#there is no other choice

[heretherebedork]

#thai bl #thaibl #thai series #bl drama #bl series #thai drama #asianlgbtqdramas #asian lgbtq dramas #thai bl series #thai bl poll #bl pol #consent kings #between us #bed friend #nitiman #my ride #scoy #thai bl drama #there is no other choice #because i love you all #but i don't trust you #i mean i trust a lot of you #but i have seen some arguments #and couldn't bear it #feel free to suggest others or if I should do a non-Thai list

[simplydnp]

I’m so sorry you are going through this- I’m sending vibes

thank you anon <3

#as humans we're really resilient. and i used to be proud of using that word for myself. look what ive been through and made it. #and now it's just. empty? like if we're not resilient we die. so like. it's a word that doesnt mean anything to me anymore #i am not resilient for going through this and currently *getting* through it. bc i dont get to choose when my body stops letting me #there is no other choice #which. sounds pessimistic as all get out but i've worn through my optimism shorts. outgrown them. #all i know every day is pain. every waking moment. coming from inside my body. everywhere. it doesnt stop and it wont. #c.text #c.illness #tw illness #answered

[hiitomos]

Okay, I'm going to spread my Hiitomo agenda from Twitter to here on Tumblr because, please hear me out, they're cute and go on omurice dates and practice together.

I think their dynamic would be the boke tsukkomi dynamic without them realizing, as well as mutual respect (with some jealousy from Tomoya's end that dissipates over time), with Hiiro seeing Tomoya as someone that's both vital to the others around him despite his normalcy and seeing him as a reliable person.

In an FS 3* for Tomoya (translated by nia_narqissa on Twitter), Hiiro outright calls Tomoya to be like air: "Not visible in the eye, tasteless, odorless, that's why unnoticed." The next line after that reads: "But without air, living being will die. A presence everyone needs." Which basically says that Hiiro believes Tomoya is someone that may not be seen as special, but without him, others may not succeed, and that he's needed by everyone. Tomoya jokes around with Hiiro but is happy that Hiiro uses his statement in a positive way, where the negative of being unnoticeable is replaced with the positive of being needed.

Also, Tomoya kind of guides Hiiro around and Hiiro sees Tomoya to be a different good from others. While Hiiro's good comes with talent, Tomoya's comes with care and reliability for others, like a safe space. Tomoya helps Hiiro learn more about things, like how he offers advice for Hiiro and tells him what he finds delicious and sometimes acting like a Senpai (though, technically, he is one in a sense of experience as an idol) during UNDEAD's MDM live.

TLDR: Please consider Hiitomo with their dynamic of mutual respect, advice giver x advice taker, and normal with issues about it x talented who finds the other's normalcy to be a good and important trait.

#enstars #ensemble stars #hiiro amagi #amagi hiiro #tomoya mashiro #mashiro tomoya #hiitomo #tomohiiro #are those tags or #idk if its a thing #omurice duo #actually that should be their ship name #id ramble more but dear god !! #you WILL be subjected to my ship #there is no other choice #subjects you to my ship violently #please perceive them

[sk3l3t0n444]

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#i have to save them #there is no other choice #i have to #they cant save themself #their partner cant save them #a friend cant save them #their parents cant save them #its just me now #i cant let others suffer #especially her #she cant know what its like to suffer #i cant stand the thought of her having to know what its like to lose someone important to her #hell...its been a year almost #and its probably going to be a year and a half until i can hug them again #i really need to save them #i cant let anything happen #im supposed to be the one to help them work through problems #ive been through this why cant i help #im supposed to be the one to give them hope the shit gets better #i fucking suck at making people happy #IM SUPPOSED TO SAVE ALL OF THEM #NOBODY I LOVE CAN FEEL SADNESS #PLEASE #WHY AM I NOT GOOD ENOUGH AT MAKING PEOPLE FEEL LIKE THERES HOPE #FUCK FUCK FUCK FUCK FUCK FUCK FUCK FUCK FUCK FUCK FUCK FUCK FUCK FUCK #I CANT LOSE THEM #I CANT

[zytes]

this manatee looks like it’s in a skyrim loading screen

#misc #I encourage anyone dyslexic to try rotating him in your mind. I can’t do that; which is why I’m asking you to. #also: a bunch of tags are surprised this isn’t ‘shopped #it’s the lighting. backlit by the sun (which is diffused through the water) but also forelit artificially #the artificial light - a flash pack or something - casts a hard shadow under the creatures arm #which normally wouldn’t be possible if backlit by the SUN; you’d see a less-hard/more-fragmented shadow above water #as light sources ‘compete’ in a sense - and since there aren’t any light sources which can outshine the literal sun #it looks a bit weird when the darkest shadow is being cast from any other origin point - which is what’s essentially happening here #I don’t know the mechanics of how light travels through water; but I know the effect is substantial even with relatively short distances #also: it’s been balanced and color corrected by the author of the photo - who made deliberate choices to bring out the full potential #so it’s not like it’s a fresh and untouched export #but the kind of ‘tacked on’ appearance of the creature is a result of the lighting conditions within the image

[mylittleredgirl]

okay tumblr’s exclusion from the twitter social media ban list is hilarious but genuinely we do not belong on there. if a real human person asks “where can i find you on social media” and your choice is a swift death or revealing your tumblr, most of us would simply expire. half of y’all change urls every week like you’re in witness protection. just imagine for one second attaching your wholeass government name to your latest two am clownposting and tell me that didn’t send a cold chill down your spine. the only place i ever want to see the words “connect with me on tumblr!” is on the ao3 profile of an author i’m actively stalking. anyone in the world can follow me except anyone i personally know. antisocial media.

