#therapy is okay

[inkskinned]

what is with men being mad any time a woman raises her voice where did that even come from. someone posted a video of a small electrical explosion, and the top comment was of course the woman screams. the second comment is women try not to scream challenge, level impossible. i had to go back and watch the video again. there is, somewhat fainty, a little gasp emitted off-camera, more of a yelp than a scream. it is mostly lost in the crack of the explosion. afterwards, you hear her voice, shaken, say, are you okay?

i am helping one of my friends train her voice pitch lower, because she wants to be taken seriously at work. she and i do each other's nails and talk about gender roles; and how - due to our appearance - neither of us have ever been able to be "hysterical" in public. we both appear young and sweet and feminine. she is cisgender, and cannot use her natural voice in her profession because people keep saying she appears to be "vapid". we both try to figure out if our purposeful voice lowering is technically sexist. is it promoting something when you are a victim to it?

a storm almost sends a pole through a car window. in the dashcam, you can hear the woman passenger say her partner's name twice, crying out in alarm. she sounds terrified. in the comments, she is lambasted for her lack of calm. how is that even fucking helping?

in high school, i taught myself to have a lower voice. i had been recorded when i was genuinely (and righteously) upset; and i hated how my voice sounded on the phone speakers when it was played back. i was defending my mom, and my voice cracked with emotion. it meant i was no longer winning the argument: i was just shrieking about it.

girls meet each other after a long summer and let out a little joyful scream. this usually stops around 12-14, because people will not tolerate this display of affection (as it has the effect of being passingly annoying). something about the fact that little girls can't ever even be annoying. we are trained to examine each part of our lives (even joy) for anything that could make us upsetting and disgusting. they act like teenage girls are breaking into houses and shrieking you awake at 3 in the morning. speaking as a public school educator: trust me, it's not that bad, you can just roll your eyes and move on. it does not compare to the ways boys end up being annoying: slurs in graffiti, purposefully mocking your body, following you after you said no. you know, just boy things.

there's another video of a man who is not allowed to yell in the house, so he snaps his fingers when he's excited about soccer. the comments are full of angry men, talking about how their brother is unfairly caged. let him express himself and this is terrible to do to someone. eventually the couple has to address it in a second video: they are married with a newborn baby. he was trying not to wake the infant up. there is no comment on the fact women are not allowed to yell indoors. or the fact that it could have been really alarming or triggering for his wife. sometimes i wonder if straight men even like women, if they even enjoy being in relationships with them.

for the longest time, i hated roller coasters because it always felt inappropriate and uncomfortable for me to scream. one of my friends called me on it, said it was unusual i'm so unwilling. i had to go to my therapist about it. i don't like to scream because i was not raised in a safe situation, and raising my voice would have brought unsafe attention towards me. even when i am supposed to scream, it feels shameful, guilty. i was not treated kindly, so i lack a basic form of self-protection. this is not a natural response. it is not good that in a situation of high adrenaline - i shut up about it.

something very bad is happening, i think. in between all the beauty standards and the stuff i've already discussed - this one feels new and cruel in a way i can't quite express. yes, it's scary and silencing. but there's something about how direct it is - that so many men agree with the sentiment that women should never yell, even in an emergency - it feels different.

is the word shriek gendered automatically? how about shrill or screech? in self defense class, one of the first things they tell you is to yell, as loud and as shrilly as you can. they say it will feel rude. most women will not do this. you need to practice overcoming the social pressure and just scream.

most women do not cry out, even when it's bad. we do not report it. we walk faster. we do not make a scene. what would be the point of doing anything else? no matter what we do, we don't get taken seriously. it is a joke to them. an instagram caption punchline. we have to present ourselves as silent, beautiful, captivating - "valuable."

a woman is outside watching her kids when someone throws a firecracker at them. she screams and runs towards her children. in the comments, grown men flock together in the thousands: god. women are so annoying.

