Just been going through your tumblr and think it's great 😊
Saw a little comic you did about what non ace/aro and ace/aro think rejecting someone romantically is like.
A great insight for all!
I think that will help a lot of people understand something that can be really emotionally charged.
I think people take the rejection personally when it really isn't about that.
I'm sorry you've experienced those thoughts and feelings.
I'm demi and have had close friends who I really believed were my friends then abandoned and even turned against me when they found out I wasn't interested in dating them.
Here's the thing, though: the right people, they won't think those things in that comic.
Don't believe me?
I can prove it!
Last summer, I was on the receiving end of the rejection. My friend isn't sure about his label or identity. From our hearts to hearts, I'd say he's ace or aro, but I was only made aware of this after I confessed romantic feelings and was rejected because he doesn't really feel attraction to anyone.
I can 100 percent say I did not think any of those things in your comic. Think they were:
‘Being friends isn't enough, will never go all the way, doesn't see me as worth more,can't really love me.’
Nope, nope, nope and nope.
I was a little surprised, I was a bit disappointed, but mostly I felt bad for making him feel uncomfortable. Because he is my friend, because I love him for who is, because I want to see him happy, because I know he deeply values me and our friendship.
We now understand each other much better, and are back to being our most silly goofy selves together.
I know he loves me as much as i love him. If that love is only ever platonic then that's fine, what matters is that it's there, it's honest and real. I asked to date him because I wanted more time with him, to find out more, to go deeper, and that is what we are doing as friends.
I understand we are the minority, but we work because with the right people, it just works.
I've discovered that by accepting and embracing who I am, I have attracted people into my life who fit, which is something I didn't believe was possible. It's not easy, I've done a lot of hurting and healing, but it's worth it for those real connections.
This was not meant to undermine the point of your comic, like I said, the majority of my experiences have been similar and I thought it was really helpful. But just a positive message to say, keep being you and the right people will find you along the way 👍
Thank you for sharing this!^^ Of course not everyone will take things that way, hopefully that's not the full takeaway people take from that comic of mine, and your story is proof that thankfully there's grounds for hope for everyone to find the right people... And by that I of course don't mean "right person" in an allo/amatonormative manner, but the right people to vibe with and be happy with in general, regardless of what the nature of their bond is.
Again thanks so much... Y'know, being how you are to your friend to begin with, and for the hopeful message^^
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Just wanted to say I'm mega super proud of you for making it through this day and the things that made you so nervous! <3 Please take care okay!!
Aww thank you Jamy, that is super lovely to hear! Sometimes it's the best thing to just, do stuff and get it over with so I'm not nervous anymore, and I did! I'm doing good now and looking forward to dinner tonight hahah. You take care too, thank you for the nice message <3
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If you receive this, you make someone happy! Go anonymously, copy and ask this to ten of your followers who make you happy or somebody you think needs cheering up. If you get one back, even better! ♡
(Hi honey! I wanted to include my own message with this because if I'm gonna play, I'm gonna play. Y'know? Anyways! I wanted you to know that I, and probably a lot of other people, see you! You are legit a vigilante to the fandoms man! Warning about art theft there, making people feel special here, a reblog every now and then! I see your efforts! Blogging takes a lot of time! You are more than just the blogs though! You are a really chill and nice person and I just wanted to remind your soul of the truth it already knew. ~kissies 💙)
Thank you! This is very nice!
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Freeze! ✧ ─=≡Σ((( つ•̀ω•́)つ You’re under arrest for being so lovely. Copy this message to 10 other blogs that you think are beautiful and deserve it. Keep the game going and make others feel beautiful! (no pressure tho!) 💙💜
That’s really nice, thank you! 🥹
Will do!
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Holy shit how do you only have 5 to 20 notes on so many of these pieces!! Youre art is so stunning and talented i adore it! Goals, no joke
Ngl I think my art is 'good' but not like 'share with everyone' good and a part of me has accepted that over the years. I think it also has a bit to do with not devoting any time to networking or promo-ing my artwork at all. I just throw art of my gay little bird people into the void and return to the hole I crawled out of to create more.
I have to say though, I have been really enjoying reading the comments and tags on my original work. It makes me feel a little bit like a teen again, back when I was excited to share anything and everything I made. So thank you very much for this ask and taking the time to look at my drawings, that means a lot.
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