#to remember and internalize

[uncanny-tranny]

One reason you might not be very "good" about a trans loved one's pronouns or the language you use for them might stem from memorizing what they want, rather than actually changing how you view them.

For instance, my trans friend came out rather late compared to me. However, since internalizing that I wasn't really correct about who she is, because she's a woman and I didn't know that, it was instantaneous to refer to her by her name, to use language that accurately reflects her instead of what I thought she was.

When you actually internalize that a loved one is actually this way instead of what you thought, it makes it so much easier to truly and actually change your perspective on them.

In short, are you memorizing who they are, or are you actually learning who they are?

#trans #transgender #lgbt #lgbtq #ftm #mtf #nonbinary #ally advice #on a semi-related note that's why memorization-based education can be so ineffective #i think the only reason i even remember the quadradic formula still is because i memorized it AND applied it #but the emphasis of memorization > actually internalizing knowledge is honestly just... not learning

[naetles]

happy international lesbian day

#credits to whoever made this because i found it on twitter a year ago but can't remember whom i retweeted it from :( #the l in link stands for lesbian #so does the l in zelda #it's either lesbian or t4t and bi4bi when it comes to these two just so y'all are aware #do not interact with this if you disagree #the legend of zelda #breath of the wild #age of calamity #tears of the kingdom #tloz #botw #aoc #totk #link #zelda #zelink #international lesbian day

[swedenis-h]

A drunk call, 2009

#happy November 5th! #dean will not remember this btw #he’s had 1234567.. A LOT OF BEERS #!!! #oh to love something that looks so human but is nowhere close to it. does its heart even beat? #and to be inhuman. to so desperately want even a glimpse of humanity #to be denied it at the last second. #what internalized homophobia does to a bitch #nov 5th #November 5th #deancas #destiel #dean winchester #castiel #spn #supernatural #supernatural fanart #destiel fanart #deancas fanart #art #fanart #digital art #fan art #my art #long post

[lugosis]

various car crashes taken by weegee

#every post on here is his bettie page or other portrait work and i think we should remember where he got his fame from: death #weegee #will post more once i get to getty images but these are all from the international center for photography website

[poorly-drawn-mdzs]

We can’t keep doing this.

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#poorly drawn mdzs #mdzs #wei wuxian #lan wangji #made this one a bit general because its a reoccurring action wwx makes #He can take it! He’s strong! No one else has to suffer if he’s there to shoulder the weight of consequences #horrible mindset. Go to therapy foul sir #He internalized the concept that his life is only worthy in the service of others…mood buddy but it sucks in this hole #Lwj really said ‘your self sacrificial attitude has caught my ire and I’m taking you on as a personal project’ #ok he didn’t but him calling out wwx is so god damn critical to what makes their dynamic the way it is. #how they *both* call each other out! #in love we grow together B*) #wei wuxian now has a big ol’ ‘fuck you’ cat on his leg. Like the worlds worst drunken tattoo #(its the energy of a wronged catboy coalesced into a single image) #outfit changes are approaching but just…remember….its always there.

[tangledinink]

For the beautiful twins, a gift of hope

@tmntaucompetition

#THIS IS VERY SWEET AND LOVELY AND I KNOW THAT YOU MEAN #A VOUCHER FOR *YOUR* BIG MAMAS HOTEL AND SPA #BUT IM A LITTLE SHIT AND SO ARE THEY <3 #they LOOVEE being called beautiful tho <3 <3 <3 the compliment will Be Remembered #in reality theyd probably make a big fuss abt thanking bbm profusely for the gift and being SOOO grateful and sweet and polite #but this is the internal monologue-- #coz its FUNNY #tmnt au competition #asks #propaganda #crossovers #rottmnt

[they-didnt-last]

currently reading the lockwood and co books, and nothing could have prepared me for how much lucy fucking hates george in them. literally every chance she gets, she just roasts the shit out of him. she will be describing the most mundane of actions and still find a way to insult him. absolute hater behavior, i'm obsessed

