#then very carefully approached

[sleepsucks]

#13.01.23 #3230 #'that person on twitter who doesnt like it might have a point' > thought to be approached very carefully

[orderxchaos]

I was thinking and what is interesting to me about the dynamic between Izzy and Stede compared with Izzy and Lucius is that although both men challenge Izzy's perception of male masculinity the dynamics are so different? And I think it's because Lucius sees past Izzy's facade and knows how much of a little bitch he actually is and really antagonizes Izzy about it (he's his foil) but Stede is a clueless idiot who only sees Izzy at surface level and thinks oh this guy is an asshole for just no good reason?

You know that post about how Stede is the only one not intimidated by Izzy? That's a two way street baby! Stede doesn't scare Izzy like Lucius does. Because Stede can't see that Izzy is just a scared little bitch under all that leather.

Anyhow I need Stede and Izzy to slowly fall in love without either realizing it and insisting that they still hate each other while sharing an orange or something.

#stede is the izzy whisperer #he can fix him!! #stizzy #gentlehands #stede x izzy #izzy x lucius #ofmd #ofmd izzy #ofmd stede #stede bonnet #izzy hands #izzy must be approached very carefully so as not to startle him #he doesnt like loud sounds or bright lights

[dutybcrne]

Both Halfdan and Rethel have times where the Curse gnaws at their minds and starts pulling them into the same headspace as they had as Husks. Sometimes it's something small like memory problems or zoning out, sometimes they find themselves partially transforming and/or growing aggressive the way they would have with most any unlucky lost soul stumbling upon them in the Chasm.

#hc; halfdan #hc; rethel #//Heightened emotions tends to hasten/worsen these effects #//There are several times where gaps in their memories leave them so stressed it ends up with them shifting back to those forms #//And it is NOT recommendable to approach them in such states #//They WILL lash out thinking they're being attacked #//Halfdan has it slightly easier than Rethel; since he's lucky to have a Vision #//Rethel was shifted back due to Abyss Order's intervention #//So it's easier for her to succumb to it #//There are times they get EXTREMELY claustrophobic; sent into a panic within a certain space or around many others #//Rethel in particular can hardly stand being in crowds for very long before she starts feeling the urge to transform #//As if to hide in that headspace and let whatever her Husk's instincts drive her to do happen #//Will not feel too much remorse once she gets back to herself. Just a 'it was either them or me; and I choose me' & compartmentalize it #//For Halfdan; that happens when he finds himself in the dark & feels trapped in it; transforms to avoid dealing with his severe fear #//And woe betide anybody who runs into him in that state; he will NOT be merciful #//Best to carefully let him ride out the feeling and--carefully--work to change the conditions of the place #//Lighting candles; opening windows--sneak around to do so; bc if he catches you while in That state- #//The best solution is to calm them down/remove them from those situations BEFORE they've transformed #//It's the safest means to help them and will prevent the next time from being worse in the process #//Halfdan constantly has a Crisis abt if this means he is truly more monster than man; with how easily he transforms back into his Husk self #//Rethel has fully embraced she no longer is human; is prolly a monster now; but would strive to do no harm

[wifeguycyclonus]

Orion Pax is naive, he’s just not naive the way ppl seem to think he is

#its more like. lacking in experience outside of a certain setting #he’s naive because he hasnt interacted with a larger section of the world. with ppl who have all sorts of struggles and problems #but ppl sometimes write him as an uwu baby who will be taken advantage of if his few friends dont keep an eye on him #i personally prefer the idea that bc so much of his life has revolved around being an archivist and also being aware #that something is Very Wrong with his world #that he approaches everything with a sense of caution and care that other ppl dont take. he’s suspicious at the same time he’s gracious and #polite #actually i saw somebody say once that he’d be reserved bc of how he came to be at the archives #alpha trion plucking him out of the wilds and dropping him a secure enough middle class job #his fellows would be suspicious of him. he would be used to ppl being wary of him #and maybe that could be part of him getting along so well with megatron in those early days #orion isnt dangerous or weird to megatron. he’s just some nerd who’s good at arguing with him #i think orion would come out of his carefully crafted carefully neutral shell and become a lot more animated #he’s still a but clueless like that scene about wanting to go to an amusement park of all things #but he’s not a stupid uwu baby that big rough megatron is going to ravish at the first chance possible #hm that got longer than i meant #id make it a proper post but. im shy #anyway this is abt tfp orion if it wasnt evident #babble.tag

[figofswords]

The Batman fandom has ruined the words replacement, coffee, cereal, green, pit and so many others lol. Every time I hear those words I just have a fight or flight response 😭

