#transmisogyny tw

[tittyinfinity]

I was hanging out at the karaoke bar, chatting with a beautiful woman, and we were really hitting it off. I threw a couple of flirtatious comments her way. She giggled nervously, but abruptly stopped and looked at the floor.

She told me that she was too nervous to hit on people because she's trans and worries that people will view her as a predator and that she might get hurt.

My heart sank. I let her know that she could hit on me in whatever way she wanted and I would LOVE it. We spent the rest of the night hanging out and flirting. We ended up making out. It was great.

But I can't stop thinking about how that wasn't the first time a trans woman has said that to me. About how unsafe it is for some women that they feel the need to give out fucking disclaimers to have normal interactions with people.

We have GOT to make the world a safer place for trans women. It pisses me off that there are men at the bar who are openly predatory towards me without fear of consequence, yet a trans woman is too scared to even fucking call me pretty. And that's because she IS more likely to face worse consequences for lesser things! Like what the fuck!

You need to always check on your internalized biases. Being queer yourself doesn't absolve you of transmisogynistic thoughts and behaviors. Being bi/pansexual doesn't mean you don't hold those biases either! If you feel differently about a trans woman hitting on you than you feel about a cis woman or a man hitting on you, you need to evaluate that.

Trans women, I love you so fucking much. You should be able to express attraction and love as freely as everyone else. I hope you can always feel safe around me. And I'll never stop fighting until you can feel safe period.

#her name was Kara which we joked about bc I came with my other friend named Kara and we were at the Kara-oke bar lol #i told her about how last time i was hit on at that same bar was ALSO by another woman named Kara #she said ''i need to find a man to transition right now so we can have more karas'' 🤣😭 she was so great lol #and I'm texting another friend named Kara right now😭 soon everyone will be Kara #transmisogyny tw #.bdo

[puppyboygf]

wait. photomatt went back and edited that post and removed any instance of using pronouns at all after receiving backlash. he decided he would rather avoid gendering avery at all instead of gendering her correctly.

#transmisogyny tw

[chroniccoolness]

genuinely a lot of you need to sit the fuck down and think about whether you actually support transfeminine people or you're just chasers. cause a lot of this site's support seems to be "uwu fuck me big strong dommy mommy" "I want a sexy trans goth gf so bad" etc etc and it's so gross. like i dont think attraction the inherent problem here or anything but when every single post asking "do you actually support trans women/transfeminine ppl?" has some chucklefuck in the notes going "haha yeah, I support her ON TOP OF ME!" it gets really obvious that you do not actually know how to support them without sexualizing them. and that's. really incredibly not okay.

#transmisogyny #transmisogyny tw #where's that post that's like 'do you support her if she's a solid 3' I want to rb it again #and the one that's like 'how do the asexual trans girls feel' that's a good post abt it too #but i can't remember which blog I rbed it to :/

[communistkenobi]

all you fucking idiots do all day is jump at the opportunity to link trans women with masculinity and manhood. Transmisogyny is not formulated as misogyny aimed at “failed men” because trans women are not failed men! they are women! Insisting otherwise is straightforwardly transmisogynistic! Trans women are treated like failed women, they are not “failed men” because trans women are not treated like men if they are outted or don’t pass - a failed man is still a man, a trans woman is not a man, they are not treated like men, when they are misgendered or harassed or violated or attacked they are being treated like disposable, failed women, not men, never men - they are not afforded that privilege because they are not men and are not viewed as men, especially not by cis society. This is not a coherent articulation of transmisogyny because it is a description of the intersection of (say it with me children!) transphobia and misogyny, a compounding oppression that treats trans women as sexual predators, as dangerous, as degenerate women, not as “failed” men, whatever the fuck that means. There is no structural component of anti-masculinism, misandry, or whatever other horseshit term you people come up with in transmisogyny because it’s not fucking about men! Get fucked, you sicken me, you are a transmisogynist & it is a daily embarrassment sharing space with you people on here

#transmisogyny tw #even old new york was once new amsterdam

[trans-androgyne]

