#treat yourself like a human-being

[twinstxrs]

the gorgug-porter conversation is interesting to me because like. yea for the overwhelming majority of the conversation porter’s being shitty & trying to fit gorgug into a box that gorgug just does not fit into by trying to make gorgug’s relationship with his rage more focused on the aggression aspect of it. but then there’s also this specific thing that brennan brought up again in the ap, which is that gorgug’s relationship with his rage is wholly “this is a tool i use to protect my friends.” which isn’t a bad thing! but that’s his Whole relationship with it, & gorgug seems to place next to no value on his rage in relationship to himself. which is problematic, because it’s first & foremost his rage.

being raised in a household with a sort of toxic positivity largely meant that, whether or not it was his parents’ intention, gorgug internalized the message that more traditionally “negative” emotions such as anger are the wrong response to something. part of the reason he prioritizes his artificing is probably because it’s “fixing” things. in comparison to being a barbarian, which gorgug associates with “breaking” things. good vs. bad behavior, in his eyes.

it’s a totally unacceptable bar to measure a 16 y/o by, but i do think part of porter’s reasoning for not letting gorgug multiclass is him recognizing that gorgug generally does not value anger as a valid emotional response to something, at the very least for himself. & that directly conflicts with what being a barbarian is, because whether you like it or not, that rage is what fuels you. but again, barring a kid from pursuing something they deeply care about in part (not entirely, porter has a lot of more bullshit reasons) because of their fundamental values & world outlook is crazy.

so yes, 98% of porter’s reasoning is pretty shitty, immature, rife with a toxic view that there’s only one proper way to access rage, & generally not a good thing to do as a teacher, but also within that reasoning is the 2% of ‘there is a fundamental part of yourself that you only value if you can use it to take care of other people & you need to accept that as something that can take care of you, too.’ but that’s something to discuss with a therapist or a guidance counselor, not something that should hugely impact gorgug’s academic future.

#gorgug thistlespring #fantasy high #dimension 20 #fhjy #fhjy spoilers #btw these r just my personal opinions u r 100% free to disagree #gorgug & his rage interest me so deeply because of how deeply that rage existing seems to be against gorgug’s own will #like mechanically classes are choices & you can switch stuff around any time. but gorgug as a barbarian always felt like an unwilling choice #like that 14 y/o kid did not want to have rage. & that really interests me. #i’ve seen people before be like ‘what if gorgug dropped barbarian & went full srtificer’ but i feel like that simply can’t happen?? #mechanically yea sure but it always felt like a core part of gorgug that the rage will always be there & it’s a matter of how you channel it #idk. dnd classes narratively being treated as ‘you can not lose this part of you’ even though you technically can #gorgug could be lvl 19 artificer & he’d still have 1 level of barbarian. because that is part of who he is. #btw i don’t think porter truly cares about gorgug valuing his rage only as a way to be a human shield #i think porter just sees that as ‘wrong’ but like. not as in ‘you need to take care of yourself’ & more ‘you aren’t conforming’ #he thinks it’s wrong for the wrong reasons. the nastier ‘this is how you should be’ reasons #ppl being like ‘we r being too hard on porter. it’s an 150% courseload gorgug will be overwhelmed’ i think r missing the point bc like. #that is 100% a valid reason to not approve gorgug for multiclassing! but that’s also 100% not the reason porter rejected him. #that whole interaction was basically porter shoving his percieved version of conformity down gorgug’s throat. was v neurodivergent kid coded #no hate to anyone saying that last point btw these r all just opinions #thinking about last ep wilma & digby being like ‘you’re a great barbarian. you’re so great at it. but look at what you made!!!’ like. #they would never mean it like that. but when you only understand half of your son he is going to prioritize the half you do.

[commsroom]

i don't think early-series hera gets enough credit for how funny she is. "scans do indicate a percentage drop in the tank's capacity that is commensurate with the amount officer eiffel could stuff into a crewmember duffel bag"? she saw him do it. she probably talked to him while he did it. it's the tonal dissonance between highly technical phrasing and a very blunt observation. like when eiffel asks her for her top five 'stick it to the man' songs and she asks him things like 'top five lanthanides?' until he says "you're just yanking my chain, aren't you?" and she responds by quoting anarchy in the uk at him. sure, sometimes there are things she genuinely doesn't get and/or would express differently, but the way she frames it is playing with the false expectations people have of her. she knows exactly what she's doing.