DONT even get me started. you should hear the sigh I make every time I see REPLACEMENT. like yes hate how are so many people so wrong

#whenever im writing Jason im always like. very carefully wording my away around having to use the word at all #bc it’s become such a fuckin Thing #like Guys that’s not How People Talk!!!!!!!!! #also ok last week I said I was gonna write out a short essay on some gripes I have about Jason characterization in the fandom #and like half of it has to do with ‘pit madness’ which. which. hrghfks #basically tldr about it. it’s some fucking bullshit that isn’t really like. canon supported #like ‘pit madness’ is a temporary thing immediately following immersion #and it’s THEORIZED that ra’s al ghul is bonkers evil bc of centuries of compounded use #but Jason went in ONE TIME and it wasn’t a full resurrection #and more importantly I THINK ITS A FUCKING COP OUT #oh here’s a deeply morally complex character who’s arc is defined by his tragedy and anger #what if uhhhh all of these complexities were caused by fuckin pit mind control or some shit and ACTUALLY he’s a good guy uwu #like WAY TO BE BORING I GUESS. GODDAMN #I don’t have evidence to support this but I suspect the whole concept came from morrison’s Jason arc #like as a way to explain why he’s completely off the rails there #but actually what you should do is ignore morrison’s arc bc morrison doesn’t know how to write Jason #ANYWAYS. Batman fandom is so annoying I’m gonna have to stop looking at it and just like #live in mt version of reality where I’m approaching comics from an increasingly scholarly angle #and read the good runs of the comics #and ignore whatever the fuck is going on with the Batman fans #asks #anonanonanonanah

[sydmarch]

it's extremely funny to date someone who has approximately the same amount of tattoos as yourself but a completely different approach. while we were at the shop im having my artist wipe off & redo part of a stencil with a single leaf 6 times to get the exact angle to fill in a gap between tattoos how I wanted & my partners like "those fit together & fill the space so well. when I got this pile of trash tattooed we were like idk we can add some flies buzzing around to fill in the gaps"

#mine are entirely blackwork other than the bits of green i have on my calf sleeve theirs are mostly full color #mine are all very carefully arranged to fit next to the last thing tattooed theirs are more like. just places wherever #all minr except the tiny like lyric ones are done by one guy in the same style theirs are all done by different people including just their #friends all doing stick & pokes #mine arent super serious in terms of meaning but i do take swriously in terms of aesthetic they have plenty that were just like for the bit #its so funny like the most opposite approaches to tattooing you can imagine & we both have like 12-15 or whatever. past the point of #being able to meaningfully count them #texticles

[arsonist-chicken]

Alright sorry can I just---

Alright thanks.

#don't mind me i'm just venting #i miss my friends so much i want to cry but none have time for me this weekend when i have to go home #which means i'll be at my parents' even more which means even more time for them to question whatever i do and for me to try to weasle #my way out of answering because once again i haven't done a whole bunch of stuff i should have done long ago #and i havent done anything all day today again and i dont get how people jist sit down and just do stuff #do you not have to fight tooth and nail to get yourself to do something even if you'd enjoy it? how. please i want to cry again #i am overwhelmed with uni stuff and unemployment stuff and lonely from missing my friends #hehe. lonely. i saw lonely spring with a friend last week that was great 🥺 almost a whole day with a friend plus concert? please take me #back there 🥺 #anyway i'm overhelmed and lonely and i miss my friends and my cats and i'm angry at our politicians for not giving a shit about the people #so. arson. or very carefully worded but angry emails. #also i'm craving. something. to eat but idk what. i'm not even hungry. #ah yes me ft. disordered eating habits approaching again aren't they #okay i'm done venting i'll sit down and see if another try will get my brain to work this time. send help if you have advice #mine #upset vent noises

[morkaischosen]

last night's realisation the first: oh right I have a very metaphorical relationship to my self-image, and that does extend to quite a lot of moment-to-moment behaviour being mediated through those metaphors.

last night's realisation the second: wait a minute, my core set of metaphors isn't just Machine and Lioness, that's also how I relate to Coronabeth Type Popular Girl. Huh.

#this is a useful thing to have noticed because it lets me be even more deliberate about it #particularly when one of these isn't serving well and I'd better replace it with another (or a different approach) for the immediate purpos #that's essentially how I noticed this is a thing even #there's a context where I was going 'yeah protractile claw minimum necessary force I know this one' #and that turned out to very not work in the context #so I just need to go 'carefully calibrated hydraulic press minimum necessary force' instead and I'll hopefully be way more chill about it!