#with apologies to beloved mutuals ekjohnston and adibkhorram but this post had to be made #you are braver than any marine etc #i revealed my url recently to some very nerdy lifelong blood-oath level friends and lost feeling in my hands for like six hours #we read each other's livejournals during our peak Dramatic Feelings And Bad Choices years and it still gave me pause #rip twitter #that tumblr lyfe #containment breach

[the-travelling-witch]

Holly I saw the Coolest edit of ur new man, and now I’m jealous cause he’s so pretty

HIS CUTSCENE?!?! >>>>>

i‘m dying to see more of him bc i know there’s more (i have scrolled past spoilers okay) but AAHHHHHH HE‘S SO—

*cut to general, rin and risu sighing and shaking their heads bc they’ve been hit by the full force of me simping for weeks now*

#┊✩彡 divine correspondence ♡ #┊✩彡 unsigned letter ♡ #he‘s right #i cannot refuse this offer #there is no reason to choose otherwise #there is no other choice

[tinystepsforward]

idk how many of you remember this but a few years ago tumblr ran a universally panned ad campaign for (us american) pride month that went "the gayest place on the internet".

well someone planning that campaign dropped in to ask the queer automatticians for advice on that and universally me and the other trans people involved were like "don't do it. i am so serious. don't do it. people on tumblr won't understand that it wasn't automattic who instituted the porn ban, or they will, but they'll recognize that automattic hasn't done anything, hands tied or not, to reverse it. nobody will like this. it will be a disaster." and they thanked us for our thoughts and went ahead with it anyway and then had to do retrospectives about how badly it went and were like "we just didn't know" and [gestures] yeah [edit: i think the person who rbed saying it was queerest place on the internet was right, my brain is fried, sorry! and that's... even worse lmao]

#tony muses #hello new followers. for clarity if you are expecting intense amounts of goss about tumblr specifically i am not your person #when automattic first acquired tumblr they asked queer staff who wanted to transfer over to something that was dear to a lot of us #and i specifically did not want to shit where i eat so to speak #which was the right choice. i just have other info about automattic more generally

[canisonicscrewyou]

#if your regular sleep med of choice is Benadryl I’m afraid of you #Idek what my answer is though??? probably melatonin. it helps a lot when I need to fix my sleep schedule #sleep soundly <3333 #I also sometimes take ashwaganda if it’s not too expensive or is mixed w other stuff. and drink sleepy teas but not necessarily JUST tosleep #I was on olanzapine and that helped my sleep a lot (at the cost of eventually making me feel so so tired during the day) #anyways you must tell me

[tskva]

playing an evil character but u keep helping ppl anyway

#bg3 #baldur's gate 3 #baldurs gate 3 #i end up saving ppl then just being an asshole ab it #lolthsworn drow things #10k #later addition: i love all of u saying ur doing it for astarion #i romanced lae’zel 🥰❤️ #i was gonna do a whole evil thing w my drow but i think she’s accidentally turning good #or at LEAST neutral #decided to focus mostly on the betrayal aspect (encouraging others to turn against something or someone) #and after some choices… well….. she’s starting to wonder if she can betray lolth >:)

[nostalgicfun]

Feel free to share which is your favorite NOW in the tags, but this particular poll is about which you preferred as a child! ⭐ In a few days we'll do another one with more options!

#there are some very obvious choices omitted because #1. I'm doing several of these and they have different themes! #2. There are some choices that would be absolutely too popular like ATLA and Spongebob and Scooby Doo #OOH I should do an allstars poll that pits all the really big ones against each other #polls

[andthebeanstalk]

Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".

Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"

And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".

Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.

At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.

So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!

Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!

Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!

Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.