#warm up #writeblr #this one has bothered me for a bit #any time a woman does something even passingly annoying we treat it like a fucking crime #hey man. women are allowed to be annoying. everyone forever is allowed to be passingly annoying #as long as they aren't hurting anyone/thing #like u wanna know something? i find it super annoying that men don't wear seatbelts #why arent there thousands of comments on driving videos thats just like : men try not to die in a car crash challenge #''this briefly annoyed me''. okay??????? AND????????????????? go get ur self a cookie and calm down about it #ur not entitled to control other ppl's experiences and emotions just so u can maintain ur own peace #if being briefly annoyed ruins ur whole day! you! need! therapy!!!! #men try not to become immediately angry about nothing challenge: level impossible #ps author is nonbinary. we didn't even get into the gender presentation thing #the fact men think it's SEXY that my voice is on the lower end....

[zerosuitsammi3]

Timeline photo because it's apparently a bannable offense to show the pipeline of saddest man in the world to happy comfortable content woman

#girlslikeus #transgender #transisbeautiful #trans #mtf trans #trans is beautiful #girls like us #this is what trans looks like #okay to rebagel #mtf #trans mtf #mtf hrt #mtf hormones #hrt #hormone replacement therapy #trans positivity #trans pride #trans women are beautiful #trans women are women #trans women are valid #trans woman #transwoman #trans girl #transgirl #transfem #transfemme #trans femme #trans feminine #trans fem #trans timeline

[voiddaisy]

jason todd being a book nerd in canon is so funny to me. like mf is a violent vigilante but chows down some pride & prejudice on his off time. he is such a silly goose (homicidal maniac)

#dcu #dc comics #jason todd #red hood #batman #bat family #jason todd is so silly #he is also psycho #it’s okay he died and came back to life #he has a reason to be psycho #i love jason todd #he needs a hug #maybe not a hug #he needs therapy #imagine him being the grammar police with tim in their dms #tim would be so annoyed #but jason definitely thinks it’s funny

[caelanglang]

The O(ccasionally)samu D(runk)azai

#drunk dazai bc hes the actual alcoholic one #also bc i wanted a very flustered chuuya #YES EVEN IF THEYRE MARRIED ALREADY BC WHY NOT #i hc drunk dazai is still pretty alert but then if he realizes its someone he someone he can trust (chuuya etc) he just goes soft boy mode #soft honest boy ehehe #also occasionally emotional and vulnerable and validation/reassurance seeking and chuuya always knows #okay i will stop rambling this was rotting my mind the past few days #playing wasia project's ur so pretty on the background when i was drawing these #behold. my therapy (real) #bsd #skk #my art #sketch #sketches #bsd dazai #bsd chuuya #established skk

[naariel]

putting my whole entire artussy into this arm and those hairy tits

work in progress

#halsin #yeahhh baby #i am massively over-rendering this piece and I DONT GIVE A FUCK #it's therapy okay #i'll have the finished piece posted on monday #finished not perfect

[karkatbug]

For the final day: hsday/birthday party @413countdown

HAPPY HOMESTUCK DAY!

And happy birthday, John! The older you get, the less you want to celebrate, but that's why your friends are here ♥

4/13/2023 || 4/13/2024

#it's always sad thinking back #reflecting on what you couldn't have or the things you lost along the way #buts its okay john #youre not alone :) #homestuck #homestuck413 #john egbert #dave strider #rose lalonde #jade harley #hsfanart #my art #also im a big fan of the hc that they use humor as a coping mechanism instead of going to therapy LOL #but anyways hbd john ily

[fd5800]

Neil "I'm fine" Josten. Jean "I deserve it" Moreau. You get it.