[hyunjinz]

😺

#storytime with your favorite cat lady lmao #our neighbor recently passed away and one of her cats keeps coming to our house #we always put out more food because honestly i have no idea if her cats have anyone to care for them #and tonight i forgot to close the door so the cat came inside #and he let me pet him #it's actually the second time he got inside and the first time he was very shy at first and didn't let me touch him #but i fed him and approached him carefully #and then he warmed up to me and istg he's the sweetest cat ever 😭😭😭 #he's a loud cuddlebug 🥺🥺🥺 #he keeps purring and kneading and I'm 😭😭😭 #and he's so curious haha #and tonight he was a lot less shy #my only concern is that he's not getting along with my other cats since they're also males 😬😬 #anyways yeah i love having 4am cat adventures lmao #personal

[actuallylorelaigilmore]

you know it’s been a bad psychiatric appt when you have to follow it up with a best friend debriefing to rant out your feelings. and you know what’s peak invalidating to hear from a mental health professional after you describe your current symptoms and experience with a new medication? ‘that doesn’t make any sense.’ followed by a lecture about why i can’t possibly be having the reaction to the meds that I AM LITERALLY HAVING AND JUST EXPLAINED

#actuallylukedanes #i have the best best friend #thrilled to not have to rant all the specifics here because my god this doctor has never been helpful beyond prescribing anyway #and i only get useful help there if i carefully approach knowing exactly what i need and edit my truth accordingly #but this visit was much much worse because it was just a list of ways she told me my brain can't be reacting that it has for years #AND as a bonus! there's still no adderall available so i'm still on a replacement adhd med #BUT that med is now also missing from the system like they couldn't fill it so i guess maybe now my backup is also facing a shortage #...this is a very bad trend going in the wrong direction when my backup adhd med wasn't being as helpful as adderall anyway #life stuff #mental health

[princekirijo]

Consider: Yuna and Ren bonding over their knife collections

I LOVE THIS IDEA SO MUCH AND TBH I'VE BEEN CONSIDERING IT SO HARD!!! It's actually the reason I imagine that out of all Riku's friends, it's Ren and Futaba she gets on best with.

I really like the idea of them swapping knives and Ren likes to listen to Yuna ramble about the various different knives in her collection :]. I don't plan on doing this in Captain BUT if Yuna did have a confidant her benefits would probably be centered around Joker's knives, like she teaches him different tricks with them.

#asks #daylitewaffles #oc tag #yuna kirijo #i have a scenario in my heads i'll try sum up in the tags but like #after the hatanaka palace stuff riku invites the thieves to his family barbeque as like their reward #and at the party the thieves meet all his family aka sees #and ren notices yuna playing with knives on the side - she's so normal dw about it - and he approaches her carefully and asks her about it #and INSTANTLY she's like wow you are so cool you know about knives hmm big brother figure acquired #even riku is surprise at how fast they bonded but he isn't complaining #and yeah their friendship goes from there #i simply think they would get on very well #they also have that neurodivergent swag that helps too

[are-we-really-doing-this]

I feel so little in the big scary world of Tumblr. I just want to carve out my little nook and make some friends but that involves reaching out and I’m scared. Please don’t read me as needy, I’m just… I don’t know.

#don’t read into this #I feel like a beast in a cage that enjoys social interaction but needs to be approached very carefully

[nagargent]

"Julia." Her name is hissed out between teeth through the dark. The late winter sun had long dipped behind the mountains before classes had been released for the day and Julius had lurked in the alleyway near the dorms for his sister to pass by. He reaches for her arm to stop her, and puts his finger over his lips. This time, he is without a mask, so he does not venture far from the darkness.

"I trust that you have kept my secret." Whether it's the hushed tone with which he speaks, or the motive he hides under his tongue, his voice is softer now than it had been at the Ethereal Ball, but he still locks his sister with an intense stare. "I have a favor to ask of you-- no, I beg you."

He has never been one to plead, but with Saias now an unreliable shield at best, and the arrival of the Scion of Light with the rest of his retinue, Julius recognizes a new need for protection.

"You can sense that I'm different, can't you? Loptous holds no sway over me anymore." He cups Julia's hand with both of his own, but that he harbors no compulsion to kill Naga's heir here and now does not quite rise to consciousness. "I fear that the others will not believe me though. I have been forced to hide underground like a rat merely to survive. You cannot even begin to imagine the filthy conditions, the disease and poverty that runs rampant down there. I'll not be able bear it for much longer."