“Me hating men isn’t radfem behavior! TERFs don’t even actually hate men, they just hate trans women.” Radfems would beg to fucking differ!! They most certainly hate men, and they will tell you so with pride. Have you ever actually heard from a radfem? They think all men are inherently predatory and dangerous and should be kept as far away from women as humanly possible if not outright be killed. Yes, they hate trans women the most—because they conceptualize them as men mocking and harming “real” women. That doesn’t mean they aren’t also misogynistic towards trans women; they are. That also doesn’t mean they don’t team up with cis men against trans people sometimes; they do. But if you look into it literally at all you will immediately see that radical feminist ideology hinges on blaming not just the structure of patriarchy but individual men for the oppression of women. If coming to terms with that makes you uncomfortable, sit with that for a while and figure out just how comfortable you are with bio- and gender-essentialism.

#listen. I’ve been abused by men too. I’ve said I hate them or they’re trash or they can all die or whatever too #but holding onto that instead of working through it is exactly what radfems do—they use their trauma to convince themselves they’re right #saying you hate men does not fight the patriarchy. all it does is reinforce your existing negative beliefs & harm the men around you #transmisogyny #transmisogyny tw #transphobia #transandrophobia #androphobia #rad/feminism tag #te/rfism #intracommunity issues tag #mine

[allthecanadianpolitics]

Conservative Leader Pierre Poilievre stepped into the debate over trans rights on Wednesday, saying "biological males" should be banned from women's sports, change rooms and bathrooms. "Female spaces should be exclusively for females, not for biological males," Poilievre said in Kitchener, Ont. The Conservative leader made the comments after being asked if, as prime minister, he would introduce legislation to prevent "transgender women" or "biological men" from participating in female sports or entering female prisons and shelters.  "A lot of the spaces … are provincially and municipally controlled, so it is unclear ... what reach federal legislation would have to change them," Poilievre said.

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[autisticbisexualemaskye]

artistic rendition of what this guy thinks a woman looks like:

#no BONES???? #transphobia tw #transmisogyny tw

[uncanny-tranny]

I'm actually so done with people (including "allies") using trans* men in order to attack trans* women. There is no trans liberation without all of us.

"Oh, you don't see trans men doing [x], but you see trans women doing it!" Actually, that just tells me that you intentionally leave trans* men out of this specific bias against trans people. It tells me everything about your attitude about trans* men and trans* women.

#trans #transgender #lgbt #lgbtq #ftm #mtf #nonbinary #transphobia #transphobia tw #transmisogyny tw #going to actually steal something out of y'all's houses if i see that EVER again #'trans men aren't invading manhood!' every time y'all say that i ~invade~ manhood even harder #genuinely saw somebody like 'trans men know they're too weak to go after [cis] manhood' and y'all are so sexist it hurts... #...like y'all really just think women(/anybody you force into womanhood) are INHERENTLY weaker... #...and people wonder why transphobia is so tied to things like racism/antisemitism/white supremacy/so many others... #...because rhetoric like this RELIES and DEPENDS ON people believing in the idea of a lesser class of peoples... #...without the idea that there is a Lesser Class/Less-Than-Human Class these ideas (eg transphobia/homophobia/sexism/rascism) CEASE to exist #scratch a transphobe and a fascist bleeds

[oldsamarie]

hayy mutuals quick warning for a potentially terfy user ive seen in the mutual circle. under the cut

reblogs off cus i don't wanna make this a big thing but at least for now id recommend my mutuals steer clear of @/gleamfuls, it looks like she follows at least 1 terf & has been liking some of their posts. i sent an ask to see if this was an accidental thing but it looks like she just unliked the posts and didn't block - the reason i say it looks like she didn't block is because we can literally see her in the terfs following list. Lol.