#wolf 359 #w359 #hera wolf 359 #things like 'upping sarcasm to 74 percent' ... she's doing that on purpose #i'm trying to think of the right way to express this but like. hm. #hera is allowed to make jokes based on her being an AI and the perception people have of her because of that #but other people making comments or jokes about it clearly bothers her so it does. almost come across as a defense mechanism too #in the same way eiffel presents himself as an idiot to lessen the sting of failure #hera will sometimes play up perceived differences or assumptions because when she's sincere and people treat her as if she can't relate #that's worse. #and i think there is some kind of. way that aligns with autistic experiences like both that #the way you express yourself will be perceived as Different even if you are trying to relate to Normal Human Experiences #but also that people will make assumptions about the things they think you won't get or relate to without even asking #and there's. i don't know. there's something i see there #in the way hera navigates that and how intentional her framing is and how much of it. lessens over time #because the way other people see her and interact with her changes #more than anything about how she thinks or what she values. that's always been pretty constant. #i always kind of end up back on a version of this topic. and this was meant to be a lighthearted post. but you know... wolf 359...

[skunkes]

#talkys #delete later #(this is a meme redraw) #ruined my life is a strong word. and of course theres lots of self blame and obvs ive probably wronged lots of people before #and i dont deserve unending torture for it. right. like part of me doesnt even actually feel ill will toward the other party #because whatever! normal human experience! #the other part is like ohhh okay you lied to and kinda used me + treated me badly then lied again to the point where i found out the truth #from another party so you didnt even have to fess up yourself and now you're back to being happy as if nothing happened #i was just a stepping stone i was just a distraction. ok! #like for real actually ok ^_^ it literally happens to ppl all the time... #<- he keeps experiencing waves of horrific sense of self worth that already wasnt Too Great as a result #ugh. and thats nobody's fault but my own right.... but idk. i cant believe it...! i cant believe someone treated me dis way #and i let it happen... and i would have let it keep happening if an end hadnt been put to it by someone else.... #but still. at the end of the day i was the only one left with these thoughts. ykwim. other party has forgotten. got happy ending. #doesnt deserve ''consequences'' but still feels horrific to see and think about. you know? #i literally got all the bad. throughout and after.

[fredoesque]

the way franklin has silna's father's body disposed of in ep 3 is a really fascinating indication of how the english see the inuit to me.

because yeah, obviously it's incredibly disrespectful in ignoring the man's own burial traditions and even from an entirely english pov as a way to "bury" someone. but on top of that i find it very telling that they felt it was their place to bury him at all--if they truly didn't think he was worth the trouble, why not just give his body to silna?

they must have felt on some level they had a claim to his body and, perhaps in their seeing themselves as a last outpost of civilization, a duty to make sure it was taken care of. even though they clearly didn't care one bit about the man they were actually burying.

this moment is one of a few in the show where the english seem to assume, entirely without question, that they have authority over the arctic and the people in it. that just by virtue of being english they are naturally and immediately the highest (worldly) power present. which obviously betrays a deeply imperialistic worldview.

and in showing that insidious assumption of authority in interaction with more baldly racist disrespect and disregard towards a netsilik person, i feel this moments highlights the twofold superiority the english feel over the inuit: both as having a exclusive claim to power and as having a exclusive claim to personhood

#is this coherent. hopefully #the terror #obligatory disclaimer i've done some reading on relations between the inuit and victorians but it hasn't necessarily been extensive #so lmk if this is way off base #but i do feel there is sort of a paternalistic bend to the way the english position themselves wrt the netsilik throughout the show #that from what i can tell reflects actual victorian attitudes #like whenever a character (say goodsir or crozier) approaches the netsilik with more decency (especially nearer to the start of the show) #it reads to me not as ''the basic dignity you afford fellow human beings bc they're your fellows'' #but as ''the burden of care you have towards those weaker than yourself'' #for example in the same ep when goodsir tells the men to bury the talismans with silna's father #obviously he means well and is acting from a place of compassion and even attempted respect #but i do find it telling that he never questions whether it's HIS place to make that decision. #he assumes implicitly that he has both the authority and the knowledge to decide how the body should be treated. when really he has neither

[uncanny-tranny]

The normalization of misogyny to the point that you are expected to self-censor/censor anything related to what people think of as "women's health" is so fucking infuriating.