He draws closer, still pleading with his eyes for her to listen to him. "So I ask that you fulfill your duty as my sister and see that my reputation is fixed so that I may come to live above ground once more. You must do this for me, Julia."

It's a little foolish of her, to follow him so readily. Or, it certainly would be, if he wasn't telling the truth. There is no sinister creeping in her veins when he stops her, no chill running down her spine. Her body does not react with fear or revulsion the way it once used to.

Loptous no longer controls the young man before her. He is still not the brother she remembers, either.

The tale he tells her stirs at her heart though. Whoever he is - even when he was under Loptous’ influence, Julius has and always will be her brother. Her twin, who has known her before she ever knew herself. Even if he was a stranger, the conditions he describes would turn her stomach. Compel her to do all she could to aid them.

That this is her kin makes the desire all the more stronger.

She doesn’t think he’s ever pleaded for her like this before. Not even when they were children, fussing over their toys. That seems a lifetime away.

“There is no need to beg me, Julius. I feel it in my very bones and no matter what you think of me, you will always be my brother. There will always be love in my heart for you, even if you choose to reject it.” Julia tries her best to keep her voice steady. To not show any weakness or draw his contempt. There is a slight tremor in her hands though, not caused by fear but something deeper. Relief, perhaps? Even if the Julius she once knew is long gone, he is alive in front of her and no longer under that dark god’s influence. Her heart hopes dearly they can forge a bond anew. However, things won’t be quite so simple for him with the others. She is not the only one to have lost loved ones by his hands. “I will tell people, that much I promise. For I know it to be the truth and I have nothing to gain from hiding that away. But people are swayed more by deeds than words, Julius.”

“I will tell them but you need to show them too in your actions. I am not... suggesting you put on a false persona. Simply that you put in the effort to approach people with a little more patience. Let them see the connection has been severed for themselves.” Her spare hand reaches up, cupping his in return. Julia gives a slight squeeze, to reassure herself or him is unknown to her. If it helps them both, that would truly be ideal. “There are people who may not be able to forgive and I won’t try to convince them they ought to. They have a right to their feelings, brother. I will however, endeavour to let people know you are no danger to the inhabitants of the monastery. I hope that will be enough for you.”

She slides her hands away carefully. Making sure to be gentle, so as to not signal rejection. There is a slight smile on her face, one she can’t force down even if she tries. It’s selfish of her but to have a chance to repair what was once shattered like glass is a blessing she cannot turn down. The thought he’s using her, manipulating her good nature crosses her mind briefly but she decides that even if he is, she cannot leave him to suffer without betraying herself before anyone else.

“If that’s everything, I’ll be on my way now Julius. I hope dearly that soon a day may come where we can break bread over the same table together.”

#s:julius #disgracedvessel #((sorry this took a while ree i always want to approach them very carefully and thoughtfully!))

[the-cooler-king]

Ok but when will we thoroughly discuss your underlying terror of gay people

#I see it and I want to sink my teeth into it... bite chomp kill and murder that feeling #Something is going on that is not good with that but I gotta approach it very carefully #Which is truthfully done better in person also

[despairforme]

Would nnoi change his ways if someone who was kind, patient and empathetic taught him he shouldn't be so closed minded about women and minorities

❝ How is fuckin' lecturin' me considered kind? If someone is kind they should respect my fuckin' opinions. ❞ That was his opinion on THAT subject. He'd had plenty of people throughout his life try to teach him what the "correct" views were. Fucking cocky assholes who thought their opinion was more valid than his. It was annoying as shit when someone tried to force their world-view onto him. He couldn't imagine how anyone could "teach" him something that would make him change his mind about his basic beliefs.

Sure, if you WERE going to teach him anything at all, you would have to be patient, because Nnoitra was a slow learner in most things ( except practical stuff, in some cases ). Nnoitra also liked empathetic people because they were easy to walk all over. He, himself, had very little empathy. Taking advantage of those people was a go-to behaviour for him.

Nobody was going to TALK him into changing his mind. Nnoitra was not big on theories. He liked to see how things were in real life. His views were based on experiences and what he could observe. It didn't matter to him if his views were "wrong" or "evil" or whatever. It wasn't HIS fucking fault that the world was made like this. If people wanted to close their eyes and live in fucking fantasy-land, then they could go ahead and do that. He just wasn't going to join in.