#it's just so funny to me #cuz in the show you know they don't really like each other but i don't remember it being that serious😭 #i'm still not over the bit when she was like 'yeah i'm pretty sure you kicked it with your bff. that stands for big fat foot btw' #like??? #absolute insanity #to be fair he's not that much better we just don't get his internal monologue like we do with lucy #lockwood and co #lucy carlyle #george cubbins

[unpretty]

I don't wanna, like, armchair diagnose people on the internet, even fictional ones, but a lot of the awkwardness you write Bruce Wayne with reminds me of the comics I see floating around sometimes about Scrupulosity OCD, with the artist envisioning a little gregorian monk telling them constantly how everything they do makes the universe worse. in the "I am trying to make my a net positive on the world but inherently see my own existence as kinda problematic, and also discussing my problems places an undue burden on both the people who care about me and the overtaxed psychiatric system so instead I spend every social interaction mentally chewing off my own arms" way or whatever. I may be completely off the mark.

good ol' @scrupulosity-comics

ptsd and ocd have a lot of overlap, it's possible for one to lead to the other or for one to only resemble the other and it can be difficult to untangle without extensive therapy. which bruce wayne will not be getting because he is well aware that 'some people are batman to cope' is Not Valid.

if he were anything except a billionaire you have to assume he would have dealt with his control issues by now but unfortunately accepting the things you cannot change is difficult when you can build an extensive underground compound in the desert capable of sustaining a viable human population in case of nuclear armageddon. and possibly already have.

#original #ficblogging #bruce wayne and brother bat #(which is actually just yelling bat again) #(does anyone remember the yelling bat joke i made a million years ago. where bruce's internal monologue was yelling bird but a bat. anyway.

[sereinreality]

someone sedate me

law mimicking corazon’s powers is so sweet and yet so tragic. it’s as if he cannot move forward without taking an aspect of corazon with him. throughout this arc it felt like he was gathering up courage to go back out into the world with a purpose this time.

the feathers, the red poneglyphs, and now the silence ability. finding the reason for the will of D is his goal now, he wants answers. he wants to be able to sleep at night.

#to face the emperors and hell maybe even the world government with what law remembers the most about corazon #the feathered coat the silence ability and the brightest smile as his jolly roger #i genuinely do hope law doesn’t die somehow or have to use the internal life ability #because i would really love to see him FINALLY be at peace with himself after so long #one piece #trafalgar law #trafalgar d water law #trafalgar d law #ep 1067 #one piece ep 1067 #rebel rambles

[tmos-time]

throws march eridan out into the internet like a farmer feeding corn to his chickens lol

#tmos has art #eridan ampora #sollux captor #erisol #march eridan #homestuck #there is so much i can say about this. like how eridan changing in what feels like the sims 3 customization room is VERY on accident LOL #yes solluxs internal code dialogue is maybe a little jab at people who misgendered my eridan last time i posted march eridan lmao #oh! and. eridans wearing the deadly florals midi skirt from maya kerns clothing store. perpetually sad i cant buy the bee shirt in my size #anyways sorry to mobile users who are going to have to zoom in on this thang o7 one of these days ill remember to make my file vertical lol

[alienssstufff]

*yawn* ni night uqu

bdubs merch came in recently, got several copies of the pink bdubs hoodie by accident

#stufffsart #etho #ethoslab #bdoubleo100 #bdoubleo #bdubs #ethubs #hermitshipping #hermitblr #mcytblr #externally (laughing) internally (financially stressed i only remember ordering one ToT)

[the-trans-dragon]

Comic By Yao Xiao

#literally this artist has been teaching me how to become a person capable of being happy for years #I remember seeing this when it came out in 2015 and having it Internalize and realizing that it is true and it does matter which you say #sorenhoots #baopu #baopu 15 #Yao Xiao #autostraddle

[starry-bi-sky]

Dead on Main Childhood Friends Memes

Because now that I've gotten the hang of making au memes, i can't stop.