(same image twice for formatting)

and anyways, here she is liking a post about terfs directly, so it looks like she mightve forgotten to unlike this one

(continuation of the post is nothing important, just a cat reaction image, but you can see her in the likes)

SOOOOO yes i tried to give the benefit of the doubt but im kinda leaning towards the thought that she might be a crypto. Sorry if that's not the case but i mean like. SHRUG EMOJI. she appears to be a minor so i don't want to make this a whole thing, but i know the mutuals i see interacting are trans so i want to keep you guys informed

#t slur #transmisogyny #transmisogyny tw

[zmpl]

I’m sorry for the long post but I want as many people to hear this message as possible, so I’m extending it out to tumblr.

This is my friend Meghan Lewis. She’s a 52 year old trans woman from Bel Air, Maryland. She’s a huge advocate for the LGBTQ community and has devoted her life to helping her community. She worked with houseless LGBTQ youth. She mentored me during hard times this past year, acting as an aunt figure to me. But two nights ago, on December 27th, 2023, she was murdered.

From what the news reports are saying, she ordered food to her home and the delivery man, Brian Delen, misgendered her. This started an altercation where Brian stormed back into his car, and Meghan followed him on foot. Brian then got out of his car and shot her.

What infuriates me is that he’s likely going to claim self-defense, or that this wasn’t related to Meghan’s gender. and end up getting a lighter sentence. He called 911 himself and surrendered himself to the police. Even though these are the type of posts he made on Facebook:

Meanwhile, this is what Meghan would post to her Facebook:

I’m just so angry. I’m so hurt. Meghan had a heart of gold and would open her door to anyone who needed a shoulder to cry on. She didn’t deserve this. No one does. Please keep Meghan in your thoughts, forever. Pray for justice.

#transphobia tw #transmisogyny tw #trans violence tw #death tw

[lumberjackloverboy-moved]

trans men need to realize that when trans women are discussed “the most” by cis society (which is debatable even then), the entire time they’re in the limelight they are being demonized, fetishized, and facing verbal and physical violence. trans women are the face of discussions like sports and bathrooms because they are being seen as the most dangerous and repulsive by cis society. cis society ignoring trans men as they drag trans women to the forefront and rip them to shreds isn’t oppression. support your sisters and stop complaining abt not being seen when the people doing the seeing are only coming from a place of violence 

#tempted to tag this as transmisandery and transandrophobia but i value my life #transmisogyny tw

[puppyboygf]

a trans woman gets wrongfully deleted, falsely accused of making threats and is harassed by automattic's ceo, after years of trans women talking about how they are constantly having to deal with things like this, and days later, someone pedojackets another trans woman because they failed to read her website rules in their entirety, and less that a month after that, someone pedojackets yet another trans woman because of a months-old comment replying to a stranger, which she has already addressed repeatedly. not a fucking thing has been learned.

respect trans women. support trans women. actually treat them like human beings deserving of compassion and reflect on how public accusations of wrongdoings do not accomplish anything good, and are especially harmful to trans women, whether they're true or not (and most of the time, they're not true). and yes, love trans women too, but that goal cannot be reached without everything else.

#i'm sorry you're all having to deal with this. you deserve the world and so much more. i love you and you will always be my sisters #transmisogyny tw #and this isn't to mention all of the other shit like trans women still being deleted for criticizing staff/photomatt's treatment of avery #like there is just so much. #(this is also oversimplifying the accusations. like the website rules thing was obviously bad faith not just 'you missed a spot.' #and the thing with the comment was also obviously malicious.)

[0w0tsuki]

Hey can we stop pretending like the only feasible reason that a trans woman would not like the term femboy is because she's some puritan anti-kinkster or somehow against men being able to dress femininely?

Like perhaps maybe the group of people who had to go through a phase of having to figure out and explore their femininity while being perceived by society as a man DON'T WANT to police the way men are able to present and express their genders? Like maybe WE DON'T want to make things even harder for transfem eggs. Like maybe we might have an interest in protecting transfem eggs and are speaking from the harm that we experienced as eggs ourselves?

Like maybe it might have to do with the fact that outside of Tumblr your average femboy is a trap fetishist? Like did we all forget the memes of "trying to figure out if the Astofolo icon is a trans woman or a fascist?"