#[ great ask anon !!!! ] #[ thank you very much for sending! ] #[ honestly “teaching” nnoitra stuff is VERY difficult ] #[ he needs to be SHOWED things ] #[ so you have to SHOW him that his views are wrong ] #[ telling him doesn't work ] #[ at least it's difficult to imagine that it would work ] #[ also he h a t e s being “lectured” so you'd have to approach it SUPER carefully ] #[ but with a careful approach there is no way he'd actually respect what the person was saying ] #[ SO IT'S VERY DIFFICULT ] #[ i would love to see him eventually change his mind! ] #[ even if i'm not the biggest fan of redemptions for villains ] #[ nnoitra is meant to be a bad person ] #[ ANYWAYS thank you for sending! ] #despair for me. ╱ in character. #talking shit. ╱ answers. #burn the city. ╱ main verse.

[niennanir]

Listen to your elders

So last week I posted abut the importance of downloading your fic. And then three days later AO3 went down for 24 hours. No one was more weirded out by this than I was. But while y’all were acting like the library at Alexandria was on fire I was reading my download fic and editing chapter eight of Buck, Rogers, and the 21st Century. And also thinking about what I could do to be helpful when the crisis was actually over.

So first off, I’m going to repeat that if you’re going to bookmark a fic, you really need to also download the fic and back it up in a safe place. I just do it automatically now and it’s a good habit to get into.

But let’s talk about some other scenarios. Last October I lost power for over a week after hurricane Ian. Apart from not having internet or A/C I did find plenty to do, I collect books so I had plenty to read, but maybe, unlike me, your favorite comfort reads aren’t sitting on a bookshelf. So let’s do something about that, shall we?

In olden times many long years ago around 1995 we printed off a lot of fic. It was mostly SOP to print a fic you planned to reread and stick it in a three ring binder. And that’s totally valid today too, but you can also make a very nice paperback with a minimum amount of skill and materials.

Let’s start with the download; Go to Ao3 and select your fic, we’ll be working with one of mine. This method works best with one shots, long fic tends to need a more complicated approach. Get yourself an HTML download

Open up the HTML download and select all then copy paste into any word processor. Set the page to landscape and two columns, then change the font to something you find easy to read, this is your book, no judgement. This is all you have to do for layout but I like to play a little bit. I move all the meta, summary, notes to the end and pick out a fun font for the title: 

No time like the present to do a quick proofread. Congratulations, you’ve just created your first typeset. On to the fun part.

Now you’re going to need some materials:  8.5x11in paper ruler one sheet of 12x12 medium card stock (60-80lb) scissors pencil pen or fine tip marker sheet of wax paper white glue two binder clips 2 heavy books or 1 brick butter knife

You’ll also need a printer, if you’re in the US there is almost a 100% chance your local library has a printer you can use if you don’t have your own. None of these materials are expensive and you can literally use cheap copy paper and Elmers glue.

Print your text block, one page per side. Fold the first page in half so that the blank side is inside and the printed side out:

use the butter knife to crease the edge. Repeat on all the sheets. When you’ve finished, stack them up with the raw edge on the left and the folded edge on the right. I used standard copy paper, because you’re only printing on one side there’s no bleed to worry about. Take the text block and line everything up. Use the binder clips to hold the raw edge in place.

Wrap the text block in the wax paper so that the raw edge and binder clips are facing out. I’m going to use my home built book press but you don’t need one, a brick or a couple of books or anything else heavy will work fine.

Once the text block is anchored down, take off he binder clips and get out the glue.

You can use a brush but you don’t need one, smear some glue on that raw edge.

Go make a margarita, watch The Mandalorian, call your mother. Don’t come back for at least an hour

In an hour smear some more glue on there and shift your brick forward so that the whole book is covered. This keeps the paper from warping. While glue part 2 is drying we’ll do the cover. Get out your 12x12 cardstock

Mark the cardstock off at 8.5 inches and cut it. Measure in 5.5 inches from the left and put in a score line with the butter knife (the back edge not the sharp edge)

Carefully fold the score line, this is your front cover. You have some options for the cover title, you can use a cutting machine like a cricut if you have one, you can print out a title on the computer and use carbon paper to transfer the text to the cardstock. I was in a mood so I just freehanded that beoch. Pencil first then in pen.

Take your text block out from under your brick. Line it up against the score mark and mark the second score on the other side of the spine

Fold the score and glue the textblock into the cover at the spine. Once the glue dries up mark the back cover with the pencil and then trim the back cover to fit with your scissors.

Voila:

I’m going to put this baby on the shelf next to the Silmarillion.

The whole process, not counting drying time, took less than an hour.

If you want to make a book of a longer fic, I recommend Renegade Publishing, they have a ton of resources for fan-binders. 

#fanbinding #fanfiction #Nir paperback