#aftg #tsc #jean moreau #neil josten #the sunshine court #the sunshine court spoilers #tsc spoilers #we are all holding hands in group therapy it's okay #mine

[anemoflower]

Creating a self insert (who looks a bit like me) is the best thing I've ever done, as it makes me feel so much better about myself. I can be a person in the world of my fav media? I can have adventures with magic, superpowers or just hang out with my fav characters? And there are characters who like or even love me for who I am? Amazing <3

#self insert x canon #self insert #self insert oc #selfship #selfship community #;babbling phia #;okay to reblog #just... a random thought which made me happy #I sometimes struggle with feeling like a 'worthy' person idk #so this... really really helps #It's like a special form of therapy

[chrollohearttags]

you ever get the feeling that you’re not really liked but just kinda tolerated?…like you don’t really belong anywhere and you’re just kinda always on the outside but you don’t fit in or wtv.

#just me? okay #this prolly my hormones talking anyways #I’ve always hated that corny ass term popular loner but that’s what it feels like #like I’ve always loved my friends and stuff but no matter what I’ve always felt like I wasn’t as close as everybody else #and I’ve never really had like a bestie or anything so I’m just kinda sitting here like 🧍🏾‍♀️ #I literally feel like this with my own family and it’s the weirdest feeling ever #cherry chats 🍒 #this app is a mess #but it is free and therapy is not so ignore my late night depression rant

[honeysparklesmash]

Some low quality tf2 cats (and Crumbsy) sketches because they're silly

#lovely shitpost #next time I will post some drawings only if they will be cool #I'm so sorry I can't draw something interesting #okay need to do something cool #next time will post something only if it's really cool #nothing important #team fortress 2 #tf2 #team fortress #tf2 medic #tf2 spy #tf2 heavy #tf2 red oktoberfest #tf2 Crumbsy #my therapy

[chipistrate]

The Wizards Favorite Apprentice

One more piece before the countdown 2 Ruin, this time featuring my favorite little dude; Gregory(fucked up edition)<3

RBs appreciated!

Also I hope you don't mind the tag but LOOK!!! THE LITTLE DUDE!!!!!!!! @astro-inthestars

#fnaf security breach #fnaf #fnaf sb #fnaf sb gregory #fnaf security breach gregory #fnaf gregory #fnaf dr rabbit #fnaf Dr.Rabbit #fnaf sb dr. rabbit #fnaf security breach dr. rabbit #Chipillustrates #my art #my silly little dude I love him very much #this is based on a bunch of theories and evidence that only like one person will understand fully (Astro Astro Azzy I'm looking at you Azzy #I popped off honestly #The neurodivergence got to me on this one #fnaf patient 46 #fnaf sb patient 46 #fnaf therapy tapes #okay I'm done now I need to sleep #I love my son my little guy silliest dude ever #every detail here is intentional btw I put SO much thought and detail and effort into this

[demigods-posts]

it's heart breaking knowing that there is a strong parallel between percy and luke's upbringing. both had distant fathers. both had loving mothers who would do anything to protect them. both grew resentful of the gods even as they embodied the roles of pawns in their game of chess. and yet. luke's story is what blends into the wallpaper. lurks in the background like a descending melody in a thundering chorus. something we aren't made aware of until it's too late.

#pjo #percy jackon and the olympians #pjo text post #pjo headcanon #percy jackson #luke castellan #pjo parallels #get these boys some joint therapy sessions #okay but seriously #how eerie is that #rick did such an incredible job writing him

[zerosuitsammi3]

For those interested, I now have most Saturdays off, weird right. How I'm spending today thus far you might ask? Well I'm in bed fully naked drinking red wine straight from the bottle 😅😅😅

#girlslikeus #transgender #transisbeautiful #trans #mtf trans #trans is beautiful #girls like us #this is what trans looks like #okay to rebagel #mtf #trans mtf #mtf hormones #mtf hrt #hrt #hormone replacement therapy #trans pride #trans positivity #trans women are beautiful #trans women are valid #trans women are women #trans woman #transwoman #transgirl #trans girl #trans femme #trans feminine #trans fem #transfem #transfemme #thrist traps

