means death #ofmd #ofmdedit #ofmd season 2 #my gifs #made by me #ed teach #blackbeard #we will not be discussing how boredom/under-stimulation intersects with depression when you have adhd #how you do impulsive self-destructive things and lie to yourself about why #we will not be doing that #the picture looks like me and I will not be looking at it #in funnier news the number of times I've gone 'I should get a job doing this' after enjoying one (1) thing is absurd #I'm looking in a fucking mirror is what I'm saying

[darkwood-sleddog]

more and more i become of the opinion my dogs are not reactive to strange dogs but in fact it is unreasonable to expect them to NOT be reactive when the dogs we pass are unwalked, understimulated rural hellions that thrash at the windows of their houses, bark at us and follow us for entire lengths of properties, snarl at us, run at us with tense body language etc.

is this because a neighbor (who does skijor!) moved in half mile down the road from us a half a year ago with the most polite, unreactive dog that my dogs glance calmly at as they walk by? as it is unrestrained (no underground fence) on the property? absolutely is.

is this because a few years ago a neighbor's very nice pitbull mix got out and when it walked up to us with polite calm body language my dogs reacted just as calm and we were able to walk this dog home? absolutely is.

like i am a human woman and have lived in areas with much larger populations than i do now. i remember being followed by strangers, yelled at by strangers in aggressive ways. it made me tense and yes...reactive in those moments to ensure my own safety and needs were met. but was it my fault for having to react that way? To call friends and family and be on the phone any time that i walked alone? to check in when i got to where i was going? to bring pepper spray and iron knuckles to walk less than 10 minutes away from home? I don't think it is. Rather it's the failure that allows that behavior towards me which is at fault. i should not have had to carry those things with me. or call a single soul.

same with my dogs. my dogs aren't reactive, i'm just the only person who walks my damn dogs in my rural neighborhood. even though we can walk for 4+ miles either way on safe dirt roads out of our driveway before we reach pavement. nobody else. walks. their. fucking. dogs. yes i manage my dogs behaviors, it can be embarrassing when they get riled up, but know what? it is not their fault so many other dogs fucking SUCK. and it is not those dogs' fault that they suck either. i encountered more politely behaved dogs when i lived in the suburbs and city than i do now because those dogs at least had some sort of experience with being around other dogs (passing them on the sidewalk even) out of necessity. Rural people truly just throw their dogs outside and expect that to be enough. if you're lucky they install a little underground fence that will maybe keep fido in the yard (like uwu WE don't want to have a look at a fence and we're going to make all our neighbors GUESS if our dog might run into the road at them uwu).

#dogblr #dog behavior #is it unreasonable to ask completely neutral behaviors from my dogs #when they're being fucking harrassed? when they just want to do their sniffy thing and pee on a bunch of stuff?? #can't even like loiter in some places bc people's dogs loose their fucking shit even if they stay on the property or are inside #like...real containment and stimulation when and now please? #nothing happened but neighbor with a dog that barks and screams at us from inside non stop #put in an electric fence and assured me this under 1 yo dog will never leave the boundary #like...okay... #sure. #let's see how that goes #like my dogs have wonderful temperaments #sorry if they're going to tell your dog off for being a piece of SHIT brenda #my dogs obviously know our yard is their territory #but they don't make a single peep for people walking on the road which is NOT theirs #i can be out of sight of entire dogs with properties out of the sight of the road #and their dogs will still be fucking yelling at mine! like shut the . fuck. up!!

[tiktaalic]

Not all women would be happier if they were lesbians. But Taylor swift would be.

#rip Taylor you would have looooved writing shitty pop that ends up on playlists called sapphiccore. #you would have LOVED saying vaguely gender essentialist things about women under the guise of and this is why lesbianism rocks. #you know the like. fanfic paragraph about man kissing a man for the first time. she would get so much mileage out of fanfic paragraph about #a woman kissing a woman for the first time. #this train of thought. brought to you by. going. girl is your new man intellectually stimulating you? don’t you miss the weirdo mind games? #then going. why am I estimating Taylor swifts floor for intellectual stimulation to be a High Number. #THEN going she would love to say pseudo intellectual shit about dating women. and the woman in question is every tiktok normie femme lesbian #you’ve ever seen #femme doing a lot of work here. I mean Notmal Worman

[allastoredeer]

RADIOSTATIC THEORY/HEADCANON/WHATEVER

So we all saw that picture Vox had of Alastor (the one where it was obviously taken with the both of them toward the end of episode 8). And I’ve seen theories about them being something like friends before their falling out.