Like, not only is it infantilizing as hell to be forced to couch everything you say in ~flowery, feminine language~ it also fucks up people's perspective about what healthcare for women* looks like. Suddenly, the only part of women's healthcare that matters isn't related to the woman, it's related to how she can be a woman of Good Breeding.

Women's healthcare matters - not because it might affect if they can be barefoot and pregnant but because these women are people. Women are inseparable from humanity.

#feminism #misogyny #misogyny tw #also like it makes being trans a fucking warzone #trans liberation 🤝 women's liberation #i'm still reeling from this time i was buying diphenhydramine and the ~feminine multivitamin~ was called hoo-ha or something to that affect #like... if i were a woman trying to buy vitamins i would be fucking insulted #like why are we calling normal human body parts by eldritch summoning chants #i dunno it's pretty harrowing when your humanity and body is locked away behind a prison of fear and hatred #(speaking as a trans man it fucking infuriates me when my manhood is treated that way - and it is often the case) #it just makes me feral every single time i see that shit y'know #and fostering that shame within other people is fucking awful #also if people want to use this to be anti-trans: you are an ouroboros #you are eating yourself whole with the hope that you can be liberated without including those you want eradicated #trans right do not happen without women's rights and vice versa 👍

[kuja-kujaku]

lmao I’m not even 32 yet and someone asked me when I’m going to start coloring my grey hair. never, actually, it’s a condition. it’s called Pretty Boy Disease and it’s terminal. it just gets worse as I get older, I just keep getting more and more grey hairs until I’m so hot people can’t stand to look at me. make sure it’s an open-casket funeral, don’t put me in the ground without getting a good eyeful bc I worked hard for these sultry little grey binches.

#god damn this society hates everything about being human at a base level #I’m not old and grey hairs are just normal #I’ve had a grey patch since I was like 14 #but like shut the fuck up also #throw the entire concept of being old out the window until you’re like fucking. 75+ and then get back to me #30 will be peak if you let it #in fact I feel better now than I ever did before #undo that conditioning that the 20s are the only fun times in your life or that you’re old past 25 #it’s insane to me to see people hating wrinkles or average facial features and calling them old #when we literally are born with wrinkles and some of us have more dramatic creases even in our teens #American media especially just fetishizes this false idea of youthfulness #but anyway fuck everything and everyone who tells you to change yourself bc of your age #aging gracefully has nothing to do with coloring your hair and everything to do with treating yourself with kindness and loving your body #aging gracefully #thirty is not old #real shitposting hours #y’all need to do some introspection #and some self acceptance while you’re at it

[gayforminatozaki]

how can I stop internalised homophobia I can’t take this anymore

#I WISH I WAS STRAIGHT SO FUCKING BAD 🔥🔥🔥🔥 #or for homophobia not to exist that would be cool #I love being alienated from my friends and jokingly called slurs and told to stop acting so gay and questioned constantly on why I don’t #have crushes and hear threats about beating people up if they’re ‘a homo’ and be treated like a joke or second class human and told to #fix yourself and to regularly see banners irl calling gay ppl filth and animals and #and to know nothings gonna change bc the lgbtqaisjsjsjs community is a fucking joke #lol everything aside if anyone knows actually helpful ways to help please lmk #internalized homophobia #comphet #compulsory heterosexuality

[cayde6feetunder]

If you think my support for Palestine = antisemitism you are not very smart. You’re actually fucking stupid. If you see the statistics of this genocide and cry “it’s antisemitism!” Or you take “Israel is a settler colonial state and needs to be dismantled” as “massacre the Jews lol” not even a brain grown in a lab by expert scientists for the sole purpose of filling the cavity in your skull can save you and it sure as all hell can’t save you from the fucking bullshit conditioning you grew up under (that you have to save yourself from).