Like some of us were discovering our transness during puberty in the early 2000s. You remember the early 2000s right? Where South Park and Family were at the height of their cultural influence, the R slur was a substitute for stupid, and bigotry was so common that "traps are gay" jokes could be made in polite company without having to worry about backlash. So imagine what kink spaces were like. Especially when you're a teenage trans girl just discovering herself.

I personally was so damaged by that experience that I began to believe that my gender-no my EXISTENCE was a fetish to be embarrassed and humiliated by and to be reviled for. I genuinely did not engage in relationships because I believed I was going to have to give in and tell them that they fell in love with a sex object. I did not believe that I was worthy of love. And it took YEARS of working through that for me to be comfortable with transitioning.

And after I worked through that I still have to deal with them. They haven't left kink communities they had their roots in. To this day there's a kink website I frequent that has community suggestions for tags IE: Unless the OP of the work goes back to delete this feature, anyone can "recommend" deletions or additions to the tags of the work. This is in place to make the proper labeling/searching/blacklisting of kinks easier to help curate content. In practice though it allows transmisoginists to basically graffiti any transfem artwork they come across. And let me tell you Femboy tags are getting added on right after they replace F/F with M/M on a transbians t4t work. And it happens so frequently that I have to check in about once a month to these trans tags to inform the most recent victim about what's happened to their works.

And outside of kink spaces I go into fandom spaces where I have had to deal with trap fetishists positioning themselves as fucking lore scholars when they harass trans positive folks about the Correct and Moral gender of the transmisoginistic character that they've got a fap folder dedicated. I got to see someone rise to twitch fame off the back of trap content turn into a “femboy icon” because he gave some of the trap money to trans charities and has a trans girlfriend. Who is still making trap content by the way.I've gotten to see reddit lose their absolute goddamn minds when the term Trap was banned from r/anime, shitting themselves so hard about it that they made their own separate website with transmisogynistic wojaks on the home page and everything. And then I got to see the fucking Bridget Debacle.

The reason I always talk about Bridgets trans confirmation is that it's the most widely recognized recent event where the exact shit I'm talking about was on full display. The reason why her being confirmed as a trans woman was such a big deal for trans girls was not just because she was one of the anime caricatures with her own folder in the trap enthusiasts masterbation portfolio. It was because she was GROUND ZERO for original coining of the word trap. And the EXACT same guys who deemed her a trap were now coming out in DROVES fuck EN MASS. But this time as self appointed femboys. We had so many examples of fucking Astofolo icon twitter facists trying to drudge up any type of left sounding argument using the femboy identity after having their initial arguments revolving around mistranslation were debunked. Crying that transfems were “stealing femboy representation” and trying to say that it was an “antitransmasculization force feminization trope” ironically. You know the cry of “Let men be feminine!!!!” y'all always bring out in defense of femboys. THAT'S who you're parroting! THAT'S who you got it from! We have had direct evidence of former trap fetishists dawning the term femboy when it became less cool to be openly transmisogynistic and then started appropriating leftist language to give their transmisogynistic arguments an air of legitimacy.

Like y'all need to understand that this magical space we got here is a FUCKING BUBBLE. Femboy communities in literally every other online space are former trap/sissy communities and are fucking cess pits of transmisoginy. I have seen posts by people who's only experience being around femboys was on Tumblr go out and check a place like r/mildfemboys to be horrified by the obsessiveness of the transmisogyny the femboys they interact with. And the femboys here aren't much better by treating being forced to acknowledge that these people exist and that is a still very active part of their community even if they don't personally interact with it as a personal attack on them and their gender presentation.

Y'all just want to pretend it doesn't exist and treat the idea that a Transfem might not WANT to interact with YOU(OH GOSH!!) because of it like it's some sort of personal judgement instead of something you're just going to have to accept happens when there's a large portion of people who share that title who are responsible for traumatizing them. But y'all got to go one step further. Y'all who go on about how femboys are our closest allies and about how “femboys and transfems are actually closer than transfems want to admit”. Y'all treat femboys like they're out little fucking brother in the queer community and it's our personal fucking responsibility to leave behind any personal baggage at the door in order to make them feel welcome.