And it just got me thinking, what if Alastor was interested in the more modern technology Vox was developing. He saw the potential in it. Or was at least intrigued.

But as that technology progress, much like a lot of capitalistic, corporate sludge entertainment nowadays, it starts get lifeless and formulaic. It starts lacking passion.

And Alastor out here, with his radio where all you have to captivate your audience is sound, gets disgusted with it. There’s no capturing the audience. There’s no passion in it. This corporate entertainment follows a formula that creates the same generic, easy to consume content.

And, hating the way Vox’s technology is growing and creating the equivalent of entertainment sludge in Alastors eyes, starts distancing himself from it. So when Vox asks him to join the Vee’s, Alastor is very blunt in his rejection and does sugar coat WHY he’s not interested.

Which pisses Vox off because, essentially, Alastor is insulting all that he’s built and cultivated, and he starts claiming Alastor is just too stuck in the past and he needs to keep up with the times. Thus, their falling out/fight happens, and bitter feelings are harbored well after that friendship (or whatever that relationship) fell apart.

As I’m still on the radiostatic train (one-sided or otherwise) I think it just adds so much delicious potential and drama. I am rolling this around in my head and I love it.

Whether this is true or not (probably not) I think I might ingratiate this into my canon. It’s just so much fun to think about.

#this bitter little rivalry they have going on intrigues me #and the obsession Vox has is just #so good #I Can totally imagine him being pissed about how Alastor viewed his technological enterprise #but also still having romantic and/sexual feelings for him #and it’s just boiling under his skin until it becomes this obsessive endeavor that lives in his brain constantly #and Alastor just sees this soulless modern entertainment #and despises it #where’s the FLAIR? #where’s the pizzazz! #where’s the entertainment? #the passion? #with radio all he has to work with is sound #it takes SKILL to keep someone’s attention without visual stimulation #no one tell him about podcasts #anyway I love thinking about it #it’s fun #hazbin hotel spoilers #hazbin alastor #the radio demon #hazbin hotel alastor #alastor #hazbin hotel #hazbin hotel vox #hazbin vox #staticradio #radiostatic

[4x01]

[with startling clarity] I NEED TO GET TO A SWINGSET.

#sitting in my house going oh my god why do i feel so restless and under-stimulated #as if my life for the past few weeks hasn’t been drive to work -> come home -> work at home -> video game break for sanity #txt

[friezaglasiencold]

hey Frieza, i was wondering how Yamcha's doing? also idk if this has been asked already but what's his relationship with Kuriza?

((hi i was wondering if you could give me some tips on starting my own character ask blog? if that's alright))

He's fine... actually, we had ourselves a little get-together last night. Saw a movie. Played some word games.

(Among other activities.)

He's taken on a very active role with Kuriza, which I do appreciate. Most strapping bachelors of his ilk don't take as well to their dates having children as he has. The boy adores him, too.

It's a dangerous situation for me to be in, however, to allow my child to become so attached to someone I might well leave by the wayside. I wouldn't want to obligate myself into a relationship for his sake. Still, we have fun, and Yamcha plays the role of babysitter quite well.

#text response #((As for making an askblog... really just have fun with it!! Don't force yourself to adhere to a canon you don't enjoy)) #((It's a writing exercise more than anything so do whatever stimulates your creativity!)) #((And remember you're under no obligation to answer questions that make you uncomfortable)) #((The moment it feels like homework #That's when you need to step back)) #((I will say though that blogs with elements of follower interactivity tend to last longer)) #((Playing games with followers and having continuity and letting them shape the narrative a bit can be fun))

[flowercrowngods]

so. tales of blue (who did this to you) or something so monstrous (kas!eddie and migraine!steve)?