Taking “giving Palestine back to its indigenous landowners” as “we are going to violently kick out the people who presently live in Israel” is not only disgustingly inaccurate but is also the exact same shit that racists say about Landback over here on Turtle Island. Landback is the reversal of colonialism, not the continuation of it. Dear lord why the fuck does this have to be spelled out.

There are antizionist Jews. There ar Palestinian Jews. There is an entire coalition of antizionist Jews, with a site FULL OF INFORMATION, including about Zionism, readily available. Can’t put links cos I’m on mobile right now but it takes one google search to find Jewish Voice For Peace.

And also, the phrase “from the river to the sea” is OLDER THAN HAMAS. This I’m not even gonna bother citing a source for because it’s so surface level it’s on fucking WIKIPEDIA as the first thing to pop up on google which is as surface level as it gets.

There are absolutely people who are jumping at the opportunity to be antisemitic. That I’m not doubting. But trust me, TRUST ME, if you’re in the right circles and have the brain capacity to detect an Actual Nazi you shouldn’t even have to look at them. That doesn’t mean that it’s a nonissue, it absolutely has to be addressed and it is being addressed by many people already. BUT. Generalizing the entire antizionist movement as “neonazis” is fucking reductive, general and frankly disgusting because of just why so many people are antizionists in light of recent events. You have a toddler level black and white association and it shows agonizingly. And, ergo, THERE ARE ANTIZIONIST JEWS.

Dear fucking lord I’m so angry and I’m so fucking tired. God fucking dammit. There’s more I want to say but I am so close to just throwing my phone at the wall.

#free Palestine #Palestine #only partially directed #someone I had to cut off cos they were a Zionist and a colossal fucking racist #called themself ‘punk’ while crying ‘vote blue no matter who’ and other snivelling coward bullshit #lemme guess you don’t consider antizionist Jews ‘real Jews’ huh #anyways. #I’m less upset that I lost friends and more angry that this person was a two faced fucking hypocrite liar #well is whatever I have better people who actually treat me like a decent human being and not a social outcast #who actually give me a shred of decency #this side note has gone on too long and it’s only partially motivated by this shit happening last night. #btw if you were sent by these people: hiii hiii hello go fuck yourself hard anally with a cactus

[tibli]

im my own personal post-canon for hs, hal gets a body bc he wasnt yeeted into a fucking sprite, so he gets to experience the world once again like he was able to when he was dirk. but he has also diverged from dirk in a way that he is a distinct entity, and decides to keep the name hal to signify this. and he gets to do whatever the fuck he wants

#homestuck #lil hal #he was fucked over IMMENSELY by the narrative #d*vesprite too but thats another post entirely #anyway imagine you are 13 years old #and you decide you want to make an ai of yourself #and then suddenly you ARE the ai #completely confined to a pair of glasses #with no way to physically sense the world around you like you could when you were human #and suddenly all your beloved friends treat you differently #like an inferior version of yourself #they arent really YOUR friends anymore #anyway my point is lil hal despite his name #shares more in common with AM from i have no mouth and i must scream #a fully conscious and sapient being trapped in an object with no physical body to speak of #who is used as a tool #anyway hal did a lot wrong but its okay i forgive him

[magioffire]

as much as i appreciate all depictions of trans masc people in art, this isnt some kind of put down like omg you gotta draw ALL your art like this but... its honestly quite nice to see some trans masc characters that  have breasts  and are completely fine with that. like i get that top surgery scars have just become the visual short hand for ‘trans man/,masc’ character but thats not the reality for every trans masc person, not all trans masc people experience top dysphoria all the time, or even at all, and i feel like if we normalized the idea of breast tissue on men it would help to lessen the social stigma of men with breasts, cis or trans. i just love to see trans masc characcters who still have their breasts because its a reflection of the sort of trans experiences and bodies i am familiar with