#dpxdc #dpxdc crossover #dpdc #dpxdc memes #dead on main #i keep calling this ship undead on main #childhood friends au #jason not believing that danny's gonna kill the joker is not only one of the funnier things i've come up with for this au but ALSO #my attempt at fixing that little plothole i made in the first post with danny outright stating his intentions about the joker #bc i didnt think i was continuing the post #it was mostly a prompt LMAO #sam's list is her internalized misogyny hypocrisy performative activism entitlement and her general refusal to accept that she can be wrong #remember how sam and danny hated each other in the beginning? yeah thats why #like lbfr sam's parents canonically spoiled her that has GOT to have affected her views on everything despite how she likes to act otherwis #hey look these memes have more variety than my clone danny ones #jason and danny are paralleling each other with their conspiracy boards btw #and if i could make an animatic of this au it would be with the song 'Hollow Moon' by. you guessed it. the crane wives

[muffinlance]

I really do love your writing and Salvage gets me through when I am sad or depressed. However, I was wondering, how do you cope when someone who wrote a review didn’t like your writing? If you’ve had this before… I had one today and I am dejected. I’m working through my perfectionism and I keep telling myself, “my writing isn’t for everyone and it’s okay.” Any advice?

If it was unsolicited, especially on a fanfic? Delete it, block the person if you feel like, then go do your rage activity of choice before forgetting about it forever. That person is rude and doesn't deserve your time anymore than someone bumping into you on the street.

I've also found it useful to actively think of my fanfic as writing practice, and not even my brain expects perfection from writing practice. It also frees you do Try Cool Things.

Now take this digital blanket and cup of hot chocolate and go reread your nice comments.

#most readers are absolutely lovely #But yeah I've gotten these too because there is always someone on the internet who thinks they are Right and Smart and that those things #Are more important than being kind and polite #Fic Reader Etiquette 101: the only writers looking for crits on a fic are the ones that explicitly asked for it #The only potential exception is for typos that impact reading clarity and even then varies by author #I love having any and all typos pointed out but I know some writers Don't Want To Hear It #My worst comment was the person who wrote essentially: #Wow I remember loving this story it had a huge impact on my life but now I reread years later and it's shit #...Honey. HONEY. #please realize that your personal growth and resulting resonance or lack thereof with a story's themes #have literally nothing to do with me #and I hope your next bit of character growth involves internalizing your self-reflection instead of outsourcing it to fanfiction

[heroesriseandfall]

Sometimes I read another snippet from Bruce’s childhood and it reminds me that, hm yeah it actually makes a lot of sense why Bruce and Tim relate to each other so much.

Batman: The Dark Knight (2011) #1

#also that time right before Janet died when Tim was ranting abt his parents traveling & Bruce said ‘sorry…their work is important…’ #it was an awful thing to say but I do wonder. is that how Bruce grew up internalizing it then? #tim drake #bruce wayne #batfam #batman #bonds: someone alone like me #heroesriseandfall #there’s also something to be said abt Bruce remembering his parents thru rose-colored lenses a lot of the time. they weren’t always great #tim seemed to do that a lil but I think esp since he was older he was more aware of it. he’d already acknowledged his parents had problems #bruce is still like an 8 year old about it most of the time

[thosewildcharms]

he's so fucking funny. local man cannot keep the love and adoration out of his eyes when talking about his wife even though he is supposed to be pretending she is a complete stranger

#richonne #the ones who live #i remember seeing the promo image for this scene and thinking wtf why is he looking at thorne like that? was andy having a seizure? #and then the scene happened and fjdkalfdjksl i cackled #rick internally: i love my WIFE michonne GRIMES so MUCH especially when she yeets me out of a helicopter for my own good <3