#hlep #original #mental health #my sympathies and empathies to anyone who has to rely on this kind of hlep to get what they need. #the people in my life who most need to see this post are my family but even if they did I sincerely doubt they would internalize it #i've tried to break thru to them so many times it makes my head hurt. so i am focusing on boundaries and on finding other forms of support #and this thing i learned today helps me validate those boundaries. the example with the milk was from my therapist. #the example with the towing company was a real thing that happened with my parents a few months ago while I was age 28. 28! #a full adult age! it is so infantilizing as a disabled adult to seek assistance and support from ableist parents. #they were real mad i was mad tho. and the spoons i spent trying to explain it were only the latest in a long line of #huge family-related spoon expenditures. distance and the ability to enforce boundaries helps. haven't talked to sisters for literally the #longest period of my whole life. people really believe that if they love you and try to help you they can do no wrong. #and those people are NOT great allies to the chronically sick folks in their lives. #you can adore someone and still fuck up and hurt them so bad. will your pride refuse to accept what you've done and lash out instead? #or will you have courage and be kind? will you learn and grow? all of us have prejudices and practices we are not yet aware of. #no one is pure. but will you be kind? will you be a good friend? will you grow? i hope i grow. i hope i always make the choice to grow. #i hope with every year i age i get better and better at making people feel the opposite of how my family's ableism has made me feel #i will see them seen and hear them heard and smile at their smiles. make them feel smart and held and strong. #just like i do now but even better! i am always learning better ways to be kind so i don't see why i would stop

[egophiliac]

was gonna wait 'til I'd done all the poms, but it's been a day, so have Vil with a Salazzle 🍎

#art #twisted wonderland #poketwst #what are they plotting? you don't want to know. #sigh. once again the whole 'i don't wanna do more than two each' thing is coming back to bite me. #salazzle was the immediate obvious one and then there were like two or three others i was really torn between #(milotic is the other obvious-seeming choice but there were others i felt fit more in different ways and...yeah) #then i remembered i don't actually have to draw more than one pokemon so here we are #with the ✨QUEENS✨ #(me drawing salazzle's weird little feethands: heheheheh)

[fonulyn]

since I've seen it talked about in several places recently:

if you are going to do a whump- or kink- or ANY-tober or other similar challenges please please please don't post them as one fic with 31 chapters unless it actually is one coherent fic. if they're 31 completely separate fics or ficlets then please just make a collection for them or just post them as separate fics. it doesn't matter if they're only 100 words or if you think they're too small or insignificant to post alone, they're not.

and why this?

because if you post all 31 of them in one fic the tagging is absolutely useless. if I look for things to read on ao3 I'm gonna look at the tags, and if the tags include something that's a dealbreaker for me, i won't even click on the fic. I might not even SEE the fic because I've filtered out the nope-tag! so I'm gonna lose out on reading 30 perfectly nice fics because of one fic that my nope-tag applied to.

ao3 is about archiving. it's about clear tagging and being informative. there is nothing informative about it if the tags in the fic apply to random chapters while others have nothing to do with it. it makes so much more sense to have each work as an individual fic with its own individual tags and warnings, so readers can make informed choices.

of course, you do you. I can't police what other people decide to do. but personally, I find it incredibly frustrating to weed through 31 chapters to find the ones I actually want to read. so I don't. I automatically scroll past all works posted like that. and I know some others do, too.

there is absolutely no shame in posting short things on ao3. there is no minimum word count. no one is going to look at you funny if you post a small ficlet on its own, I promise. it's just going to make some readers very happy when they can actually find the things they want to read.

so, please. at least consider the upsides of posting each work as their own fic.

signed, one very frustrated fandom grandma.

#ao3 #fanfic #fandom #I'm not trying to dictate what others do #so if you still wanna keep posting #completely unrelated works as chapters of one thing #then go for it #i'm not your mom #but please at least consider the alternative #and how much easier it'll be for people to #both find it and to make informed choices #of what they want to read

[aroaceleovaldez]

Nico referring to his mom as "Mama" implies he most likely at least used to refer to Hades as "Papa" and i 100% headcanon he still does but mostly in the manner of him having the entire Underworld wrapped around his finger for being the baby of the family

#pjo #riordanverse #nico di angelo #headcanon #my art #nico flexing youngest child privilages by pulling out the most pitiful expression he can manage #anyways i find it fun to explore character word choices #cause yknow no two characters are going to select their words the same way #or even necessarily think about it to the same degree #i like to think Nico thinks about his word choice a lot #so of course every time he uses ''papa'' he fully knows he's pulling the Baby Of The Family card #Hades definitely knows this too but falls for it every time anyways #cause Nico hasnt called him ''papa'' regularly since getting his memory wiped - just detached ''father'' or at best ''dad'' #so it just reminds Hades of How Much He Just Wants His Children To Be Happy Like The Old Days #and how much poor Nico has been through and he's just the baby of the family and- #cue Nico smugly staring at the camera cause he knows how much power he holds #also i say Nico is Hades' only son cause mythologically even when Zagreus *is* Hades' son (rarely) he's. dead. #a major part of Zagreus' mythology is that he died #and im p sure every other deity said to be Hades' children are all goddesses and also are like 50% of the time not his #theres also only like 3 of them. and as far as we know in riordanverse canon one of them is implied to not be his daughter #so Nico is Hades' only son and also youngest in the family (cause Hazel is older by a month chronologically or 1 year biologically) #(and everybody else is a deity if children of hades at all)

[posevr]

I’m probably more of a zealot than a radical if I’m being honest with myself

#there is no other choice