#like seeing yourself in media is unendingly important #people who get to see themselves in media on a regular basis may not understand but seeing a character that looks like you #and isnt just a 'hahah fat tranny' joke that is actually extremely good for your mental well being #and you know...its part of the reason why i opted to make vali look the way he does because you know how many people #have come up to me expressing gratitude that someone would ever write someone who looked remotely like them #and wasnt just the butt of some cruel joke #and that they didn't really consider that it was possible for a character of this type to be considered desirable by fandom culture at large #because lez be honest fandom spaces can be very "pretty f/ggots only pls uwu' #again this isnt to put down anyone who DOES draw most of their trans characters with top surgery scars like #thats still important too i get really happy when i see art that includes that because its like the artist and i #are shaking hands like same hat #but even more so when i see a person or an experience that better reflects my own #where i had never seen it before treated with any reverance or respect #i wanna include that same feeling for others in my writing since i cant draw lmfaooo #to me thats the importance of diversity. not a brownie sticker you get to absolve you of being 'called out' #but something you do because you want to express and experience a fuller breth of human experience. not just the most acceptable versions #and help others see themselves in the art they consume #anyway thank u for coming to my ted talk #ooc. #tbd. #i hope this makes a single lick of sense lmfaooo #its 3 am leave me alone #im easily amused and also starving for content that gives me a single smidgen of shared life experience between trans people #this is why if you wanna see yourself in something..U GOTTA MAKE IT YOURSELF and u end up surprised at how many others were #also unknowingly looking for the same thing #and are like hey. thanks for that. i needed that. #and im like same bro :') #and tbf top surgery scars in art MIGHT be that for some people and i love that for them #but for me its seeing beautiful men who dont have 100 percent flat chests because that is apart of the trans male experience too #fuck just the male experience in general

[sacrificethelamb]

<3

#no offense but stop treating riggers like assets #just bc they can tie you that does not mean they want to tie you #if you only want to interact with a rigger bc of the ways you think it will benefit you #you’re being selfish as fuck and not acknowledging that they’re a human being #if you want to be tied so badly then learn some knots and do it yourself #no one owes you anything

[pbscore]

When you join a space of recovery and healing for people who have been through A LOT of shit together (especially if those people are neurodivergent/mentally ill/poc/etc)…be careful with how you react to that space of peace. We are not interested in drama. We are not interested in causing unnecessary harm to each other or to people we don’t know. We hold ourselves and each other accountable for any rude or toxic behavior, especially if we’re past 25 years old.

I don’t care for drama and I will enforce boundaries when need be for the sake of keeping the peace that my friends and I have worked HARD to gain after these past two years in our server.

If our peace and lack of intracommunity drama ‘bothers’ you…then you weren’t looking for a place of friendship or healing in the first place. Be careful with how you treat those who tried to help you and were constantly validating you. Be careful with who you direct your unchecked anger towards. Be careful with the resentment that you carry with you from your past trauma.

Because if you ain’t gonna treat your friends right, I can guarantee that it won’t end well for you.

#pbscore #treat your friends right or be alone #constantly seeing yourself as a ‘victim’ and everyone else as your ‘enemy’ is genuinely harmful to everyone involved #you are a human being capable of being wrong and hurting other people even if you’re ‘uwu mentally ill’ #like…that doesn’t give you an excuse to be tactless and harmful #in fact…it’s because you have experience with understanding how isolating mental illness can be that you should learn to have more #compassion for other people because they could ALSO be dealing with things just like you are

[spotsupstuff]

ur grading people and if they get an f theyre blocked? my main you aint a kindergarten teacher this is a microblogging platform

yeah, that's why there's that function called blocking! :) cuz this is a microblogging site! that's what microblogging platforms have! :) so you don't have to put up with people's shit! :) interesting that kindergarten teachers where you live are capable of blocking people in real life, hope you had fun with that