#or a secret third thing? #m also thinking time travel au thoughts. so many of them #i am creatively under-stimulated but also burnt out but also terrified that you'll forget about me #also i should be working on my uni assignment and/or lesson planning but hhh

[gowns]

so like, something that bothered me was: when i was describing my kid and her personality to a group of parents, and how it was similar to my personality, and there was a parent who just kept saying "have you been assessed for autism? it sounds like autism." and i was like, no, ha ha, we don't have autism. and she kept asking me -- gently, not haranguing, with good intentions -- "are you sure? seeking a diagnosis can be very helpful. she could have help in school." and i'm like yeah i know, my mom is an educator who has worked with sped, we don't need it though. and she just kept going like: "but i mean, being sensitive to things, the way you describe it, it sounds like autism." look. i get it. i'm glad there's an expansion of an awareness of autism. i might even be mildly on that spectrum, and my kid might too. but a diagnosis is only helpful as far as its ability to open up connections, accomodations, etc. i have my own little method of doing things that works really swimmingly. and here's the thing: i was really good in school. i crushed tests, worksheets, creative projects, public speaking, group work, independent work, participation, navigating conflicts, school plays. and -- i should note -- it's also not an "overachieving" thing. i was happy being an "As and Bs" student. i firmly regular-achieved.

so sure, i'm an odd duck, i'm sensitive, i'm erratic, but i'm also super social, energized by other people; i have my odd little ways of doing things but they're not set in stone routines. i crave novelty and have issues with impulse moderation. these things + sensory sensitivity and etc etc all fits a pretty firm diagnosis of ADHD. BUT i'm not even married to that diagnosis. like i'm fine just saying, you know what, i am who i am, i operate in this funny little way, but i've figured out how to do things in life, a lot of people love me, i'm very successful and very happy. no further accommodations needed (at the moment). so why hang my hat on my previous diagnoses, or any other diagnosis? literally, like... social services are stretched so thin, please let those services go to someone else. not me, whose biggest "problem" is that i have a special interest that is sometimes a money sink (slow fashion). but that's basically just a hobby. people have hobbies. i'm not in need of therapy for being this way.

i have a blog, ok. other people find my fixations funny and useful!

#some might say this is cope #but also ... if i'm highly social successful happy and capable of regulating myself when i'm under or over stimulated... is there a problem #my kid will announce 'i need alone time now!' and will go to her room to read a book or do worksheets #just like little me :) #anyway i did an online autism test just to mollify that parent #and i showed her the results which said i am fairly sensitive to things but like 100/100 social skills #and she was like oh hm. probably not autistic then #which brings me to my previous post #like... if i was masking in social interactions... there would have to be so many layers of masks #for the amount that i love social interaction and performance and eye contact and etc

[melveres]

I’m so invested in wizard101 and its denizens that it has got me researching actual irl science and engineering so i could depict magic better

#most of the text is under the tags yet again lmao whoops #I’m out here looking up electrocultural agriculture bc i wanna draw my YW revisiting Khrysalis after Morganthes defeat #helping reverse the mass deforestation and crystallisation caused by the umbra legion #mainly bc I don’t like how fast the game moved on from us saving Khrysalis to merle immediately telling us we r graduating #let there be at least some period of time in between jdjfkg #montage of my wizzy taking the time to learn theurgy under moolinda #despite being a storm wizard #and researching how to heal the land and plant new growth #to use her storm magic to stimulate the plants to grow faster and stronger #bc smth smth electrical currents promote plant development and helps them grow more fruit #and teach whatever shes learned to any other spellbinders and farmers in Khrysalis. bc what good is knowledge if it is not shared #maybe rope professor balestorm into this too with all the experiments. wait who am i kidding he would love that and immediately #(or hop. ha) to help experiment. rope the other diviners into this whole project too actually. get those participation credits kids #w101 #wizard101

[boxdstars]

knawing at the bars of my enclosure i need to talk about amara but i have no idea what to post about. so instead of being productive it’s just that damn werewolf bouncing around in my head like a TV logo screensaver

no art progress no nothing. hell world.