[areyoudoingthis]

I am SO grateful that ed and stede exist as characters exactly as they are. I'm so grateful for these two men who are traumatized and messed up and struggle to even like themselves, who are terrible at communicating, who make enough mistakes between the two of them to fill an entire ocean. I am so grateful to watch them struggle and be seen and be loved and reach out for the things they want and are maybe starting to believe that they deserve. I'm so grateful that the show lets them fall in love and get together exactly as they are, that it doesn't say they need to wait until they've become some unattainably perfect version of themselves before they have permission to have that. i am so grateful for ofmd

#ofmd #there are no other shows like this one #I'm so tired of media that repeats the same idea that you need to hit a list of predetermined therapy milestones (determined by who???) #before you can fall in love #I'm honestly tired of fic that does this with ed and stede too #because guess what #you can live in the 21st century with access to therapy and dsm diagnosis and a bunch of different medications and you can be doing all the #right things and still be a trainwreck!!! #putting in the work doesn't mean you're gonna become perfect and never have problem again any more than falling in love doesn't mean you'll #never have problems again #I'll forever be crying on my knees levels of grateful for the unique writing on this show #for saying that it's okay you can be a mess you can take one step forward and three steps back and you'll still always be deserving #of love and grace and forgiveness #you don't have to do anything to deserve you deserve it just because you exist #i love this show with my entire heart #alex watches ofmd

[leavingkamino]

Crosshair & Omega in STAR WARS: THE BAD BATCH 3.08 "Bad Territory"

#tbb spoilers #tbbedit #swedit #thebadbatchedit #starwarsedit #swanimation #starwarsblr #swsource #filmtvcentral #userbariss #tbb #the bad batch #crosshair #tbb crosshair #omega #tbb omega #by me* #almost 6 am but this scene is so important to me the giffing worm got me early #he's grown so much as a character and so has she #if anything happens to them.......jennifer and brad be ready to meet me behind my local waffle house asap #also i doubt they'll go the route of his hand being magically healed after this bc that's not realistic #this space therapy session was just a start on the road to healing #okay goodnight *passes out*

[the-witchhunter]

You know those video games where the character has to complete puzzles and work through their trauma to escape/wake up/something? Obstacles getting in their way and being tied to their past as they delve more into their trauma and have to learn/heal from it before they can progress?

Danny has been around a loooong time. He's old, he's powerful, and has a space in the ghost zone that he controls much like a god. The ghosts have long since started leaving him alone, the ones he's friends with have their own affaires to deal with, and in his ever shifting labyrinthian layer he's too powerful, and even outside of it he can still kick their asses.

and he's without a purpose

His friends had long since passed on after leading long and wonderful lives with him, not even leaving a ghost behind. His Family as well. Jazz had never had children, and try as he and Sam might have, half dead as he was he couldn't have children. He had no one left and nothing to do, and all of eternity to do it in.

Thinking of Jazz is what made him do it the first time

She loved helping people with her psychology, and Danny decided to do it in his own way. It hadn't been pretty, and it hadn't been easy, but he had found his method. Some took to it better than others, and many had different theories about his lair and his motives, but he helped people move past their trauma. Some believed his lair was some kind of purgatory, and... they weren't totally off

So, when Danny moved on to the timeline of the DC multiverse, he had some experience under his belt

He just underestimated how much trauma superheroes can have

#danny phantom #dp x dc #dp x dc crossover #dp x dc prompt #dpxdc #Danny pulling a silent hill and making superheroes work through their trauma #he even gives them puzzles! #Maybe he does this to villains/former villains too #like the harley quinn show and going into her mind #half kidnapping half cognitive behavioral therapy #I just think this could be angsty and kind of cathartic #Just jason having to address his rage #it was never the pits #and maybe not letting it go but at least redirecting it #I need my boy to be happy okay #and if that takes dragging him and his family through a psychological horror game that's fine #might be more interesting as alternating vignettes