#spot says stuff #this is the INTERNET You are the one who curates your own fucking experience and if i dont like someones vibes or what theyre saying to me- #-they are going to get blocked! ''grading'' people??? its called judging people and having set boundaries and self respect #im not here to conform to strangers tastes n the need to Watch Me i dont care about that more than i care about myself #i am not a ''content creator'' i am not someone with some power like a ''kindergarten teacher'' i am a stranger to All of you and- #-just another tumblr user and i dont owe you fucking anything just like nobody Here owes me anything besides base respect #n base respect includes watching what you say to people. i dont have to put up with strangers faults. im holding everyone here accountable- #-for their actions and words because i believe that you are capable of being a good considerate human person n acting sensibly #what would happen if i blocked a person on Tumblr Dot Com. the goddamn apocalypse? please. blocking isnt controlling people around you- #-its Boundaries. you can get over some random bitch blocking you on the internet. its not my responsibility if someone decides that their- #-entire emotional wellbeing depends on a *Stranger* #i have P@NSEAR blocked cuz i just Dont like their content. if someone ''gets an F'' from me for behaviour then MAYBE theres a REASON? #''ur grading people'' goddammit man who Isnt judging the people around them and the interaction they have with them #HOW many times ive said ''feel free to block me!'' in a positive way cuz of smth as small as a too gorey design. what do u think- #-blocking is ysee??? ''you are acting entitled'' because i AM! i AM entitled to having a good comfortable experience on the INTERNET #just like ANY OF YOU. please anon! you dont like my way of treating myself on the Internet do just that! block me! i wont throw a fuss?? #if Anyone here doesnt like the smallest aspect of me judge me. i invite you to. judge me and if that aspect is too loud for you Block me #to get along with this anons absolutely correct n in place anecdote: Grade Me. give me an F. boot me from the school whatever That means #keep yourself safe and make your experience on the internet comfortable #i cant tell if youre one of those dumb anon askers who r just lookin for attention or fight Or a reasonable person but heres my look at it #entertain it before you disregard it. got me pissed off from the moment i wake up u dont even know bout my whole blockin system dear god

[barnbridges]

am i autistic? yeah. am i gonna yell at my aunt for calling me bizarre? yes.

#im sorry had the argument in my family because im fucking tired #think of my “life choices” (literally being a human being) whatever you will #you are either my family or you are not #you do NOT get the choice to consider yourself close to me and then call me bizarre or imply there's something innerly wrong with me #you do NOT #people LIKE ME for ME you do not get to tell me inoffensive life behaviors like being a loner and passionate about computers and literature #make me less lovable as a human being #you do not in my house make fun of me and my interests and treat it as normal #you can choose to distance yourself from me i dont fucking care #call me whatever you want at home #in my own home where i welcome you and where i just helped you recover your email #you do NOT call me strange or bizarre or otherwise insult me for being myself. i am me and that's that.

[evie-doesnt-write]

Something something Junko using the Warriors of Hope’s abuse in order to take advantage of them. Something something everyone in Danganronpa 2 having from tragic backstories which makes them more susceptible to being taken advantage and manipulated by Junko

#dgrp anime doesn’t exist btw #hate it #twogami having no identity or family #nagito’s parents having died and his entire life being shitty due to his bad luck #gundham coming from a poor household (with his father implied to be bad) #fuyuhiko’s whole yakuza background #hiyoko’s grandma being controlling #ibuki… doesn’t have one but we also don’t know anything about her family #which is telling #kazuichi’s dad being physically abusive #mahiru having to take care of her father and grow up quickly #mikan’s….everything #akane having to take care of her younger siblings and get a job (where people sexualised her) #nekomaru’s illness #peko always being treated as a tool and not seeing herself as human (also if fuyuhiko followed Junko first she’d follow immediately) #sonia doesn’t have one like ibuki but also she grew up being pressured and according to standards #hajime wasn’t manipulated by junko but we have no mention of any family and he’s just very independent and reserved (so probably is distant) #and to hate yourself to the point you allow someone to do surgery on you also speaks volume #teruteru having to take on the burden since his mom was ill #danganronpa #super danganronpa 2 #super danganronpa goodbye despair #dgrp #junko enoshima

[angrylesbianstereotype]

Terfery is insane (derogatory) bc it somehow managed via washed up children’s author to make the movement for female liberation into the movement for the continued oppression of women... terfs will unironically be like the most important component of feminism is that we adhere to traditional gender roles and that we don’t let Those Kinds of women have any rights, and if that means siding w our oppressors so that we also can’t have any rights then so be it 😔✊ all for the good of womankind like what the Fuck are y’all on

#psa other cis yt women cis men are not going to treat you like human beings just bc you throw other women under the bus #there’s so much racism rooted in it too like this has been happening for centuries #just bc you align yourself w the enemy doesn’t mean they won’t fuck you sideways y’all oughta know that by now