#HEEEEEEEELP HELP MEEEEEEEEEEE #when the neurodivergence hits #it’s the under stimulation plague #amara ambrose #boxd chitchat

[allthegothihopgirls]

constantly gaslighting myself into believing that my chronic migraines aren't even that bad. until i get one again and it's actively the worst experience of my life.

#repeat the cycle etc etc #like yeah i spend at least 4 hours of most days sitting in a dark room with the only source of light being my yellow-screen computer #having to ignore the ringing in my ears + the throbbing in my temples. barely being able to get up without my vision spinning #not being able to handle an ounce of auditory stimulation. or the pressure of my noise-cancelling headphones on my head #feeling sick and running a borderline temperature that. does not feel anywhere under 38 degrees. whilst simultaneously shivering #can't even take anything but over the counter painkillers for them because my neurologist considers me 'at-risk' #blehk #but its not even 'that bad' right??? #it's fine though im coming down off this one. i can listen to music without actively wanting to gouge my eyeballs out with my fingers #chronic illness #? #gothihop speaks

[kaus-quietis]

Two of us for [      ] to  s l a u g h t e r

#bsd fyodor #bsd #bungou stray dogs #bsd fyodor dostoyevsky #bsd fyodor dostoevsky #bsd fanart #bungou stray dogs fyodor #lamb #traditional fanart #fanart #unsolved and endless #now this isn't necessarily a reference to anything from the N T but more referring to lambs and rams as sacrificial animals #we all know what the last time Harukawa drew a ram skull meant lol *cough* Chuuya *cough* sacrifice *cough* #but here - possibly two lambs for who to slaughter? I'll let you meditate on that and all the canon-supported possibilities we know already #the good old 'would a world without ability users mean that Fedya is on a path to self-sacrifice?' #this worrying but highly stimulating thought aside - that lamb I drew? that lamb LOVES him #it nuzzles its nose and face against his nose and lips and snuggles itself under his hair and ah I just love drawing displays of affection #again his ushanka is my nemesis and I'm glad I don't see it in the prison arc lmao and still I refuse to draw it like in the manga cuz wtf #*refuses in slavic version of Rohan's 'DAGA... KOTOWARU'*

[b4kuch1n]

tdov was like a week ago already but I just wanna say when I came over to vacation slash help my sworn brother move flat he told me, "ever since you said you wanted to get top surgery I've been thinking about it. it's straight up number two on my bucket list"

#bakuspeech #number one is a house bc obviously. if u can own a house wouldnt u #he was very drunk at that time of the evening. I was not bc I have the constitution of a hot air balloon and any stimulant will blow me up #(relatively new development. france fucked me up big time turns out) #we held hand on his bed for like the whole evening. it was honestly very funny in hindsight but we were extremely earnest in the moment #and Im like. working on this thing as well. I dont got meds or therapy lmao Im bootstrappin here #but yeah early last year his bf offered to get me meds and I... turned it down... I think I was worried abt like. idk. something #but one year past looking back Im fully like that was a stupid move you shouldve gotten meds. youve once again fucked urself baku #but yeah with that kinda realization Ive also come to realized I've somewhat? accepted. that I'm just gonna be. like this #this in light of a number of likely chronic stuff too (hence my balloon-like constitution lmao) and #that's kinda bled into the rest of me without me really noticing #but him bringing that up fully unprompted... kinda jolted me out of it #its just. really incredibly sweet. that someone doesn't want me to settle for what I make do with #and like. preps for that work. just kinda held my hand and told me it's possible to do this actually #I didn't really express how I felt very well in that moment I think my brain is very bad and I process emotions with like a day of delay #but. well. Im thinking abt it Right Now. so yknow thats the kind of impact that had on me lol #not super sure why I wrote all this down here really. I think I just want a good n nice reminder that object permanence is real #and I exist in my friends' life even when Im going insane in a hole by myself #and with the power of friendship we can alter the universe's plan for ourselves and also kill god #that's that. anyways I eat lunch now and then pass out probably. last night was... eventful lmao #but!! very good things on the horizon hopefully. well manifestly we hold hammers and we use them #have a good day lads. let's go out and slay monsters under a highway