Y'all can't handle the fucking idea that a trans woman might not be comfortable with sharing community with someone who's average member would call her a trap while jacking off to her selfies if he thought he could get away with it. That's she's not interested in playing the Astofolo icon game with them. Y'all gotta create a backwards narratives where she is against her own interests, where she is for making it harder for eggs in the future instead of you know. Asking for better from the communities those eggs are drawn too.

I have been forced to fucking put up with femboys in nearly every online space I've ever been in. And I

Am sick and fucking tired

Of putting up with femboys

#transmisoginy #trans bridget #bridget #trans #femboys #femboy #f1nn5ter #transmisogyny tw #tw trap #trap tw #trap cw #cw trap #tw sissy #sissy tw #cw sissy #sissy cw

[communistkenobi]

when trans men on this site fall back on their “feminine biology” in arguments about transandrophobia, usually to argue that we as trans men can never experience male privilege because our “sex” means we’ll never be seen as men in society (and therefore we have a ~natural lifelong relationship~ to misogyny that trans women will never be able to understand), this itself is a demonstration of male privilege - if we are not men we can at least still be women, still be seen as human. we have access to humanity through this dual gender citizenship, and this rhetorical strategy places trans women in an impossible position where they either must concede they’re “really men” because of their own “biology,” (denying the existence of transmisogyny altogether) or concede that they have no gender at all (denying the existence of their humanity). trans men will misgender themselves and still retain their humanity through appeals to their “biological feminity,” and this misgendering is seen as an acceptable sacrifice in the maintenance of their humanity, but trans women have nowhere to go, they are cornered, caught in a double denial of their experience as women and their existence as human beings. trans men can victimise themselves through an appeal to nature without actually experiencing dehumanisation precisely as a way to dehumanise trans women. like funnily enough tme trans people, but trans men especially, are the only people who can really be misgendered - trans women don’t even get the privilege of being misgendered, they just get ungendered, converted into a subhuman animal. they have nowhere to go but hell

#transmisogyny tw #even old new york was once new amsterdam

[trans-androgyne]

“AFAB solidarity is terf shit.”

This is why we lost roe vs wade. Cis women and transmascs have abortion and ten other material issues in common. It is a class conflict. Denying the existence of the class hurts our fight.

“This is why we lost roe v. wade” 💀 As if transmascs had any input on that.

“AFAB” is hardly a class. You don’t know anything about someone AFAB except that they were assigned female at birth. You don’t know if they’re perisex, if they have a uterus or ovaries or even a vagina, you don’t know if they menstruate or are capable of giving birth, and you don’t know what their biological sex or chromosomes are. Literally just saw a TERF minutes ago posting about “TRAs” denying AFAB solidarity, and I’ve exclusively seen it in tandem with the transphobic idea of “AMAB supremacy,” so I’m very confident in my assertion it’s a TERF talking point intended to connect people AFAB with womanhood and against trans women.

#I’m all for reproductive justice but this is so not it #te/rfism #rad/feminism tag #transmisogyny #transmisogyny tw #transandrophobia #transphobia #intracommunity issues tag #ask

[allthecanadianpolitics]

Alberta school teachers are being targeted by a planned convoy “parade” next week in the latest wave of far-right protests targeting schools and educators.

Leading the planned “one million march for children” event is Benita Pedersen, a familiar face among Alberta’s far-right and a key organizer for Take Back Alberta during this year’s provincial election.

“I’m one of the main coordinators,” Pedersen confirmed to PressProgress. “I am in partnership with individuals from the groups ‘Alberta 4 Liberty’ and ‘YEG United’.”

Pedersen says her “one million march for children” is protesting “sexual education,” claiming parents are unable to “opt-out” because she believes lessons about sex and gender are being taught in every single school subject.

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